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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester/halifax |
For any one who knows me knows I have very bad depression and anxiety and if anything I know I get myself worked up over nothing but I mean and the trip home I ended up just crying to a very close friend of me and as always she helped me made me feel better but iam now in bed crying feeling like shit and well I don't know just venting I just want to say to all my fab friends who I have met thank you for dealing with me and I know I can be a pain and some times a little to d*unk but I never mean harm and just a big thank you for talking to me when they know iam down it really dose mean the world to me
Anyway sorry for the venting hope every one has a good day |
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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago
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"Reducing any alcohol intake is going to help as it's a huge downer.
Good luck  "
Very true I am trying my best with the drinking and I have been doing very well but every so offen I go and get silly |
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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago
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"Seek CBT through your GP. MIND the charity may be of assistance.
Like View said, alcohol is a depressant, keep it to a minimum or abstain."
Iam already on some anti depressions I guess like every one have good and bad days and seem like today's goner be a bad en |
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over a year ago
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OP, I have anxiety and depression issues too but you need to find healthier ways to cope - alcohol is a depressant.
If you're creative, use it as an outlet - if I'm anxious, I pick up a pencil and colour, if I feel depressed, I grab a pen and write.
If you feel a bad moment coming on, find a way to bite it in the bud before it becomes overwhelming. |
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"Seek CBT through your GP. MIND the charity may be of assistance.
Like View said, alcohol is a depressant, keep it to a minimum or abstain.
Iam already on some anti depressions I guess like every one have good and bad days and seem like today's goner be a bad en "
CBT is cognitive behavioral therapy. Depression should not be treated with anti-depressants alone, especially severe depression. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Seek CBT through your GP. MIND the charity may be of assistance.
Like View said, alcohol is a depressant, keep it to a minimum or abstain.
Iam already on some anti depressions I guess like every one have good and bad days and seem like today's goner be a bad en
CBT is cognitive behavioral therapy. Depression should not be treated with anti-depressants alone, especially severe depression."
Make sure you let them know which version of CBT you're after. |
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"Seek CBT through your GP. MIND the charity may be of assistance.
Like View said, alcohol is a depressant, keep it to a minimum or abstain."
but it depends on what is causing his depression, there are lots of different therapies available it would only be after an assement they could work out which would work best for him |
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"Seek CBT through your GP. MIND the charity may be of assistance.
Like View said, alcohol is a depressant, keep it to a minimum or abstain.
Iam already on some anti depressions I guess like every one have good and bad days and seem like today's goner be a bad en
CBT is cognitive behavioral therapy. Depression should not be treated with anti-depressants alone, especially severe depression.
Make sure you let them know which version of CBT you're after. "
how on earth is he supossed to know that |
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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester/halifax |
"OP, I have anxiety and depression issues too but you need to find healthier ways to cope - alcohol is a depressant.
If you're creative, use it as an outlet - if I'm anxious, I pick up a pencil and colour, if I feel depressed, I grab a pen and write.
If you feel a bad moment coming on, find a way to bite it in the bud before it becomes overwhelming."
Trust me I know I really do and I am trying my best if anything once every few months I drink to much part from that it's maybe a pint after work or with food in a pub I know it's very lazy but iam a huge film fan and enjoy learning about animals and such so I do try and keep my head busy but every so offen I feel like death iam having a bad day once a week where I just want to curl up in bed in the dark and not do or see any one not even eat or have a smoke |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Seek CBT through your GP. MIND the charity may be of assistance.
Like View said, alcohol is a depressant, keep it to a minimum or abstain.but it depends on what is causing his depression, there are lots of different therapies available it would only be after an assement they could work out which would work best for him"
To be fair mental health funding is at a low, so a referral to the mental health team may take ages. GPs may be able to access the number of talking therapies available, directly. |
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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester/halifax |
"Seek CBT through your GP. MIND the charity may be of assistance.
Like View said, alcohol is a depressant, keep it to a minimum or abstain.
Iam already on some anti depressions I guess like every one have good and bad days and seem like today's goner be a bad en
CBT is cognitive behavioral therapy. Depression should not be treated with anti-depressants alone, especially severe depression."
Oh sorry I did not know and I used to see a doc once a week to talk about it but felt it was just ticking box's so I ended up just saying what he wanted to hear but I had a doc and she was so good with me really talked to me and helped me a lot but sadly I don't think she works there any more |
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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester/halifax |
"Seek CBT through your GP. MIND the charity may be of assistance.
Like View said, alcohol is a depressant, keep it to a minimum or abstain.
Iam already on some anti depressions I guess like every one have good and bad days and seem like today's goner be a bad en
CBT is cognitive behavioral therapy. Depression should not be treated with anti-depressants alone, especially severe depression.
Make sure you let them know which version of CBT you're after. "
Tbh iam not even sure myself I would not know where start |
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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester/halifax |
"And also, mixing antidepressants with alcohol is really unsafe."
I know and I know how they can change me and I really don't like who they make me become it's not who I am so I have cut down a lot on the drink |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Seek CBT through your GP. MIND the charity may be of assistance.
Like View said, alcohol is a depressant, keep it to a minimum or abstain.
Iam already on some anti depressions I guess like every one have good and bad days and seem like today's goner be a bad en
CBT is cognitive behavioral therapy. Depression should not be treated with anti-depressants alone, especially severe depression.
Make sure you let them know which version of CBT you're after.
Tbh iam not even sure myself I would not know where start "
It was a shit joke. Cock and Ball Torture no good for the Sunday crowd. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Seek CBT through your GP. MIND the charity may be of assistance.
Like View said, alcohol is a depressant, keep it to a minimum or abstain.
Iam already on some anti depressions I guess like every one have good and bad days and seem like today's goner be a bad en
CBT is cognitive behavioral therapy. Depression should not be treated with anti-depressants alone, especially severe depression.
Make sure you let them know which version of CBT you're after.
Tbh iam not even sure myself I would not know where start "
There are sessions over the phone, online sessions, one to one sessions and group sessions. It really is up to your GP to discuss with you. |
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"Seek CBT through your GP. MIND the charity may be of assistance.
Like View said, alcohol is a depressant, keep it to a minimum or abstain.but it depends on what is causing his depression, there are lots of different therapies available it would only be after an assement they could work out which would work best for him
To be fair mental health funding is at a low, so a referral to the mental health team may take ages. GPs may be able to access the number of talking therapies available, directly."
but his doctor would still have to assess which might work best.
What im hereing lately from different health authorities is the actual referal doesnt take long after your first contact with the doctor.
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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester/halifax |
"Seek CBT through your GP. MIND the charity may be of assistance.
Like View said, alcohol is a depressant, keep it to a minimum or abstain.
Iam already on some anti depressions I guess like every one have good and bad days and seem like today's goner be a bad en
CBT is cognitive behavioral therapy. Depression should not be treated with anti-depressants alone, especially severe depression.
Make sure you let them know which version of CBT you're after.
Tbh iam not even sure myself I would not know where start
It was a shit joke. Cock and Ball Torture no good for the Sunday crowd. "
Sorry just got it lol and yeah might a bit odd asking my doc to push her heels in to my balls lol |
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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester/halifax |
"Seek CBT through your GP. MIND the charity may be of assistance.
Like View said, alcohol is a depressant, keep it to a minimum or abstain.
Iam already on some anti depressions I guess like every one have good and bad days and seem like today's goner be a bad en
CBT is cognitive behavioral therapy. Depression should not be treated with anti-depressants alone, especially severe depression.
Make sure you let them know which version of CBT you're after.
Tbh iam not even sure myself I would not know where start
There are sessions over the phone, online sessions, one to one sessions and group sessions. It really is up to your GP to discuss with you."
I have done over the phone and there one 1 guy and 1 lady who was great with me really helped me helped me work on my shaking and breathing and sweating and dealing with things around me |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Seek CBT through your GP. MIND the charity may be of assistance.
Like View said, alcohol is a depressant, keep it to a minimum or abstain.
Iam already on some anti depressions I guess like every one have good and bad days and seem like today's goner be a bad en
CBT is cognitive behavioral therapy. Depression should not be treated with anti-depressants alone, especially severe depression.
Make sure you let them know which version of CBT you're after.
Tbh iam not even sure myself I would not know where start
It was a shit joke. Cock and Ball Torture no good for the Sunday crowd.
Sorry just got it lol and yeah might a bit odd asking my doc to push her heels in to my balls lol"
Hope it made you smile.  |
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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester/halifax |
"Seek CBT through your GP. MIND the charity may be of assistance.
Like View said, alcohol is a depressant, keep it to a minimum or abstain.
Iam already on some anti depressions I guess like every one have good and bad days and seem like today's goner be a bad en
CBT is cognitive behavioral therapy. Depression should not be treated with anti-depressants alone, especially severe depression.
Make sure you let them know which version of CBT you're after.
Tbh iam not even sure myself I would not know where start
It was a shit joke. Cock and Ball Torture no good for the Sunday crowd.
Sorry just got it lol and yeah might a bit odd asking my doc to push her heels in to my balls lol
Hope it made you smile. "
Iam not in to it but for the lady doc I have seen before I think ied let her lol  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm doing a group session with Talking Therapies at the moment.
It lasts six weeks, I have two more to attend.
There's about 6 or 7 people that go and 2 ladies run it.
It does make you think and see things in a different way. |
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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester/halifax |
"I'm doing a group session with Talking Therapies at the moment.
It lasts six weeks, I have two more to attend.
There's about 6 or 7 people that go and 2 ladies run it.
It does make you think and see things in a different way."
Never done groups I have done face to face and over the phone I think with a group I would have my front on and be very close chested |
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"I'm doing a group session with Talking Therapies at the moment.
It lasts six weeks, I have two more to attend.
There's about 6 or 7 people that go and 2 ladies run it.
It does make you think and see things in a different way.
Never done groups I have done face to face and over the phone I think with a group I would have my front on and be very close chested"
You don't talk about why you're depressed, it's about how you think about yourself, the world and others. I have no idea why the others that go are there and they have no idea why I'm there. |
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By *itzhallMan
over a year ago
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Hi mate.... firstly you are not alone as it appears there are several of us with depression /anxiety on here. Secondly alcohol is bad shit ffor you in excess or even the odd pint or two ... you won't build up a tolerance to it and it'll all contribute to your dark times. Get talking to your gp and insist on cbt asap.... I'm still waiting for mine 9 months after my last big bout but in the meantime use your friends to talk to..... they will relish the chance ti help but make sure you're alcohol free |
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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester/halifax |
"I'm doing a group session with Talking Therapies at the moment.
It lasts six weeks, I have two more to attend.
There's about 6 or 7 people that go and 2 ladies run it.
It does make you think and see things in a different way.
Never done groups I have done face to face and over the phone I think with a group I would have my front on and be very close chested
You don't talk about why you're depressed, it's about how you think about yourself, the world and others. I have no idea why the others that go are there and they have no idea why I'm there. "
Ahhh ok that dose sound better sort of a free for all to just chat about how you feel and such then all go back to your life |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Reducing any alcohol intake is going to help as it's a huge downer.
Good luck "
Your right but unfortunately at the time it feels like its effect is the opposite, a personal _iew point obviously. |
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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago
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"Hi mate.... firstly you are not alone as it appears there are several of us with depression /anxiety on here. Secondly alcohol is bad shit ffor you in excess or even the odd pint or two ... you won't build up a tolerance to it and it'll all contribute to your dark times. Get talking to your gp and insist on cbt asap.... I'm still waiting for mine 9 months after my last big bout but in the meantime use your friends to talk to..... they will relish the chance ti help but make sure you're alcohol free "
As I have said before yes it's a swingers site but I have had so meny people to talk too and help me with life's ups and downs it really dose mean a lot
Yes it seems a lot of us on here have it and in a way it's good as we can al talk about it and under stand what we all are goin though
The drinking is my vice and I know this and I did 3 months with out it and yes was good but I sliped back in to my old ways and after a few mess ups I now don't drink no where nere as much but do keep trying to cut it down I know it dose not help at all tho |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm doing a group session with Talking Therapies at the moment.
It lasts six weeks, I have two more to attend.
There's about 6 or 7 people that go and 2 ladies run it.
It does make you think and see things in a different way.
Never done groups I have done face to face and over the phone I think with a group I would have my front on and be very close chested
You don't talk about why you're depressed, it's about how you think about yourself, the world and others. I have no idea why the others that go are there and they have no idea why I'm there.
Ahhh ok that dose sound better sort of a free for all to just chat about how you feel and such then all go back to your life "
No, it's not like that. It's more structu_ed. Each week it's about a different topic. Last week and this week are about Negative Thoughts for example. |
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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester/halifax |
"I'm doing a group session with Talking Therapies at the moment.
It lasts six weeks, I have two more to attend.
There's about 6 or 7 people that go and 2 ladies run it.
It does make you think and see things in a different way.
Never done groups I have done face to face and over the phone I think with a group I would have my front on and be very close chested
You don't talk about why you're depressed, it's about how you think about yourself, the world and others. I have no idea why the others that go are there and they have no idea why I'm there.
Ahhh ok that dose sound better sort of a free for all to just chat about how you feel and such then all go back to your life
No, it's not like that. It's more structu_ed. Each week it's about a different topic. Last week and this week are about Negative Thoughts for example. "
Ahh ok so there is a plan so to speak also gives you time for the next week to think about how you feel and what you want to say about topic |
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By *eesideMan
over a year ago
margate sumwear by the sea |
Hi op I find that wen Im down in the dumps with depression and wen I say down I meet rock bottom. Cos it just hits like a rock from space. I've even had the odd thort to take a jump. Anyway wen I fill down I find the best way to chear up is a slow long quiet walk in the fresh air in a park or along the cost. It seems to work for me.
But drinking the hevey stuff won't help it. Y not have a nice sweet fresh oring juce. It tasts good and maks you fill a bit better well for me it dus. But ya have a long walk in the fresh air that's wot I wood rekarmend.
Good luck and I hope you kik the dark out soon. |
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When I went though this 3 years ago, It was the the lowest point of my life.
I found that living one day at a time got me though it. I went from suicidal to "if someone murde_ed me, I wouldn't be pissed off".
Now that I've met someone, I'm planning holidays for next year. Would never have done that 3 years ago. |
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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago
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"Hi op I find that wen Im down in the dumps with depression and wen I say down I meet rock bottom. Cos it just hits like a rock from space. I've even had the odd thort to take a jump. Anyway wen I fill down I find the best way to chear up is a slow long quiet walk in the fresh air in a park or along the cost. It seems to work for me.
But drinking the hevey stuff won't help it. Y not have a nice sweet fresh oring juce. It tasts good and maks you fill a bit better well for me it dus. But ya have a long walk in the fresh air that's wot I wood rekarmend.
Good luck and I hope you kik the dark out soon."
That's the thing I should go out and get some fresh air but by the time I feel down I don't wanna move just wanna curl up and sleep but I need to get out more and just to drink |
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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago
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"When I went though this 3 years ago, It was the the lowest point of my life.
I found that living one day at a time got me though it. I went from suicidal to "if someone murde_ed me, I wouldn't be pissed off".
Now that I've met someone, I'm planning holidays for next year. Would never have done that 3 years ago."
I am trying that and trying to have things to look forword too but great news mate hope every thing works out for you man |
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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester/halifax |
Just wanted to say to every one who posted and made sure iam ok a huge thank you it really means a lot to me and funny as I don't know you yet you still took the time out of your day to ask if I was ok and well onc again big thank you
Ps feeling better today lots of cartoons in bed for me and been lazy after a veryy busy night at work |
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By *eesideMan
over a year ago
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"Just wanted to say to every one who posted and made sure iam ok a huge thank you it really means a lot to me and funny as I don't know you yet you still took the time out of your day to ask if I was ok and well onc again big thank you
Ps feeling better today lots of cartoons in bed for me and been lazy after a veryy busy night at work"
Good to hear your filling better im in a 50/50 mood today but work shod tak it of my mind. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Reduce your alcohol intake, change your diet from current which i assume is shit to vegan starch based diet, get a shrink OH and no matter what - DON'T LOCK THE DOOR!!! :D |
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"Reducing any alcohol intake is going to help as it's a huge downer.
Good luck "
Brings on anxiety and heightens depression. Giving it up or _educing it helps massively.
Some mental health trusts won't engage with people seeking treatment if they are drinking too much as the process is often futile |
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"When I went though this 3 years ago, It was the the lowest point of my life.
I found that living one day at a time got me though it. I went from suicidal to "if someone murde_ed me, I wouldn't be pissed off".
Now that I've met someone, I'm planning holidays for next year. Would never have done that 3 years ago.
I am trying that and trying to have things to look forword too but great news mate hope every thing works out for you man "
you seem to be dealing with it positively op. Finding out the best things that work for you. Also be selfish if you start to feel low just take time to look after yourself.
Good luck and with the right support and a positive attitude to helping yourself there will be light at the end of the tunnel |
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Amazing how many people around us really dont understand depression.
As a sufferer myself OP I understand.
Depression is not in the mind its a chemical imbalance so in reality its a physical but unseen illness.
Give me a message and I will send you my number. You can always talk to me. Happy to be the voice on the end of the phone. |
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"Amazing how many people around us really dont understand depression.
As a sufferer myself OP I understand.
Depression is not in the mind its a chemical imbalance so in reality its a physical but unseen illness.
Give me a message and I will send you my number. You can always talk to me. Happy to be the voice on the end of the phone."
can i ask you something.
How many people do you explain your depression to, i dont mean just telling them your depressed but actually explain it to them.
Its up to us to try and get people to understand. You cant expect people who have never experienced it to understand the feelings.
I can sympathize with someone whose lost a limb but i dont know what it feels like. We have to take responsibility for trying to get people to understand |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What im hereing lately from different health authorities is the actual referal doesnt take long after your first contact with the doctor.
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Depends how serious they think it is?
I was seen by the crisis team at my local mental health unit within 2 hours of seeing my GP.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am so sorry you feeling that way! I never suffe_ed but lost a friend because of this silence illness! Please don't isolate yourself! And drink isn't good! I do drink when I am extremely nervous,to relax! But isn't good ! Wouldn't buy it to have it at home!Because the kids!All the best x |
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By *edMan
over a year ago
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I was just thinking this guy needs a hobby when nymphamora beat me to it.
Restart something you did as a kid maybe, but a hobby that involves being with other people and something you need to give 100% of your attention to while u you -D o it.
Vastly underrated are hobbies. And telly is shite these days so you have nothing to lose |
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What im hereing lately from different health authorities is the actual referal doesnt take long after your first contact with the doctor.
Depends how serious they think it is?
I was seen by the crisis team at my local mental health unit within 2 hours of seeing my GP.
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a lot is down to health authorities, but over the last year im hearing more positive things |
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What im hereing lately from different health authorities is the actual referal doesnt take long after your first contact with the doctor.
Depends how serious they think it is?
I was seen by the crisis team at my local mental health unit within 2 hours of seeing my GP.
a lot is down to health authorities, but over the last year im hearing more positive things"
Possibly, I can only speak from my experience.
I think the NHS has a very strict protocol when it comes to certain issues though. |
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What im hereing lately from different health authorities is the actual referal doesnt take long after your first contact with the doctor.
Depends how serious they think it is?
I was seen by the crisis team at my local mental health unit within 2 hours of seeing my GP.
a lot is down to health authorities, but over the last year im hearing more positive things
Possibly, I can only speak from my experience.
I think the NHS has a very strict protocol when it comes to certain issues though. "
you where ill, you got seen immediatly this is what we need to be hearing |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Amazing how many people around us really dont understand depression.
As a sufferer myself OP I understand.
Depression is not in the mind its a chemical imbalance so in reality its a physical but unseen illness.
Give me a message and I will send you my number. You can always talk to me. Happy to be the voice on the end of the phone.can i ask you something.
How many people do you explain your depression to, i dont mean just telling them your depressed but actually explain it to them.
Its up to us to try and get people to understand. You cant expect people who have never experienced it to understand the feelings.
I can sympathize with someone whose lost a limb but i dont know what it feels like. We have to take responsibility for trying to get people to understand"
Ok. Depression is different for everyone but for me. There are days where the though of leaving my home makes me physically sick and panic sets in.
Nothing but nothing will make us feel better when we are having a bad day. We feel like crying. Silly things set us off. Or we can become very irritable and abrubt. We dont mean to be but it just comes out. We get restless but the motivation to actually do anything isnt there or again the thought of leaving the house can stop us.
There are so many variables and i deed tyles of depression. Although im diagnosed with depression as its been going on for more than two years now my actual diagnosis is "reactive depression" which means on a day to day basis I CAN be ok. However if something stressfull raises its head my brain can no longer produce the amount of dopermine a person would beed to cope with ut and keep rational thought to deal with it. Result? We meltdown and end up in a really low unp_edictable mood.
I cannot do my shopping in the day as a busy supermarket will cause panic attacks as the noise and sometimes loss of personal space becomes overwhelming.
What ive said barely scratches the surface as there is so much to it.
Those that dont understand and say "oh cheer up it will be ok" actually make it worse.
We dont chose to be like this we cannot help the way our brain is reacting.
There is always a main cause for depression but dealibg with that issue in order to mo e on isnt always possible so we have to find ways to cope and gradually day by day it can get a little better or in some cases. Not.
Its not a disease that people need to be afraid of. Its our battle its very personal to us. Yes we smile and seem normal on the outside but thats because its easier than having to try to explain to everyone why we are so unhappy.
All we ask os for a little understanding and patience.
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The other way to look at it
You say you can sympathise with a person who has lost a limb.
Telling us to cheer up is like telling that person to use the missing limb.
It cant be done |
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"The other way to look at it
You say you can sympathise with a person who has lost a limb.
Telling us to cheer up is like telling that person to use the missing limb.
It cant be done"
but people need to understand that. My worst problem is if im high and people think im pissed or are always telling me to shut up yet far more people do understand people who are depressed cant just snap out of it yet because im being ott loud and chatty they think i can just snap out of it |
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"The other way to look at it
You say you can sympathise with a person who has lost a limb.
Telling us to cheer up is like telling that person to use the missing limb.
It cant be donebut people need to understand that. My worst problem is if im high and people think im pissed or are always telling me to shut up yet far more people do understand people who are depressed cant just snap out of it yet because im being ott loud and chatty they think i can just snap out of it"
in fact i dont remember the last time someone told me to cheer up but im always being told im talking to much |
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Haven't read the whole thread... but I know from
Experience how tough things can get.... just a suggestion have you ever tried exercise ?
I started running/jogging 2 years ago... something I thought I would never ever do....it made and inc_edible change to my 'mood' and confidence. There's a noticeable change in me if I haven't been out for a while. I joined a local running group started park run at a weekend..of course there is an added bonus with jogging plenty of talent to eye up too |
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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago
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"Just wanted to say to every one who posted and made sure iam ok a huge thank you it really means a lot to me and funny as I don't know you yet you still took the time out of your day to ask if I was ok and well onc again big thank you
Ps feeling better today lots of cartoons in bed for me and been lazy after a veryy busy night at work
Good to hear your filling better im in a 50/50 mood today but work shod tak it of my mind."
Well hope you have had a great day mate and work will do that it maybe shit but it keeps your head busy lol |
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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago
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"Reduce your alcohol intake, change your diet from current which i assume is shit to vegan starch based diet, get a shrink OH and no matter what - DON'T LOCK THE DOOR!!! :D"
I have told myself no more drink til halloween and not going to lie I do eat shit but that's what comes with working night but I think getting off th drink will help a lot for me. |
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By *reakShow90 OP Man
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"Reducing any alcohol intake is going to help as it's a huge downer.
Good luck
Brings on anxiety and heightens depression. Giving it up or _educing it helps massively.
Some mental health trusts won't engage with people seeking treatment if they are drinking too much as the process is often futile "
When I went in they did ask about my drinking but that did not seem to bothe_ed eather I lied or I must of been behaving that month lol |
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By *reakShow90 OP Man
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"When I went though this 3 years ago, It was the the lowest point of my life.
I found that living one day at a time got me though it. I went from suicidal to "if someone murde_ed me, I wouldn't be pissed off".
Now that I've met someone, I'm planning holidays for next year. Would never have done that 3 years ago.
I am trying that and trying to have things to look forword too but great news mate hope every thing works out for you man you seem to be dealing with it positively op. Finding out the best things that work for you. Also be selfish if you start to feel low just take time to look after yourself.
Good luck and with the right support and a positive attitude to helping yourself there will be light at the end of the tunnel"
Thank you hun and yes today much better slept well had a long think about stuff watched cartoons feeling relaxed |
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By *reakShow90 OP Man
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"Amazing how many people around us really dont understand depression.
As a sufferer myself OP I understand.
Depression is not in the mind its a chemical imbalance so in reality its a physical but unseen illness.
Give me a message and I will send you my number. You can always talk to me. Happy to be the voice on the end of the phone."
Very true mate my dad is old school if it's not a broken arm or black eye your fine but tbh he under stands now but a lot of people are like that just need to teach them a little more about it
And ok wow did not know that I mean iam a spoon in the knife draw but I just guessed it was to do with your head but hey learn some thing new every day
I did try to msg you but males are blocked but it's fine as I said iam shocked how meny people have posted
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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago
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"I am so sorry you feeling that way! I never suffe_ed but lost a friend because of this silence illness! Please don't isolate yourself! And drink isn't good! I do drink when I am extremely nervous,to relax! But isn't good ! Wouldn't buy it to have it at home!Because the kids!All the best x"
Thank you hunny and iam sorry about your friend it can some times win the battle
And iam the same I drink when iam nervous eg going new clubs or places but I got in to the habbit of just drinking all the time but no I don't have it in the house so it makes me go to the pub or some where I know it's still bad but not sure bad as drinking alone |
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Glad you're feeling a bit better today OP. I've suffe_ed with anxiety and depression since my late teens and have found that one of the best things is exactly what you did here, you told someone it was coming as soon as you felt it.
Over the years a few things that have helped me are removing or _educing alcohol, eating a gluten free diet, exercising, and talking openly about my thoughts and feelings. I also consciously tell myself that it's not forever, the fog lifts, I come out the other side etc.... I find that helps with the spiralling when my anxiety hits.
Hope tomorrow is brighter |
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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago
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"I was just thinking this guy needs a hobby when nymphamora beat me to it.
Restart something you did as a kid maybe, but a hobby that involves being with other people and something you need to give 100% of your attention to while u you -D o it.
Vastly underrated are hobbies. And telly is shite these days so you have nothing to lose "
Your right mate i do
I go out to vist places just got a day out some where diffre is all leeds bradford manchester
Just to get myself out I used to do lots but seem to have stoped used to do the gym and down hill biking and basket ball |
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"I was just thinking this guy needs a hobby when nymphamora beat me to it.
Restart something you did as a kid maybe, but a hobby that involves being with other people and something you need to give 100% of your attention to while u you -D o it.
Vastly underrated are hobbies. And telly is shite these days so you have nothing to lose
Your right mate i do
I go out to vist places just got a day out some where diffre is all leeds bradford manchester
Just to get myself out I used to do lots but seem to have stoped used to do the gym and down hill biking and basket ball "
when im down one of my favourite things todo is put on a big 50s dress with lots of petticoats and take myself out for the day find somewhere to have a nice bit of lunch and then before i come home if i see a nice cocktail bar i will have a cocktail. Thats my favourite thing |
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By *reakShow90 OP Man
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"Haven't read the whole thread... but I know from
Experience how tough things can get.... just a suggestion have you ever tried exercise ?
I started running/jogging 2 years ago... something I thought I would never ever do....it made and inc_edible change to my 'mood' and confidence. There's a noticeable change in me if I haven't been out for a while. I joined a local running group started park run at a weekend..of course there is an added bonus with jogging plenty of talent to eye up too "
Tbh I really should get my ass up an in to gear and work out again I used to be pretty fit but now lil beer belly and dubble chins have won lol will have to start some thing again soon
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By *reakShow90 OP Man
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"Glad you're feeling a bit better today OP. I've suffe_ed with anxiety and depression since my late teens and have found that one of the best things is exactly what you did here, you told someone it was coming as soon as you felt it.
Over the years a few things that have helped me are removing or _educing alcohol, eating a gluten free diet, exercising, and talking openly about my thoughts and feelings. I also consciously tell myself that it's not forever, the fog lifts, I come out the other side etc.... I find that helps with the spiralling when my anxiety hits.
Hope tomorrow is brighter "
Thank you dear and yes cutting out the drink willll help and yes telling others how your feeling will do a world of good to let others know how you feel
I don't think I could change my diet. As I love my food to much lol and I always tell myself iam ok can go home and curl up an sleep
Anyway thank and let's hope so eh lol |
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By *reakShow90 OP Man
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"I was just thinking this guy needs a hobby when nymphamora beat me to it.
Restart something you did as a kid maybe, but a hobby that involves being with other people and something you need to give 100% of your attention to while u you -D o it.
Vastly underrated are hobbies. And telly is shite these days so you have nothing to lose
Your right mate i do
I go out to vist places just got a day out some where diffre is all leeds bradford manchester
Just to get myself out I used to do lots but seem to have stoped used to do the gym and down hill biking and basket ball when im down one of my favourite things todo is put on a big 50s dress with lots of petticoats and take myself out for the day find somewhere to have a nice bit of lunch and then before i come home if i see a nice cocktail bar i will have a cocktail. Thats my favourite thing"
Ahh getting all dolled up and having a look around town then having lunch looking at the boys iam sure lol
I do enjoy just walking round town seeing lots of diffrent people enjoying the sun looking in shops just going slow enjoying my day |
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"For any one who knows me knows I have very bad depression and anxiety and if anything I know I get myself worked up over nothing but I mean and the trip home I ended up just crying to a very close friend of me and as always she helped me made me feel better but iam now in bed crying feeling like shit and well I don't know just venting I just want to say to all my fab friends who I have met thank you for dealing with me and I know I can be a pain and some times a little to d*unk but I never mean harm and just a big thank you for talking to me when they know iam down it really dose mean the world to me
Anyway sorry for the venting hope every one has a good day "
Exercise can really help. |
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Most people suffering from anxiety who turn to alcohol are merely self medicating. Finding an alternative that actually works is a real life changer.
Speak to your GP, but don't rely on anything he/she can prescribe you. What you want is a referral to proper mental health workers.
Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) might be the answer, at least give that a go, but you must remain sober throughout that treatment. If not then a proper psychiatrist will be able to get you on the right meds, and instruct your GP to continue the prescriptions.
Things can get better, good luck. |
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