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Should a guy always pay?

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Was watching First Dates the other day and the woman ended up turning down the guy, simply because he wanted to split the bill.

...I thought women wanted equality?

What's your take on it?

If you're a guy...would you offer to pay fully?

If you're a gal, would you expect the guy to pay?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I didn't see it but did she turn him down because she wanted him to pay it all?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think she's a cheeky cow. Why should he pay they both are. Equality doesn't mean 'but only when it suits you'

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I didn't see it but did she turn him down because she wanted him to pay it all? "

She pretty much got turned off by him the second he asked to split the bill.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

*ate

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I think she's a cheeky cow. Why should he pay they both are. Equality doesn't mean 'but only when it suits you'"

I felt she was a bit harsh actually.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Pay 100% !!! I'd be embarrassed to ask a lady to pay or even split !

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Me too . Don't get me wrong if someone offered to pay I would accept but only because I know I'd return the favour another time

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The woman pays or I'm out of there.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I didn't see it but did she turn him down because she wanted him to pay it all? "

Yes.. but she was an older lady and I think she was a little old fashioned TBH ..

Or she was using it as an excuse not to see him again

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have no experience of dating, but for fab stuff I like going halves (unless it's something little like coffee or a drink in which case it really doesn't matter who pays).

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I'd offer to pay as well, but if someone expects me to...then we have an issue.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I want to pay my way! I'm really uncomfortable with someone paying for me, man or woman.

Nell

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Was watching First Dates the other day and the woman ended up turning down the guy, simply because he wanted to split the bill.

...I thought women wanted equality?

What's your take on it?

If you're a guy...would you offer to pay fully?

If you're a gal, would you expect the guy to pay?

Discuss

I personally prefer to pay My share if I was ever on a date

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

She was an absolute cow... no wonder she'd got through so many husbands.

It's nice for the guy to offer, but I always insist on paying my fair share. I earn too... so only right x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The woman pays or I'm out of there."

*swoon*

I'm not afraid to whip out my purse

In all honesty though I always feel like a cheapskate when a man insists on paying for everything. It's nice to treat him as well.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"She was an absolute cow... no wonder she'd got through so many husbands.

It's nice for the guy to offer, but I always insist on paying my fair share. I earn too... so only right x"

I reckon he had a lucky escape

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This is actually an interesting topic because there are some women who would be offended if the man insisted on paying.

For a first date I would always offer to pay the full whack (unless it went really shit), but I think the financial situation of the other half would play an important role in whether I relented and let them pay half, or even more.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I prefer to pay half

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'll split a bag of chips. If he wants a posh meal he'll have to dig deep,cos I'm poor

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"She was an absolute cow... no wonder she'd got through so many husbands.

It's nice for the guy to offer, but I always insist on paying my fair share. I earn too... so only right x

I reckon he had a lucky escape

Good point

Could've been another notch on her belt.

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By *lla_maiWoman over a year ago

staffordshire

I always insist on paying for myself. Why should someone else pay for me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

On a first date,I always offer to pay half but,in my experience,guys like to be gentlemanly and decline my offer.

I always insist on paying at least half on future dates.

Possibly what put her off was the un gentlemanliness,the attitude or the way he asked/insisted.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The embarrassing part is when you get your bag to pay and they want an argument about it. I don't like public scenes.

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Obviously the man should pay. I have boobs.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nah I have my own money I pay my own way

I don't think everything needs to be split 50/50 that's just petty to me

I've met guys before and gone to clubs if they pay the entry I will pay the bar bill, or one pay the entry other pay for hotel room, I think just the gesture on both parts to chip in is just nice

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By *c-ukMan over a year ago

Sevenoaks

I don't know if I am old fashioned and I didn't see the programme in question but I like to pay for a meet, meal, hotel, spa, massage etc.

Not trying to curry favour, I just think its the chivalrous thing to do.

Don't get me wrong, nothing wrong with a lady going dutch or even paying.. but I might be a tad disappointed

I will let you know if I ever get a meet

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

i'd like to pay the first few times, but i'd like her to say no no, i'll pay half, etc. i'd still pay it. but if she expected it. i doubt i'd see her again.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The woman pays or I'm out of there."

amen brother!

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By *ichardajMan over a year ago

Portsmouth

I love that woman say they all pay there way, but never seems to happen obviously in a relationship it's different, but first dates and all that there always abit shy, I've lost many dates because I've asked before we meet up if we're sharing the bill and lost a few meets before because the girls wanted me to pay for the hotel

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Pay 100% !!! I'd be embarrassed to ask a lady to pay or even split !

A lady would offer

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By *alcon43Woman over a year ago

Paisley

The silver fox in the same episode paid the bill and got the girl despite her taking the bill!

The guy that paid half seemed a bit mean. She was an older woman and probably expected him to pay the bill which may appear mean but I think she's used to being treated.

Younger couples on the show sometimes split the bill and sometimes the guy pays.

Personally I always offer to pay half.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"On a first date,I always offer to pay half but,in my experience,guys like to be gentlemanly and decline my offer.

I always insist on paying at least half on future dates.

Possibly what put her off was the un gentlemanliness,the attitude or the way he asked/insisted."

In fact,it has been known for me to slip my date some money under the table so he can go to the bar and not 'lose face' by having a woman pay.

Some guys just like old fashioned traditions,,it's cute in a way.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have no experience of dating, but for fab stuff I like going halves (unless it's something little like coffee or a drink in which case it really doesn't matter who pays)."

I'd gladly go halves with you Ruby woo

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By *ichardajMan over a year ago

Portsmouth

"Obviously the man should pay. I have boobs."

And men have the cock, but that's where you get men who are willing to throw money to get any girl, where am not into throwing my money away on a date that mite not even go my way, just a free meal for most of you girls

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm always happy to pay. But would always split should the last offer

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I always offer to pay half but most dates don't accept. I think she was just old fashioned and expected the man to cover the bill. I always insist on standing my round in pub though.

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By *eavenscentitCouple over a year ago

barnstaple

I would pay half but, most first dates I have been on the guy has paid. I always return the favour given the opportunity. Good on her though because the rules were different in that generation.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Obviously the man should pay. I have boobs.

A meal?

If I don't want to shag somebody I don't hang about that long, quick drink and I'm gone

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Pay 100% !!! I'd be embarrassed to ask a lady to pay or even split !

Well done a gentleman

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I love that woman say they all pay there way, but never seems to happen obviously in a relationship it's different, but first dates and all that there always abit shy, I've lost many dates because I've asked before we meet up if we're sharing the bill and lost a few meets before because the girls wanted me to pay for the hotel"

If it's just straightforward 'meets' we're talking about,not dates,then possivbly some women may think 'plenty more to choose from who are a bit more generous'.

I'm not saying that's right but it is the way of the world.

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Obviously the man should pay. I have boobs.

The humour was a bit obscure for you, was it?

As for not being willing to pay because it "might not go your way", you think you're owed a shag if you pay for dinner or drinks?

*That* attitude is why a lot of women prefer to go halves.

If you think paying for dinner entitles you to anything, spend money on a prostitute instead!

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By *axandbooCouple over a year ago

Bristol

When boo and i started dating she offered but i paid. Now we are further down the line if i take her out i pay, if she takes me out, then i try to pay for something...the tip, parking or something

Its just...working things together

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By *eavenscentitCouple over a year ago

barnstaple

"Obviously the man should pay. I have boobs.

A meal?

If I don't want to shag somebody I don't hang about that long, quick drink and I'm gone

Me too

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ive never met in a hotel , but i guess half n half , as for meals etc usually suggest j pay for the meal , lady gets drinks or fake away next time

,.... If i get the offer of a weekend at theirs i offer to get the takeaway or if theyre at mine they usually offer , its a 2 way thing , i dont want to get fucked twice in one meet lol.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Pay half?

I take a calculator and work out how much what I ate and drank came to and just pay that

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

I don't expect a guy to pay for everything but I'm a student so I have little in the way of disposable income.

Sometimes I have to be clear to guys that if they want to meet, I'm interested but I can't afford to split the bill.

If he then chooses to go ahead with the meet, it's up to him. If not, that's fine but the meet won't happen.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't agree with the 'she's older and that's what she's used to ' lots of things would have been different when she was younger and definitely wouldn't be acceptable now. Move with the times

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By *ichardajMan over a year ago

Portsmouth

"Obviously the man should pay. I have boobs.

A meal?

If I don't want to shag somebody I don't hang about that long, quick drink and I'm gone

I've known a few girls who are happy enough to go on dates, meal few drinks then hit the town all at the lad's expense and then left the guy in the club, gladly don't speak to them any more.

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

There's a difference between a date and a meet for NSA sex, IMO

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By *om and JennieCouple over a year ago

Chams or Socials

I think on my 1st date with TH I paid but he'd driven over 45 mins to meet me so only seemed fair.

I'm used to 50/50 & find it difficult to accept a man's offer to pay the whole lot

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would probably offer to pay on the first date. If she wanted to go halves I wouldn't argue.

I'm not that chivalrous though tbh, not in this day and age anyway when women often earn the same money as men.

It's not 1950

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By *atinaBabeCouple over a year ago

casa caliente

Man PAY !!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I used to meet a guy who was unemployed so when we met I paid for everything

It's was no big deal untill he started taking the piss so I stopped meeting him

If somebody is worth it it's worth contributing towards

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

equality doesn't mean the death of chivalry

Equality means men need to suck it up if a woman insists on paying

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There's a difference between a date and a meet for NSA sex, IMO"

There is yes

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I rarely eat on a first date (gets awkward if you don't get on)but I get the drinks I don't mind getting most of the rounds but would expect them to at least offer to get one. 2nd date with an activity or food involved I'll pay for the main part but again I want at least the offer to get the coffeewls/drinks otherwise I lose interest pretty fast.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'd offer to pay

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There's a difference between a date and a meet for NSA sex, IMO"

Oh definitely

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Pay 100% !!! I'd be embarrassed to ask a lady to pay or even split !

Well done a gentleman "

Few and far between on here it seems going by some of the comments.

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I have to laugh on here at times, men complain that women want equality when it suits them, So I'm not even going to mention the pay gap in most job segregations! Then they complain that the 'women have the upper hand on here' due to the shear number of single men. Guys make your mind up one way or the other

But to answer your question, no I wouldn't expect the man to pay but you do need to stop picking and choosing which equality you want to follow

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Pay half?

I take a calculator and work out how much what I ate and drank came to and just pay that

Most men can eat and drink 3 times what I can. I'm going to start taking a calculator with me

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I have to laugh on here at times, men complain that women want equality when it suits them, So I'm not even going to mention the pay gap in most job segregations! Then they complain that the 'women have the upper hand on here' due to the shear number of single men. Guys make your mind up one way or the other

But to answer your question, no I wouldn't expect the man to pay but you do need to stop picking and choosing which equality you want to follow

Some good points there

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'll always pays for drinks when meeting socially, I never expect the women to pay.

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By *he SeductionistMan over a year ago

Bristol

I saw that moment and was like 'listen Hun take your head out the clouds and get over yourself' I'll always suggest splitting it, yes it's nice to be treated but once youve been on a few dates knowing your both into each other. I did have one date who asked on the 2nd round are you paying or am I! I just ignored her and since that I've not seen her since..equality is something overlooked these days.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I used to meet a guy who was unemployed so when we met I paid for everything

It's was no big deal untill he started taking the piss so I stopped meeting him

If somebody is worth it it's worth contributing towards "

Similar happened to me when I was in my 20s. I was overly generous, low self esteem and thought he was the bees knees. Was grateful for being with him. Thankfully I grew up. I'm generous but will never be taken for a mug again. So I can see it from a blokes point of view. It's not nice feeling used.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

But to answer your question, no I wouldn't expect the man to pay but you do need to stop picking and choosing which equality you want to follow

I'm going to start timing how much oral I receive and reciprocate accordingly.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I didn't see the programme and don't date guys from Fab, but I never expect anyone to pay for me.

For socials I'm quite happy to pay for coffee as I won't travel. Or if he insists I'll get the next one.

I like to be in control and always arrange the hotel for play meets - my companion brings wine. So I probably pay 90% of the costs

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Pay half?

I take a calculator and work out how much what I ate and drank came to and just pay that

Most men can eat and drink 3 times what I can. I'm going to start taking a calculator with me

It's the way forward. Fuck equality

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'll always pays for drinks when meeting socially, I never expect the women to pay."

I'd go to the bar after the first drink and buy them without being asked.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

" you do need to stop picking and choosing which equality you want to follow

Works both ways.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Pay half?

I take a calculator and work out how much what I ate and drank came to and just pay that

Most men can eat and drink 3 times what I can. I'm going to start taking a calculator with me

It's the way forward. Fuck equality

Ratios.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I pay my way.

I won't be beholden.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nothing at all to do with equality or paying but my last relationship, every night after work I'd go tesco on my way home and buy £20 worth of chocolate , cakes biscuits etc etc

I didn't complain and neither did the Mrs

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'll always pays for drinks when meeting socially, I never expect the women to pay.

I'd go to the bar after the first drink and buy them without being asked. "

You'd never make it, I'd rugby tackle you to the floor and insist on buying the drinks

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'll always pays for drinks when meeting socially, I never expect the women to pay."
This

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By *reygorCouple over a year ago

birmingham

am an old school man .dont wash up or hoover ect.but allways pay when take my female out .buy nice clothes for her what ever she wants.sorry dont wish to offend any modern couples.if female wishes to share cost he ho .long as you all happy

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'll always pays for drinks when meeting socially, I never expect the women to pay.

I'd go to the bar after the first drink and buy them without being asked. "

See I do that

If I meet in a bar and they buy the first drink I wouldn't even ask, when we had finished I'd just get up and buy another

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

But to answer your question, no I wouldn't expect the man to pay but you do need to stop picking and choosing which equality you want to follow

I'm going to start timing how much oral I receive and reciprocate accordingly."

Sounds like a plan!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"am an old school man .dont wash up or hoover ect.but allways pay when take my female out .buy nice clothes for her what ever she wants.sorry dont wish to offend any modern couples.if female wishes to share cost he ho .long as you all happy"

I'd sooner you helped around the house I can buy my own cloths

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

"Nothing at all to do with equality or paying but my last relationship, every night after work I'd go tesco on my way home and buy £20 worth of chocolate , cakes biscuits etc etc

I didn't complain and neither did the Mrs

you would eat £20 worth of chocolate and cake every night?? fuck me i'm fat but even i couldnt manage that!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I took a fab friend for lunch the other day. It was my idea as I knew she had been a bit "down" lately [personal stuff I wont go into]. It was at a nice local restaurant. I paid....she offered to pay her share but I said no as it was my idea and my treat. I also knew she wasn't exactly flush.

Got a text off her later saying she felt embarrassed because I had paid. I told her she could pay next time...... I think that was OK and perhaps how I would expect things to be.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't see what the issue is, 9 quid for a kfc isn't going to break the bank! She can pay if she wants.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

He checked the cost of the bill, and took less than half from his wallet for it, that's just bad manners !!!!

I would have got up and walked away, paid 'my half' at the till and not enter into confrontation.

I frequently offer to pay, and or, go halves.

But to just produce half from his wallet with no previous discussion, well it's just not on.

And that's the same whoever your with, family friends etc...... But on a first date when your supposed to pull out all the stops...... Very very bad manners

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Nothing at all to do with equality or paying but my last relationship, every night after work I'd go tesco on my way home and buy £20 worth of chocolate , cakes biscuits etc etc

I didn't complain and neither did the Mrs

you would eat £20 worth of chocolate and cake every night?? fuck me i'm fat but even i couldnt manage that!"

£560 a month on junk food? Got any places going where you work

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Nothing at all to do with equality or paying but my last relationship, every night after work I'd go tesco on my way home and buy £20 worth of chocolate , cakes biscuits etc etc

I didn't complain and neither did the Mrs

you would eat £20 worth of chocolate and cake every night?? fuck me i'm fat but even i couldnt manage that!"

Haha I ate 1/3 the Mrs ate what was left

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

" you do need to stop picking and choosing which equality you want to follow

Works both ways. "

You don't hear many men complaining they earn more than their female counterparts do you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Nothing at all to do with equality or paying but my last relationship, every night after work I'd go tesco on my way home and buy £20 worth of chocolate , cakes biscuits etc etc

I didn't complain and neither did the Mrs

you would eat £20 worth of chocolate and cake every night?? fuck me i'm fat but even i couldnt manage that!

£560 a month on junk food? Got any places going where you work

I also spent 30-50 a night on takeaways aswell

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By *adyBCuckMan over a year ago

Southampton

Simple answer Yes

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Pay 100% !!! I'd be embarrassed to ask a lady to pay or even split !

Well done a gentleman

Few and far between on here it seems going by some of the comments. "

Ha well you only need to get on that train !!! Tut too far !!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Nothing at all to do with equality or paying but my last relationship, every night after work I'd go tesco on my way home and buy £20 worth of chocolate , cakes biscuits etc etc

I didn't complain and neither did the Mrs

you would eat £20 worth of chocolate and cake every night?? fuck me i'm fat but even i couldnt manage that!

£560 a month on junk food? Got any places going where you work

I also spent 30-50 a night on takeaways aswell

Bugger off I'm not buying that

Where the hell do you work

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

"Nothing at all to do with equality or paying but my last relationship, every night after work I'd go tesco on my way home and buy £20 worth of chocolate , cakes biscuits etc etc

I didn't complain and neither did the Mrs

you would eat £20 worth of chocolate and cake every night?? fuck me i'm fat but even i couldnt manage that!

£560 a month on junk food? Got any places going where you work

I also spent 30-50 a night on takeaways aswell

after every night at work?? did you only work 1 night a week?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

" you do need to stop picking and choosing which equality you want to follow

Works both ways.

You don't hear many men complaining they earn more than their female counterparts do you

I earn exactly the same as my female counterpart

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

" you do need to stop picking and choosing which equality you want to follow

Works both ways.

You don't hear many men complaining they earn more than their female counterparts do you

I earn exactly the same as my female counterpart "

I'm on exactly the same as my male counterparts

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Nothing at all to do with equality or paying but my last relationship, every night after work I'd go tesco on my way home and buy £20 worth of chocolate , cakes biscuits etc etc

I didn't complain and neither did the Mrs

you would eat £20 worth of chocolate and cake every night?? fuck me i'm fat but even i couldnt manage that!

£560 a month on junk food? Got any places going where you work

I also spent 30-50 a night on takeaways aswell

after every night at work?? did you only work 1 night a week?

D'oh never though of that, I forget not everybody works 7 days through

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Nothing at all to do with equality or paying but my last relationship, every night after work I'd go tesco on my way home and buy £20 worth of chocolate , cakes biscuits etc etc

I didn't complain and neither did the Mrs

you would eat £20 worth of chocolate and cake every night?? fuck me i'm fat but even i couldnt manage that!

£560 a month on junk food? Got any places going where you work

I also spent 30-50 a night on takeaways aswell

after every night at work?? did you only work 1 night a week?

7 days one week 6 the next 7 days 6 days

2 days a month off

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By *ishopstippleMan over a year ago

Purley

"Pay 100% !!! I'd be embarrassed to ask a lady to pay or even split !

A lady would offer "

Thats true.

As other have said "he had a lucky escape"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Nothing at all to do with equality or paying but my last relationship, every night after work I'd go tesco on my way home and buy £20 worth of chocolate , cakes biscuits etc etc

I didn't complain and neither did the Mrs

you would eat £20 worth of chocolate and cake every night?? fuck me i'm fat but even i couldnt manage that!

£560 a month on junk food? Got any places going where you work

I also spent 30-50 a night on takeaways aswell

after every night at work?? did you only work 1 night a week?

7 days one week 6 the next 7 days 6 days

2 days a month off "

Well that don't add up, I work on a 7 day rolling rota and I get 4 days a month off so you must get more

Ok I'm bored and getting picky now

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Obviously the man should pay. I have boobs.

A meal?

If I don't want to shag somebody I don't hang about that long, quick drink and I'm gone

I've known a few girls who are happy enough to go on dates, meal few drinks then hit the town all at the lad's expense and then left the guy in the club, gladly don't speak to them any more."

Fools and their money are easily parted.Whose fault is that?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Was watching First Dates the other day and the woman ended up turning down the guy, simply because he wanted to split the bill.

...I thought women wanted equality?

What's your take on it?

If you're a guy...would you offer to pay fully?

If you're a gal, would you expect the guy to pay?

Discuss

If I enjoyed it, I'd have no problem paying for both, but if it was a shitty date I'd pay for my part and get out of there

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Nothing at all to do with equality or paying but my last relationship, every night after work I'd go tesco on my way home and buy £20 worth of chocolate , cakes biscuits etc etc

I didn't complain and neither did the Mrs

you would eat £20 worth of chocolate and cake every night?? fuck me i'm fat but even i couldnt manage that!

£560 a month on junk food? Got any places going where you work

I also spent 30-50 a night on takeaways aswell

after every night at work?? did you only work 1 night a week?

7 days one week 6 the next 7 days 6 days

2 days a month off

Well that don't add up, I work on a 7 day rolling rota and I get 4 days a month off so you must get more

Ok I'm bored and getting picky now

Can we stop doing math please

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Was watching First Dates the other day and the woman ended up turning down the guy, simply because he wanted to split the bill.

...I thought women wanted equality?

What's your take on it?

If you're a guy...would you offer to pay fully?

If you're a gal, would you expect the guy to pay?

Discuss

If I enjoyed it, I'd have no problem paying for both, but if it was a shitty date I'd pay for my part and get out of there

Ah. Fair point.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

" you do need to stop picking and choosing which equality you want to follow

Works both ways.

You don't hear many men complaining they earn more than their female counterparts do you

Don't know many female builders so I can't answer that

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Nothing at all to do with equality or paying but my last relationship, every night after work I'd go tesco on my way home and buy £20 worth of chocolate , cakes biscuits etc etc

I didn't complain and neither did the Mrs

you would eat £20 worth of chocolate and cake every night?? fuck me i'm fat but even i couldnt manage that!

£560 a month on junk food? Got any places going where you work

I also spent 30-50 a night on takeaways aswell

after every night at work?? did you only work 1 night a week?

7 days one week 6 the next 7 days 6 days

2 days a month off

Well that don't add up, I work on a 7 day rolling rota and I get 4 days a month off so you must get more

Ok I'm bored and getting picky now

Can we stop doing math please

Well I'm sorry but I'm just not buying anybody spends between 1,400 and 1,960 ever month on nibbles and a take away

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Nothing at all to do with equality or paying but my last relationship, every night after work I'd go tesco on my way home and buy £20 worth of chocolate , cakes biscuits etc etc

I didn't complain and neither did the Mrs

you would eat £20 worth of chocolate and cake every night?? fuck me i'm fat but even i couldnt manage that!

£560 a month on junk food? Got any places going where you work

I also spent 30-50 a night on takeaways aswell

after every night at work?? did you only work 1 night a week?

7 days one week 6 the next 7 days 6 days

2 days a month off

Well that don't add up, I work on a 7 day rolling rota and I get 4 days a month off so you must get more

Ok I'm bored and getting picky now

Can we stop doing math please

Well I'm sorry but I'm just not buying anybody spends between 1,400 and 1,960 ever month on nibbles and a take away

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Obviously the man should pay. I have boobs.

A meal?

If I don't want to shag somebody I don't hang about that long, quick drink and I'm gone

I've known a few girls who are happy enough to go on dates, meal few drinks then hit the town all at the lad's expense and then left the guy in the club, gladly don't speak to them any more."

You're kidding, right? Why would someone spend an entire evening with someone they don't like for the sake of getting their tea paid for and a bottle of wine? I'd rather go to work.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'll always pays for drinks when meeting socially, I never expect the women to pay.

I'd go to the bar after the first drink and buy them without being asked.

You'd never make it, I'd rugby tackle you to the floor and insist on buying the drinks

I'd do it on the way back from the ladies

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By *andi_shopWoman over a year ago

rotherham

Not at all, why should a guy foot the bill. I would always offer to buy my own/pay half, if they say no which a lot do the that's up to them

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

In my opinion, men should pay, at least on the first couple of dates. Equality is equality, but some things should remain the same, and paying for the women is one of them (equality means being equal, not the same).

Don't forget that usually women pay a fortune to get prepared (make-up, hair clothing, accessories, etc).

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"In my opinion, men should pay, at least on the first couple of dates. Equality is equality, but some things should remain the same, and paying for the women is one of them (equality means being equal, not the same).

Don't forget that usually women pay a fortune to get prepared (make-up, hair clothing, accessories, etc). "

Yeah but we buy that anyway not for you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Don't forget that usually women pay a fortune to get prepared (make-up, hair clothing, accessories, etc). "

Well said

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Don't forget that usually women pay a fortune to get prepared (make-up, hair clothing, accessories, etc). "

I spent a pittance on my hair,clothes and makes up,admittedly I don't go out very often so don't need to. The men I have had meals with in the last few years probably spent a lot more than me.

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By *ichardajMan over a year ago

Portsmouth

"Obviously the man should pay. I have boobs.

A meal?

If I don't want to shag somebody I don't hang about that long, quick drink and I'm gone

I've known a few girls who are happy enough to go on dates, meal few drinks then hit the town all at the lad's expense and then left the guy in the club, gladly don't speak to them any more.

Fools and their money are easily parted.Whose fault is that?"

Fools indeed, but when ya too nice for your own good

Seeing posts about drink rounds, when I started seeing my ex we did that, but am on beers £2.50, she was drinking kopparberg £5ish, so at the end of the night I was skint, next time I we went out I pulled her on it an told her she's drinking beers or getting her own, she laugh an swapped to beers.

As for wage gap, does that happen anymore? Pretty sure in minimum wage jobs everyone gets the same, am in the forces an it's the same even tho woman get alot of sexist befits

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By *iamondjoeMan over a year ago

Glastonbury

No!

But men are different: I like to create a sense of generosity that implies obligation

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Don't forget that usually women pay a fortune to get prepared (make-up, hair clothing, accessories, etc).

Yeah but we buy that anyway not for you

To be honest,I do buy special clothes and make an effort if I'm seeing someone regularly. Not anything that costs a lot though. If someone did ask to take me out I'd probably borrow shoes and make up from my daughter.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'll always pays for drinks when meeting socially, I never expect the women to pay.

I'd go to the bar after the first drink and buy them without being asked.

See I do that

If I meet in a bar and they buy the first drink I wouldn't even ask, when we had finished I'd just get up and buy another

I tie them up first before going to the bar, don't want the little begger sloping off before I've had my way with him

(but will always pay my way)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Going by a 28 day month , 7 days in, 6 days in = 1 day off,, REPEAT ,, 7 days in, 6 days in = 1 day

1+1 = 2

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Obviously the man should pay. I have boobs.

A meal?

If I don't want to shag somebody I don't hang about that long, quick drink and I'm gone

I've known a few girls who are happy enough to go on dates, meal few drinks then hit the town all at the lad's expense and then left the guy in the club, gladly don't speak to them any more.

Fools and their money are easily parted.Whose fault is that?

Fools indeed, but when ya too nice for your own good

As for wage gap, does that happen anymore? Pretty sure in minimum wage jobs everyone gets the same, am in the forces an it's the same even tho woman get alot of sexist befits "

You sound a proper charmer you

I'm all for equality and paying my own way but you come over as a bit of a bully about it

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman over a year ago

Lyndhurst

Wouldnt expect him to pay but think that he should or if not go halves.

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

"I have no experience of dating, but for fab stuff I like going halves (unless it's something little like coffee or a drink in which case it really doesn't matter who pays)."

I agree

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By *un bbw loverMan over a year ago

coventry

I always offer to pay for it all but if she insists on paying then i let her only pay her share and i pay for mine or at least work something out.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Going by a 28 day month , 7 days in, 6 days in = 1 day off,, REPEAT ,, 7 days in, 6 days in = 1 day

1+1 = 2

Ok I stand corrected

I get paid a calendar months so was working on that in which case you would have got 4 days a month

I kiss your feet for forgiveness

No really I don't mind

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm happy to go Dutch as the saying goes.

I get my share of drinks/coffee during a social meet unless the person I'm meeting really insists on buying them.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman over a year ago

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I don't mind pulling my purse out for the right chap

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Generally I tend to take turns with my partners rather than split the bill. But if its a first where there is no guarantee of a second, unless the bill is sub £20 I'd expect her to offer to split it.

I wouldn't ask her to, and I may well refuse her offer, but if she didn't offer she wouldn't get a second date. Freeloading is not an attractive quality. Nor is the "when it suits" equality women seem to favour

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By *ucyfur77Woman over a year ago

Pleasuretown

"Was watching First Dates the other day and the woman ended up turning down the guy, simply because he wanted to split the bill.

...I thought women wanted equality?

What's your take on it?

If you're a guy...would you offer to pay fully?

If you're a gal, would you expect the guy to pay?

Discuss

I was disappointed by that

I wouldn't expect the guy to pay and would certainly have a discussion instead of taking the hump

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Obviously the man should pay. I have boobs.

Rather than rudely generalising all 'us girls', you cold look at the your selection process?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Was watching First Dates the other day and the woman ended up turning down the guy, simply because he wanted to split the bill.

...I thought women wanted equality?

What's your take on it?

If you're a guy...would you offer to pay fully?

If you're a gal, would you expect the guy to pay?

Discuss

I was disappointed by that

I wouldn't expect the guy to pay and would certainly have a discussion instead of taking the hump

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By *ichardajMan over a year ago

Portsmouth

"Obviously the man should pay. I have boobs.

A meal?

If I don't want to shag somebody I don't hang about that long, quick drink and I'm gone

I've known a few girls who are happy enough to go on dates, meal few drinks then hit the town all at the lad's expense and then left the guy in the club, gladly don't speak to them any more.

Fools and their money are easily parted.Whose fault is that?

Fools indeed, but when ya too nice for your own good

As for wage gap, does that happen anymore? Pretty sure in minimum wage jobs everyone gets the same, am in the forces an it's the same even tho woman get alot of sexist befits

You sound a proper charmer you

I'm all for equality and paying my own way but you come over as a bit of a bully about it

To be fair I don't go on many dates haha, but I've learned of experience of being taken for a mug, so I just treat girls as one of the lads no special treatment

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Pay 100% !!! I'd be embarrassed to ask a lady to pay or even split !

Well done a gentleman

Few and far between on here it seems going by some of the comments.

Ha well you only need to get on that train !!! Tut too far !! "

Get that uniform on

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I don't mind pulling my purse out for the right chap

Drinks are on you then

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I was always brought up with the idea that the bloke always pays and that's the way I've always been - but I'm a mug !

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Going by a 28 day month , 7 days in, 6 days in = 1 day off,, REPEAT ,, 7 days in, 6 days in = 1 day

1+1 = 2

Ok I stand corrected

I get paid a calendar months so was working on that in which case you would have got 4 days a month

I kiss your feet for forgiveness

No really I don't mind

You lot still doing math?

Yawn

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By *ENDAROOSCouple over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"Was watching First Dates the other day and the woman ended up turning down the guy, simply because he wanted to split the bill.

...I thought women wanted equality?

What's your take on it?

If you're a guy...would you offer to pay fully?

If you're a gal, would you expect the guy to pay?

Discuss

No. I wouldn't expect the man to pay.

When I was dating Mr B, we used to take it in turns to pay.

On a meet, if I meet socially on my own for a coffee/drink. I like to buy a round.

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By *manda63Woman over a year ago

Southampton

"Was watching First Dates the other day and the woman ended up turning down the guy, simply because he wanted to split the bill.

...I thought women wanted equality?

What's your take on it?

If you're a guy...would you offer to pay fully?

If you're a gal, would you expect the guy to pay?

Discuss

I always offer to pay when we are out together. Sometimes I get away with it but mostly he wins. I like to pay because Grey does all the travelling to me and won't let me give him petrol money. Im allowed to go half on hotel now and again. I think it should be equal

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I was brought up in a house with 3 women; and I was taught old fashioned values. Some of those values are now viewed as demeaning and if that's the way people feel they should be respected.

So I pay for meals etc. Because that's the way me mum dragged me up. However if someone kicks off and feels insulted because I don't wish them to share the cost then I respect their wishes. A man offering to pay for a meal is a way of "showing off" but in a nice way nothing subconscious about it. However if a woman demanded it; I would pay. But never see her again

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By *iss.HoneyWoman over a year ago

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"I don't mind pulling my purse out for the right chap

Drinks are on you then

I'll buy the drink you bring pizza

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By *enard ArgenteMan over a year ago

London and France

I am old- fashioned;

To me it is normal, as the man, to assume that I entertain the lady ;

However, I understand if a lady wishes to " pay her way", split a bill , " pay a round" then of course I would not cause an argument, and respect her wishes .

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I was brought up in a house with 3 women; and I was taught old fashioned values. Some of those values are now viewed as demeaning and if that's the way people feel they should be respected.

See, that was my issue too.

I'm fairly old fashioned too when it comes to opening doors and paying for dinner. I like seeing a smile on their face when you do.

But if it's expected of me to pay, then that's a nope from me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I don't mind pulling my purse out for the right chap

Drinks are on you then

I'll buy the drink you bring pizza

It's a date then

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Selfish with money could be an indicator of how much they will give (and take) in a relationship

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By *un bbw loverMan over a year ago

coventry

Don't forget that usually women pay a fortune to get prepared (make-up, hair clothing, accessories, etc).

i must say if a woman pays for the whole of the first date then i pay for the whole of the 2nd date plus extra.

Well said

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By *he Devils Daughter!Woman over a year ago

some where in yorkshire

"I prefer to pay half

Me too

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Selfish with money could be an indicator of how much they will give (and take) in a relationship "

Does that apply to women too?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Selfish with money could be an indicator of how much they will give (and take) in a relationship

Does that apply to women too? "

Of course it should

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Going by a 28 day month , 7 days in, 6 days in = 1 day off,, REPEAT ,, 7 days in, 6 days in = 1 day

1+1 = 2

Ok I stand corrected

I get paid a calendar months so was working on that in which case you would have got 4 days a month

I kiss your feet for forgiveness

No really I don't mind

You lot still doing math?

Yawn"

No, keep up, I'm onto his feet now

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Selfish with money could be an indicator of how much they will give (and take) in a relationship

Does that apply to women too? "

Absolutely yes.

That's why it's good when both offer to pay, and you compromise. Always a good indicator of how things will pan out throughout the relationship/friendship

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The amount of mugs in this thread is hilarious.

Have some fucking dignity you thirsty idiots.

Equality when it suits, traditional when it doesn't.

Tell me folks, is she traditional? Was she a chaste woman when you met? Is she planning on raising you 9 children and washing your mucky work clothes on a washboard and mangle?

No you say?

So why exactly are we still behaving "traditionally"

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By *penky745Man over a year ago

clacton on sea

If he's a man he will always pay

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Depends on the type of meet....

If he has asked me to breakfast, dinner or lunch then my expectation is that he would pay however I may offer to go Dutch depending on circumstances ....

If I have asked him to dinner I would of course pay, he generally gets a little uncomfortable and so we discuss it - if he is yeah great you pay - .... And flippant with it - then that is definitely an never again.

If it's coffee - i am happy to pay or so is he - not Dutch

If it's drinks - he pays as I think it inappropriate to offer however if I knew his tipple and I was at the bar before him I would of course have it ready and paid for X

Mwah

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Going by a 28 day month , 7 days in, 6 days in = 1 day off,, REPEAT ,, 7 days in, 6 days in = 1 day

1+1 = 2

Ok I stand corrected

I get paid a calendar months so was working on that in which case you would have got 4 days a month

I kiss your feet for forgiveness

No really I don't mind

You lot still doing math?

Yawn

No, keep up, I'm onto his feet now

Ah, thank god for that.

Speaking of which, noce feet by the way

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Was watching First Dates the other day and the woman ended up turning down the guy, simply because he wanted to split the bill.

...I thought women wanted equality?

What's your take on it?

If you're a guy...would you offer to pay fully?

If you're a gal, would you expect the guy to pay?

Discuss

If it's the episode I watched then the lady in question was from a much older generation where men usually did pay as that's how they did it back then.

Personally I ask to split the bill. However I remember telling my grampy that once, and he went off on one because to him and his generation, it was chivalrous for the man to pay.

Different strokes for different folks and all that.

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By *he-Hosiery-GentMan over a year ago

Older Hot Bearded Guy

Normal procedure is to split it and go halves.

If any woman expected me to foot the whole bill, it tells me all I need to know about her and we're done.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The general rule of thumb is the person who invited u out for dinner pays.

I generally like to go dutch but it is nice to be spoiled once and a while

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"The general rule of thumb is the person who invited u out for dinner pays.

I generally like to go dutch but it is nice to be spoiled once and a while

Ah, wasn't aware of that rule

The answer is yes by the way...

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By *igeiaWoman over a year ago

Bristol

I still feel bad for forgetting to get change for a twenty and pay someone for my half of a dinner we shared after sex. So I shall just have to sleep with him again and get the food in myself next time.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Was watching First Dates the other day and the woman ended up turning down the guy, simply because he wanted to split the bill.

...I thought women wanted equality?

What's your take on it?

If you're a guy...would you offer to pay fully?

If you're a gal, would you expect the guy to pay?

Discuss

If it's the episode I watched then the lady in question was from a much older generation where men usually did pay as that's how they did it back then.

Personally I ask to split the bill. However I remember telling my grampy that once, and he went off on one because to him and his generation, it was chivalrous for the man to pay.

Different strokes for different folks and all that.

Hmm. Maybe.

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By *ichardajMan over a year ago

Portsmouth

Don't forget that usually women pay a fortune to get prepared (make-up, hair clothing, accessories, etc).

i must say if a woman pays for the whole of the first date then i pay for the whole of the 2nd date plus extra.

Well said

If a woman offered to pay for the whole date, I'll be shocked an a amazed an would certainly paid my half and hope for second date

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman over a year ago

Lyndhurst

"If he's a man he will always pay"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If the chap took half out like that I'd take umber at it.

If he offered to pay, I'd automatically offer to either pay in full or my half.

It's the principle of how without thought, he took out enough for his half with no discussion. Very selfish.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The general rule of thumb is the person who invited u out for dinner pays.

I generally like to go dutch but it is nice to be spoiled once and a while

Makes sense really

Seems a little wierd that I would ask a guy out then expect him to pay, I'd I ask them out surely it's my treat?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Don't forget that usually women pay a fortune to get prepared (make-up, hair clothing, accessories, etc).

i must say if a woman pays for the whole of the first date then i pay for the whole of the 2nd date plus extra.

Well said

If a woman offered to pay for the whole date, I'll be shocked an a amazed an would certainly paid my half and hope for second date"

Just out of interest and this isn't a dig but you do seem to have some low opinions of woman from your past experience's

What type of woman do you date?

You are still young yourself so are you dating young girls who are at collage, uni, working low paid jobs? Maybe they just don't have the finances you require?

Or maybe tour dating dolly birds who are used to guys falling over them?

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

I'd much rather go halves. I don't need a meal or drink ticket and as nice as it is to be spoiled occasionally, I think that's better suited to a few dates in.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Don't forget that usually women pay a fortune to get prepared (make-up, hair clothing, accessories, etc).

i must say if a woman pays for the whole of the first date then i pay for the whole of the 2nd date plus extra.

Well said

If a woman offered to pay for the whole date, I'll be shocked an a amazed an would certainly paid my half and hope for second date

Just out of interest and this isn't a dig but you do seem to have some low opinions of woman from your past experience's

What type of woman do you date?

You are still young yourself so are you dating young girls who are at collage, uni, working low paid jobs? Maybe they just don't have the finances you require?

Or maybe tour dating dolly birds who are used to guys falling over them?

I don't agree with the make up and accessories point by the way. Women choose to do that.

I prefer less or no make up at all. You get to see the true beauty of a woman that way.

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By *reygorCouple over a year ago

birmingham

generation thing .a bag of chips years ago against a kebab today .who pays dont matter as long as you get up togather in morn eh

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"generation thing .a bag of chips years ago against a kebab today .who pays dont matter as long as you get up togather in morn eh"

Ha. Rhymes. Love it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Was watching First Dates the other day and the woman ended up turning down the guy, simply because he wanted to split the bill.

...I thought women wanted equality?

What's your take on it?

If you're a guy...would you offer to pay fully?

If you're a gal, would you expect the guy to pay?

Discuss

I like traditional values too. Such as if the guy asks me out, he should pay. After all a gentleman would. If we see each other again then I'd consider paying half for sure.

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By *ichardajMan over a year ago

Portsmouth

"if a woman offered to pay for the whole date, I'll be shocked an a amazed an would certainly paid my half and hope for second date

Just out of interest and this isn't a dig but you do seem to have some low opinions of woman from your past experience's

What type of woman do you date?

You are still young yourself so are you dating young girls who are at collage, uni, working low paid jobs? Maybe they just don't have the finances you require?

Or maybe tour dating dolly birds who are used to guys falling over them?

20's to 30's, I've had a few good experiences which lend to relationships like, but alot more bad then good most girls nower days just expect the lad to pay, with a instant cancel if you bring up sharing the bill.

Yeah it's fair to say if they can't afford it, but most lads are the same and have to find the money to pay for the girl in most cases

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By *ichardajMan over a year ago

Portsmouth

Gonna love the if a guy asks a girl out it's there treat, the guy always asks the girl out, girls never ask the guys out anymore

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Pay 100% !!! I'd be embarrassed to ask a lady to pay or even split !

Well done a gentleman "

Exactly. Well done. Nice to see gentleman with traditional values still exist.

Just because I like traditional men doesn't make me any less of a lady by allowing the gentleman to pay the bill. A lot of men still like being a gentleman and I think it's OK to let them.

If we met again I'd offer to foot half the bill and the third date I may just may offer to cook him a posh home cooked meal... no shenanigans though lol. I like the way old school dating was done...dinner at home with candles and good conversation.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"if a woman offered to pay for the whole date, I'll be shocked an a amazed an would certainly paid my half and hope for second date

Just out of interest and this isn't a dig but you do seem to have some low opinions of woman from your past experience's

What type of woman do you date?

You are still young yourself so are you dating young girls who are at collage, uni, working low paid jobs? Maybe they just don't have the finances you require?

Or maybe tour dating dolly birds who are used to guys falling over them?

Yeah it's fair to say if they can't afford it, but most lads are the same and have to find the money to pay for the girl in most cases"

True

I guess that's another reason why not to meet young guys

I suppose as you get older you get more self worth, I simply wouldn't want a guy to pay for me because I wouldn't want to feel obligated to anything

If I pay my own way I can walk away from a meet, offering nothing and not feel guilty about it

I can't comment in dating as I've never been in a date, not sure if I would feel different towards somebody I really liked as apposed to a potential shag

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By *horltzMan over a year ago

heysham

I would always offer to pay , as that's just how I am , and I wouldn't expect anything in return , but as a previous poster said , if it goes well it will come back round and even itself out

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Pay 100% !!! I'd be embarrassed to ask a lady to pay or even split !

Well done a gentleman

Exactly. Well done. Nice to see gentleman with traditional values still exist.

Just because I like traditional men doesn't make me any less of a lady by allowing the gentleman to pay the bill. A lot of men still like being a gentleman and I think it's OK to let them.

Dating is different though isnt it?

I can understand why people should go half's on a meet off here, because it's sex, your both getting the same out of it so you should both put the same into it, is how I see it

But if its somebody you really like, somebody you want to see again, somebody you see more than just sex surely you wouldnt treat them the same as a shag off the internet?

Would you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Gonna love the if a guy asks a girl out it's there treat, the guy always asks the girl out, girls never ask the guys out anymore"

You shouldn't say never. That's not true. I've asked out a couple of my ex boyfriends and yes I booked and paid for the entire date. Even paid for the entire weekend away. Just like not all mem are the same...well neither are all ladies the same.

You clearly just seem to ask out the wrong kind of women. I'm sure the older you get the more experienced you'll become in spotting the nicer genuine girlfriend type material. In the mean time just have fun on fab and relax!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Suckers.

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By *imiUKMan over a year ago

Hereford

I want to date someone I view as an equal, so in all reality I would expect them to at least offer to pay half, that said, if they didn't, I'd pay out of politeness and probably never call them again.

However, I dislike going out for a meal on a first date, drinks is fine. I don't want to watch someone I don't know eat, and dinner can be excruciating if you aren't hitting it off.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If it's dating in my experience the guy has paid, bit Iv insisted on buying a round of drinks.

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