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Checking members out via veris
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Has anyone here contacted another member who has verified someone i order to check out the validity of the person you actually want to meet?
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No. Sounds like indiscreet tittle-tattle to me. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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No o dont mean it as kiss and tell more to check if said member is actually real.
Im smelling a rat with someone im talking to but cant be quite sure.
She has veris but cross referencing doesnt appear that she has left any for anyone |
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Nope. The only reason i check out veris is to see if they meet people of my body type i.e large/bbw.
If all their veris are from much slimmer people i am suspicious as to why they are suddenly interested in bigger. Am i a last resort? etc. I want to be someone's first choice not the only one who will have them lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No o dont mean it as kiss and tell more to check if said member is actually real.
Im smelling a rat with someone im talking to but cant be quite sure.
She has veris but cross referencing doesnt appear that she has left any for anyone"
I don't tend to leave one unless asked to but best to always go with you gut |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No o dont mean it as kiss and tell more to check if said member is actually real.
Im smelling a rat with someone im talking to but cant be quite sure.
She has veris but cross referencing doesnt appear that she has left any for anyone"
If you think something is dodgy then move on. I'd never dream of contacting someone who had verified a member I was interested in meeting. As another poster has said, its a little indescreet and its not fair on them to be messaged because of a veri they left. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I know some one on here who has made fake female profiles on here then verified them off his male profile (that has a couple of genuine verifications) then verifies his male profile off the fake female profile.
I know he does this because he has told me and he enjoys using the female profiles to waste people's time.
I have reported this to admin and guess what ... The profiles still exist.
So potentially your asking some one to verify that they themselves are ok  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Im trying to arrange it.
Its hard to explain as I dont want to cause any offence to the member but im talking to her partner rather than her as he doesnt play but arranges her meets |
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I've come across someone who's veris looked suspicious. There were actually 4 profiles who had all verified each other, one had a cam veri too.
The veris were all almost identical, as were the profiles. Pretty much a copy and paste job with just a few words changed.
I just blocked all of them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Im trying to arrange it.
Its hard to explain as I dont want to cause any offence to the member but im talking to her partner rather than her as he doesnt play but arranges her meets"
Ask to speak to her, that's not an unreasonable request. If he declines then say thanks but no thanks. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No o dont mean it as kiss and tell more to check if said member is actually real.
Im smelling a rat with someone im talking to but cant be quite sure.
She has veris but cross referencing doesnt appear that she has left any for anyone"
Erm... if you look at my veris it'll look I haven't verified any of them in return. That doesn't indicate fakery  |
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
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sometimes i swap veris and sometimes i write one for someone who doesnt reciprocate and sometimes we dont at all.
and remember not all veris have to be shown on the profile..
they give me an idea of the person, not the full picture. but no, i wouldn't ask someone else, about a person they have met..if i've verified them, then read it, if i haven't, it might mean they didnt want a veri, which is fair enough. |
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I'd not contact someone unless an extremely close friend had written a veri. It's not particularly goo form.
It's not brilliant really to post in here, as it could unsettle anyone that you're currently communicating with.
I'd have a phone chat/skype and determine the perceived level of honesty from that. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Erm... if you look at my veris it'll look I haven't verified any of them in return. That doesn't indicate fakery "
Sorry I wasnt implying that anyone sho doesnt leave veris was fake.
I will leave this now as im making a mess of trying to explaon |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Im trying to arrange it.
Its hard to explain as I dont want to cause any offence to the member but im talking to her partner rather than her as he doesnt play but arranges her meets"
Undoubtedly iffy |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
Northampton Somewhere |
"One of the reasons my veris are hidden. Although I have to admit I'm guilty of it myself but I was a nervous newbie at the time!!!
arh that's so sweet I'm glowing inside  "
Are you?? 
It did get me a block though which now I get why. It's most annoying!  |
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"Im trying to arrange it.
Its hard to explain as I dont want to cause any offence to the member but im talking to her partner rather than her as he doesnt play but arranges her meets"
And that doesn't sound a little dodgy to you? |
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"Im trying to arrange it.
Its hard to explain as I dont want to cause any offence to the member but im talking to her partner rather than her as he doesnt play but arranges her meets
Ask to speak to her, that's not an unreasonable request. If he declines then say thanks but no thanks. "
Yeah sounds a little suspicious |
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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
Bristol |
"Has anyone here contacted another member who has verified someone i order to check out the validity of the person you actually want to meet?
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Never. But I have been contacted by people asking questions about people I've verified. In which case I go straight to the person I verified; them I know. Some stranger who might have valid but also nefarious reasons for asking me about someone will always come second to someone I've actually met. |
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"Thats where the alarm bell is"
Then sadly only you can decide how much you are prepared to gamble on whether or not they will turn up. I really feel for swingles in this respect, at least for us couples if we're dressed to the nines and someone doesn't turn up, we can still enjoy each others company.
Yes to the cross-referencing, but no to contacting someone. I don't mind playing Colombo, but I gave up the playground years ago
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"Thats where the alarm bell is"
We never go beyond a message or two if there is no contribution from one partner, on the one occasion we did insisting that she messaged us it was clear she didn't want to be involved.
I think it would be perfectly acceptable for you to ask to speak to the lady. |
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"Has anyone here contacted another member who has verified someone i order to check out the validity of the person you actually want to meet?
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I check out soneone's pics, then their veris, then the people who have veried them If they've shagged anything with a pulse forget it and if their veris aren't imoeccably complimentary forget it too
I'm very picky |
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They might not display them for a start off so no point in trying to cross reference. If you think it's iffy just move on 
