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Introducing a partner to swinging/open relationship ?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I would really like to hear from woman inperticula as to how they introduced their husband/partner into swinging/open relationship ?
I currently play alone, and in secret. Iv briefly tried to spice up our sex life in the past. Without success, interms of my level of kinky. I like others to be involved and being watched.
This is the side i would like to try and introduced.
Has anyone got success/fail stories of becoming an swinging open relationship?  |
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My husband
Well after being with him a few weeks id sussed out he was bi and when i broached the subject he said he had never mentioned it to anyone but he had acually slept with more men than women so before we even discussed anything else i gave him free reign to continue with his bi side rest was plain sailing although we werent that active as we had a small child we had to fit around |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We'd always talked about turn ons and fantasies early on. I asked him if he would ever want to try a threesome, FFM. He said he would love to! We talked about our limits and we both agreed we would communicate constantly about how we felt. We went to Xtasia and heard about Fab there from some lovely people, and here we are! We're still really new to this, but I think even getting this far shows the dream is possible lol. Though if it feels like either of you is forcing it or isn't 100% comfortable, don't do it I'd say x
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It has to be 100% both ways as its been said. You can't make somebody do something, you can only ask.
Trust, love, respect. Lots of things to tackle if you were going to ask somebody to try something new. Will you still have these 3 things in your relationship if you go ahead with any fantasies?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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It seems like the thing to.do.it be open from the start. Which we better yet i was not. im trying to introduce this 10+yeasr down the line lol... i approched the subject of a club and he said he was completely up for it as long as no men touched me i can only play with him. hayho its a start i guess lol  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"My husband
Well after being with him a few weeks id sussed out he was bi and when i broached the subject he said he had never mentioned it to anyone but he had acually slept with more men than women so before we even discussed anything else i gave him free reign to continue with his bi side rest was plain sailing although we werent that active as we had a small child we had to fit around"
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You seem like everymans dream thank you for commenting xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It's not easy, it's taken me five years, but communication is everything, just keep
Talking, and explaining, good luck.x"
I think this will be the case for me, to get to the place i would like to be!
How far have you got? Dose he play to? X |
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"My husband
Well after being with him a few weeks id sussed out he was bi and when i broached the subject he said he had never mentioned it to anyone but he had acually slept with more men than women so before we even discussed anything else i gave him free reign to continue with his bi side rest was plain sailing although we werent that active as we had a small child we had to fit aroundp
You seem like everymans dream thank you for commenting xx"
only if they give me the freedom i give them |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Ours was slightly different as I was open with him about my past including swinging.
Early on in the relationship we talked about FMF threesomes and he loved the idea so I invited a swinging friend of mine to play. It wasn't the best as he wasn't attracted to her so we left it a few years, then it kept coming up in horny scenarios so we decided to take the plunge and go to a club
And the rest they say is history  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"My husband
Well after being with him a few weeks id sussed out he was bi and when i broached the subject he said he had never mentioned it to anyone but he had acually slept with more men than women so before we even discussed anything else i gave him free reign to continue with his bi side rest was plain sailing although we werent that active as we had a small child we had to fit aroundp
You seem like everymans dream thank you for commenting xxonly if they give me the freedom i give them"
This is the problem, as iv never been a jealous type. I would it a quite a turn on to see him with a another female. He would also be happy to try that but never would he be happy to see me with another guy so st the min i think all the fun will have to go his way before i can addess my needs... my whole sex life its always the guys first xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"try introducing him to what you`ve been doing behind his back first..."
If i was to introduce him to what i really like. He would serpect sonething. As we'v been togther for over a decade. Our whole sex life it based on his pase and pleasure. Then all of sudden i would know what does it for me and all this sexula intrest lol xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Ours was slightly different as I was open with him about my past including swinging.
Early on in the relationship we talked about FMF threesomes and he loved the idea so I invited a swinging friend of mine to play. It wasn't the best as he wasn't attracted to her so we left it a few years, then it kept coming up in horny scenarios so we decided to take the plunge and go to a club
And the rest they say is history "
Hes agreed to us going to a club. I cant ever see him allowing anyone near me. But atleast going to a club is first step.
Do you play with other men? X |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ours was slightly different as I was open with him about my past including swinging.
Early on in the relationship we talked about FMF threesomes and he loved the idea so I invited a swinging friend of mine to play. It wasn't the best as he wasn't attracted to her so we left it a few years, then it kept coming up in horny scenarios so we decided to take the plunge and go to a club
And the rest they say is history
Hes agreed to us going to a club. I cant ever see him allowing anyone near me. But atleast going to a club is first step.
Do you play with other men? X"
Yeah but only together, the first time it happened he was apprehensive of course but now he loves to play in a 3 giving me tons of pleasure. We prefer FMF because I'm bi but have had the occasional MFM too. We have played with couples but that's our least favourite as even same room you tend to pair off with the opposite partner and we prefer to be playing with each other the same time as playing with others if that makes sense |
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