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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Is this a reasonable response to someone who you aren't interested in?
I think it is Mrs l says it's a bit abrupt and could be worded better?
What are people's stock reply to message from people they don't find attractive? |
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By *GHertsCouple
over a year ago
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"Is this a reasonable response to someone who you aren't interested in?
I think it is Mrs l says it's a bit abrupt and could be worded better?
What are people's stock reply to message from people they don't find attractive?"
'Thanks for your interest but we won't be taking things further and wish you well' - or similar.
Don't make the mistake of embellishing further by adding 'at the moment', because that implies they might have a chance at some point - or saying something like 'you're not quite what we want' as then some will come back at you asking what they can change to fit your requirements. We started off trying to be 'nice' but soon realised it was more trouble than it's worth as some desperate people just won't take no for an answer and will seize upon any glimmer of hope that can be gleaned from your message.
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we always add on the end of any first message..
" If after reading our profile " we are not your cup of tea" please delete this message..and enjoy your time on Corfu and fab.. we do..lol.. Connie & John xx"
if then its deleted that's fine move on to the next..  |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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"Is this a reasonable response to someone who you aren't interested in?
I think it is Mrs l says it's a bit abrupt and could be worded better?
What are people's stock reply to message from people they don't find attractive?"
I don't think it's abrupt, but then our stock reply is pretty much the same. So, we're bias. 
We normally put something like..
Thanks for your message but we don't feel, you're what we're looking for. Best wishes.
We rarely get a shirty response back. Infact we usually get thanked for the reply. |
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We always reply. Usually cite distance as a genuine issue as it's the most common and normally it's far too logistically difficult/frustrating to arrange. For anyone more local we usually tell them that we never find it easy to disappoint anyone, but there must be some real chemisty for us. Not everyone will be compatible and we sincerely hope they find what they're looking for.
Why use a couple of words when you can use a dozen sentences! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What are people's stock reply to message from people they don't find attractive?"
I like to let them down politely and not so direct.
"Thanks for the face pic. That's a lovely bed cover you have."
Hopefully they read into it enough to understand. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I never really know what to say, and would prefer to not have to reply, because we joinrd Fab to have fun, not to acquire admin duties. But so many men grumble if they don't get a reply, so if they have written a personalised message we will try to politely respond. Tend to repeat back what it says in our profile - that we prefer parties than private meets, and very rarely meet anyone new.
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Thank you for your message, but no thank you.
Hope you find what you are looking for.
That's it, no you aren't for me, you are the wrong ethnicity, I don't do beards, you are too fat/thin,ugly,freaky looking etc etc. Just thanks but no thanks, then I ignore any other messages unless they start getting stroppy. |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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"I take it this thread is for women and couples only, as we know single guys will fuck anything so a negative reply is not necessary"
We've had a fair few, thanks but no thanks messages back from men.
Shock horror, some have even just deleted our message with no reply.
Fancy them having preferences too. |
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If we feel the person has gone to some extent to write a proper message, then they get a decent response worded accordingly.
If it is not even a sentence or just dribble its gets treated with the contempt it deserves.
Aa for ones purely addressed to me....well i let dax deal with those...our profile says we are a couple so address us as one |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sounds fine.
Ours is....
Hi thanks for the reply but we got lots of meets planned at the minute and are set up for all that we have time for.
We will possibly be back in touch and maybe speak again another time.
Good luck on here and happy fabbing
We only send this out if they send a good reply, and it is clear they have read our profile.
If not we just delete the message. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If their profile matches what we are looking for and after chatting we aren't quite compatible we would send that sort of response.
If they haven't read our profile,and clearly aren't what we are looking for we simply delete n move on. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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We agree only reply if they have clearly read the profile and match most things but aren't quite what we want
Nice tits goes in the bin with everything else |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I take it this thread is for women and couples only, as we know single guys will fuck anything so a negative reply is not necessary
We've had a fair few, thanks but no thanks messages back from men.
Shock horror, some have even just deleted our message with no reply.
Fancy them having preferences too. "
That was a couple pretending to be a single guy,tut tut tut well ya live and learn |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Most women don't reply at all they just delete the message which gives you your reply. It's understandable as they get hundreds of messages so to reply to them all would be a full time job. Plus a no thank you reply opens the door for even more messages. Your reply is polite and sufficient I'd say.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My reply is
Sorry but you're not my type 
Happy fabbing
....if i get a reply its usually thanks for replying, i read then delete. If they try asking what is my type etc then i still delete.
Your reply is fine, ignore any replies |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I take it this thread is for women and couples only, as we know single guys will fuck anything so a negative reply is not necessary"
I've had a man message me and after chatting for a little while he told me he was sorry but he wasn't attracted to ample women. He could have saved us both the time by reading my profile before chatting. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I take it this thread is for women and couples only, as we know single guys will fuck anything so a negative reply is not necessary"
Not at all, we've winked at guys and they haven't winked back. We take it that what we are looking for on the swing scene doesn't match with what we are looking for.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I take it this thread is for women and couples only, as we know single guys will fuck anything so a negative reply is not necessary
I've had a man message me and after chatting for a little while he told me he was sorry but he wasn't attracted to ample women. He could have saved us both the time by reading my profile before chatting. "
I could of saved you time by telling you that guys dont read profiles |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Dependant on the content of the message we reply either no thanks or sorry you're not our type etc . Quite often get a thank you in response
I did once get a shitty response to the no thanks telling me I was rude so I replied OK- what I meant to say was - id rather shit in my hands then clap |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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'Thanks for your interest but we won't be taking things further and wish you well' - or similar
This is the best answer. I often wrestle with my conscience. I look at other people profile and I think should I put it's coz they are to young, too old, too large, too curvy or sometimes I think gosh they are too attractive and will never actually meet little old us. In the end though that sentence is the best as it's polite and too the point and doesn't need a reply |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"'Thanks for your interest but we won't be taking things further and wish you well' - or similar
This is the best answer. I often wrestle with my conscience. I look at other people profile and I think should I put it's coz they are to young, too old, too large, too curvy or sometimes I think gosh they are too attractive and will never actually meet little old us. In the end though that sentence is the best as it's polite and too the point and doesn't need a reply "
if you think that, too attractive, then why would they contact you in the 1st place? surely people only contact people were this is some attraction? x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I don't generally reply. I prefer to just have my message deleted when I'm making the initial approach if they're not interested, than to receive back a bunch of "no thanks" messages, so that's what I do. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Question to the single men. Why do guys prefer a written rejection followed by a delete, than an ignore followed by delete? The outcome is the same surely? I think I personally would rather my message is ignored and deleted, than have it rubbed in my face that I'm not 'someone's type'. The latter option makes the person rejecting more 'real'. If the message is ignored I think I would find it easier to pretend that rejection didn't take place and that person doesn't exist. That's how I've felt if we've winked and been ignored. Certainly wouldn't have wanted that guy to say 'thanks for the wink but no thanks'. Owch! Is it different with messages?
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"I don't generally reply. I prefer to just have my message deleted when I'm making the initial approach if they're not interested, than to receive back a bunch of "no thanks" messages, so that's what I do. "
I'm afraid I do more often than not, to avoid the acid comebacks......but if i do reply in the negative I usually say something like 'Thanks, but not for me, good luck.' |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I take it this thread is for women and couples only, as we know single guys will fuck anything so a negative reply is not necessary
Get yer knickers off then ....  "
I'll be putting my speados on soon,well there actually slazengers but you know what i mean |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Question to the single men. Why do guys prefer a written rejection followed by a delete, than an ignore followed by delete? The outcome is the same surely? I think I personally would rather my message is ignored and deleted, than have it rubbed in my face that I'm not 'someone's type'. The latter option makes the person rejecting more 'real'. If the message is ignored I think I would find it easier to pretend that rejection didn't take place and that person doesn't exist. That's how I've felt if we've winked and been ignored. Certainly wouldn't have wanted that guy to say 'thanks for the wink but no thanks'. Owch! Is it different with messages?
Mrs"
A wink im not bothered if I get a reply. If I winked a girl in person, and she turned away, fine.
If I opened up and spoke to a girl direct to her face, and she just blanked me and turned away...........
How did that second part sound? Ignorant or polite. Does that make her look like an arrogant arse, or the nice lady she perceived on her profile? |
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"I take it this thread is for women and couples only, as we know single guys will fuck anything so a negative reply is not necessary
Get yer knickers off then ....
I'll be putting my speados on soon,well there actually slazengers but you know what i mean"
Budgie smugglers.....  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Question to the single men. Why do guys prefer a written rejection followed by a delete, than an ignore followed by delete? The outcome is the same surely? I think I personally would rather my message is ignored and deleted, than have it rubbed in my face that I'm not 'someone's type'. The latter option makes the person rejecting more 'real'. If the message is ignored I think I would find it easier to pretend that rejection didn't take place and that person doesn't exist. That's how I've felt if we've winked and been ignored. Certainly wouldn't have wanted that guy to say 'thanks for the wink but no thanks'. Owch! Is it different with messages?
Mrs
A wink im not bothered if I get a reply. If I winked a girl in person, and she turned away, fine.
If I opened up and spoke to a girl direct to her face, and she just blanked me and turned away...........
How did that second part sound? Ignorant or polite. Does that make her look like an arrogant arse, or the nice lady she perceived on her profile? "
Phew, I'm safe: I don't pretend to be nice on my profile. I still don't think it's rude to deal with people's messages the way you would like them to deal with yours, so I'll stick to my way.
Comparisons with approaching someone in real life are totally meaningless. If your mum saw you in real life and you were busy would you wait half an hour before saying hello? Probably not, that would be weird. If your mum texted you and you were busy, would it be ok to wait half an hour before replying? Of course. |
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We always use a similar approach 'thanks for your message, however you're not what we are looking for. Best wishes' and we get quite a few nasty messages back. One couple had great verifications, a good profile, and lots of photos but they we weren't attracted to them. Sent the standard message (above) and in return they sent a message calling me (female) fat!
Admittedly I am pretty chubby, but their intention was to insult. Makes you wonder why you bother sometimes.
That said, sometimes we do get nice replies saying 'thanks for replying anyway' xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Question to the single men. Why do guys prefer a written rejection followed by a delete, than an ignore followed by delete? The outcome is the same surely? I think I personally would rather my message is ignored and deleted, than have it rubbed in my face that I'm not 'someone's type'. The latter option makes the person rejecting more 'real'. If the message is ignored I think I would find it easier to pretend that rejection didn't take place and that person doesn't exist. That's how I've felt if we've winked and been ignored. Certainly wouldn't have wanted that guy to say 'thanks for the wink but no thanks'. Owch! Is it different with messages?
Mrs"
I don't generally, I'm well aware of the volume of messages women can get on this site.
That said, it's good to atleast know the message has been read and not just caught up in a bulk delete. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Question to the single men. Why do guys prefer a written rejection followed by a delete, than an ignore followed by delete? The outcome is the same surely? I think I personally would rather my message is ignored and deleted, than have it rubbed in my face that I'm not 'someone's type'. The latter option makes the person rejecting more 'real'. If the message is ignored I think I would find it easier to pretend that rejection didn't take place and that person doesn't exist. That's how I've felt if we've winked and been ignored. Certainly wouldn't have wanted that guy to say 'thanks for the wink but no thanks'. Owch! Is it different with messages?
Mrs
A wink im not bothered if I get a reply. If I winked a girl in person, and she turned away, fine.
If I opened up and spoke to a girl direct to her face, and she just blanked me and turned away...........
How did that second part sound? Ignorant or polite. Does that make her look like an arrogant arse, or the nice lady she perceived on her profile?
Phew, I'm safe: I don't pretend to be nice on my profile. I still don't think it's rude to deal with people's messages the way you would like them to deal with yours, so I'll stick to my way.
Comparisons with approaching someone in real life are totally meaningless. If your mum saw you in real life and you were busy would you wait half an hour before saying hello? Probably not, that would be weird. If your mum texted you and you were busy, would it be ok to wait half an hour before replying? Of course. "
Not with my mum it wouldn't be. She'd think I was lying dead in a ditch somewhere if I didn't reply within 30 seconds |
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By (user no longer on site)
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maybe fab should have a thick skin and tender soul option when were are filling in our profiles so potential meets know weather deleting messages without reply will crush some1s soul or not! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"we always add on the end of any first message..
" If after reading our profile " we are not your cup of tea" please delete this message..and enjoy your time on Corfu and fab.. we do..lol.. Connie & John xx"
if then its deleted that's fine move on to the next.. "
Exactly |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Question to the single men. Why do guys prefer a written rejection followed by a delete, than an ignore followed by delete? The outcome is the same surely? I think I personally would rather my message is ignored and deleted, than have it rubbed in my face that I'm not 'someone's type'. The latter option makes the person rejecting more 'real'. If the message is ignored I think I would find it easier to pretend that rejection didn't take place and that person doesn't exist. That's how I've felt if we've winked and been ignored. Certainly wouldn't have wanted that guy to say 'thanks for the wink but no thanks'. Owch! Is it different with messages?
Mrs
A wink im not bothered if I get a reply. If I winked a girl in person, and she turned away, fine.
If I opened up and spoke to a girl direct to her face, and she just blanked me and turned away...........
How did that second part sound? Ignorant or polite. Does that make her look like an arrogant arse, or the nice lady she perceived on her profile? "
In what situation are you talking about speaking to a girl direct to her face? Do you mean someone you don't know or someone you do know? Is this a girl you are passing on the street or see in a pub. Or is it a girl you see at a swing party? I'm not sure what I would do if a complete stranger just spoke to me out of the blue. I'm afraid I'm very reserved and English do that would make me feel hugely uncomfortable. |
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"Is this a reasonable response to someone who you aren't interested in?
I think it is Mrs l says it's a bit abrupt and could be worded better?
What are people's stock reply to message from people they don't find attractive?
'Thanks for your interest but we won't be taking things further and wish you well' - or similar.
Don't make the mistake of embellishing further by adding 'at the moment', because that implies they might have a chance at some point - or saying something like 'you're not quite what we want' as then some will come back at you asking what they can change to fit your requirements. We started off trying to be 'nice' but soon realised it was more trouble than it's worth as some desperate people just won't take no for an answer and will seize upon any glimmer of hope that can be gleaned from your message.
Ms G"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Question to the single men. Why do guys prefer a written rejection followed by a delete, than an ignore followed by delete? The outcome is the same surely? I think I personally would rather my message is ignored and deleted, than have it rubbed in my face that I'm not 'someone's type'. The latter option makes the person rejecting more 'real'. If the message is ignored I think I would find it easier to pretend that rejection didn't take place and that person doesn't exist. That's how I've felt if we've winked and been ignored. Certainly wouldn't have wanted that guy to say 'thanks for the wink but no thanks'. Owch! Is it different with messages?
Mrs"
Definitely true |
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By (user no longer on site)
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A wink im not bothered if I get a reply. If I winked a girl in person, and she turned away, fine.
If I opened up and spoke to a girl direct to her face, and she just blanked me and turned away...........
How did that second part sound? Ignorant or polite. Does that make her look like an arrogant arse, or the nice lady she perceived on her profile?
Phew, I'm safe: I don't pretend to be nice on my profile. I still don't think it's rude to deal with people's messages the way you would like them to deal with yours, so I'll stick to my way.
Comparisons with approaching someone in real life are totally meaningless. If your mum saw you in real life and you were busy would you wait half an hour before saying hello? Probably not, that would be weird. If your mum texted you and you were busy, would it be ok to wait half an hour before replying? Of course. "
3rd time lucky.
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A wink im not bothered if I get a reply. If I winked a girl in person, and she turned away, fine.
If I opened up and spoke to a girl direct to her face, and she just blanked me and turned away...........
How did that second part sound? Ignorant or polite. Does that make her look like an arrogant arse, or the nice lady she perceived on her profile?
Phew, I'm safe: I don't pretend to be nice on my profile. I still don't think it's rude to deal with people's messages the way you would like them to deal with yours, so I'll stick to my way.
Comparisons with approaching someone in real life are totally meaningless. If your mum saw you in real life and you were busy would you wait half an hour before saying hello? Probably not, that would be weird. If your mum texted you and you were busy, would it be ok to wait half an hour before replying? Of course. "
Your right. Once again somebody put the cold reality of social media in perspective. I mean that sincerely too.
I'm in a position where I get few messages unlike women here. So I'm able to keep the humanity of conversation in the way I'm Ising this site.
By the way, i'dnever ignore my mum. It's more than my life's worth.
So because I do something, a little bit inside of me is always thinking, what happened to treating somebody how they treated you? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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My usual reply is " thank you for your message, but you are not my type, unfortunately. I hope you have a lot of fun on the site. Take care. X"
Luckily I've never had a rude message back. |
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"Question to the single men. Why do guys prefer a written rejection followed by a delete, than an ignore followed by delete? The outcome is the same surely? I think I personally would rather my message is ignored and deleted, than have it rubbed in my face that I'm not 'someone's type'. The latter option makes the person rejecting more 'real'. If the message is ignored I think I would find it easier to pretend that rejection didn't take place and that person doesn't exist. That's how I've felt if we've winked and been ignored. Certainly wouldn't have wanted that guy to say 'thanks for the wink but no thanks'. Owch! Is it different with messages?
Mrs
A wink im not bothered if I get a reply. If I winked a girl in person, and she turned away, fine.
If I opened up and spoke to a girl direct to her face, and she just blanked me and turned away...........
How did that second part sound? Ignorant or polite. Does that make her look like an arrogant arse, or the nice lady she perceived on her profile?
In what situation are you talking about speaking to a girl direct to her face? Do you mean someone you don't know or someone you do know? Is this a girl you are passing on the street or see in a pub. Or is it a girl you see at a swing party? I'm not sure what I would do if a complete stranger just spoke to me out of the blue. I'm afraid I'm very reserved and English do that would make me feel hugely uncomfortable. "
Depends if they said 'Good morning' or 'Great tits' !! |
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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago
not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds) |
If it's a message from folk that sit within my preferences I say
thanks for the message and interest however I don't think we're suited.. good luck in your search
If it's a message from folk outside my preferences I don't reply. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Question to the single men. Why do guys prefer a written rejection followed by a delete, than an ignore followed by delete? The outcome is the same surely? I think I personally would rather my message is ignored and deleted, than have it rubbed in my face that I'm not 'someone's type'. The latter option makes the person rejecting more 'real'. If the message is ignored I think I would find it easier to pretend that rejection didn't take place and that person doesn't exist. That's how I've felt if we've winked and been ignored. Certainly wouldn't have wanted that guy to say 'thanks for the wink but no thanks'. Owch! Is it different with messages?
Mrs
A wink im not bothered if I get a reply. If I winked a girl in person, and she turned away, fine.
If I opened up and spoke to a girl direct to her face, and she just blanked me and turned away...........
How did that second part sound? Ignorant or polite. Does that make her look like an arrogant arse, or the nice lady she perceived on her profile?
In what situation are you talking about speaking to a girl direct to her face? Do you mean someone you don't know or someone you do know? Is this a girl you are passing on the street or see in a pub. Or is it a girl you see at a swing party? I'm not sure what I would do if a complete stranger just spoke to me out of the blue. I'm afraid I'm very reserved and English do that would make me feel hugely uncomfortable.
Depends if they said 'Good morning' or 'Great tits' !! "
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If I opened up and spoke to a girl direct to her face, and she just blanked me and turned away...........
How did that second part sound? Ignorant or polite. Does that make her look like an arrogant arse, or the nice lady she perceived on her profile?
In what situation are you talking about speaking to a girl direct to her face? Do you mean someone you don't know or someone you do know? Is this a girl you are passing on the street or see in a pub. Or is it a girl you see at a swing party? I'm not sure what I would do if a complete stranger just spoke to me out of the blue. I'm afraid I'm very reserved and English do that would make me feel hugely uncomfortable. "
Again somebody trying to confuse things.
Your on a site for swinging and sex.
Or
I'm in a bar, that's exclusive for swinging and sex.
I say hello. Are you uncomfortable? If you thought that was strange, I can't help you. If you thought I fancied the arse of you and I'd like to see if you thought the same (you do have a profile that says as much) and you are in this club. A nice reply would be expected.
I would not walk to a stranger and say here I am, do you fancy me.  |
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"My usual reply is " thank you for your message, but you are not my type, unfortunately. I hope you have a lot of fun on the site. Take care. X"
Luckily I've never had a rude message back. "
You never read your messages to find out.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Being a single guy I don't get many chances to say no lol but if I got told something like the op has put I would be happy to at least know they had the decency to reply. |
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"Question to the single men. Why do guys prefer a written rejection followed by a delete, than an ignore followed by delete? The outcome is the same surely? I think I personally would rather my message is ignored and deleted, than have it rubbed in my face that I'm not 'someone's type'. The latter option makes the person rejecting more 'real'. If the message is ignored I think I would find it easier to pretend that rejection didn't take place and that person doesn't exist. That's how I've felt if we've winked and been ignored. Certainly wouldn't have wanted that guy to say 'thanks for the wink but no thanks'. Owch! Is it different with messages?
Mrs
A wink im not bothered if I get a reply. If I winked a girl in person, and she turned away, fine.
If I opened up and spoke to a girl direct to her face, and she just blanked me and turned away...........
How did that second part sound? Ignorant or polite. Does that make her look like an arrogant arse, or the nice lady she perceived on her profile?
In what situation are you talking about speaking to a girl direct to her face? Do you mean someone you don't know or someone you do know? Is this a girl you are passing on the street or see in a pub. Or is it a girl you see at a swing party? I'm not sure what I would do if a complete stranger just spoke to me out of the blue. I'm afraid I'm very reserved and English do that would make me feel hugely uncomfortable.
Depends if they said 'Good morning' or 'Great tits' !!
But you do have great tits"
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"Is this a reasonable response to someone who you aren't interested in?
I think it is Mrs l says it's a bit abrupt and could be worded better?
What are people's stock reply to message from people they don't find attractive?"
We have a copy and paste answer for the ones which are obviously copy and pasted themselves
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"Question to the single men. Why do guys prefer a written rejection followed by a delete, than an ignore followed by delete? The outcome is the same surely? I think I personally would rather my message is ignored and deleted, than have it rubbed in my face that I'm not 'someone's type'. The latter option makes the person rejecting more 'real'. If the message is ignored I think I would find it easier to pretend that rejection didn't take place and that person doesn't exist. That's how I've felt if we've winked and been ignored. Certainly wouldn't have wanted that guy to say 'thanks for the wink but no thanks'. Owch! Is it different with messages?
Mrs
A wink im not bothered if I get a reply. If I winked a girl in person, and she turned away, fine.
If I opened up and spoke to a girl direct to her face, and she just blanked me and turned away...........
How did that second part sound? Ignorant or polite. Does that make her look like an arrogant arse, or the nice lady she perceived on her profile?
In what situation are you talking about speaking to a girl direct to her face? Do you mean someone you don't know or someone you do know? Is this a girl you are passing on the street or see in a pub. Or is it a girl you see at a swing party? I'm not sure what I would do if a complete stranger just spoke to me out of the blue. I'm afraid I'm very reserved and English do that would make me feel hugely uncomfortable.
Depends if they said 'Good morning' or 'Great tits' !!
But you do have great tits
Ha, YOU can say that any time you like.... "
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"My usual reply is " thank you for your message, but you are not my type, unfortunately. I hope you have a lot of fun on the site. Take care. X"
Luckily I've never had a rude message back.
You never read your messages to find out. "
Ooops....I'm guessing I missed a message? |
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
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"No thanks": if it is a message over a sentence and it looks like they read my profile but I am not interested
Delete: If they are asking stupid questions which have already been answered on my profile
Delete and block: "wann f**k?", etc |
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
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"I take it this thread is for women and couples only, as we know single guys will fuck anything so a negative reply is not necessary"
Truth hurts for many though, we have been chatting to someone, no veries, no pics & she still gets hundreds of "I wanna fuck you" messages. I'm a fucking bloke & I don't get it tbh. Are people really that desperate they'd take a chance on someone they know quite literally nothing about other than age, location & general shape?
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"My usual reply is " thank you for your message, but you are not my type, unfortunately. I hope you have a lot of fun on the site. Take care. X"
Luckily I've never had a rude message back.
You never read your messages to find out.
Ooops....I'm guessing I missed a message? "
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If I opened up and spoke to a girl direct to her face, and she just blanked me and turned away...........
How did that second part sound? Ignorant or polite. Does that make her look like an arrogant arse, or the nice lady she perceived on her profile?
In what situation are you talking about speaking to a girl direct to her face? Do you mean someone you don't know or someone you do know? Is this a girl you are passing on the street or see in a pub. Or is it a girl you see at a swing party? I'm not sure what I would do if a complete stranger just spoke to me out of the blue. I'm afraid I'm very reserved and English do that would make me feel hugely uncomfortable.
Again somebody trying to confuse things.
Your on a site for swinging and sex.
Or
I'm in a bar, that's exclusive for swinging and sex.
I say hello. Are you uncomfortable? If you thought that was strange, I can't help you. If you thought I fancied the arse of you and I'd like to see if you thought the same (you do have a profile that says as much) and you are in this club. A nice reply would be expected.
I would not walk to a stranger and say here I am, do you fancy me. "
That's absalutely fine. If one man approached me and my husband in a swing club, and I wasn't interested, we would chat for a bit to be polite. That's just one man. I can deal with that. However if I had man after man after man coming to chat to me, I'm not sure how long I could maintain politeness for. I've been in clubs when men have swarmed. It's very nerve wracking, and some women are on their own. Fortunately I'm not. But in that situation a woman has no choice but to ignore. It's the same with messages. How many messages is it reasonable to have to answer? |
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To be honest. If I saw a queue of men of 100 more I wouldn't approach you out of politeness. Maybe that's what's needed on this site. A number of unread messages next to your profile name. Tells me how busy you are.
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"I take it this thread is for women and couples only, as we know single guys will fuck anything so a negative reply is not necessary
Truth hurts for many though, we have been chatting to someone, no veries, no pics & she still gets hundreds of "I wanna fuck you" messages. I'm a fucking bloke & I don't get it tbh. Are people really that desperate they'd take a chance on someone they know quite literally nothing about other than age, location & general shape?
S"
I was being sarky btw,im very fussy and certainly wont fuck just anything |
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"To be honest. If I saw a queue of men of 100 more I wouldn't approach you out of politeness. Maybe that's what's needed on this site. A number of unread messages next to your profile name. Tells me how busy you are.
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It's actually not that bad for us, we only get about 2 messages a day from single guys. Whereas some single women get unmanageable amounts. My husbands filters them for me so I don't have to see the crap, then one of us will send a polite rejection to the ones that deserve a response, But we only do that because so many men feel it's important to get that 'rejection letter'. We would prefer not to have that extra admin each evening. |
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"I take it this thread is for women and couples only, as we know single guys will fuck anything so a negative reply is not necessary
I've had a man message me and after chatting for a little while he told me he was sorry but he wasn't attracted to ample women. He could have saved us both the time by reading my profile before chatting.
I could of saved you time by telling you that guys dont read profiles "
I already knew that |
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
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"I take it this thread is for women and couples only, as we know single guys will fuck anything so a negative reply is not necessary
Truth hurts for many though, we have been chatting to someone, no veries, no pics & she still gets hundreds of "I wanna fuck you" messages. I'm a fucking bloke & I don't get it tbh. Are people really that desperate they'd take a chance on someone they know quite literally nothing about other than age, location & general shape?
S
I was being sarky btw,im very fussy and certainly wont fuck just anything"
I know, I was just shocked when she told us tbh & guess what, she's now blocked single men..
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"I take it this thread is for women and couples only, as we know single guys will fuck anything so a negative reply is not necessary
Truth hurts for many though, we have been chatting to someone, no veries, no pics & she still gets hundreds of "I wanna fuck you" messages. I'm a fucking bloke & I don't get it tbh. Are people really that desperate they'd take a chance on someone they know quite literally nothing about other than age, location & general shape?
S
I was being sarky btw,im very fussy and certainly wont fuck just anything"
I could definitely tell you were being sarcastic haha. I think it's important to maintain your own personal standards, regardless of what this site is primarily about. I am aware of some who aren't. Even had a couple of messages asking if I'd be willing to meet because they are desperate for a verification. I avoid those like the plague... Though I have suggested to some, if they ever want a meet, to omit that little piece of information to the next person they message... Off putting to say the least |
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"I take it this thread is for women and couples only, as we know single guys will fuck anything so a negative reply is not necessary
Truth hurts for many though, we have been chatting to someone, no veries, no pics & she still gets hundreds of "I wanna fuck you" messages. I'm a fucking bloke & I don't get it tbh. Are people really that desperate they'd take a chance on someone they know quite literally nothing about other than age, location & general shape?
S"
Why do they have to be desperate?
I replied to a message from a man who had one line of profile text, one torso photo and no verifications. We met up 3 times . |
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I accept a delete as a no. I truly do. I've never been nasty on here. Ever.
I think a rejection reply is just going one step further to keep the possitive vibe about the place alive.
If you then get nasty messages back for such then that's why the block and report prosses is there.
The way your doing things sounds fine. If admin isn't your thing, put on your page that a delet means no. |
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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago
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I have had a message roasting me for not replying to somebody who didn't fit my preferences on every single level.
The thing is that they'd never message me before so I've never not replied before.
It did make me laugh but I have no idea what it was all about. |
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I have always assumed that deleted means no interested! So no need for anything eles I also block them so I don't make the mistake of messaging them again and annoying them.
Not that I send that many messages |
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"I accept a delete as a no. I truly do. I've never been nasty on here. Ever.
I think a rejection reply is just going one step further to keep the possitive vibe about the place alive.
If you then get nasty messages back for such then that's why the block and report prosses is there.
The way your doing things sounds fine. If admin isn't your thing, put on your page that a delet means no. "
We say on our profile that we try to reply but sometimes forget. And that's true. Or my husband might delete before I see the message. I often wonder what a lot of single men would do if they were here as part of a couple. Would they stick religiously to politeness or would they sometimes get fed up and think 'sod it'. At the end of the day, we're all here for our own selfish reasons |
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
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But was their first message Hi profile sounds good can we chat a bit. Or was it Faf or the ubiquitous "I wanna smash your back doors in"..
The faf and more detailed would be more along the lines of what was being sent by the majority of guys.
What I maybe should have said was an initial faf type message to a basic non pic, basically worded profile just sounds desperate. I guess it's like fishing though, you bait an area of the river, leave it a while & then lob a line in hoping for a bite..I compare the straight into faf whatever as lobbing a hand grenade in, you might get a live fish (fuck) but you killed off fifty (blocks)..and no other fucker will catch them now either.
Hope that sort of makes sense..
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"I accept a delete as a no. I truly do. I've never been nasty on here. Ever.
I think a rejection reply is just going one step further to keep the possitive vibe about the place alive.
If you then get nasty messages back for such then that's why the block and report prosses is there.
The way your doing things sounds fine. If admin isn't your thing, put on your page that a delet means no.
We say on our profile that we try to reply but sometimes forget. And that's true. Or my husband might delete before I see the message. I often wonder what a lot of single men would do if they were here as part of a couple. Would they stick religiously to politeness or would they sometimes get fed up and think 'sod it'. At the end of the day, we're all here for our own selfish reasons"
I've done similar on my profile. Kind of apologised in advance if I don't get to their message. I find if I know I'm not going to reply... Ie from their profile, I just don't open the message. I do reply to the ones I open though.. Even if it's a no, after reading their message. |
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If it's a well thought out message but we didn't think they were compatible or didn't fancy the look of them then we would reply 'sorry, you aren't for us, happy swinging'. We've often had a nice reply thanking us for the message and happy swinging in return.
If it just said hello faf or similar we'd probably just delete!
There's no right or wrong, deletion is supposed to mean no anyway |
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You girls saying you've never had a shitty reply are really lucky.
I still wish fab would invent a 'no thankyou' button. So you wouldn't have to type a response if it was a no |
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"You girls saying you've never had a shitty reply are really lucky.
I still wish fab would invent a 'no thankyou' button. So you wouldn't have to type a response if it was a no "
Great idea |
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Unless it's clear our profile hasn't been read, or it's a message which is just plain ingnorant or rude, which we just ignore and block,
Ours is:
"Hi there. Thanks for your message. We had a read of your profile and sadly we don't feel we're a compatible couple. Best wishes X"
Think it carries just enough ambiguity as to what we didn't like without sounding to rude, abrupt or judgmental.
Hopefully...
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I prefer to be told "your not for us sorry" simple and you know where you stand no need to take it to heart, Strange one though, added as a friend by a couple, fabbed my pics, sent me a message and then blocked me before i could reply, now thats annoying, and kind of wierd! |
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"You girls saying you've never had a shitty reply are really lucky.
I still wish fab would invent a 'no thankyou' button. So you wouldn't have to type a response if it was a no "
Yes, it would make it 'nothing personal' too. |
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"Is this a reasonable response to someone who you aren't interested in?
I think it is Mrs l says it's a bit abrupt and could be worded better?
What are people's stock reply to message from people they don't find attractive?"
Think that's a perfect reply. No need to elaborate.
Hahaha. As if I have a rejection line which I constantly use |
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Keep rejections short, to discourage chatty comeback due to a chatty rejection. Many of us are friendly but experience has shown me that making them this way keeps things cleaner.
I'd like an automatic thanks but no thanks reply options to send when I fancy. I do think it would improve site morale in some quarters (single men). |
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"Is this a reasonable response to someone who you aren't interested in?
I think it is Mrs l says it's a bit abrupt and could be worded better?
What are people's stock reply to message from people they don't find attractive?"
Will there be vodka? |
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I find that "Sorry but although I think you look like a lovely couple/single your pic does nothing whatsoever for my wife therefore we won't be asking to meet" works well for me! Makes Bonnie look like a total bitch but my conscience is clear |
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"I find that "Sorry but although I think you look like a lovely couple/single your pic does nothing whatsoever for my wife therefore we won't be asking to meet" works well for me! Makes Bonnie look like a total bitch but my conscience is clear "
That's a good idea blame the other person, if it's a thanks but no thanks l always makes me reply, she will see he's not for me you tell him |
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"Is this a reasonable response to someone who you aren't interested in?
I think it is Mrs l says it's a bit abrupt and could be worded better?
What are people's stock reply to message from people they don't find attractive?"
its friendly enough but it can really effect the other persons confidence but then again what can you say at least the person who was writing that was good enough to reply some people put alot of time and effort in writing a message and not getting a reply is very deflating.i understand people get alot of messages but it makes you want to give up when you dont get a reply |
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over a year ago
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"I find that "Sorry but although I think you look like a lovely couple/single your pic does nothing whatsoever for my wife therefore we won't be asking to meet" works well for me! Makes Bonnie look like a total bitch but my conscience is clear "
Wimp
I just tell 'em to "f**k orf" |
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"I find that "Sorry but although I think you look like a lovely couple/single your pic does nothing whatsoever for my wife therefore we won't be asking to meet" works well for me! Makes Bonnie look like a total bitch but my conscience is clear
Wimp
I just tell 'em to "f**k orf" "
I prefer the more subtle "blame the wife" approach |
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