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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I probably wouldn't. I like to keep dating and this separate. I always delete my account after a 3rd date with a girl.
Also my 'type' in dating is different from my type on here |
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"I probably wouldn't. I like to keep dating and this separate. I always delete my account after a 3rd date with a girl.
Also my 'type' in dating is different from my type on here"
ooohhhh thats a brave thing to post lol
purely from and interested angle and not an offended one....how do they differ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I probably wouldn't. I like to keep dating and this separate. I always delete my account after a 3rd date with a girl.
Also my 'type' in dating is different from my type on here
ooohhhh thats a brave thing to post lol
purely from and interested angle and not an offended one....how do they differ?"
I tend to date Jewish girls who are quite reserved and a little younger than me. Whilst on here I'm more attracted to a louder and more outgoing personality. It's quite a contrast, and I know it definitely has something to do with my childhood. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I probably wouldn't. I like to keep dating and this separate. I always delete my account after a 3rd date with a girl.
Also my 'type' in dating is different from my type on here
ooohhhh thats a brave thing to post lol
purely from and interested angle and not an offended one....how do they differ?
I tend to date Jewish girls who are quite reserved and a little younger than me. Whilst on here I'm more attracted to a louder and more outgoing personality. It's quite a contrast, and I know it definitely has something to do with my childhood. "
Thats boy speak for he wants a nice respectable virginal wife but wants to get his kicks with the fun girls first 
And that right there is why i wont date guys from fab  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Or do you see someone from here as undateable because they're possibly sexually adventurous/slutty?"
The exact opposite!
I almost approach Fab in the same way I do vanilla dating websites.
I always prefer to meet potential play partners socially first, be it for coffee or dinner.
I regard them as 'dates', at least from my perspective anyway.
I find it difficult to be completely attracted to someone without our two personalities mixing, and I always prefer to meet the same people regularly if possible, as this only ever enhances the 'relationship' over time.
If said 'relationship' was ever to develop into something 'more', then I'd already know that we shared compatible _iews on something as important to it as sex, precisely because we met on Fab.
Personally, I've never understood people who're almost of the attitude that swinging is something seedy to fill the time with while they look for a 'proper' relationship (whatever one of those is), and isn't something that they'd ever hold over into a 'real' one.
But, to each their own! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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And there's a lot of very very attractive women on fab that appear single, a lot of pics I have fab'd today I would date if they got that interested in me and we clicked and got on |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"Or do you see someone from here as undateable because they're possibly sexually adventurous/slutty? "
What's wrong with dating someone sexually adventurous?
I have no intention of being monogamous, but if a guy I met on here and clicked with wanted to meet regularly then I 'd be fine with that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I probably wouldn't. I like to keep dating and this separate. I always delete my account after a 3rd date with a girl.
Also my 'type' in dating is different from my type on here
ooohhhh thats a brave thing to post lol
purely from and interested angle and not an offended one....how do they differ?
I tend to date Jewish girls who are quite reserved and a little younger than me. Whilst on here I'm more attracted to a louder and more outgoing personality. It's quite a contrast, and I know it definitely has something to do with my childhood.
Thats boy speak for he wants a nice respectable virginal wife but wants to get his kicks with the fun girls first
And that right there is why i wont date guys from fab "
Nope. The Jewish thing is from upbringing. The reserved aspect is actually probably more introverted, which is what I am completely. Someone who prefers to stay in and be alone.
And since I don't like to go out much, Fab for me is about building confidence, which I don't have alot of.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No because im only on here because i am single
and couldnt be in a relationship with a guy who would most probably still want to meet other women"
I'm the opposite I want my next relationship to be someone who is very openminded kinky and wants to push boundaries and swing together  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Or do you see someone from here as undateable because they're possibly sexually adventurous/slutty?
The exact opposite!
I almost approach Fab in the same way I do vanilla dating websites.
I always prefer to meet potential play partners socially first, be it for coffee or dinner.
I regard them as 'dates', at least from my perspective anyway.
I find it difficult to be completely attracted to someone without our two personalities mixing, and I always prefer to meet the same people regularly if possible, as this only ever enhances the 'relationship' over time.
If said 'relationship' was ever to develop into something 'more', then I'd already know that we shared compatible _iews on something as important to it as sex, precisely because we met on Fab.
Personally, I've never understood people who're almost of the attitude that swinging is something seedy to fill the time with while they look for a 'proper' relationship (whatever one of those is), and isn't something that they'd ever hold over into a 'real' one.
But, to each their own!"
I would tend to agree with this but unfortunately not everyone has your decent and open attitude.
A lot of people on here are only here for sex and nothing else and that's why I would be reticent in dating someone. I never say never though. |
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By *lsd199Man
over a year ago
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"No because im only on here because i am single
and couldnt be in a relationship with a guy who would most probably still want to meet other women
I'm the opposite I want my next relationship to be someone who is very openminded kinky and wants to push boundaries and swing together "
That's exactly what i was thinking |
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
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id only consider dating or getting into a relationship from here or the kink site. i would need a sexually adventurous Dom man who understands im bi and these scenes. cant imagine ever having a vanilla relationship..i didnt have them before so im not going to start now, not that im looking, just never say never... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Or do you see someone from here as undateable because they're possibly sexually adventurous/slutty? "
In the past I have had 2 relationships with men I met off here who were both looking for something more ..
They were both older than me and oddly enough both relationships ended when I got fed up lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've lived with two gf's from here a few years ago..and we were exclusive.
Surely if you feel its right with the person, it is easy to step away from a scene or leave it entirely. |
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
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"I've lived with two gf's from here a few years ago..and we were exclusive.
Surely if you feel its right with the person, it is easy to step away from a scene or leave it entirely. "
i couldn't swear that id ever want to and, i couldn't promise id never want another woman again either..so...feel right or not i wont make promises i cant keep |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There's a lady here that I would consider as dating material but shes quite a bit older 
What difference does that make?"
I don't think I would want my gf to be 9/10 years older. Besides I just remembered shes smokes, so that's a deal breaker  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Have before and while i hope I would never need to I would again. Every relationship I have been involved in for well over a decade has had an element of kink and/or swinging and I can;t imagine that will ever change.
That said I would never actively seek a partner on this site because it would probably be futile |
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
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"There's a lady here that I would consider as dating material but shes quite a bit older
What difference does that make?
I don't think I would want my gf to be 9/10 years older. Besides I just remembered shes smokes, so that's a deal breaker "
my last partner of 9ish years, was 9 years younger, i only noticed when he talked about music..but then he was american as well, maybe that was just a cultural, rather than age thing..before that, my partner of 5 years was 22 years older than me...he liked that i liked him, he was great fun x when you click you click.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm finding it rather confusing as to why a lot feel they wouldn't date anyone off fab ?
What's a vanilla relationship ? "
Vanilla usually means non-kink/ non-swinging. Monogamous. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've lived with two gf's from here a few years ago..and we were exclusive.
Surely if you feel its right with the person, it is easy to step away from a scene or leave it entirely. i couldn't swear that id ever want to and, i couldn't promise id never want another woman again either..so...feel right or not i wont make promises i cant keep"
Id not want to give up my bi side. Not meeting other men would be fine, but id want to still be able to play with other women, with and without a partner. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm finding it rather confusing as to why a lot feel they wouldn't date anyone off fab ?
What's a vanilla relationship ?
Vanilla usually means non-kink/ non-swinging. Monogamous. "
A sexless relationship ? Or almost sexless ?
Hardly any sexual communication?
That sounds ever so boring ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No because im only on here because i am single
and couldnt be in a relationship with a guy who would most probably still want to meet other women
I'm the opposite I want my next relationship to be someone who is very openminded kinky and wants to push boundaries and swing together "
marry me lol x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm finding it rather confusing as to why a lot feel they wouldn't date anyone off fab ?
What's a vanilla relationship ?
Vanilla usually means non-kink/ non-swinging. Monogamous.
A sexless relationship ? Or almost sexless ?
Hardly any sexual communication?
That sounds ever so boring ?"
Non kink/swing, doesnt mean sexless. Or lack of sexual communication. Just people who are not turned on by having sex with others. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm finding it rather confusing as to why a lot feel they wouldn't date anyone off fab ?
What's a vanilla relationship ?
Vanilla usually means non-kink/ non-swinging. Monogamous.
A sexless relationship ? Or almost sexless ?
Hardly any sexual communication?
That sounds ever so boring ?"
No.. monogamous... just having one partner.. you might get more sex than you know how to handle |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm finding it rather confusing as to why a lot feel they wouldn't date anyone off fab ?
What's a vanilla relationship ?
Vanilla usually means non-kink/ non-swinging. Monogamous.
A sexless relationship ? Or almost sexless ?
Hardly any sexual communication?
That sounds ever so boring ?"
Some are sexless some aren't. Some people don't care about sex and can survive without it.
I don't see why it would automatically be boring, unless one partner couldn't live without sex. |
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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago
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"Or do you see someone from here as undateable because they're possibly sexually adventurous/slutty? "
I have done and it just happened and was pretty intense.
Partly due to the fact we were completely honest sexually from day one
Not actively seeking it now. I tend to find that's not how life works anyway
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm finding it rather confusing as to why a lot feel they wouldn't date anyone off fab ?
What's a vanilla relationship ?
Vanilla usually means non-kink/ non-swinging. Monogamous.
A sexless relationship ? Or almost sexless ?
Hardly any sexual communication?
That sounds ever so boring ?"
I'm nit sure how you concluded that a vanilla relationship would be sexless.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm finding it rather confusing as to why a lot feel they wouldn't date anyone off fab ?
What's a vanilla relationship ?
Vanilla usually means non-kink/ non-swinging. Monogamous.
A sexless relationship ? Or almost sexless ?
Hardly any sexual communication?
That sounds ever so boring ?
Some are sexless some aren't. Some people don't care about sex and can survive without it.
I don't see why it would automatically be boring, unless one partner couldn't live without sex. "
In my own opinion I see a kinky relationship as being a man and a woman exploring each other's body's in a lot more depth than her allowing him to climb on once every 2 months for 5 minutes then throwing him off ?
That sounds like a lot of hard work, I think in that kind of sinario id rather be single |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm finding it rather confusing as to why a lot feel they wouldn't date anyone off fab ?
What's a vanilla relationship ?
Vanilla usually means non-kink/ non-swinging. Monogamous.
A sexless relationship ? Or almost sexless ?
Hardly any sexual communication?
That sounds ever so boring ?
I'm nit sure how you concluded that a vanilla relationship would be sexless.
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I'm a newbie and no pro
My idea of kinky sex ain't swinging I guess |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I clicked with someone and could trust them, of course I would date them. It would probably be the ideal relationship. Sexually open and honest from the word go. Meeting the right person here isn't different than meeting anywhere else, if that feeling is there, why not? |
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
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"I'm finding it rather confusing as to why a lot feel they wouldn't date anyone off fab ?
What's a vanilla relationship ?
Vanilla usually means non-kink/ non-swinging. Monogamous.
A sexless relationship ? Or almost sexless ?
Hardly any sexual communication?
That sounds ever so boring ?
I'm nit sure how you concluded that a vanilla relationship would be sexless.
I'm a newbie and no pro
My idea of kinky sex ain't swinging I guess "
there are alot of differences between kink and swinging...you make up your own rules and blur the edges where you like.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Am I to believe that if I was in a relationship, we both enjoyed sex a lot, different positions, a lot of touching and teasing, maybe not even having penetrative sex that night but a lot of touching and teasing and exploring etc as not being kinky ? |
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"I probably wouldn't. I like to keep dating and this separate. I always delete my account after a 3rd date with a girl.
Also my 'type' in dating is different from my type on here"
Same for me though I would just hide my profile as I quite enjoy coming on the forums |
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
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"Am I to believe that if I was in a relationship, we both enjoyed sex a lot, different positions, a lot of touching and teasing, maybe not even having penetrative sex that night but a lot of touching and teasing and exploring etc as not being kinky ? "
its not kinky enough for me, being honest i like the furniture, the dynamic of a D/s relationship, the discipline and structure..x
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Pulling hair, tieing each other up etc sex in new places, taking risks when and where we decide to play/ have sex as not being kinky ?
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Kinky is all relative. One person may think leaving the light on is kinky. Another person may think a blindfolded roped up gangbang is kinky.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Am I to believe that if I was in a relationship, we both enjoyed sex a lot, different positions, a lot of touching and teasing, maybe not even having penetrative sex that night but a lot of touching and teasing and exploring etc as not being kinky ? its not kinky enough for me, being honest i like the furniture, the dynamic of a D/s relationship, the discipline and structure..x"
Iv led a rather sheltered life I guess  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Pulling hair, tieing each other up etc sex in new places, taking risks when and where we decide to play/ have sex as not being kinky ?
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Does it matter? What is kink for one person is totally tame for another.
As long as both people enjoy it what does it matter? |
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By *XHNHWoman
over a year ago
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For me, talking about kinky relationships etc, my experience with vanilla guys is that they haven't been able to deal with my past. Also haven't been willing to let me post pics of my Arse online deal breaker really  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There's a lady here that I would consider as dating material but shes quite a bit older "
What is it about her age that would put you off? How much older is she? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I would. I would also want to continue as a couple and seperate etc. Nothing better than being with someone that's trustworthy and likes sharing "
They would automatically be trustworthy because you met them on here? |
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
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"Am I to believe that if I was in a relationship, we both enjoyed sex a lot, different positions, a lot of touching and teasing, maybe not even having penetrative sex that night but a lot of touching and teasing and exploring etc as not being kinky ? its not kinky enough for me, being honest i like the furniture, the dynamic of a D/s relationship, the discipline and structure..x
Iv led a rather sheltered life I guess "
ive just found i like that even more than i like adventurous sex, which ive always had..i just thought it was normnal, ive been lucky with my lovers i guess..if you are happy with what you know, dont let anyone else tell you how to be..you are perfect for someone..you seem a nice guy x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No I wouldn't date anyone off here.
waaaah you said you'd meet me for coffee  "
Yeah coffee. Not a date. 
Got the kettle on.
Anyway that was before I knew you were married.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Am I to believe that if I was in a relationship, we both enjoyed sex a lot, different positions, a lot of touching and teasing, maybe not even having penetrative sex that night but a lot of touching and teasing and exploring etc as not being kinky ? its not kinky enough for me, being honest i like the furniture, the dynamic of a D/s relationship, the discipline and structure..x
Iv led a rather sheltered life I guess ive just found i like that even more than i like adventurous sex, which ive always had..i just thought it was normnal, ive been lucky with my lovers i guess..if you are happy with what you know, dont let anyone else tell you how to be..you are perfect for someone..you seem a nice guy x"
thanks Suzy, I like compliments, you to me looking at your pics, reading your profile also seem a very nice person, I imagine you say what you think with no besting around the bush and I like that quality in a woman |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I probably wouldn't. I like to keep dating and this separate. I always delete my account after a 3rd date with a girl.
Also my 'type' in dating is different from my type on here
ooohhhh thats a brave thing to post lol
purely from and interested angle and not an offended one....how do they differ?
I tend to date Jewish girls who are quite reserved and a little younger than me. Whilst on here I'm more attracted to a louder and more outgoing personality. It's quite a contrast, and I know it definitely has something to do with my childhood.
Thats boy speak for he wants a nice respectable virginal wife but wants to get his kicks with the fun girls first
And that right there is why i wont date guys from fab
Nope. The Jewish thing is from upbringing. The reserved aspect is actually probably more introverted, which is what I am completely. Someone who prefers to stay in and be alone.
And since I don't like to go out much, Fab for me is about building confidence, which I don't have alot of.
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I know some very kinky introverted women  |
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
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"Am I to believe that if I was in a relationship, we both enjoyed sex a lot, different positions, a lot of touching and teasing, maybe not even having penetrative sex that night but a lot of touching and teasing and exploring etc as not being kinky ? its not kinky enough for me, being honest i like the furniture, the dynamic of a D/s relationship, the discipline and structure..x
Iv led a rather sheltered life I guess ive just found i like that even more than i like adventurous sex, which ive always had..i just thought it was normnal, ive been lucky with my lovers i guess..if you are happy with what you know, dont let anyone else tell you how to be..you are perfect for someone..you seem a nice guy x
thanks Suzy, I like compliments, you to me looking at your pics, reading your profile also seem a very nice person, I imagine you say what you think with no besting around the bush and I like that quality in a woman "
i'm alright.;) i know who i am and what i require and im too old to worry about much. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There's a lady here that I would consider as dating material but shes quite a bit older
What difference does that make?
I don't think I would want my gf to be 9/10 years older. Besides I just remembered shes smokes, so that's a deal breaker "
Aww I'd give up, I only use a pipe these days anyway! |
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By *pices69Couple
over a year ago
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Met on a swingers website, we were exclusive for six months intentionally, started to play again with others.
We are just about five years in, very much in love. Life gets in the way of our fun, but we are both very open and we intersperse our own intimacies with the occasional guest or two, or three. We love the social side of it too.
I can understand why some would run a mile, or just use the site for sex, i guess thats how we started too. But when you find soul mates, what you gonna do.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hopefully I won't ever have to date again, but if I did then I'd prefer someone from here than not. Apart from the fact that I need an element of kink in my sex life, I imagine it would be very likely that a vanilla man would have issues with my previous activities.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've made no secret I'd like to find a lady to be a more permanent feature in my life ... This site is another avenue for my search  "
me too mate not easy though |
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"Am I to believe that if I was in a relationship, we both enjoyed sex a lot, different positions, a lot of touching and teasing, maybe not even having penetrative sex that night but a lot of touching and teasing and exploring etc as not being kinky ? "
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"If I clicked with someone and could trust them, of course I would date them. It would probably be the ideal relationship. Sexually open and honest from the word go. Meeting the right person here isn't different than meeting anywhere else, if that feeling is there, why not? "
This |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I probably wouldn't. I like to keep dating and this separate. I always delete my account after a 3rd date with a girl.
Also my 'type' in dating is different from my type on here
ooohhhh thats a brave thing to post lol
purely from and interested angle and not an offended one....how do they differ?
I tend to date Jewish girls who are quite reserved and a little younger than me. Whilst on here I'm more attracted to a louder and more outgoing personality. It's quite a contrast, and I know it definitely has something to do with my childhood.
Thats boy speak for he wants a nice respectable virginal wife but wants to get his kicks with the fun girls first
And that right there is why i wont date guys from fab
Nope. The Jewish thing is from upbringing. The reserved aspect is actually probably more introverted, which is what I am completely. Someone who prefers to stay in and be alone.
And since I don't like to go out much, Fab for me is about building confidence, which I don't have alot of.
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A very open answer. Thank you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Or do you see someone from here as undateable because they're possibly sexually adventurous/slutty? "
this would be the ideal site to find a partner on if your looking for a sexualy liberated one |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Met on a swingers website, we were exclusive for six months intentionally, started to play again with others.
We are just about five years in, very much in love. Life gets in the way of our fun, but we are both very open and we intersperse our own intimacies with the occasional guest or two, or three. We love the social side of it too.
I can understand why some would run a mile, or just use the site for sex, i guess thats how we started too. But when you find soul mates, what you gonna do.
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I suppose what I say is, theres no point in having a couple status with someone you have barely shared your life outside the scene..
So why not have that special time together that really doesnt need any other outside factors.
I'd like my partner to meet my family,spend weekends together etc etc..
I dont confuse companionship over a commitment
and certainly dont confuse sex over love
I fear lots do though
*I'm a slut when I'm single..of course |
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This site is exactly the opposite for me re searching for a permanent partner!
I do not doubt that in vanilla world that there may be someone, where the sexual chemistry/adventure and emotional bonding may leave me in no need of the site (but would I still wonder!)...
At the same time, despite fighting it like hell, there may be someone on site, where the sexual chemistry and emotional bonding is perfect....
But I am not looking for it! |
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over a year ago
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Yes I would, and have in the past. Just because I'm on here doesn't mean I'm not girlfriend material or I'm too slutty to be in s relationship. I'm the same person wether you meet me from here or *popular dating website rhyming with snatch*
There's no reason for me to believe that there aren't other people just like me on here, who given the right person and right circumstances would love to settle down |
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Met my other half on here 5yrs ago and we are happier than ever. Must say having a swinging relationship is something I had never had before and have never looked back since |
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"I probably wouldn't. I like to keep dating and this separate. I always delete my account after a 3rd date with a girl.
Also my 'type' in dating is different from my type on here
ooohhhh thats a brave thing to post lol
purely from and interested angle and not an offended one....how do they differ?
I tend to date Jewish girls who are quite reserved and a little younger than me. Whilst on here I'm more attracted to a louder and more outgoing personality. It's quite a contrast, and I know it definitely has something to do with my childhood.
Thats boy speak for he wants a nice respectable virginal wife but wants to get his kicks with the fun girls first
And that right there is why i wont date guys from fab
Nope. The Jewish thing is from upbringing. The reserved aspect is actually probably more introverted, which is what I am completely. Someone who prefers to stay in and be alone.
And since I don't like to go out much, Fab for me is about building confidence, which I don't have alot of.
A very open answer. Thank you. "
I don't think I worded it very well actually. It'd be better to say, that on Fab I look for a FB/FWB akin to friendships I've had in the past. Whereas in relationships I feel like I only want to commit to one person, and don't really want much more than that. |
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over a year ago
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Unsure. Have dated two guys from here and neither went well. Now I've just started seeing someone I met elsewhere and I'm already concerned the sex isn't going to be exciting enough for me. I'd only want a monogamous relationship though. |
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"Or do you see someone from here as undateable because they're possibly sexually adventurous/slutty? "
If I met someone I really liked I wouldn't think twice about dating on here! What could be better than dating someone who's as open-minded/sexually adventurous and non-judgemental as you are - as long as they tick the other 'relationship' boxes too? Perfect! |
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"I wouldn't because I believe in relationships being 1-1 when I'm in one, and expect the same."
So do I, and yet we are both in here, so I assume that there are men who feel the same too and could be on here. It's possible to meet someone here and have a monogamous relationship |
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over a year ago
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"There's a lady here that I would consider as dating material but shes quite a bit older
What difference does that make?
I don't think I would want my gf to be 9/10 years older. Besides I just remembered shes smokes, so that's a deal breaker
Aww I'd give up, I only use a pipe these days anyway!"
Sorry High priestess of penis, it's not you. Besides my penis is too small and I don't like the idea of getting rimmed . |
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Considering so many reports say sex and money and major causes of relationship problems...
You would think at least on site sexual compatibility is more likely to be found on site that on a vanilla site....
PS I have a big jar of shiny 20p pieces |
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"Or do you see someone from here as undateable because they're possibly sexually adventurous/slutty? "
I wouldnt date off here i would be a fb and fantasy maker |
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Never say never, it just depends on circumstances. Sometimes the swinging as a single person is just a way of keeping your options open til the right person comes along. Your just as likely to meet the right person on this site as any other site, the bus or any pub or club. At least you answer the 'are you sexually compatible?' question quite early on in the relationship lol. |
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over a year ago
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I would, I have enjoyed my short time on here and if I dated and ended up in a relationship with someone on here it will ge easier to be honest about your sex life with them |
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"Or do you see someone from here as undateable because they're possibly sexually adventurous/slutty?
The exact opposite!
I almost approach Fab in the same way I do vanilla dating websites.
I always prefer to meet potential play partners socially first, be it for coffee or dinner.
I regard them as 'dates', at least from my perspective anyway.
I find it difficult to be completely attracted to someone without our two personalities mixing, and I always prefer to meet the same people regularly if possible, as this only ever enhances the 'relationship' over time.
If said 'relationship' was ever to develop into something 'more', then I'd already know that we shared compatible _iews on something as important to it as sex, precisely because we met on Fab.
Personally, I've never understood people who're almost of the attitude that swinging is something seedy to fill the time with while they look for a 'proper' relationship (whatever one of those is), and isn't something that they'd ever hold over into a 'real' one.
But, to each their own!"
This exactly |
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"I wouldn't because I believe in relationships being 1-1 when I'm in one, and expect the same.
I'd say most singles aren't actually swingers though. "
I'd second that, I'm not a swinger, I wouldn't like to share if I was in a relationship but each to their own. |
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over a year ago
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"I wouldn't because I believe in relationships being 1-1 when I'm in one, and expect the same.
I'd say most singles aren't actually swingers though. "
no, we are just deviants..or walking fucktoys (apparently) hehehe |
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"I wouldn't because I believe in relationships being 1-1 when I'm in one, and expect the same.
I'd say most singles aren't actually swingers though. no, we are just deviants..or walking fucktoys (apparently) hehehe"
I'd go with that |
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"I wouldn't because I believe in relationships being 1-1 when I'm in one, and expect the same.
I'd say most singles aren't actually swingers though. no, we are just deviants..or walking fucktoys (apparently) hehehe"
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over a year ago
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"I wouldn't because I believe in relationships being 1-1 when I'm in one, and expect the same.
I'd say most singles aren't actually swingers though. no, we are just deviants..or walking fucktoys (apparently) hehehe
I'd go with that "
i dont believe half the women from 'true swinger' couples would have the balls to be on this scene alone.i dont agree with the above terms btw..im not talking about you two, i know you both are lovely,and met on here (smiles for you) just the ones who treat us singles as fucktoys... |
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We knew each other as friends. Met up on our own. Then never looked back. Never expected to date and be in a relationship from here but it works so well |
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"We knew each other as friends. Met up on our own. Then never looked back. Never expected to date and be in a relationship from here but it works so well "
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"Or do you see someone from here as undateable because they're possibly sexually adventurous/slutty?
The exact opposite!
I almost approach Fab in the same way I do vanilla dating websites.
I always prefer to meet potential play partners socially first, be it for coffee or dinner.
I regard them as 'dates', at least from my perspective anyway.
I find it difficult to be completely attracted to someone without our two personalities mixing, and I always prefer to meet the same people regularly if possible, as this only ever enhances the 'relationship' over time.
If said 'relationship' was ever to develop into something 'more', then I'd already know that we shared compatible _iews on something as important to it as sex, precisely because we met on Fab.
Personally, I've never understood people who're almost of the attitude that swinging is something seedy to fill the time with while they look for a 'proper' relationship (whatever one of those is), and isn't something that they'd ever hold over into a 'real' one.
But, to each their own!
This exactly "
Excellent my thoughts exactly
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"I wouldn't because I believe in relationships being 1-1 when I'm in one, and expect the same.
I'd say most singles aren't actually swingers though. no, we are just deviants..or walking fucktoys (apparently) hehehe
I'd go with that i dont believe half the women from 'true swinger' couples would have the balls to be on this scene alone.i dont agree with the above terms btw..im not talking about you two, i know you both are lovely,and met on here (smiles for you) just the ones who treat us singles as fucktoys..."
There were a couple of men who treated me as such when I first joined. I quickly wised up though. I find it very hard to understand how some people are able to have sex with others they deem inferior, so I suppose I was easily taken in when I was a newbie as it didn't occur to me that others on here would _iew the world that way. Hey ho. |
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over a year ago
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Yes , but as long as we got along both in and out of the bedroom. You can have great sex but once that is done, you still have to have similar interests and things in common. Unfortunately there is more to a relationship then good dirty fucking. |
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"Or do you see someone from here as undateable because they're possibly sexually adventurous/slutty?
The exact opposite!
I almost approach Fab in the same way I do vanilla dating websites.
I always prefer to meet potential play partners socially first, be it for coffee or dinner.
I regard them as 'dates', at least from my perspective anyway.
I find it difficult to be completely attracted to someone without our two personalities mixing, and I always prefer to meet the same people regularly if possible, as this only ever enhances the 'relationship' over time.
If said 'relationship' was ever to develop into something 'more', then I'd already know that we shared compatible _iews on something as important to it as sex, precisely because we met on Fab.
Personally, I've never understood people who're almost of the attitude that swinging is something seedy to fill the time with while they look for a 'proper' relationship (whatever one of those is), and isn't something that they'd ever hold over into a 'real' one.
But, to each their own!"
This |
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"I probably wouldn't. I like to keep dating and this separate. I always delete my account after a 3rd date with a girl.
Also my 'type' in dating is different from my type on here
ooohhhh thats a brave thing to post lol
purely from and interested angle and not an offended one....how do they differ?
I tend to date Jewish girls who are quite reserved and a little younger than me. Whilst on here I'm more attracted to a louder and more outgoing personality. It's quite a contrast, and I know it definitely has something to do with my childhood.
Thats boy speak for he wants a nice respectable virginal wife but wants to get his kicks with the fun girls first
And that right there is why i wont date guys from fab "
That's ok like all the others he'll be back on here after being married as a 'single' because she won't have sex and doesn't understand him
Seriously guys if you want an active sex life in marriage then marry someone who's likely to have that with you! |
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I probably *would* date someone from here. Like, just because they're from here won't strike them off the potentials list.
But I've not met anyone I would, yet, because I don't delve into details about the life of people I meet on here the way I would with someone I'm trying to date. |
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"I wouldn't because I believe in relationships being 1-1 when I'm in one, and expect the same.
I'd say most singles aren't actually swingers though. no, we are just deviants..or walking fucktoys (apparently) hehehe"
You called?  |
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"I probably wouldn't. I like to keep dating and this separate. I always delete my account after a 3rd date with a girl.
Also my 'type' in dating is different from my type on here
ooohhhh thats a brave thing to post lol
purely from and interested angle and not an offended one....how do they differ?
I tend to date Jewish girls who are quite reserved and a little younger than me. Whilst on here I'm more attracted to a louder and more outgoing personality. It's quite a contrast, and I know it definitely has something to do with my childhood.
Thats boy speak for he wants a nice respectable virginal wife but wants to get his kicks with the fun girls first
And that right there is why i wont date guys from fab
That's ok like all the others he'll be back on here after being married as a 'single' because she won't have sex and doesn't understand him
Seriously guys if you want an active sex life in marriage then marry someone who's likely to have that with you! "
Please read my other replies on this thread, I've tried to clarify what I mean.
And please don't insinuate that I would cheat. I think it's the worst thing a human can do to someone who's trusted in them. |
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If I met someone and really clicked on every level - and they had the patience of a saint with my workload I definitely would - attraction for me is the same wherever it happens - I don't come on here just to get laid ( truth is I have way more success off here than on it) I like the people on here and their attitude to life in general. So if I met someone and we hit it off - I'd definitely date em |
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"I've dated a girl of here for 4 months it was our own insecurities that broke us up, and I put that largely down to our exploits on fab."
Being a swinger and being insecure probably isn't a great combination xx |
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"Or do you see someone from here as undateable because they're possibly sexually adventurous/slutty? "
Would love to date a swinger to share sexual experiences with. Adventurous behaviour would be great too |
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Yes please.
Don't think I can bare another vanilla date. I tell them upfront as I don't want any surprises but many judge a woman who enjoys recreational sex. Meeting someone from here makes perfect sense. |
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I've found that tinder meets, after conversations, have led a lot of ladies onto here. Here is a bit more open about the scenes that you lovely ladies and couples want to explore. |
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Met on here, I moved in six months later and we got married a year after that. Been together three years now and married for 18months. Half of the guests at our wedding reception are friends we met through fab. Heaven knows what our family would have thought if they knew lol.
Relationships that start on fab can and do work but just like the real world, sometimes they do not. You can meet your soul mate in some unexpected places and sometimes at a time when you least expect it. |
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"Met on here, I moved in six months later and we got married a year after that. Been together three years now and married for 18months. Half of the guests at our wedding reception are friends we met through fab. Heaven knows what our family would have thought if they knew lol.
Relationships that start on fab can and do work but just like the real world, sometimes they do not. You can meet your soul mate in some unexpected places and sometimes at a time when you least expect it. "
Aww that's lovely , hope for me yet hey |
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