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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't actively look at the moment but have done in the past.
Currently I tend to notice people from the forums & the occasional hottie that pops into my inbox. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"For guys or do you just see if anyone takes your fancy from your flooded box? 
The latter. No time for looking with all the messages. "
Wouldn't that mean you settle for people who have messaged you, rather then finding someone you like? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"For guys or do you just see if anyone takes your fancy from your flooded box?
The latter. No time for looking with all the messages.
Wouldn't that mean you settle for people who have messaged you, rather then finding someone you like?"
No, with the message volume you're really spoilt for choice. The hardest thing I find is filtering them all. I miss out on the good ones because I literally can't keep up. Plus I think for me personally, I don't know who's into BBWs and I don't want to bother people that aren't. The forums are a bit of a welcome break from what feels like hard work. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"For guys or do you just see if anyone takes your fancy from your flooded box?
The latter. No time for looking with all the messages.
Wouldn't that mean you settle for people who have messaged you, rather then finding someone you like?
No, with the message volume you're really spoilt for choice. The hardest thing I find is filtering them all. I miss out on the good ones because I literally can't keep up. Plus I think for me personally, I don't know who's into BBWs and I don't want to bother people that aren't. The forums are a bit of a welcome break from what feels like hard work. "
Sounds like a full time job  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"For guys or do you just see if anyone takes your fancy from your flooded box?
The latter. No time for looking with all the messages.
Wouldn't that mean you settle for people who have messaged you, rather then finding someone you like?
No, with the message volume you're really spoilt for choice. The hardest thing I find is filtering them all. I miss out on the good ones because I literally can't keep up. Plus I think for me personally, I don't know who's into BBWs and I don't want to bother people that aren't. The forums are a bit of a welcome break from what feels like hard work.
Sounds like a full time job "
Yes, so I've decided to find a secretarial gimp. I'm half joking but it would be easier and I've had offers before. Haha.   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Apart from those I talk to from the forums, no I don't, purely because I wouldn't message anyone who doesn't have a face pic on their profile.
I'd feel awful to express an interest in someone and then reject them because I wasn't attracted to them. I know this is what happens all the time on here but I personally couldn't do it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't normally look, just respond. I trawled through another 400 messages yesterday and replied to a few.
I do look at profiles from people in the Forums.. check them out, but I don't message asking to meet.
If I fancy a spontaneous meet I put a message on my status so friends can see I need attention  |
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By *c-ukMan
over a year ago
Sevenoaks |
"I don't normally look, just respond. I trawled through another 400 messages yesterday and replied to a few.
I do look at profiles from people in the Forums.. check them out, but I don't message asking to meet.
If I fancy a spontaneous meet I put a message on my status so friends can see I need attention "
Kind a makes you realise how futile it is messaging the lovely ladies on here  |
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By *ewels74Woman
over a year ago
Dundee/Angus/Blackpool |
I actually do look,there is a lot of nice profiles and I actually look at the forums as well, I just watch but it sorts of shows how to read people as well....heck I would love to be living in specific areas lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My inbox keeps me busy but I do sometimes go looking, when I simply cant be bothered to try and keep up with the messages. That sounds so snobby but my inbox is ridiculous  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My inbox keeps me busy but I do sometimes go looking, when I simply cant be bothered to try and keep up with the messages. That sounds so snobby but my inbox is ridiculous
Get off your high horse "
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Never understood why ladies do this. Why don't you treat it like an Internet candy store.
Look for what you want and then wink at any guys who float your boat.
Rather than be dragged down under an avalanche of inappropriate guys just because they message. A waste of time in the least but possibly very demotivating too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Never understood why ladies do this. Why don't you treat it like an Internet candy store.
Look for what you want and then wink at any guys who float your boat.
Rather than be dragged down under an avalanche of inappropriate guys just because they message. A waste of time in the least but possibly very demotivating too."
I delete most messages. Not all are rubbish though, do get some decent 1s. But prefer to search. But free times so limited I think I'd be wasting their time, the occasional free weekend I get I'd rather go to a club and socialise as well. Unless it's some one I've already met. |
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By *ewels74Woman
over a year ago
Dundee/Angus/Blackpool |
"Never understood why ladies do this. Why don't you treat it like an Internet candy store.
Look for what you want and then wink at any guys who float your boat.
Rather than be dragged down under an avalanche of inappropriate guys just because they message. A waste of time in the least but possibly very demotivating too."
Actually tell you what lol....I actually forget to use the wink feature and I should use it more, now going by my look if I started to randomly wink and I've had tons of winks I'd be more worried in what they would think of me when I'd never winked in the past...its like fabbing photos I had a break from here for a while and in my fab pics I'd only fab bed 2 pics,I still forget to fab photos also.
Lots float my boat and I'm gun u in ally curious |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have filters off but I've been a bit awol over the summer and have no one on my to do list atm. It's a bit pants. I need to be more proactive and search I think |
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"I don't search either I can't keep up with all the messages I get now. Currently have over a thousand unread!!!"
Hide your profile for a bit,I've noticed when I do it seems to get rid of 300 a day |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Looking at this thread confirms to me why its totally futile msging anyone who takes your fancy, it simply gets lost and deleted along with all the other msgs. I'll just sit and wait for msgs to pop into my inbox...as soon as ive cleared the cobwebs out. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As a couple where in threesomes only f plays (m joins in but only with her) and f also plays one on one - our inbox is definitely not inundated but busy enough . I tend to look at people who have liked pics etc and that shows they have some interest |
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"Never understood why ladies do this. Why don't you treat it like an Internet candy store.
Look for what you want and then wink at any guys who float your boat.
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The numbers of ghastly profiles I'd have to sort through are just too great, I'm too lazy! But I also prefer to know they are interested enough in me to come after me, especially as they are always younger than me. I have a 'primal prey' psyche - I need to be pursued to be interested! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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How do people have their filters set? I'm curious. It seems you have to hide your profile if you don't want to receive new messages which is a shame as existing contacts might still want to view. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How do people have their filters set? I'm curious. It seems you have to hide your profile if you don't want to receive new messages which is a shame as existing contacts might still want to view. "
Untick all your interests, remove the what your looking for information that will remove you from a lot of searches. Set age filters to something silly like 98 to 99. There are ways |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Never understood why ladies do this. Why don't you treat it like an Internet candy store.
Look for what you want and then wink at any guys who float your boat.
The numbers of ghastly profiles I'd have to sort through are just too great, I'm too lazy! But I also prefer to know they are interested enough in me to come after me, especially as they are always younger than me.
I have a 'primal prey' psyche - I need to be pursued to be interested! "
I sooooo agree with your last sentence! Apathy is NOT a turn on.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you block all men, a wink not only let's them know you are interested...it let's them message you as well 
Oh does it? What about a fab - I do occasionally fab a pic preemptively lol!"
No fibbing a pic doesn't mean they can message.x |
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"Sometimes yeah, I'll put all my filters up and just search for myself. Can't be arsed at the moment so I'm letting them come to me."
You've dropped *all* your mail filters? Even the height ones?
#ChristmasComesEarly
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Reading this has kind of confirmed what I was thinking, that sending messages is a pretty futile exersise. To spend time composing a highly personalised well crafted message only for it to be lost amongst a glut of others.
I'm going to stick to using the forums to hopefully show my personality and find people that match it.
Plus I'm hoping to start attending more socials etc if there are any in my neck of the woods. |
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