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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Say it as it is - no regrets ...
He was intellegent, articulate and a charmer......he had a rare tumour, no hope, no cure and immense pain.
He was dressed for work in business attire, ate his normal breakfast including prunes and chatted away......
He called me to the breakfast table......
He stood up to face me ......
He slid his fingers from my cheeks over my ears and through my hair.....
I looked up into his eyes......
He drew my head towards his ......
He kissed my forehead ever so gently .....
His fingers still in my soft hair either side of my head....
Looking straight into my eyes and said -
"I regret all the cross times we have ever had, the arguments and the wasted moments - I LOVE YOU"
I melted, looked deeply into my husband's eyes and said
I LOVE YOU TOO
He then drew me in for the most tender kiss......
I rushed out of the house and said I'll see you this evening and we will watch that Australian programme ..... he called back ... "of course"
Twenty minutes later he ran infront of an 18tonne truck on a motor way ......
I saw his lukewarm body swollen, no colour except RED when they quickly wiped the red blood away from his ears and nose and splatters all over his face and had covered a hole in his head with huge white gauze...
...
I lifted the sheet to hold his hand even though they said not to .... it was shocking and physically impossible .....
I tenderly touched his toes ....
I returned to his side without as many injuries .....
Caressed his face .....
Kissed his forehead
And said .....
I LOVE YOU TOO......
My darlings .....You either love each other or you don't ......
Nothing else really matters......
If you both love each other - the rest is trivial
Have no regrets and say it as it is .....life really is too short x
Love
SSSassy
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By *eesideMan
over a year ago
margate sumwear by the sea |
"Say it as it is - no regrets ...
He was intellegent, articulate and a charmer......he had a rare tumour, no hope, no cure and immense pain.
He was dressed for work in business attire, ate his normal breakfast including prunes and chatted away......
He called me to the breakfast table......
He stood up to face me ......
He slid his fingers from my cheeks over my ears and through my hair.....
I looked up into his eyes......
He drew my head towards his ......
He kissed my forehead ever so gently .....
His fingers still in my soft hair either side of my head....
Looking straight into my eyes and said -
"I regret all the cross times we have ever had, the arguments and the wasted moments - I LOVE YOU"
I melted, looked deeply into my husband's eyes and said
I LOVE YOU TOO
He then drew me in for the most tender kiss......
I rushed out of the house and said I'll see you this evening and we will watch that Australian programme ..... he called back ... "of course"
Twenty minutes later he ran infront of an 18tonne truck on a motor way ......
I saw his lukewarm body swollen, no colour except RED when they quickly wiped the red blood away from his ears and nose and splatters all over his face and had covered a hole in his head with huge white gauze...
...
I lifted the sheet to hold his hand even though they said not to .... it was shocking and physically impossible .....
I tenderly touched his toes ....
I returned to his side without as many injuries .....
Caressed his face .....
Kissed his forehead
And said .....
I LOVE YOU TOO......
My darlings .....You either love each other or you don't ......
Nothing else really matters......
If you both love each other - the rest is trivial
Have no regrets and say it as it is .....life really is too short x
Love
SSSassy
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Is this a true storey ????? Or from a book ????? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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It doesn't mean monogamy - we all have different relationships and what works for us is personal preference ....
It's about having no regrets .....
Saying it how it is .....
Recognising sometimes our breath could be out last one or theirs .....
It's a message of encouragement x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No matter what happened and how you wish you could have done it differently, no amount of regret will change anything.
Learn and move forward.
And a big hug for you OP for such a positive, thought provoking gem of a thread |
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By *eesideMan
over a year ago
margate sumwear by the sea |
"It doesn't mean monogamy - we all have different relationships and what works for us is personal preference ....
It's about having no regrets .....
Saying it how it is .....
Recognising sometimes our breath could be out last one or theirs .....
It's a message of encouragement x "
It's a true storey isount it ?
And its less encouragement and just sad cos he must have been filling so depressed and the miss's didn't even no it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Of course it's sad .....
Yet with no cure worldwide and horrendous pain ..... it was his choice sweet.
My message was just pure encouragement to occasionally think our breath could be our last or theirs....
We all have different lives..... different circumstances .....it's just my perspective ........ if we love each other the rest is trivial ...... lifestyle / choices / needs / wants - - all can be figured out ....
It was just a message to say - pause - take a moment to recognise this breath could be your last or theirs and do what you think you need to do ..... live and love above all things - live and love - don't simply exist
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Of course it's sad .....
Yet with no cure worldwide and horrendous pain ..... it was his choice sweet.
My message was just pure encouragement to occasionally think our breath could be our last or theirs....
We all have different lives..... different circumstances .....it's just my perspective ........ if we love each other the rest is trivial ...... lifestyle / choices / needs / wants - - all can be figured out ....
It was just a message to say - pause - take a moment to recognise this breath could be your last or theirs and do what you think you need to do ..... live and love above all things - live and love - don't simply exist
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Thanks SSSassy - a brave move - and thoughtful move for others.
Those of us who've almost gone: there are a fair few here, or have had others go, tend to think and feel this way. Sometimes a life event can be needed to help us refocus on what's really important and what we value most.
Being authentic is important for our wellbeing and helps others to understand and get closer to us. It's not always easy but is a satsifying way to live your life.  |
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"Say it as it is - no regrets ...
He was intellegent, articulate and a charmer......he had a rare tumour, no hope, no cure and immense pain.
He was dressed for work in business attire, ate his normal breakfast including prunes and chatted away......
He called me to the breakfast table......
He stood up to face me ......
He slid his fingers from my cheeks over my ears and through my hair.....
I looked up into his eyes......
He drew my head towards his ......
He kissed my forehead ever so gently .....
His fingers still in my soft hair either side of my head....
Looking straight into my eyes and said -
"I regret all the cross times we have ever had, the arguments and the wasted moments - I LOVE YOU"
I melted, looked deeply into my husband's eyes and said
I LOVE YOU TOO
He then drew me in for the most tender kiss......
I rushed out of the house and said I'll see you this evening and we will watch that Australian programme ..... he called back ... "of course"
Twenty minutes later he ran infront of an 18tonne truck on a motor way ......
I saw his lukewarm body swollen, no colour except RED when they quickly wiped the red blood away from his ears and nose and splatters all over his face and had covered a hole in his head with huge white gauze...
...
I lifted the sheet to hold his hand even though they said not to .... it was shocking and physically impossible .....
I tenderly touched his toes ....
I returned to his side without as many injuries .....
Caressed his face .....
Kissed his forehead
And said .....
I LOVE YOU TOO......
My darlings .....You either love each other or you don't ......
Nothing else really matters......
If you both love each other - the rest is trivial
Have no regrets and say it as it is .....life really is too short x
Love
SSSassy
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This is why you are one of my favourite posters sssassy.
For all the people on the forums whinging and whining over the most pathetic things like whether someone can spell or not theres people like you that can be truelly inspirational.
Plus we both got our grandbabies born the same week |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Wow i can relate to that story. Very touching and moving and very true. Life is too short and we only get one chance at it so make it your best and do what you want to do and enjoy it. It is up to you and you cant blame anyone else if your life is shit. GRAB IT WITH BOTH HANDS. Xx |
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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago
Filthy Fuckeryville |
Huggles ladybird - you have felt a pain most of us could only ever dread xx
Your artwork of his notes has lingered in my mind many times since we met
But you smile and you live for today - cause you are brave and fabulous and full of Sass!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Really touched me OP I lost my little sister many years ago and for a long time afterwards I was a shell of a person. I takes a lot to move on with your life and as others of said grab it with both hands and make the most of it. People whining about silly things seems so sad just enjoy the moment.
Hope you remember all the good stuff. |
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A sad but beautiful memory of an unbreakable bond that sadly a lot of couples will never experience.
We get this one tiny insignificant life and we never know when it will be taken from us so go out and enjoy it.
D&G |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You are a remarkable lady Sass, to live through that and remain burning a bright as you do, it would have destroyed most people I think. Looking forward to bubbly and cake!  "
Well I rose from the ashes....I'm a chick after all ......well an old bird at the very least...
Oh yes our London date.....perhaps we can entice a few gentleman to join us....
Love ya |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Hope the driver of said truck is ok! "
Yes he had had cancer himself and continued in his role......he and I hugged for an age......I chose to meet him, we hugged with a deep understanding of each other's emotions.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Thanks SSSassy - a brave move - and thoughtful move for others.
Those of us who've almost gone: there are a fair few here, or have had others go, tend to think and feel this way. Sometimes a life event can be needed to help us refocus on what's really important and what we value most.
Being authentic is important for our wellbeing and helps others to understand and get closer to us. It's not always easy but is a satsifying way to live your life. "
BEING AUTHENTIC......it's a great character trait isn't it......yes it's our wellbeing and others and noticing how precious our moments with each other are.... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"This is why you are one of my favourite posters sssassy.
For all the people on the forums whinging and whining over the most pathetic things like whether someone can spell or not theres people like you that can be truelly inspirational.
Plus we both got our grandbabies born the same week "
Awwww ta - big smiles- yes GILFS unite.....my daughter is home and baby and DAD doing well....mum is finding it tough.....as expected...
I suppose may be that's why I'm also more thoughtful.....new baby has no Grandfather ......yet we make choices and my post was to encourage us to just be pleased we have breath ......
and the person we are speaking with ........
also has breath .........
that could be taken away at any moment .......
so let's just ponder that occasionally..... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Wow i can relate to that story. Very touching and moving and very true. Life is too short and we only get one chance at it so make it your best and do what you want to do and enjoy it. It is up to you and you cant blame anyone else if your life is shit. GRAB IT WITH BOTH HANDS. Xx"
BOTH HANDS DARLING ......BOTH HANDS......  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Huggles ladybird - you have felt a pain most of us could only ever dread xx
Your artwork of his notes has lingered in my mind many times since we met
But you smile and you live for today - cause you are brave and fabulous and full of Sass!
X"
Awwww thank you ......you and PP......both people i was open to share those artworks and his suicide notes with....you both are great encourages .......
Love being full of SASS..... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Really touched me OP I lost my little sister many years ago and for a long time afterwards I was a shell of a person. I takes a lot to move on with your life and as others of said grab it with both hands and make the most of it. People whining about silly things seems so sad just enjoy the moment.
Hope you remember all the good stuff. "
I'm feel for you sweet.....I'm glad you grab life and enjoy
I remember heaps of the good stuff .....including how much we "played" we both lived life to the full......
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"A sad but beautiful memory of an unbreakable bond that sadly a lot of couples will never experience.
We get this one tiny insignificant life and we never know when it will be taken from us so go out and enjoy it.
D&G"
DITTO D & G
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"This is why you are one of my favourite posters sssassy.
For all the people on the forums whinging and whining over the most pathetic things like whether someone can spell or not theres people like you that can be truelly inspirational.
Plus we both got our grandbabies born the same week
Awwww ta - big smiles- yes GILFS unite.....my daughter is home and baby and DAD doing well....mum is finding it tough.....as expected...
I suppose may be that's why I'm also more thoughtful.....new baby has no Grandfather ......yet we make choices and my post was to encourage us to just be pleased we have breath ......
and the person we are speaking with ........
also has breath .........
that could be taken away at any moment .......
so let's just ponder that occasionally..... "
mum, dad and baby great this end. Grandma completly exausted i ead there from the minute she was induced ti baby three days old, it was a privalidge to see a baby enter the world and its first few days of life a miracle.
But know matter what you and your husband knew love, true love and you let him chose his way to go with no anger.
Understanding is a word that can be used flippently.
But when you truelly understand someone.
Anyway im waffling on but i know what i mean, hope you do |
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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago
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I'm so sorry for your loss. What a brave lady you must be.
One line in particular was key for me in this thread.
If you love each other the rest is trivial. I needed to be reminded of that.
Thank you for sharing something so sacred. Xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hope the driver of said truck is ok!
Yes he had had cancer himself and continued in his role......he and I hugged for an age......I chose to meet him, we hugged with a deep understanding of each other's emotions.
This says more to me about you than anything else. I'm glad he chose to meet you too xxx
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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago
Fabville |
"Sorry I lost interest after the 5th line
Yet you had to post to tell everyone this 
My comment was based on the opening title, and after receiving a message I have asked admin to remove it!"
Was it beyond your ability to read the whole post? Perhaps if you had nothing nice to say, you should have kept quiet? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'm so sorry for your loss. What a brave lady you must be.
One line in particular was key for me in this thread.
If you love each other the rest is trivial. I needed to be reminded of that.
Thank you for sharing something so sacred. Xxx"
THATS THE GIST OF IT.....exactly what I wanted to say about any relationship no matter what it is......NO REGRETS...
IF YOU LOVE EACH OTHER ......THE REST IS TRIVIAL....
Simple isn't it X |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Good god the things you have been through. I just think you're an incredible woman and your words are something we should all consider x"
Thank you darling.....all women are incredible ...aren't we
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
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"Good god the things you have been through. I just think you're an incredible woman and your words are something we should all consider x
Thank you darling.....all women are incredible ...aren't we
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Hell yes |
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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago
Filthy Fuckeryville |
"Huggles ladybird - you have felt a pain most of us could only ever dread xx
Your artwork of his notes has lingered in my mind many times since we met
But you smile and you live for today - cause you are brave and fabulous and full of Sass!
X
Awwww thank you ......you and PP......both people i was open to share those artworks and his suicide notes with....you both are great encourages .......
Love being full of SASS..... "
Mwah xx |
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"You are a remarkable lady Sass, to live through that and remain burning a bright as you do, it would have destroyed most people I think. Looking forward to bubbly and cake!
Well I rose from the ashes....I'm a chick after all ......well an old bird at the very least...
Oh yes our London date.....perhaps we can entice a few gentleman to join us....
Love ya"
A few......now you're talking!!  |
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By *ty31Man
over a year ago
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That's really beautifully and movingly written. It's a sad story but it's so positive how OP has coped and gone on to live her life to its fullest. Certainly puts things in perspective. |
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