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Rest in peace grandad

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Just an hour ago my family got a call to say that my grandad passed away and at this moment it's really hit me the angels have took away my loving caring grandad never again will I get to see him or hear is voice

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

R.I.P to your grandad. Condolences to your family also.

Bro hug for you my dude.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"R.I.P to your grandad. Condolences to your family also.

Bro hug for you my dude. "
Thank you mate :' -(

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By *erdita Von TeaseWoman over a year ago

nottingham

Hugs to you op x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sorry for your loss x

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By *uke olovingmanMan over a year ago

Gravesend

Bro hugs

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I am so sorry for your loss ,

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You think its fitting memorial to him on a swingers site ?... That's warped

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Have a cwtch. Condolences to you and yours.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Very sorry for your loss mate

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So sorry to hear of your loss. Loved ones always remain in our hearts xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"So sorry to hear of your loss. Loved ones always remain in our hearts xx"
Yes it's never truly goodbye is it

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By *aughty_amazonWoman over a year ago

BRISTOL

"You think its fitting memorial to him on a swingers site ?... That's warped "

OP is a regular forum user so yeah if he needs to talk then why not

a lot of regulars post real life stuff

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sorry for your loss

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thank you everyone that has commented what upsets me most is that I never had a chance to say goodbye to him on his bed

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By *lla_maiWoman over a year ago

staffordshire

Sorry for your loss

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By *aughty_amazonWoman over a year ago

BRISTOL

And sending big hugs X

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By *orflondonerMan over a year ago

Wood Green

Condolences mate.

God bless

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"You think its fitting memorial to him on a swingers site ?... That's warped

OP is a regular forum user so yeah if he needs to talk then why not

a lot of regulars post real life stuff "

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

How sad

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By *hor ThumbMan over a year ago

bristol

"You think its fitting memorial to him on a swingers site ?... That's warped "
err, the guy just lost his grandad, people deal with grief in different ways, its not uncommon to want to share your grief with the rest of the world. I personally wouldn't have posted on here or any other social media site but thats me. I respect and feel for him and his loss...maybe a bit more dignity from you and less opinion in this case is more appropriate. Its not nice to attack someone who is grieving.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You think its fitting memorial to him on a swingers site ?... That's warped err, the guy just lost his grandad, people deal with grief in different ways, its not uncommon to want to share your grief with the rest of the world. I personally wouldn't have posted on here or any other social media site but thats me. I respect and feel for him and his loss...maybe a bit more dignity from you and less opinion in this case is more appropriate. Its not nice to attack someone who is grieving."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sorry for your loss

Hugs to you lovely x x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just an hour ago my family got a call to say that my grandad passed away and at this moment it's really hit me the angels have took away my loving caring grandad never again will I get to see him or hear is voice

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Close your eyes mate, he will never be that far away and he will always have a place in your heart. Condolences to you and your family x

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

Sorry for you loss OP

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Close your eyes mate, he will never be that far away and he will always have a place in your heart. Condolences to you and your family x"

so true x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sorry for the loss chap, man hugs heading your way.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sorry to hear op xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Sorry for you loss OP "
time for reflexion.....Maybe not the best place is here....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sorry to hear this. Big hugs x

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By *ilk_TreMan over a year ago

Wherever the party is!

"You think its fitting memorial to him on a swingers site ?... That's warped

OP is a regular forum user so yeah if he needs to talk then why not

a lot of regulars post real life stuff "

How "regular" can one be after three weeks bearing in mind that you're unable to post for one of those weeks?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thank you everyone i feel like it needed to let it out I loved my grandad I'm heartbroken by him passing away he always used to make me smile and laugh he would always tell me that he's proud of my achievements and always shown me unconditional love even when i was sad he was such I will never forget him

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You think its fitting memorial to him on a swingers site ?... That's warped

OP is a regular forum user so yeah if he needs to talk then why not

a lot of regulars post real life stuff

How "regular" can one be after three weeks bearing in mind that you're unable to post for one of those weeks?

Have some respect

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By *ce WingerMan over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"You think its fitting memorial to him on a swingers site ?... That's warped "

^This

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

And yet your logged on a swingers site

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm sorry to hear this sad news op. When i light my candles tonight I lite them for you and your grandad.

Lots of love and hugs xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You think its fitting memorial to him on a swingers site ?... That's warped

OP is a regular forum user so yeah if he needs to talk then why not

a lot of regulars post real life stuff

How "regular" can one be after three weeks bearing in mind that you're unable to post for one of those weeks?

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By *aughty_amazonWoman over a year ago

BRISTOL

"You think its fitting memorial to him on a swingers site ?... That's warped

OP is a regular forum user so yeah if he needs to talk then why not

a lot of regulars post real life stuff

How "regular" can one be after three weeks bearing in mind that you're unable to post for one of those weeks?

Not the time or place...the dude is grieving....let him talk if it helps

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sorry for your loss fella.

You know where we are if you need anything.

Sometimes it's easier to chat to strangers than it is with family.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You think its fitting memorial to him on a swingers site ?... That's warped

OP is a regular forum user so yeah if he needs to talk then why not

a lot of regulars post real life stuff

How "regular" can one be after three weeks bearing in mind that you're unable to post for one of those weeks?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thank you everyone i feel like it needed to let it out I loved my grandad I'm heartbroken by him passing away he always used to make me smile and laugh he would always tell me that he's proud of my achievements and always shown me unconditional love even when i was sad he was such I will never forget him "
good to see you feeling horny as well as your status shows...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You think its fitting memorial to him on a swingers site ?... That's warped "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"And yet your logged on a swingers site "

Maybe he finds the forum a comfort you don't know everyone's circumstances. He may have very limited social circle. Stop judging the guy ffs

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By *randMrs Spanish BrunetteCouple over a year ago

home sweet home

Condolences for you and your love ones.

Big hugs

Mr and Mrs SB

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You think its fitting memorial to him on a swingers site ?... That's warped "

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

"And yet your logged on a swingers site "
give it a rest. The forums got me through the first few days with my dad.

Condolences to you op

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By *aughty_amazonWoman over a year ago

BRISTOL

"Thank you everyone i feel like it needed to let it out I loved my grandad I'm heartbroken by him passing away he always used to make me smile and laugh he would always tell me that he's proud of my achievements and always shown me unconditional love even when i was sad he was such I will never forget him good to see you feeling horny as well as your status shows...

His status was yesterday

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"And yet your logged on a swingers site

Maybe he finds the forum a comfort you don't know everyone's circumstances. He may have very limited social circle. Stop judging the guy ffs "

Sorry but if a loved one passed away a swingers site is the last place id be on. Thats just my _iew thou

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hugs to you darling, I feel your pain. All I can say is that grief gets easier to cope with after time.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thank you everyone i feel like it needed to let it out I loved my grandad I'm heartbroken by him passing away he always used to make me smile and laugh he would always tell me that he's proud of my achievements and always shown me unconditional love even when i was sad he was such I will never forget him good to see you feeling horny as well as your status shows...

A status written yesterday!

Leave the guy alone, everyone deals with grief in their own personal way. This Is his.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Those we love dont go away,they walk beside us every day...sorry for your loss x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thank you everyone i feel like it needed to let it out I loved my grandad I'm heartbroken by him passing away he always used to make me smile and laugh he would always tell me that he's proud of my achievements and always shown me unconditional love even when i was sad he was such I will never forget him good to see you feeling horny as well as your status shows...

That was yesterday. Jesus give the guy a break.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So much Venom around the forums lately

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So sorry to hear this OP.

Condolences and thoughts are with you and your family.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

But he'll always be a part of your heart and mind, my condolences for your loss x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't know who posted that stuff about being on a swingers site and being horny etc... but you obviously know nothing about this site and forums in general.

People do have friends on here you know.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"And yet your logged on a swingers site

Maybe he finds the forum a comfort you don't know everyone's circumstances. He may have very limited social circle. Stop judging the guy ffs

Sorry but if a loved one passed away a swingers site is the last place id be on. Thats just my _iew thou

That's you.

This is him.

Don't judge.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So much Venom around the forums lately

Totally agree. The poor guys lost his grandad and regardless of how people would react they if they can't be sympathetic and say something kind then they should say nothing

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So much Venom around the forums lately

Snakes ALIMARK, nothing more

obviously nothing better to do with their time.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So much Venom around the forums lately

You need a thick skin on here. Ive been on the receiving end of such venom a few times so maybe thats why my skins thicker then most

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So much Venom around the forums lately

Totally agree. The poor guys lost his grandad and regardless of how people would react they if they can't be sympathetic and say something kind then they should say nothing "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sorry, reading through some of these comments, I'm absolutely disgusted by some of the attitudes on here.

People showing their true colours, both the beautiful and the vile.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thank you everyone i feel like it needed to let it out I loved my grandad I'm heartbroken by him passing away he always used to make me smile and laugh he would always tell me that he's proud of my achievements and always shown me unconditional love even when i was sad he was such I will never forget him good to see you feeling horny as well as your status shows...

That status was put up yesterday.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"And yet your logged on a swingers site

Maybe he finds the forum a comfort you don't know everyone's circumstances. He may have very limited social circle. Stop judging the guy ffs

Sorry but if a loved one passed away a swingers site is the last place id be on. Thats just my _iew thou

You can't cry forever and a place like this can take your mind off it. Some people go down the pub to stare at a pint of beer.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sorry I have to agree. I feel for the person losing a family member but logging on to a bloody swingers site to announce it is just disrespectful itself. I don't think anyone is attacking him, it's just a peculiar place to seek condolence so obviously this will get a negative reaction. If other peoples opinions effect you that much then you're just proving the point people are trying to make - This is not the place to announce such things. A. It's bad taste and B. It will get some negative comments which could upset you further.

It's common sense

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So much Venom around the forums lately

You need a thick skin on here. Ive been on the receiving end of such venom a few times so maybe thats why my skins thicker then most "

This guy.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So much Venom around the forums lately

You need a thick skin on here. Ive been on the receiving end of such venom a few times so maybe thats why my skins thicker then most "

You do need a thick skin.

You don't need to be thick.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Those we love dont go away,they walk beside us every day...sorry for your loss x"

That was lovely x

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

Forums are at their worst today

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So much Venom around the forums lately

You need a thick skin on here. Ive been on the receiving end of such venom a few times so maybe thats why my skins thicker then most

This guy.

Glad to know I get under your skin fella.

Jealousy is a bitch

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Sorry, reading through some of these comments, I'm absolutely disgusted by some of the attitudes on here.

People showing their true colours, both the beautiful and the vile."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ads lost his nan 6 years ago today too, big hugs to you and your family, as I know to well how much it still hurts some 22 years later since my grandparents passing

G x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So much Venom around the forums lately

You need a thick skin on here. Ive been on the receiving end of such venom a few times so maybe thats why my skins thicker then most

You do need a thick skin.

You don't need to be thick."

Keyboard warrior at the worst

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Sorry I have to agree. I feel for the person losing a family member but logging on to a bloody swingers site to announce it is just disrespectful itself. I don't think anyone is attacking him, it's just a peculiar place to seek condolence so obviously this will get a negative reaction. If other peoples opinions effect you that much then you're just proving the point people are trying to make - This is not the place to announce such things. A. It's bad taste and B. It will get some negative comments which could upset you further.

It's common sense"
thank you I'm not the only one that finds it in bad taste

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So much Venom around the forums lately

You need a thick skin on here. Ive been on the receiving end of such venom a few times so maybe thats why my skins thicker then most

This guy.

Glad to know I get under your skin fella.

Jealousy is a bitch

I really don't think anyone is jealous of you right now.

They're probably thinking your a bit of a

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So much Venom around the forums lately

You need a thick skin on here. Ive been on the receiving end of such venom a few times so maybe thats why my skins thicker then most

This guy.

Glad to know I get under your skin fella.

Jealousy is a bitch

Have you no respect. !! Let's not turn this thread into something it wasn't intended to be. If you can't be respectful then don't comment. It's in very bad taste

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I'm soo sorry to the people that think this is wrong in your eyes putting it up on here but ive just lost a member of my family that was always there for me whenever i needed to speak to him he shown me love through some very sad and lonely times when i couldn't love myself for who i was so yeah i feel comfortable speaking about it on here and you know what to all them people who bring them negative vibes back away don't bother even commenting on this last thing i need you ever heard the saying never kick a man while he's down shows what kind of people you truly are

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So much Venom around the forums lately

You need a thick skin on here. Ive been on the receiving end of such venom a few times so maybe thats why my skins thicker then most

You do need a thick skin.

You don't need to be thick.

Keyboard warrior at the worst "

Says the man typing on a keyboard......

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm soo sorry to the people that think this is wrong in your eyes putting it up on here but ive just lost a member of my family that was always there for me whenever i needed to speak to him he shown me love through some very sad and lonely times when i couldn't love myself for who i was so yeah i feel comfortable speaking about it on here and you know what to all them people who bring them negative vibes back away don't bother even commenting on this last thing i need you ever heard the saying never kick a man while he's down shows what kind of people you truly are "

Take no notice dude. You do whatever you want. X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There are no rules to say the poor guy cant post his loss,if it helps his grief then why shouldnt he,it dosent matter what type of site it is,we are all human after all and have feelings,people deal with grief differently.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So much Venom around the forums lately

You need a thick skin on here. Ive been on the receiving end of such venom a few times so maybe thats why my skins thicker then most

This guy.

Glad to know I get under your skin fella.

Jealousy is a bitch

I really don't think anyone is jealous of you right now.

They're probably thinking your a bit of a "

They can think what they like I really couldnt give a second thought about what a few posters on a forum think about me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Take no notice dude. You do whatever you want. X"

This....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There are no rules to say the poor guy cant post his loss,if it helps his grief then why shouldnt he,it dosent matter what type of site it is,we are all human after all and have feelings,people deal with grief differently."

Yes

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sorry for your loss not best place to post it tho sorry

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Very well said. I often seek comfort from my friends on here. I see nothing wrong with you posing on here. Xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There's nothing wrong with you talking about it on here fella, a loved one has passed, and you're coping in the best way you can. Ignore the haters, if it makes you feel better talking about it on here, then no problem

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So much Venom around the forums lately

You need a thick skin on here. Ive been on the receiving end of such venom a few times so maybe thats why my skins thicker then most

You do need a thick skin.

You don't need to be thick.

Keyboard warrior at the worst

Says the man typing on a keyboard...... "

All I said was a swingers site is the last place I would be. Your the one getting arsey with personal comments. Go over the thread

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Exactly - just because we're swingers doesn't mean we don't have feelings and talk about 'normal' stuff?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sorry for your loss....... But it's not really the place to post on here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sorry for your loss OP, I've just lost a friend in sudden circumstances as well. Hope things get better for you soon.

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By *uzy444Woman over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"Thank you everyone that has commented what upsets me most is that I never had a chance to say goodbye to him on his bed "
maybe he knew he would always stay as a lasting reminder of how to be a man and he didnt want you to see him that way..in my experience people who we love who die, instill in us a way of living..they are our muse and inspiration..i am sorry for your physical loss sweet, hugs and may your grandad fly free and always be remembered as he would have wanted xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Sorry for your loss....... But it's not really the place to post on here."

Why isn't it? Where are the rules saying you can't?

Just because you wouldn't do the same doesn't stop anyone from doing it.

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By *a petite madameWoman over a year ago

London / Essex

"Thank you everyone that has commented what upsets me most is that I never had a chance to say goodbye to him on his bed "

My condolences to you. I can totally emphasize as my father passed away suddenly recently and it's very difficult to deal with.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

"You think its fitting memorial to him on a swingers site ?... That's warped "

What's warped is you questioning someone else's coping strategies. Might not be what you or others would do but you have no idea Wat the OP's life is like. Maybe he can't open up to others around him. Maybe he just needed to tell strangers how he is feeling.

Telling someone the way they deal with grief is warped is a pretty nasty thing to do.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sorry for your loss OP. X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So much Venom around the forums lately

You need a thick skin on here. Ive been on the receiving end of such venom a few times so maybe thats why my skins thicker then most

You do need a thick skin.

You don't need to be thick.

Keyboard warrior at the worst

Says the man typing on a keyboard......

All I said was a swingers site is the last place I would be. Your the one getting arsey with personal comments. Go over the thread

As I said;

That's you.

This is him.

Don't judge.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Why are other people trying to make out he's being hated on and being attacked? Do you not want honest opinions? Should we all lie, be fake and tell him it's ok even though we think it's not? Should we just say nothing because it might upset people?

This is a discussion forum, if you don't want varied (but true) opinions then maybe you should all look back at the initial factor discussed.

Maybe (just maybe) this is not the place to discuss such things. I mean, this is a swingers forum. And if you do, then accept other peoples opinions, it doesn't mean they're attacking you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sorry for your lost mate. But try and remember the good times you had together.

To anyone giving this guy any shit for posting this. GTFO.

"Oh no its a swingers site" people post all sorts on here. Doesn't matter if it's on here or wherever he just wanted to get it off his chest and he may have some friends and wanted some comforting words.

Show some fucking respect.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So much Venom around the forums lately

You need a thick skin on here. Ive been on the receiving end of such venom a few times so maybe thats why my skins thicker then most

You do need a thick skin.

You don't need to be thick.

Keyboard warrior at the worst

Says the man typing on a keyboard......

All I said was a swingers site is the last place I would be. Your the one getting arsey with personal comments. Go over the thread

As I said;

That's you.

This is him.

Don't judge."

Right you are dude

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why are other people trying to make out he's being hated on and being attacked? Do you not want honest opinions? Should we all lie, be fake and tell him it's ok even though we think it's not? Should we just say nothing because it might upset people?

This is a discussion forum, if you don't want varied (but true) opinions then maybe you should all look back at the initial factor discussed.

Maybe (just maybe) this is not the place to discuss such things. I mean, this is a swingers forum. And if you do, then accept other peoples opinions, it doesn't mean they're attacking you.

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this

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You think its fitting memorial to him on a swingers site ?... That's warped

Telling someone the way they deal with grief is warped is a pretty nasty thing to do. "

Sometimes it's easier to talk to "strangers".

The alternative is often talking to the family, the same family who are suffering the same as you.

Talking to strangers is a way of "protecting" those who are already suffering, rather than adding your own grief on them as well.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple over a year ago

Halifax

Well said,sorry for your loss op .Big hugs xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This is a discussion forum, if you don't want varied (but true) opinions then maybe you should all look back at the initial factor discussed.

Maybe (just maybe) this is not the place to discuss such things. I mean, this is a swingers forum. And if you do, then accept other peoples opinions, it doesn't mean they're attacking you.

He wasn't seeking an opinion. And whys it not the place. Just don't comment if you think that. Tut tut Shame on your narrow mindedness

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You think its fitting memorial to him on a swingers site ?... That's warped

Telling someone the way they deal with grief is warped is a pretty nasty thing to do.

Sometimes it's easier to talk to "strangers".

The alternative is often talking to the family, the same family who are suffering the same as you.

Talking to strangers is a way of "protecting" those who are already suffering, rather than adding your own grief on them as well."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This is a discussion forum, if you don't want varied (but true) opinions then maybe you should all look back at the initial factor discussed.

Maybe (just maybe) this is not the place to discuss such things. I mean, this is a swingers forum. And if you do, then accept other peoples opinions, it doesn't mean they're attacking you.

This os is the lounge,where people talk about all manner of things. Some of us can leave the sex out if it for a while.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The only ppl causing drama are the ones that dont agree with other ppls opinions.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There is always one !!

Hugs from you mate

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sorry to hear about your loss. Big man hug sent you way X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This is a discussion forum, if you don't want varied (but true) opinions then maybe you should all look back at the initial factor discussed.

Maybe (just maybe) this is not the place to discuss such things. I mean, this is a swingers forum. And if you do, then accept other peoples opinions, it doesn't mean they're attacking you.

He wasn't seeking an opinion. And whys it not the place. Just don't comment if you think that. Tut tut Shame on your narrow mindedness "

Never blocked so many people in 10 mins

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The only ppl causing drama are the ones that dont agree with other ppls opinions.

Oh the feckin irony......

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The only ppl causing drama are the ones that dont agree with other ppls opinions.

Which of the two do you think you are doing right now?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sorry to hear your sad news.

Ignore the naysayers and post where you want to.

We all cope in different ways x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The only ppl causing drama are the ones that dont agree with other ppls opinions.

My opinion is you didn't have to comment. You could have left a grieving man to grieve and get it off his chest.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The only ppl causing drama are the ones that dont agree with other ppls opinions.

Which of the two do you think you are doing right now?"

Your right. I shouldn't have to justify my opinion. As you were

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple over a year ago

Halifax

"I'm sorry to hear this sad news op. When i light my candles tonight I lite them for you and your grandad.

Lots of love and hugs xxx"

Thats lovely pretty,thank goodness there are still lots of nice people on here x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Sorry for your loss....... But it's not really the place to post on here.

Why isn't it? Where are the rules saying you can't?

Just because you wouldn't do the same doesn't stop anyone from doing it."

The lad can do what he likes.... Fair play to him..... He could also let his fab 'friends' know in private and seek his sympathy that way

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

RIP Grandad never easy when you lose a loved one.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You think its fitting memorial to him on a swingers site ?... That's warped

Telling someone the way they deal with grief is warped is a pretty nasty thing to do.

Sometimes it's easier to talk to "strangers".

The alternative is often talking to the family, the same family who are suffering the same as you.

Talking to strangers is a way of "protecting" those who are already suffering, rather than adding your own grief on them as well."

When my gran passed away the internet was in its early days and there certainly wasn't social websites but if there had of been I would of turned to my online friends because my family never show emotions and are very introvert when it comes to matters of the heart. It was the lonliest time for me especially as it was Christmas day.

If people think this isn't the place for his grief then that's fine that's thier opinion but they should think that we all cope in different ways.

I was brought up with the sayin if you haven't got anything nice to say then don't say anything at all. Xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The only ppl causing drama are the ones that dont agree with other ppls opinions.

My opinion is you didn't have to comment. You could have left a grieving man to grieve and get it off his chest. "

Ppl say ignore a thread if its no interest to you. It obviously was as I commented. The same can be said for white knights making a drama about a fair point. They could ignore. A few others make it aswell

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm sorry to hear this sad news op. When i light my candles tonight I lite them for you and your grandad.

Lots of love and hugs xxx

Thats lovely pretty,thank goodness there are still lots of nice people on here x"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"And yet your logged on a swingers site give it a rest. The forums got me through the first few days with my dad.

Condolences to you op"

I was the same when my dad passed that In-between sorting stuff I went in the chat room

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By *iss.HoneyWoman over a year ago

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You say what you want where you want OP and balls to anyone who criticises you.

Have a hug xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The only ppl causing drama are the ones that dont agree with other ppls opinions.

and you appear to be one of them

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Sorry for your loss....... But it's not really the place to post on here.

Why isn't it? Where are the rules saying you can't?

Just because you wouldn't do the same doesn't stop anyone from doing it.

The lad can do what he likes.... Fair play to him..... He could also let his fab 'friends' know in private and seek his sympathy that way "
the point is, he doesn't want to.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nobody is disagreeing with you giving him advice are they? I said why are people making out they're attacking him when they're just giving their honest opinion such as yourself. He can say what he wants but our true opinions can't be heard about the topic at hand? Is that what you're saying?

Go on, swear again. You bad man in shining armour you

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"The only ppl causing drama are the ones that dont agree with other ppls opinions.

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Well what would you want if this situation ever happened to you. Youd want love and care and people there for you through this difficult time wouldn't you what happens if you got kicked down to the ground after saying a loved one you will never ever see again had passed away you would be feeling pretty angry wouldn't you say no more

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm sorry to hear this sad news op. When i light my candles tonight I lite them for you and your grandad.

Lots of love and hugs xxx

Thats lovely pretty,thank goodness there are still lots of nice people on here x"

Goodness and light always shine through in the darkness. Xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Nobody is disagreeing with you giving him advice are they? I said why are people making out they're attacking him when they're just giving their honest opinion such as yourself. He can say what he wants but our true opinions can't be heard about the topic at hand? Is that what you're saying?

Go on, swear again. You bad man in shining armour you "

I've a better idea - come down to Coventry, and I won't need to swear.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

******* STOP ******

Let's draw a line under it now & get back to the OP!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sorry for your loss.

Mr and Mrs SlapnTickle xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The only ppl causing drama are the ones that dont agree with other ppls opinions.

My opinion is you didn't have to comment. You could have left a grieving man to grieve and get it off his chest.

Ppl say ignore a thread if its no interest to you. It obviously was as I commented. The same can be said for white knights making a drama about a fair point. They could ignore. A few others

make it aswell"

You thought you would comment on a sensitive thread just to show your disdain for it. Says a lot about you. The white knight comment is often unjustly bandied around. You could have left the man with his grief couldn't you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Seems like it's pretty attention seeking... And succeeded pretty well.... Grief should be in private .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So, now the nastiness is out of the way.

Tell us about him, did he have an eventful life?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The only ppl causing drama are the ones that dont agree with other ppls opinions.

Well what would you want if this situation ever happened to you. Youd want love and care and people there for you through this difficult time wouldn't you what happens if you got kicked down to the ground after saying a loved one you will never ever see again had passed away you would be feeling pretty angry wouldn't you say no more "

I have a life away from fab. My personal life is just that. Sorry for your loss.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I'm gonna say this thank you to all the people who has spread love and affection for me at this time you truly are amazing people and you deserve all the love that comes your way to all the haters that are commenting also you know what i ain't even going to say it shows what kind of people you truly are to me your the devil who just loves to spread darkness and hate into this world poisioning every single individual that comes across your path

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By *onhorMan over a year ago

here

This is a horrible time. Good luck getting through it.

Try to remember all the good times, make the funeral a celebration of those. Feel the love of those sharing it on here and try to ignore the vitriol.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple over a year ago

Halifax

"Seems like it's pretty attention seeking... And succeeded pretty well.... Grief should be in private . "

We all grieve in diff ways,some pretty harsh people on this thread.Hes not causing anybody harm and its a comfort to him

Miss

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Seems like it's pretty attention seeking... And succeeded pretty well.... Grief should be in private . "

Shows how little you know about grief, there's no set format.....

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

This is a discussion forum, if you don't want varied (but true) opinions then maybe you should all look back at the initial factor discussed.

Maybe (just maybe) this is not the place to discuss such things. I mean, this is a swingers forum. And if you do, then accept other peoples opinions, it doesn't mean they're attacking you.

so because this is a swingers site forum all social decorum, tact and etiquette flies out the fucking window?

how ridiculous is that!! this is a community and sometimes communities forgo blunt and honest opinion int he face of someone going through a tough time.

not every thread is asking for opinions or debate, some just ask for a sympathetic ear and a virtual hug.

i truly hope that those who have questions the OP's need to post here never need to seek the solace of strangers in their perfect lives.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Seems like it's pretty attention seeking... And succeeded pretty well.... Grief should be in private . "

if you havent got anything nice to say then just be quiet

Though some people just carnt help themselves

hugs Op and Rip to your grandad x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

HA. Are you implying you will beat me up because you can't figure out how to justify your opinions?

Ug ug...me don't know what to say.....me smash!

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

"Seems like it's pretty attention seeking... And succeeded pretty well.... Grief should be in private . "

in your opinion.

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By *eanut Butter CupWoman over a year ago

B & M Bargains

Sorry for your loss OP

I had my very first meet off fab on the day my grandad died. I was already on the way to the meet when I got the phone call, it wasn't unexpected.

I chose to go through with the meet as it had taken a lot of courage for me to go, and I just wanted a distraction from what was going on at home for a few hours.

People go through grief in different ways, no need to attack the guy.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"The only ppl causing drama are the ones that dont agree with other ppls opinions.

I have a life away from fab. My personal life is just that. Sorry for your loss. "
So do I. I have a busy personal life also if i feel the need to share what I want to share on here like a situation like this i will share it i find speaking about stuff helps that's my experience

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sorry for your loss OP

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm gonna say this thank you to all the people who has spread love and affection for me at this time you truly are amazing people and you deserve all the love that comes your way to all the haters that are commenting also you know what i ain't even going to say it shows what kind of people you truly are to me your the devil who just loves to spread darkness and hate into this world poisioning every single individual that comes across your path "

Hater because they have a different opinion. Cool

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You think its fitting memorial to him on a swingers site ?... That's warped

OP is a regular forum user so yeah if he needs to talk then why not

a lot of regulars post real life stuff "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sorry for your loss OP. Sending you hugs.

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By *uzy444Woman over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

Go on, swear again. You bad man in shining armour you "

wow..how disappointing...

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By *manda63Woman over a year ago

Southampton

Its horrible to lose people you care for. Had the same at a significant time of my life. Im so sorry to hear this. Hugs Maria

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

Hater because they have a different opinion. Cool

opinions arent always meant to be shared. having an opinion is great but having the tact and social etiquette to know when to share it shows true intelligence.....iMO of course

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The only ppl causing drama are the ones that dont agree with other ppls opinions.

My opinion is you didn't have to comment. You could have left a grieving man to grieve and get it off his chest.

We're not white knighting, we're just being decent people.

And you're being a cunt.

If being a cunt is having a different opinion to you or anyone else then yes that makes me a big cunt.

If it costs me a shag then so be it. Rather be real then false in the hope of getting my end away

You are clearly a very, very sorry little person clit.

Why because I would deal with grief away from fab. Christ

What part of people are different and deal with things different don't you understand ? He may have no social network or family etc or he dosent speak to them who knows. So to say I'd do this I'd do that is very narrow minded. Good for you. Could you seriously just not keep your opinion to yourself

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hater because they have a different opinion. Cool

opinions arent always meant to be shared. having an opinion is great but having the tact and social etiquette to know when to share it shows true intelligence.....iMO of course

If always said having freedom of speech does not mean we have to excerise that freedom

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By *ommickMan over a year ago

cork

I never met my grandad so I hope you have lots of happy memories about him

Its never a good time to loose someone close

I hope the support here helps

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hater because they have a different opinion. Cool

opinions arent always meant to be shared. having an opinion is great but having the tact and social etiquette to know when to share it shows true intelligence.....iMO of course

I agree. A public forum is the last place for it

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By *uzy444Woman over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

Hater because they have a different opinion. Cool

"
no you just imo, carry around this big fat attitude, which you feel the need to assert at unnecessary moments, because of your own needs

(whatever they are you obviously feel you cant put them to one side, for anyone else even for a moment..says a lot imo..

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

Hater because they have a different opinion. Cool

opinions arent always meant to be shared. having an opinion is great but having the tact and social etiquette to know when to share it shows true intelligence.....iMO of course

I agree. A public forum is the last place for it "

i am glad we agree your opinion has no place here

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hater because they have a different opinion. Cool

no you just imo, carry around this big fat attitude, which you feel the need to assert at unnecessary moments, because of your own needs

(whatever they are you obviously feel you cant put them to one side, for anyone else even for a moment..says a lot imo.."

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By *uzy444Woman over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

Hater because they have a different opinion. Cool

no you just imo, carry around this big fat attitude, which you feel the need to assert at unnecessary moments, because of your own needs

(whatever they are you obviously feel you cant put them to one side, for anyone else even for a moment..says a lot imo..

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i was never in a queue

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sincere condolences and thoughts with you and your family.

Been there myself and can understand exactly the sense of loss you are feeling.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Awww I can not believe that some have even managed to turn a RIP thread into an excuse to put others down

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hater because they have a different opinion. Cool

no you just imo, carry around this big fat attitude, which you feel the need to assert at unnecessary moments, because of your own needs

(whatever they are you obviously feel you cant put them to one side, for anyone else even for a moment..says a lot imo..

i was never in a queue"

Well theres plenty behind you if you read the thread

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By *thwalescplCouple over a year ago

brecon

Sorry for your loss fella.

You know where we are if you need anything.

Sometimes it's easier to chat to strangers than it is with family."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Condolences to the OP and his family.

Fuck the haters.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Awww I can not believe that some have even managed to turn a RIP thread into an excuse to put others down

How the feck is but your still logged on a swingers site put op down

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By *uby0000Woman over a year ago

hertfordshire

sorry to hear of your loss

i posted on here when my dad died and the sympathy i got was unbelievable and boy did i need that

hugs OP

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It doesn't surprise me who has posted negative comments on here.

Some seem to lack empathy or sympathy.

I actually feel sorry for them

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"sorry to hear of your loss

i posted on here when my dad died and the sympathy i got was unbelievable and boy did i need that

hugs OP "

Maybe because you have tits and not a cock!

Double standards are rife on here sadly.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Awww I can not believe that some have even managed to turn a RIP thread into an excuse to put others down

How the feck is but your still logged on a swingers site put op down

It's not

I didn't even read a post that said that

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By *uzy444Woman over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

Hater because they have a different opinion. Cool

no you just imo, carry around this big fat attitude, which you feel the need to assert at unnecessary moments, because of your own needs

(whatever they are you obviously feel you cant put them to one side, for anyone else even for a moment..says a lot imo..

i was never in a queue

Well theres plenty behind you if you read the thread

"
im quite woman enough, to make my own stand, thanks..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You post your thoughts if it helps with your grief my friend, sorry that your thread has been turned into something it shouldn't be

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Awww I can not believe that some have even managed to turn a RIP thread into an excuse to put others down

Regardless of whether you think it's the right place to share personal stuff or not some peoples comments on here are truly shameful

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

CE, you say on your profile:

"I'm here with no expectations,ego or to judge"

Can you see other's perspectives just for a second, how your comments, albeit just you proffering your opinion (however insidious they maybe to others) could just possibly also come across as being a little judgemental within the context of this being a post of grief and that your continual defence of your right to post those opinions even though you have upset the person who was expressing their grief, may just possibly be ego driven? Perhaps it's ok to say you've made your point. And perhaps now it's worth recognising your point isn't perhaps important enough to continue defending if all it is now doing is upsetting people? Whether you intended to upset or not, you have done. Any chance of just acknowledging that and letting it go?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Seems like it's pretty attention seeking... And succeeded pretty well.... Grief should be in private .

Shows how little you know about grief, there's no set format....."

I know plenty about grief..... I also know how to behave in certain situations grief stricken or not

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

opinions arent always meant to be shared. having an opinion is great but having the tact and social etiquette to know when to share it shows true intelligence.....iMO of course

Totally agree. I'd love to know if these people would actually push their opinions on that person if they were talking face to face and could see the hurt their words caused? Probably wouldn't have the balls eh!!! Nah didn't think so!

So sorry for your loss OP.

I hope some of the kind messages on here have given you comfort x

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

O o O oo

Well that certainly warmed the cockles of the heart

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