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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I know this is a heavy subject for this site but I am a little lost and seeking any advice I can get.
About 3 and a half years ago I started in what is my current job. My first day there, during training I feel instantly head over heels in love with someone. She is nearly 9 years older than me. I suppressed the feelings as she has dated other men in the 3 years since but at the minute, as far as I know she is single and the feelings are tearing me apart. I know that sounds melodramatic but it's the only way I can describe it.
Have I left it too long to confess all to her? If not, how do I even approach her about it? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Agree, definitely ask her out but don't do the big confession and unleash of feelings -- it'd be too much too soon even if she does feel romantically interested in you. Ask her for a drink. |
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Just ask her to go to the pics cos your mate let you down or something.
Do NOT confess anything. That comes later if things develop. Saves face if it comes to nothing also.
MY MOST IMPORTANT MESSAGE TO YOU. 'instantly falling in love' is infatuation/sexual attraction.
It's not love.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nothing is worth tearing you apart, not even love or infatuation as Granny mentioned.
I'm sure there are many that have been in your situation at some point in their lives.
I like Granny's idea, go for it.
Keep us posted  |
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agree with the above, keep it simple and if it pans out then happy days..
confessing will only make her a bit wary of you if it doesn't pan out and may make her distance herself from you as friends.. |
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I agree with Granny.
You've built this up into something it possibly isn't.
I'm reminded again of the Wendy Cope poem "Two Cures for Love"
1. Don't see him. Don't phone or write a letter.
2. The easy way. Get to know him better.
Of course you'll be substituting her for him and we all hope that getting to know her better cures love in a good way i.e. by showing that she feels the same.
It is often true that unrequited love is idealised, you need to find out if reality lives up to fantasy.
Good luck I hope the outcome is good for both of you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just ask her to go to the pics cos your mate let you down or something.
Do NOT confess anything. That comes later if things develop. Saves face if it comes to nothing also.
MY MOST IMPORTANT MESSAGE TO YOU. 'instantly falling in love' is infatuation/sexual attraction.
It's not love.
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Agreed
You are infatuated with her.
Ask her out by all means, go on a date.
You will probably move onto the next one once you have got your end away.
Or
She could be your soulmate and we are all wrong.
But just don't blurt it out straight away.
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By (user no longer on site)
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Nothing worse than unrequited love.
I Know how you feel OP.
I fell in love with the lady who used to live opposite before I moved away. So gorgeous and kind amd has two young girls similar ages to mine and genuinely seems to care about me. We are still in touch. She doesnt know how I feel (At least I dont think she does)trouble is she has a partner and is to marry him soon and I would never do anything to jeapardise that.
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