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For personal reasons due to an accident I had 2 years ago I haven't had any form of sexual contact what so ever for the last 24 months...
Now I find it really hard and sometimes embarrassing knowing that when I finally do it will be over super quickly, so I don't really know how to approach this problem... Any ideas or advice please message me as it would be hugely appreciated.. And I'm not looking for "Just have a wank" lol.
Strange topic but nice to get someone's opinion.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Anyone worth their salt would understand, if explained beforehand. So you cum quick first time...there are other ways to satisfy and there is always a breather and the option to go on. |
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"Anyone worth their salt would understand, if explained beforehand. So you cum quick first time...there are other ways to satisfy and there is always a breather and the option to go on."
This! Just be honest with the potential partner. Been there done that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Relax, the stressing over it will guarantee a quick ending.
Use the tactical wank option.
If she's a decent woman, she'll understand. So let it go off quickly if that's what's gonna happen. More to good sex than just the penetration bit. |
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I have been honest a few times through messages etc but everytime I am I never get a reply...
So in the end I just gave up, and now I'm trying to get back on the horse so to speak lol...
Haha love the blow up doll response |
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"I have been honest a few times through messages etc but everytime I am I never get a reply...
So in the end I just gave up, and now I'm trying to get back on the horse so to speak lol...
Haha love the blow up doll response "
Meet for a social and bring it up then? They may still decide it's not for them, but if you've gotten to the social stage then the initial attraction is there. Spoken word comes across a lot more amenably than text on a screen. |
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Sex is as much about the destination (foreplay) as it is about the destination (orgasm) so if you cum quickly doesn't matter. There's still so much to explore together with each other's body's.
Stroking each other, kissing, touching, finding those erogenous zones. All are so important in sex.
I hope OP you find someone who you can feel comfortable with and have an awesome time together xxxx |
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"Sex is as much about the destination (foreplay) as it is about the destination (orgasm) so if you cum quickly doesn't matter."
It does matter for lots of blokes.
It's all over then. |
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I agree there is so much more than just the penetration side to sex but unfortunately the stigma that surrounds sex and especially men under performing kind of takes a fore font in my mind..
I suppose it's more just in my head but confidence is a major part of making a women feel comfortable and enhances her experience |
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Just spend time satisfying the woman with out your cock to start with, then say you don't think it will last long- you can always go again it's no problem in my opinion. It's only a problem if you go straight in and are over and done with in 5 minutes and snoring in the corner  |
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"Sex is as much about the destination (foreplay) as it is about the destination (orgasm) so if you cum quickly doesn't matter.
It does matter for lots of blokes.
It's all over then."
Is it mr speaking from experience  |
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"Just spend time satisfying the woman with out your cock to start with, then say you don't think it will last long- you can always go again it's no problem in my opinion. It's only a problem if you go straight in and are over and done with in 5 minutes and snoring in the corner "
I don't snore so I have that going in my favour at least... |
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"True true, maybe I should start looking for someone who wants a social meet
You were going to meet me months ago but never did  "
I lost my license in September 2015 because of this accident so have no travel for nearly a year, and stopped coming on here for reason above...
It's more a confidence thing |
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"Sex is as much about the destination (foreplay) as it is about the destination (orgasm) so if you cum quickly doesn't matter.
It does matter for lots of blokes.
It's all over then."
Really? You cum and go then do you? |
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"Sex is as much about the destination (foreplay) as it is about the destination (orgasm) so if you cum quickly doesn't matter.
It does matter for lots of blokes.
It's all over then.
Really? You cum and go then do you?"
Yes. You'll find me at the bar. |
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"Sex is as much about the destination (foreplay) as it is about the destination (orgasm) so if you cum quickly doesn't matter.
It does matter for lots of blokes.
It's all over then.
Really? You cum and go then do you?
Yes. You'll find me at the bar."
I'll have a glass of red wine then thanks |
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"Sex is as much about the destination (foreplay) as it is about the destination (orgasm) so if you cum quickly doesn't matter.
It does matter for lots of blokes.
It's all over then.
Really? You cum and go then do you?
Yes. You'll find me at the bar.
I'll have a glass of red wine then thanks "
Best hurry up then  |
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"True true, maybe I should start looking for someone who wants a social meet
You were going to meet me months ago but never did
I lost my license in September 2015 because of this accident so have no travel for nearly a year, and stopped coming on here for reason above...
It's more a confidence thing"
Can you drive now? |
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"True true, maybe I should start looking for someone who wants a social meet
You were going to meet me months ago but never did
I lost my license in September 2015 because of this accident so have no travel for nearly a year, and stopped coming on here for reason above...
It's more a confidence thing
Can you drive now?"
No I have a review on the 19th of September then hopefully I can get my license back... U wna PM?? |
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Have sex, if you cum early and if she doesn't understand why then kick her out the door.
Otherwise, have sex enjoy it, if you cum early, pleasure her another way until youre ready to go again |
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"For personal reasons due to an accident I had 2 years ago I haven't had any form of sexual contact what so ever for the last 24 months...
Now I find it really hard and sometimes embarrassing knowing that when I finally do it will be over super quickly, so I don't really know how to approach this problem... Any ideas or advice please message me as it would be hugely appreciated.. And I'm not looking for "Just have a wank" lol.
Strange topic but nice to get someone's opinion.. "
Maybe you could try to make sure you don't cum first however you manage to do it,maybe foreplay or give her oral or whatever you both like..I think the main thing is don't let it build and build in your mind as it will just be another problem. Sex should be enjoyment not pressure (unless that's your thing)  |
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"For personal reasons due to an accident I had 2 years ago I haven't had any form of sexual contact what so ever for the last 24 months...
Now I find it really hard and sometimes embarrassing knowing that when I finally do it will be over super quickly, so I don't really know how to approach this problem... Any ideas or advice please message me as it would be hugely appreciated.. And I'm not looking for "Just have a wank" lol.
Strange topic but nice to get someone's opinion..
Maybe you could try to make sure you don't cum first however you manage to do it,maybe foreplay or give her oral or whatever you both like..I think the main thing is don't let it build and build in your mind as it will just be another problem. Sex should be enjoyment not pressure (unless that's your thing) "
I think that's the problem is I have let it build up for to long now, and it plays in my mind.. |
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Just be open and honest anyone worth meeting wont care theres more than one way to skin a cat and just because you cum quick first time doesnt mean that you cant use fingers and tongue till you can go again
Its probably a bigger thing in your mind than it will be for anyone else |
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"For personal reasons due to an accident I had 2 years ago I haven't had any form of sexual contact what so ever for the last 24 months...
Now I find it really hard and sometimes embarrassing knowing that when I finally do it will be over super quickly, so I don't really know how to approach this problem... Any ideas or advice please message me as it would be hugely appreciated.. And I'm not looking for "Just have a wank" lol.
Strange topic but nice to get someone's opinion..
Maybe you could try to make sure you don't cum first however you manage to do it,maybe foreplay or give her oral or whatever you both like..I think the main thing is don't let it build and build in your mind as it will just be another problem. Sex should be enjoyment not pressure (unless that's your thing)
I think that's the problem is I have let it build up for to long now, and it plays in my mind.. "
How do you know it will be over quickly? It could be you are worrying over nothing.
I like this thread, hope it's making you feel better. Good luck. x |
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"For personal reasons due to an accident I had 2 years ago I haven't had any form of sexual contact what so ever for the last 24 months...
Now I find it really hard and sometimes embarrassing knowing that when I finally do it will be over super quickly, so I don't really know how to approach this problem... Any ideas or advice please message me as it would be hugely appreciated.. And I'm not looking for "Just have a wank" lol.
Strange topic but nice to get someone's opinion..
Maybe you could try to make sure you don't cum first however you manage to do it,maybe foreplay or give her oral or whatever you both like..I think the main thing is don't let it build and build in your mind as it will just be another problem. Sex should be enjoyment not pressure (unless that's your thing)
I think that's the problem is I have let it build up for to long now, and it plays in my mind..
How do you know it will be over quickly? It could be you are worrying over nothing.
I like this thread, hope it's making you feel better. Good luck. x"
It may not be over quickly but the chances are very high after 2 years that will be over super quickly, plus the pressure, over thinking things etc won't help the situation...
Sometimes it's easier said than done to not worry about something especially when it comes to sex... If that makes sense?? X |
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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago
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I have friend in a similar situation but we talk about it and he can have a joke about it too. When the time is right we'll take it further.
As previously said, find someone who understands your situation, talk about it and eventually you'll have fun and get over your fear. You've had a shock to your body too so it's understandable that you have lost your confidence.
We've had a little foreplay that he started and I'm not pushing him into anything until he feels he's ready. Importantly we are friends too and met on here.
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"For personal reasons due to an accident I had 2 years ago I haven't had any form of sexual contact what so ever for the last 24 months...
Now I find it really hard and sometimes embarrassing knowing that when I finally do it will be over super quickly, so I don't really know how to approach this problem... Any ideas or advice please message me as it would be hugely appreciated.. And I'm not looking for "Just have a wank" lol.
Strange topic but nice to get someone's opinion.. "
Honesty is always a good thing. But in all honesty having a wank first is the best policy.
Failing that don't just go at it hammer and tongs. Lots of foreplay, a bit of penetration then play with her for a while, make her cum. A bit more penetration, then a bit of play time. Penetration, play time. Penetration, play time and so on. If they want more penetration I'm sure you can improvise.
Not too many women will complain if you make them cum a few times between penetration and you only cum once. |
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"True true, maybe I should start looking for someone who wants a social meet
You were going to meet me months ago but never did
I lost my license in September 2015 because of this accident so have no travel for nearly a year, and stopped coming on here for reason above...
It's more a confidence thing
Can you drive now?
No I have a review on the 19th of September then hopefully I can get my license back... U wna PM?? "
Sure |
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"I have friend in a similar situation but we talk about it and he can have a joke about it too. When the time is right we'll take it further.
As previously said, find someone who understands your situation, talk about it and eventually you'll have fun and get over your fear. You've had a shock to your body too so it's understandable that you have lost your confidence.
We've had a little foreplay that he started and I'm not pushing him into anything until he feels he's ready. Importantly we are friends too and met on here.
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Sounds like you two have a really close relationship, would be nice to have a female friend that doesn't have any ties to my other friends to talk to about this.
But most of my female friends I would find very difficult to open up about sexual things to.. Maybe the stars will align and I will find someone on here..
Who knows but Thankyou for you story, shows me that there is someone out there in the same position... X |
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"For personal reasons due to an accident I had 2 years ago I haven't had any form of sexual contact what so ever for the last 24 months...
Now I find it really hard and sometimes embarrassing knowing that when I finally do it will be over super quickly, so I don't really know how to approach this problem... Any ideas or advice please message me as it would be hugely appreciated.. And I'm not looking for "Just have a wank" lol.
Strange topic but nice to get someone's opinion..
Maybe you could try to make sure you don't cum first however you manage to do it,maybe foreplay or give her oral or whatever you both like..I think the main thing is don't let it build and build in your mind as it will just be another problem. Sex should be enjoyment not pressure (unless that's your thing)
I think that's the problem is I have let it build up for to long now, and it plays in my mind..
How do you know it will be over quickly? It could be you are worrying over nothing.
I like this thread, hope it's making you feel better. Good luck. x
It may not be over quickly but the chances are very high after 2 years that will be over super quickly, plus the pressure, over thinking things etc won't help the situation...
Sometimes it's easier said than done to not worry about something especially when it comes to sex... If that makes sense?? X "
It makes perfect sense. As soon as you try to not think about something, you do!
You're not the only guy experiencing this and some women do understand. |
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"For personal reasons due to an accident I had 2 years ago I haven't had any form of sexual contact what so ever for the last 24 months...
Now I find it really hard and sometimes embarrassing knowing that when I finally do it will be over super quickly, so I don't really know how to approach this problem... Any ideas or advice please message me as it would be hugely appreciated.. And I'm not looking for "Just have a wank" lol.
Strange topic but nice to get someone's opinion..
Maybe you could try to make sure you don't cum first however you manage to do it,maybe foreplay or give her oral or whatever you both like..I think the main thing is don't let it build and build in your mind as it will just be another problem. Sex should be enjoyment not pressure (unless that's your thing)
I think that's the problem is I have let it build up for to long now, and it plays in my mind..
How do you know it will be over quickly? It could be you are worrying over nothing.
I like this thread, hope it's making you feel better. Good luck. x
It may not be over quickly but the chances are very high after 2 years that will be over super quickly, plus the pressure, over thinking things etc won't help the situation...
Sometimes it's easier said than done to not worry about something especially when it comes to sex... If that makes sense?? X
It makes perfect sense. As soon as you try to not think about something, you do!
You're not the only guy experiencing this and some women do understand. "
Thankyou , and hopefully I can meet that women who does X |
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A lot of us are interested in cuddle meets too - if you're into cuddling, you could find someone who'd prefer cuddles and not so much sex. That could be a good, gentler way back that would support your confidence |
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