My original thread was going to be a bit different...
I was going to say that people are always over-analysing things / meets / etc after the fact
and you get warned repeatedly – don’t worry – don’t think about it
but I was thinking – you can actually analyse something down to its bare bones and make it so much simpler
put in the variables and parameters – and break it down to its most simplistic form.
Why didn’t that woman smile when she looked at me?
Basic answer – she thinks you are ugly
analysed answer …
The light was in her eyes
she never saw you
she has a boyfriend
there was a small stone in her shoe
ie – there are so many possibilities – jumping to the most obvious is simply a mirror to your own personality.
And the next step?
Ask other people for their opinion.
Thing is – if you spend too much time running these ideas thru your head – you can actually do damage in the meantime
This isnt a YES NO thread – more of an opinion group
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"As an under analyser I find that not analysing every detail of an encounter is way simpler. If someone doesn't smile at me I accept it and move on, maybe I'm a bit odd  "
Odd? Nah, yer allright. |
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"As an under analyser I find that not analysing every detail of an encounter is way simpler. If someone doesn't smile at me I accept it and move on, maybe I'm a bit odd
Odd? Nah, yer allright.
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You need to work on tying up your scarf though. |
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"As an under analyser I find that not analysing every detail of an encounter is way simpler. If someone doesn't smile at me I accept it and move on, maybe I'm a bit odd "
Nothing odd - consider yourself lucky - It means you live more open and free - a gift many of us envy and admire
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is it overthinking? Or is it that some people are just more observant and contemplative?
The decider is wether or not it's healthy or dysfunctional. That a different question in every case.
Think I overthought this though |
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"is it overthinking? Or is it that some people are just more observant and contemplative?
The decider is wether or not it's healthy or dysfunctional. That a different question in every case.
Think I overthought this though "
There is a difference between being observant, reading people and situations, and over analyzing and overthinking.
I was trained to be ( and and am naturally) highly observant; but once I have seen what I need to see, understood what I need to understand, I move on, or react as I see fit.
I don't have the time or interest to waste my time analyzing things that have been done and dusted. |
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"As an under analyser I find that not analysing every detail of an encounter is way simpler. If someone doesn't smile at me I accept it and move on, maybe I'm a bit odd
Nothing odd - consider yourself lucky - It means you live more open and free - a gift many of us envy and admire
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"why do you have to smile when you look at someone  the only time i may smile is when im in bed with them or after when they are leaving. Not everyone makes me smile though."
'Why did she smile when I left? Was it because she liked me, or was she just pleased I was finally going?  I just don't know!'
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"why do you have to smile when you look at someone the only time i may smile is when im in bed with them or after when they are leaving. Not everyone makes me smile though.
'Why did she smile when I left? Was it because she liked me, or was she just pleased I was finally going? I just don't know!'
Haha"
I smile because they made me happy and im glad they are going as well. |
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"is it overthinking? Or is it that some people are just more observant and contemplative?
The decider is wether or not it's healthy or dysfunctional. That a different question in every case.
Think I overthought this though "
It becomes over thinking when every aspect of life is observed and contemplated upon, the key to peace of mind is knowing what needs deeper contemplation and I find that most every day interactions don't. |
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"As an under analyser I find that not analysing every detail of an encounter is way simpler. If someone doesn't smile at me I accept it and move on, maybe I'm a bit odd
Odd? Nah, yer allright.
You need to work on tying up your scarf though. "
You're right I do and its a pashmina, I thought we'd established that |
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I overanalyse everything. It's just an aspect of my personality and not something I can change. It's easy to say "just stop overanalysing", it's not easy to do.
But as I've got older the things I've overanalysed have changed so some of the things I used to worry about endlessly now brush over me. |
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