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Anyone fancy me ??
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not having much luck on here. Just wondered if any ladies or couples actually fancy me? I know it's a long shot but you never know lol  "
Sorry but not us. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Neediness and insecurity isn't often listed in the criteria that people look for.
Maybe try putting less pressure on yourself, just join in the chat, go to socials and get to know more people without expecting a fuck. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Neediness and insecurity isn't often listed in the criteria that people look for.
Maybe try putting less pressure on yourself, just join in the chat, go to socials and get to know more people without expecting a fuck."
I've been here a while. I've updated and changed profile as times gone on. I'm always polite and respectful when messaging. I don't beg for sex like most single guys do. Maybe that's where I'm going wrong lol  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not my type but you will be somebody's I'm sure. However woman and couples do tend to like confident men. Get your self out there to socials - effort in = reward out |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Neediness and insecurity isn't often listed in the criteria that people look for.
Maybe try putting less pressure on yourself, just join in the chat, go to socials and get to know more people without expecting a fuck. I've been here a while. I've updated and changed profile as times gone on. I'm always polite and respectful when messaging. I don't beg for sex like most single guys do. Maybe that's where I'm going wrong lol "
Sorry, but that's exactly what I mean. And if you don't get it, no advice is going to help at the moment. |
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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago
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"Sorry no OP.
But ThingTwo would get it  
You back to full fitness early? I won't go easy on you "
If only I was
You can be my new years treat
Looking forward to a long, hard, deep, filth session when I am back on form - and I know you can give it to me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sorry no OP.
But ThingTwo would get it
You back to full fitness early? I won't go easy on you
If only I was
You can be my new years treat
Looking forward to a long, hard, deep, filth session when I am back on form - and I know you can give it to me "
Great to hear you're nearly back   |
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Just be yourself on the forums and try to be original with your private messages.
Other than that, it will eventually happen, just don't hold any expectations on when.
All good things cum to those who wait. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Just be yourself on the forums and try to be original with your private messages.
Other than that, it will eventually happen, just don't hold any expectations on when.
All good things cum to those who wait."
thanks guys. I'm not holding out much expectations on here anyway. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just be yourself on the forums and try to be original with your private messages.
Other than that, it will eventually happen, just don't hold any expectations on when.
All good things cum to those who wait. thanks guys. I'm not holding out much expectations on here anyway."
That seems a very negative attitude, try being positive instead. Folk react much better to positive vibes. |
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Some guys though just can't win.
In one breath they're told not to expect too much on here. Lots of competition, not insta shag, etc etc.
Then, when they say they're not expecting much from here, they're labelled as being negative.
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By *amissCouple
over a year ago
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"Not having much luck on here. Just wondered if any ladies or couples actually fancy me? I know it's a long shot but you never know lol "
You look and sound like a nice guy. People won't really know if they fancy you without meeting you. I appreciate you are busy with work etc, but socials and clubs are the way to go! Good luck |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I work full time nights so it just leaves daytimes for anything. Plus I have my kids at weekends so doesn't leave much time for anything. 
Are there any daytime clubs near you?"
there might be a couple of clubs near me I will check but it's that dreaded thought of going to a club alone and feeling like a spare part. Problem is I came out of a 23yr relationship where sex was occurring not often so I lack confidence in bed. My ex wouldn't try anything other than missionary. Oral sex was none existent and if I ever bought up any ideas they were quickly shot down. Hence why I'm on here looking to broaden my horizons and try new things |
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By *amissCouple
over a year ago
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"I work full time nights so it just leaves daytimes for anything. Plus I have my kids at weekends so doesn't leave much time for anything.
Are there any daytime clubs near you? there might be a couple of clubs near me I will check but it's that dreaded thought of going to a club alone and feeling like a spare part. Problem is I came out of a 23yr relationship where sex was occurring not often so I lack confidence in bed. My ex wouldn't try anything other than missionary. Oral sex was none existent and if I ever bought up any ideas they were quickly shot down. Hence why I'm on here looking to broaden my horizons and try new things"
Take the bull by the horns and get to a club, otherwise you won't get anywhere. Just be chatty and polite to people. Your confidence will hopefully return soon! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I work full time nights so it just leaves daytimes for anything. Plus I have my kids at weekends so doesn't leave much time for anything.
Are there any daytime clubs near you? there might be a couple of clubs near me I will check but it's that dreaded thought of going to a club alone and feeling like a spare part. Problem is I came out of a 23yr relationship where sex was occurring not often so I lack confidence in bed. My ex wouldn't try anything other than missionary. Oral sex was none existent and if I ever bought up any ideas they were quickly shot down. Hence why I'm on here looking to broaden my horizons and try new things
Take the bull by the horns and get to a club, otherwise you won't get anywhere. Just be chatty and polite to people. Your confidence will hopefully return soon! "
I may disagree with you there....i never go to clubs or socials since I did just what you and others suggested...It was crap and felt like eBay. ..highest bidder wins at both of them. I went on forums joined in..positive attitude stood up to some of the shisters on there and found a few private messages and thanked me...wasn't long before a few meets happened and regulars too. So what I'm saying is socials $ clubs are not for everyone. I don't like them, I'm a quiet guy, more one to one and I'm comfortable. Hope that helps...be respectful and interesting. ...be interested in the other person, get to know then genuinely. All the best. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I work full time nights so it just leaves daytimes for anything. Plus I have my kids at weekends so doesn't leave much time for anything.
Are there any daytime clubs near you? there might be a couple of clubs near me I will check but it's that dreaded thought of going to a club alone and feeling like a spare part. Problem is I came out of a 23yr relationship where sex was occurring not often so I lack confidence in bed. My ex wouldn't try anything other than missionary. Oral sex was none existent and if I ever bought up any ideas they were quickly shot down. Hence why I'm on here looking to broaden my horizons and try new things
Take the bull by the horns and get to a club, otherwise you won't get anywhere. Just be chatty and polite to people. Your confidence will hopefully return soon!
I may disagree with you there....i never go to clubs or socials since I did just what you and others suggested...It was crap and felt like eBay. ..highest bidder wins at both of them. I went on forums joined in..positive attitude stood up to some of the shisters on there and found a few private messages and thanked me...wasn't long before a few meets happened and regulars too. So what I'm saying is socials $ clubs are not for everyone. I don't like them, I'm a quiet guy, more one to one and I'm comfortable. Hope that helps...be respectful and interesting. ...be interested in the other person, get to know then genuinely. All the best."
you sound just like me mate ... I lack confidence I guess from being put down and rejected so often. It does have an affect over time. I am coming out of my shell so with time we shall see. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I work full time nights so it just leaves daytimes for anything. Plus I have my kids at weekends so doesn't leave much time for anything.
Are there any daytime clubs near you? there might be a couple of clubs near me I will check but it's that dreaded thought of going to a club alone and feeling like a spare part. Problem is I came out of a 23yr relationship where sex was occurring not often so I lack confidence in bed. My ex wouldn't try anything other than missionary. Oral sex was none existent and if I ever bought up any ideas they were quickly shot down. Hence why I'm on here looking to broaden my horizons and try new things
Take the bull by the horns and get to a club, otherwise you won't get anywhere. Just be chatty and polite to people. Your confidence will hopefully return soon!
I may disagree with you there....i never go to clubs or socials since I did just what you and others suggested...It was crap and felt like eBay. ..highest bidder wins at both of them. I went on forums joined in..positive attitude stood up to some of the shisters on there and found a few private messages and thanked me...wasn't long before a few meets happened and regulars too. So what I'm saying is socials $ clubs are not for everyone. I don't like them, I'm a quiet guy, more one to one and I'm comfortable. Hope that helps...be respectful and interesting. ...be interested in the other person, get to know then genuinely. All the best. you sound just like me mate ... I lack confidence I guess from being put down and rejected so often. It does have an affect over time. I am coming out of my shell so with time we shall see. "
Dont fall into the fab 'generalisation' trap. We're all different....everyone lacks confidence in some things...some more or less than others. Confidence isn't a universal thing nor is lack of it. I'm confident handling poisonous snakes, paragliding, meeting new people etc.... but some situations I'm uncomfortable in....bushy competitiveness, interviews or bumming up myself for a resume. What I'm saying I guess is that we all need to find our confident areas and work on those we aren't, surround ourselves with those who will help those. There are many fantastic people on here and you'll find them or they'll find you. |
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