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Where am I going wrong?

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Hi all. Been on the site maybe 3 month and I've not been able to get a meet. Don't think I'm that horrendously looking, I'm polite and respectful. Where am I going wrong?

I'm not a true swinger I guess. Not been to a club though am considering. Little bit nervous I guess.

Also I notice people want verifications before meeting, but only people already verified can give verifications...kind of a vicious circle.

Thanks

Lee

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Without knowing what your intro messages are like I couldn't possibly answer, lose a few of the pics in your gallery though, specially the naked ones, keep them private. Seeing a lot of cock pics in the public gallery puts some people off.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hi all. Been on the site maybe 3 month and I've not been able to get a meet. Don't think I'm that horrendously looking, I'm polite and respectful. Where am I going wrong?

I'm not a true swinger I guess. Not been to a club though am considering. Little bit nervous I guess.

Also I notice people want verifications before meeting, but only people already verified can give verifications...kind of a vicious circle.

Thanks

Lee"

whilst its a swinging site us girls still need a little woo'ing before we drop our knickers.

go check out some of the guys profiles and you'll see what I mean.

Good luck Morgan x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hi all. Been on the site maybe 3 month and I've not been able to get a meet. Don't think I'm that horrendously looking, I'm polite and respectful. Where am I going wrong?

I'm not a true swinger I guess. Not been to a club though am considering. Little bit nervous I guess.

Also I notice people want verifications before meeting, but only people already verified can give verifications...kind of a vicious circle.

Thanks

Lee"

Don't worry about the verifications. We all started with none.

I have no idea what approach you take when contacting folk but you should be aware that most will read your profile before deciding whether to respond.

Yours is rather bland and does not give any indication of why you might be interesting.

Good luck.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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East Sussex

You're smiling in a good selection of photos which is a plus in my view. Your profile is brief but seems fine to me.

There are loads often compared to women so it's probably a question of numbers and patience.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

OK. Thank you. I'll lose some pics. The more explicit ones are ticked private.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I try to be polite, courteous and (hopefully) a bit funny. I certainly don't open up with a dick pic and "fancy a fuck".

I'm quite happy to chat and meet socially.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You seem like a genuinely nice guy. But your profile doesn't really say much about you. Try selling yourself better. Say what you can offer to women and couple rather than you're just looking for sex.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thanks dude. I'll take that on board.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I like your profile.

Being really picky, and please ignore me, maybe take some photos looking up at the camera rather than down. But otherwise, you look and sound great

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I try to be polite, courteous and (hopefully) a bit funny. I certainly don't open up with a dick pic and "fancy a fuck".

I'm quite happy to chat and meet socially. "

You are missing the point so far. But do carry on complaining.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I'm not complaining, I'm trying to be educated I find out where I'm going wrong.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm not complaining, I'm trying to be educated I find out where I'm going wrong."

If you want to stand out, write a properly considered and attractive profile. Use properly constructed sentences. Explain what you offer. Tempt the feckers. How do you approach women in real life? It is no different here. You are in competition with hundreds of men here. Unless you can stand out and be attractive, forget it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

OK. Thank you. I guess it's back to the drawing board with my profile.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS over a year ago

Central

Smiling photos work best - tongue out, less so.

You say you're adventurous, so I'd encourage you to elaborate on this.

Look for socials or other friendly locals who may meet non-sexually and verify you.

Good luck!

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By *odareyouMan over a year ago