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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So I know a kick to the balls and child birth are quite extreme pains depending on the person's threshold but is emotional pain the worst kind?
I've fallen hard for someone who is taken, happy in their relationship and despite expressing feelings they care, they only want to remain discreet friends.
Sometimes I feel played as they've told me about other guys who say they love her too.. It's always in back of my mind that I'm being strung along.
So is unrequited love the worst pain? Or will a show of hands reveal its actually a paper cut on the webbing between your fingers?
Sorry for the length of the post I feel all Sarah Jessica Parker here lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i've been played recently as well, i keep varying from being ok to be really upset. it took a lot for me to trust someone again and now i feel like i can't trust anyone...
dunno. physical pain can be bad as well and i know i'll get over emotional pain, you've just got to hold on. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"i've been played recently as well, i keep varying from being ok to be really upset. it took a lot for me to trust someone again and now i feel like i can't trust anyone...
dunno. physical pain can be bad as well and i know i'll get over emotional pain, you've just got to hold on."
I know what you mean.. I'm scared to get closer than I already am but in the same breath I can't imagine my life right now without them in it  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Op. That sounds shite. You've got to breath in, chest out and deal with it.
Love hurts, it's a fact and sounds like it's hit you hard.
But I've hammered a nail in once and hit my nuckle. I then hit the same place immediately after. That hurt.  |
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How can you be played OP if you knew they were in a happy relationship?
I've had this happen to me with a guy who knew the score before we started. It didn't end well for either of us. I never led him to believe I was looking for an escape or new life.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"i've been played recently as well, i keep varying from being ok to be really upset. it took a lot for me to trust someone again and now i feel like i can't trust anyone...
dunno. physical pain can be bad as well and i know i'll get over emotional pain, you've just got to hold on.
I know what you mean.. I'm scared to get closer than I already am but in the same breath I can't imagine my life right now without them in it "
might be exactly what you need to do though, imagine your life without them in it.
it will really hurt at first, and might take months to stop hurting, and you'll have little blips here and there where you miss them, but it can be the best thing to get rid of someone out your life and make room for someone who wants you and is more worthy of you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The heart wants what the heart wants.
Doesn't always mean it gets it though sadly. I think it's difficult for singles on here not to get some kind of emotional attachment to someone you meet often, have great sex and get on with  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"How can you be played OP if you knew they were in a happy relationship?
I've had this happen to me with a guy who knew the score before we started. It didn't end well for either of us. I never led him to believe I was looking for an escape or new life.."
They had a bad relationship she turned to me for comfort and words of support.. She ended up taking him back.. Now she is happy.
As for the other comments thank you she had managed to pull me through a rough patch ... I've never met her only spoke online and heard her voice once or twice. There's a distance on the outside but inside I feel so close to her.
I even wrote words about her she got to me that bad
Agreed toothache is a bitch kudos for that one  |
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If you've lost someone close to you, such as a child, I don't think that you can compare it to a relationship that's not formed, though is largely about projections into the future. You can be in love and take the decision that you won't stay together too - that's tough as well.
If you meet someone else who's lost two children, you'll find their pain is staggeringly severe.
Life's tough - we each get our knocks and find things that we want but can't have. We've usually developed an adjusted self as we progress beyond our childhood - where we've assimilated that we can't have all that we desire.
None of this is easy but we mature and leave some of the rawness behind. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Agreed Sophie I hope this is nothing more than a semi permanent ache compared to losing a child .. I hope I don't have to face that kind of pain anytime soon.
Think I need to grow up and start to find a way through life without the added pain of her daily dragging me down no matter how tough I find it in the beginning im sure it will be worth it in the end. Thanks |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As with everything there are varying degrees of emotional pain. Unrequited love / broken heart I do believe given time will heal.
You're going to feel like crap for a while so try not to dwell on the past, keep in contact or read old messages, they just fuel the misery.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"As with everything there are varying degrees of emotional pain. Unrequited love / broken heart I do believe given time will heal.
You're going to feel like crap for a while so try not to dwell on the past, keep in contact or read old messages, they just fuel the misery.
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Shall do my best, I have meds and I think a brief self ban of what's app will fix me I hope. Thank you for your words. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have never been in love so I have no idea what it feels like to have love and lost or to not be able to have somebody I love
But the pain I felt when I lost my son was the worse ever, I'd give birth 100 times over before I ever feel the pain of losing a child again
You just can't explain it, its not just extreme sadness its a over whelming feeling inside you that you just can't shake off, like a void that can't be filled, you feel empty
I suppose that's loosing a different kind of love |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I have never been in love so I have no idea what it feels like to have love and lost or to not be able to have somebody I love
But the pain I felt when I lost my son was the worse ever, I'd give birth 100 times over before I ever feel the pain of losing a child again
You just can't explain it, its not just extreme sadness its a over whelming feeling inside you that you just can't shake off, like a void that can't be filled, you feel empty
I suppose that's loosing a different kind of love "
I am truly sorry for your loss, a different shade of pain at different ends of the scales eh? I know the empty feeling, like you've had a piece of your existence sucked away from you Never to return leaving you feeling numb. I do hope it gets better and whatever you do to cope with such a sad loss keep up the good work |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It's probably more infatuation than actual love if you've never even met. Hopefully this is the case cause then it'll be easier to get over. Onwards and upwards  |
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"Agreed Sophie I hope this is nothing more than a semi permanent ache compared to losing a child .. I hope I don't have to face that kind of pain anytime soon.
Think I need to grow up and start to find a way through life without the added pain of her daily dragging me down no matter how tough I find it in the beginning im sure it will be worth it in the end. Thanks "
Acute pain is sharp - it hurts us and we're not often prepared for it. Do what you can so that you're not further subjecting yourself to more pain that's avoidable.
That includes criticising yourself or trying to get more of what is out of reach. Try not to compare yourself. Ease off. Rest, care for yourself. In time you can learn what you need to have learned from this experience. |
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"So I know a kick to the balls and child birth are quite extreme pains depending on the person's threshold but is emotional pain the worst kind?
I've fallen hard for someone who is taken, happy in their relationship and despite expressing feelings they care, they only want to remain discreet friends.
Sometimes I feel played as they've told me about other guys who say they love her too.. It's always in back of my mind that I'm being strung along.
So is unrequited love the worst pain? Or will a show of hands reveal its actually a paper cut on the webbing between your fingers?
Sorry for the length of the post I feel all Sarah Jessica Parker here lol"
Going to bed with three children, waking up to find one had died in the night has been my worst pain. Childbirth, break up of marriage, relationships, unrequited love have barely registered.
I survived my son's death (just), everything else has been a walk in the park. |
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
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"So I know a kick to the balls and child birth are quite extreme pains depending on the person's threshold but is emotional pain the worst kind?
I've fallen hard for someone who is taken, happy in their relationship and despite expressing feelings they care, they only want to remain discreet friends.
Sometimes I feel played as they've told me about other guys who say they love her too.. It's always in back of my mind that I'm being strung along.
So is unrequited love the worst pain? Or will a show of hands reveal its actually a paper cut on the webbing between your fingers?
Sorry for the length of the post I feel all Sarah Jessica Parker here lol
Going to bed with three children, waking up to find one had died in the night has been my worst pain. Childbirth, break up of marriage, relationships, unrequited love have barely registered.
I survived my son's death (just), everything else has been a walk in the park."
So sorry 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Having just lost someone I loved immensely I feel your pain.
Having said that I think forming any kind of emotional attachment to someone you've never met is dangerous from the start.
I hope you sort it. Good luck. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So I know a kick to the balls and child birth are quite extreme pains depending on the person's threshold but is emotional pain the worst kind?
I've fallen hard for someone who is taken, happy in their relationship and despite expressing feelings they care, they only want to remain discreet friends.
Sometimes I feel played as they've told me about other guys who say they love her too.. It's always in back of my mind that I'm being strung along.
So is unrequited love the worst pain? Or will a show of hands reveal its actually a paper cut on the webbing between your fingers?
Sorry for the length of the post I feel all Sarah Jessica Parker here lol"
 my answer before reading the post was..... Paper cut |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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OP, the other party is quite happy for the situation to remain as it is, prolonging your agony.
That ain't love. The sooner you realise that, the quicker your pain will be over. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The heart wants what the heart wants.
Doesn't always mean it gets it though sadly. I think it's difficult for singles on here not to get some kind of emotional attachment to someone you meet often, have great sex and get on with "
I only have once and I've been doing this about 14 years now
But as soon as I felt like my feeling towards him were inappropriate I stopped meeting him |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So I know a kick to the balls and child birth are quite extreme pains depending on the person's threshold but is emotional pain the worst kind?
I've fallen hard for someone who is taken, happy in their relationship and despite expressing feelings they care, they only want to remain discreet friends.
Sometimes I feel played as they've told me about other guys who say they love her too.. It's always in back of my mind that I'm being strung along.
So is unrequited love the worst pain? Or will a show of hands reveal its actually a paper cut on the webbing between your fingers?
Sorry for the length of the post I feel all Sarah Jessica Parker here lol
Going to bed with three children, waking up to find one had died in the night has been my worst pain. Childbirth, break up of marriage, relationships, unrequited love have barely registered.
I survived my son's death (just), everything else has been a walk in the park."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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So you have never met only spoken a couple of times and messaged each other? Am I missing something here? How do you even know this person you have not spent any time together.
You're in love with a fantasy figure nothing more, time to grow some and move on with life and not give it anymore thought |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So you have never met only spoken a couple of times and messaged each other? Am I missing something here? How do you even know this person you have not spent any time together.
You're in love with a fantasy figure nothing more, time to grow some and move on with life and not give it anymore thought "
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"So you have never met only spoken a couple of times and messaged each other? Am I missing something here? How do you even know this person you have not spent any time together.
You're in love with a fantasy figure nothing more, time to grow some and move on with life and not give it anymore thought "
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By (user no longer on site)
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I've seen this scenario before OP, the bit where she tells you about other guys declaring their love for her should tell you that you're being had, big time, this is how she gets her kicks. Harsh but true, there are headfucked women out there who do this to lonely men. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Op, I think it would be easier to "wean" yourself off this person. Reduce your messaging. Delete all your old messages etc.
You'll soon realise that you don't need this person in your life anymore and wonder what all the fuss was about.
Good luck. You can do it although it may be hard to start with. |
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
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"Physical pain tends to end quicker than emotional pain .
This. x"
I dunno, I picked up a rotted pallet nearly 35yrs ago and a large splinter went fully under a fingernail all the way to the bottom, that hurt a bit but not as much as the Dr pushing a scalpel behind it to coax it all out without any anesthetic. I'm sure he must have been related to Josef Mengeler.
I remember that far more than my first marriage tbh..
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So I know a kick to the balls and child birth are quite extreme pains depending on the person's threshold but is emotional pain the worst kind?
I've fallen hard for someone who is taken, happy in their relationship and despite expressing feelings they care, they only want to remain discreet friends.
Sometimes I feel played as they've told me about other guys who say they love her too.. It's always in back of my mind that I'm being strung along.
So is unrequited love the worst pain? Or will a show of hands reveal its actually a paper cut on the webbing between your fingers?
Sorry for the length of the post I feel all Sarah Jessica Parker here lol
Going to bed with three children, waking up to find one had died in the night has been my worst pain. Childbirth, break up of marriage, relationships, unrequited love have barely registered.
I survived my son's death (just), everything else has been a walk in the park."
I cannot and never want to imagine what that pain feels like. Brave lady xx |
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"So I know a kick to the balls and child birth are quite extreme pains depending on the person's threshold but is emotional pain the worst kind?
I've fallen hard for someone who is taken, happy in their relationship and despite expressing feelings they care, they only want to remain discreet friends.
Sometimes I feel played as they've told me about other guys who say they love her too.. It's always in back of my mind that I'm being strung along.
So is unrequited love the worst pain? Or will a show of hands reveal its actually a paper cut on the webbing between your fingers?
Sorry for the length of the post I feel all Sarah Jessica Parker here lol
Going to bed with three children, waking up to find one had died in the night has been my worst pain. Childbirth, break up of marriage, relationships, unrequited love have barely registered.
I survived my son's death (just), everything else has been a walk in the park."
I've stood and watched mouth to mouth on my unconscious toddler son. He survived but for around 15-20 minutes it felt like I was standing in the doorway looking through to what grief for my child would be like. The experience has permanently scarred me, even though he's fine now. It took months before I didn't break down every time I saw an ambulance.
I can't begin to imagine how you get through each day. I hope you have lots of support around you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"i've been played recently as well, i keep varying from being ok to be really upset. it took a lot for me to trust someone again and now i feel like i can't trust anyone...
dunno. physical pain can be bad as well and i know i'll get over emotional pain, you've just got to hold on.
I know what you mean.. I'm scared to get closer than I already am but in the same breath I can't imagine my life right now without them in it
might be exactly what you need to do though, imagine your life without them in it.
it will really hurt at first, and might take months to stop hurting, and you'll have little blips here and there where you miss them, but it can be the best thing to get rid of someone out your life and make room for someone who wants you and is more worthy of you."
i totally agree here |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So I know a kick to the balls and child birth are quite extreme pains depending on the person's threshold but is emotional pain the worst kind?
I've fallen hard for someone who is taken, happy in their relationship and despite expressing feelings they care, they only want to remain discreet friends.
Sometimes I feel played as they've told me about other guys who say they love her too.. It's always in back of my mind that I'm being strung along.
So is unrequited love the worst pain? Or will a show of hands reveal its actually a paper cut on the webbing between your fingers?
Sorry for the length of the post I feel all Sarah Jessica Parker here lol
Going to bed with three children, waking up to find one had died in the night has been my worst pain. Childbirth, break up of marriage, relationships, unrequited love have barely registered.
I survived my son's death (just), everything else has been a walk in the park."
Such a strong lady....I lost a child at 23 weeks pregnant and had to give birth and have her cremated.
On a serious note that has undoubtedly scared me for life. I miss her every day.
Sending you strength and love xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Having a kid myself I totally agree, couldn't ever imagine losing her. Although dentist lanced an abscess on my impacted wisdom tooth without even a warning last week and it hurry like a bitch |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I guess people have different thresholds for pain.. be it physical or emotional. Each to their own but I can't help but agree with some of the posters above who point out:
- that you've never met this person
- that you knew the circumstances - she's seemingly never hidden the fact that she was seeing others etc
- that you also have gained during this mutual relationship as you both supported each other through the difficult time.
To say that you can compare this pain of "being had" by someone you've never met to the pain of someone who has been through the despair of losing a child may be a bit on the naive side.
I wouldn't like to be confiding in you over a sensitive topic! Ha
Me: "my Mum's been diagnosed with a horrible illness!"
You: "oh gosh, I know how you feel, that girl I've been chatting to who I've never met has got back with her fella!.. sad news all round, eh?"
Me: "erm.."
I'm being lighthearted. To answer your question. In my view emotional pain can be much more damaging that physical pain. Everyone's different though.
Chin up. |
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
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"So I know a kick to the balls and child birth are quite extreme pains depending on the person's threshold but is emotional pain the worst kind?
I've fallen hard for someone who is taken, happy in their relationship and despite expressing feelings they care, they only want to remain discreet friends.
Sometimes I feel played as they've told me about other guys who say they love her too.. It's always in back of my mind that I'm being strung along.
So is unrequited love the worst pain? Or will a show of hands reveal its actually a paper cut on the webbing between your fingers?
Sorry for the length of the post I feel all Sarah Jessica Parker here lol"
your over thinking it in my opinion you love this girl because of how she makes you feel that fact doesn't change because she doesn't love you back.
your upset because your are thinking because her feeling are not the same as yours somehow your giving her more than she is giving you .
that doesn't make sense your the one in love infatuated with her those feeling are not her thought nor are they her responsibilities they are yours and yours alone .
she obviously likes you and you are giving her something she needs or else she would not meet you or play with you,
so its a fair exchange in my book she has been considerate of your emotions your ruining a good thing in my opinion this girl makes you feel good great about yourself for this reason you have fallen for her.
there's no need for you to feel any pain all you had to do was understand you love her and then make the most of what you had instead live in the moment.
you demanded more you wanted to know she felt the same way you got selfish in my opinion instead of enjoying the moment and living for the moment .
if your happiness ends it was self inflicted by your own hand not hers your feeling now are down to you not her.
all she ever did was to make you feel great around her she didn't set out to make you love her or to hurt you .
she set out to have a great time with you nothing more nothing less everything else past that is down to you and its up to you to own it and deal with it not burden her with it in my opinion . |
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"So I know a kick to the balls and child birth are quite extreme pains depending on the person's threshold but is emotional pain the worst kind?
I've fallen hard for someone who is taken, happy in their relationship and despite expressing feelings they care, they only want to remain discreet friends.
Sometimes I feel played as they've told me about other guys who say they love her too.. It's always in back of my mind that I'm being strung along.
So is unrequited love the worst pain? Or will a show of hands reveal its actually a paper cut on the webbing between your fingers?
Sorry for the length of the post I feel all Sarah Jessica Parker here lol
Going to bed with three children, waking up to find one had died in the night has been my worst pain. Childbirth, break up of marriage, relationships, unrequited love have barely registered.
I survived my son's death (just), everything else has been a walk in the park.
I've stood and watched mouth to mouth on my unconscious toddler son. He survived but for around 15-20 minutes it felt like I was standing in the doorway looking through to what grief for my child would be like. The experience has permanently scarred me, even though he's fine now. It took months before I didn't break down every time I saw an ambulance.
I can't begin to imagine how you get through each day. I hope you have lots of support around you."
My son was still warm so I tried mouth to mouth whilst my husband called the ambulance. We were about five minutes from Kings College hospital, think they were with us in a minute.
I'd managed to get Matthew's heart beating and they took over and rushed him to the hospital. As a former nurse I knew he'd probably be brain damaged at best brain dead at worst.
My husband was happy, I couldn't prepare him for the inevitable. Twelve hours later they informed us he was brain dead...oh, and can we harvest his organs.
I said no, the only regret I have in my life. I didn't want him cut up but they did a post mortem anyway.
Watching him die again as my husband held him whilst they unplugged his life support and the priest administer the last rites is an experience I haven't got over and something I wouldn't wish on anyone.
You learn to live with it, counselling didn't help me. I had two little girls who needed me, I had to get it together for them.
I look at my grandsons now and my happy daughters and try and count my blessings. |
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"So I know a kick to the balls and child birth are quite extreme pains depending on the person's threshold but is emotional pain the worst kind?
I've fallen hard for someone who is taken, happy in their relationship and despite expressing feelings they care, they only want to remain discreet friends.
Sometimes I feel played as they've told me about other guys who say they love her too.. It's always in back of my mind that I'm being strung along.
So is unrequited love the worst pain? Or will a show of hands reveal its actually a paper cut on the webbing between your fingers?
Sorry for the length of the post I feel all Sarah Jessica Parker here lol
Going to bed with three children, waking up to find one had died in the night has been my worst pain. Childbirth, break up of marriage, relationships, unrequited love have barely registered.
I survived my son's death (just), everything else has been a walk in the park.
I've stood and watched mouth to mouth on my unconscious toddler son. He survived but for around 15-20 minutes it felt like I was standing in the doorway looking through to what grief for my child would be like. The experience has permanently scarred me, even though he's fine now. It took months before I didn't break down every time I saw an ambulance.
I can't begin to imagine how you get through each day. I hope you have lots of support around you.
My son was still warm so I tried mouth to mouth whilst my husband called the ambulance. We were about five minutes from Kings College hospital, think they were with us in a minute.
I'd managed to get Matthew's heart beating and they took over and rushed him to the hospital. As a former nurse I knew he'd probably be brain damaged at best brain dead at worst.
My husband was happy, I couldn't prepare him for the inevitable. Twelve hours later they informed us he was brain dead...oh, and can we harvest his organs.
I said no, the only regret I have in my life. I didn't want him cut up but they did a post mortem anyway.
Watching him die again as my husband held him whilst they unplugged his life support and the priest administer the last rites is an experience I haven't got over and something I wouldn't wish on anyone.
You learn to live with it, counselling didn't help me. I had two little girls who needed me, I had to get it together for them.
I look at my grandsons now and my happy daughters and try and count my blessings."
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"So you have never met only spoken a couple of times and messaged each other? Am I missing something here? How do you even know this person you have not spent any time together.
You're in love with a fantasy figure nothing more, time to grow some and move on with life and not give it anymore thought "
my thoughts exactly. |
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over a year ago
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"So I know a kick to the balls and child birth are quite extreme pains depending on the person's threshold but is emotional pain the worst kind?
I've fallen hard for someone who is taken, happy in their relationship and despite expressing feelings they care, they only want to remain discreet friends.
Sometimes I feel played as they've told me about other guys who say they love her too.. It's always in back of my mind that I'm being strung along.
So is unrequited love the worst pain? Or will a show of hands reveal its actually a paper cut on the webbing between your fingers?
Sorry for the length of the post I feel all Sarah Jessica Parker here lol
Going to bed with three children, waking up to find one had died in the night has been my worst pain. Childbirth, break up of marriage, relationships, unrequited love have barely registered.
I survived my son's death (just), everything else has been a walk in the park.
I've stood and watched mouth to mouth on my unconscious toddler son. He survived but for around 15-20 minutes it felt like I was standing in the doorway looking through to what grief for my child would be like. The experience has permanently scarred me, even though he's fine now. It took months before I didn't break down every time I saw an ambulance.
I can't begin to imagine how you get through each day. I hope you have lots of support around you.
My son was still warm so I tried mouth to mouth whilst my husband called the ambulance. We were about five minutes from Kings College hospital, think they were with us in a minute.
I'd managed to get Matthew's heart beating and they took over and rushed him to the hospital. As a former nurse I knew he'd probably be brain damaged at best brain dead at worst.
My husband was happy, I couldn't prepare him for the inevitable. Twelve hours later they informed us he was brain dead...oh, and can we harvest his organs.
I said no, the only regret I have in my life. I didn't want him cut up but they did a post mortem anyway.
Watching him die again as my husband held him whilst they unplugged his life support and the priest administer the last rites is an experience I haven't got over and something I wouldn't wish on anyone.
You learn to live with it, counselling didn't help me. I had two little girls who needed me, I had to get it together for them.
I look at my grandsons now and my happy daughters and try and count my blessings."
choked up reading this your a very strong and capable lady x |
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Not read the whole thing OP but I think you should have a clean break.
The worst physical pain for me was gallstones. More painful than labour for me. Closely followed by the first poo after giving birth having had an episiotomy! |
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"Toothache is the worst pain.....period!
Make your mind up, toothache or period pain "
Period pain is worse - combined with ovarian cysts, endometriosis & severe PMS where I could quite happily stab anyone who breathes..... How TH puts up with me I do not know... |
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"I guess people have different thresholds for pain.. be it physical or emotional. Each to their own but I can't help but agree with some of the posters above who point out:
- that you've never met this person
- that you knew the circumstances - she's seemingly never hidden the fact that she was seeing others etc
- that you also have gained during this mutual relationship as you both supported each other through the difficult time.
To say that you can compare this pain of "being had" by someone you've never met to the pain of someone who has been through the despair of losing a child may be a bit on the naive side.
I wouldn't like to be confiding in you over a sensitive topic! Ha
Me: "my Mum's been diagnosed with a horrible illness!"
You: "oh gosh, I know how you feel, that girl I've been chatting to who I've never met has got back with her fella!.. sad news all round, eh?"
Me: "erm.."
I'm being lighthearted. To answer your question. In my view emotional pain can be much more damaging that physical pain. Everyone's different though.
Chin up. "
I don't mean to sound naive I mentioned they were separate ends of the spectrum.. I have a child I pray they lose me before I lose them.. I know you're being lighthearted its cool |
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Worst pain I've felt (after various knocks, breaks and injuries) was the second time I tore my ankle ligaments. I went into shock and was on the grass shaking for a good half hour. |
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Well I was going to put kneeling on an upright plug-in it's alike being knee-capped, but it seems a bit glib now. Respect and sympathy to anyone enduring anything more serious. |
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"Come back to me when you've had your knees tattooed. "
Serious? I always thought that area would be alright.. Getting a neck piece done soon that's prob nothing in comparison lol |
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"Well I was going to put kneeling on an upright plug-in it's alike being knee-capped, but it seems a bit glib now. Respect and sympathy to anyone enduring anything more serious."
Glib is never a problem |
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"Come back to me when you've had your knees tattooed.
Serious? I always thought that area would be alright.. Getting a neck piece done soon that's prob nothing in comparison lol"
I've only had a couple of tiny tattoos, but anywhere on thin skin on the bone hurts like a mutherfucker |
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Honestly id have to say emotional pain i couldnt imagine the feeling of losing one of my little ones anything physical i cant be anywhere near close i had an accident and smashed my arm in 12 places and had to have my elbow rebuilt shock and adrenaline seemed to numb most of the pain |
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"Lego - trust me on this 
and stickle bricks
And stubbing your little toe on something
Miss"
I worked with a guy who had a theory that if you stubbed both little toes at the same time you would die...this was because when you do either, you have to do 'the dance' which is directional dependant on which toe is hit. If you do both your brain can't work out which dance to do so you die..
No scientific proof but definitely a fact! |
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"Lego - trust me on this
and stickle bricks
And stubbing your little toe on something
Miss
I worked with a guy who had a theory that if you stubbed both little toes at the same time you would die...this was because when you do either, you have to do 'the dance' which is directional dependant on which toe is hit. If you do both your brain can't work out which dance to do so you die..
No scientific proof but definitely a fact!"
Is that you volunteering ? I'm in if you are could start a new viral trend lol |
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"So I know a kick to the balls and child birth are quite extreme pains depending on the person's threshold but is emotional pain the worst kind?
I've fallen hard for someone who is taken, happy in their relationship and despite expressing feelings they care, they only want to remain discreet friends.
Sometimes I feel played as they've told me about other guys who say they love her too.. It's always in back of my mind that I'm being strung along.
So is unrequited love the worst pain? Or will a show of hands reveal its actually a paper cut on the webbing between your fingers?
Sorry for the length of the post I feel all Sarah Jessica Parker here lol"
I think it certainly is, there is no pain like it on earth, mental pain can be dealt with, physical pain subsides but the pain of loving someone unconditionally who can't/won't/doesn't love you back is the pain that can't be dealt with over any amount of time.
I am going through it now and it's starting to cost me the ability to function in small ways, it's horrible and unrelenting. xx |
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"Honestly id have to say emotional pain i couldnt imagine the feeling of losing one of my little ones anything physical i cant be anywhere near close i had an accident and smashed my arm in 12 places and had to have my elbow rebuilt shock and adrenaline seemed to numb most of the pain "
Jeesh not mine - I had a compound fracture of radius and ulna from a kick from a horse and the smashed up trapped nerves in that had me screaming with agony for the first and last time in my life.  |
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"So I know a kick to the balls and child birth are quite extreme pains depending on the person's threshold but is emotional pain the worst kind?
I've fallen hard for someone who is taken, happy in their relationship and despite expressing feelings they care, they only want to remain discreet friends.
Sometimes I feel played as they've told me about other guys who say they love her too.. It's always in back of my mind that I'm being strung along.
So is unrequited love the worst pain? Or will a show of hands reveal its actually a paper cut on the webbing between your fingers?
Sorry for the length of the post I feel all Sarah Jessica Parker here lol
Going to bed with three children, waking up to find one had died in the night has been my worst pain. Childbirth, break up of marriage, relationships, unrequited love have barely registered.
I survived my son's death (just), everything else has been a walk in the park.
I've stood and watched mouth to mouth on my unconscious toddler son. He survived but for around 15-20 minutes it felt like I was standing in the doorway looking through to what grief for my child would be like. The experience has permanently scarred me, even though he's fine now. It took months before I didn't break down every time I saw an ambulance.
I can't begin to imagine how you get through each day. I hope you have lots of support around you.
My son was still warm so I tried mouth to mouth whilst my husband called the ambulance. We were about five minutes from Kings College hospital, think they were with us in a minute.
I'd managed to get Matthew's heart beating and they took over and rushed him to the hospital. As a former nurse I knew he'd probably be brain damaged at best brain dead at worst.
My husband was happy, I couldn't prepare him for the inevitable. Twelve hours later they informed us he was brain dead...oh, and can we harvest his organs.
I said no, the only regret I have in my life. I didn't want him cut up but they did a post mortem anyway.
Watching him die again as my husband held him whilst they unplugged his life support and the priest administer the last rites is an experience I haven't got over and something I wouldn't wish on anyone.
You learn to live with it, counselling didn't help me. I had two little girls who needed me, I had to get it together for them.
I look at my grandsons now and my happy daughters and try and count my blessings."
I think donating my son's organs after his death was the only thing that made sense to me
I know people will find this wierd, and I've had a lot of stick for allowing organ donation off my family and some other people and I was made to feel like shit about it but to me it just made sense
If he died and was just cremated then that was it, he was gone, but allowing some other child to benifit from his death then a bit of him lives on and I actually got some comfort from that
For me my son was dead and there was nothing I could do to bring him back but if I could save just one other parent from going through what I had then i just felt it was the right thing to do |
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When I read the headline of the op's post, I immediately thought of a paper cut!
Unfortunately the 'pain' we associate with unfulfilled intentions, particularly in aspects of love can be massively destructive.......
Don't lose yourself bud........regain 'you'.
Hope youre feeling better soon |
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"So I know a kick to the balls and child birth are quite extreme pains depending on the person's threshold but is emotional pain the worst kind?
I've fallen hard for someone who is taken, happy in their relationship and despite expressing feelings they care, they only want to remain discreet friends.
Sometimes I feel played as they've told me about other guys who say they love her too.. It's always in back of my mind that I'm being strung along.
So is unrequited love the worst pain? Or will a show of hands reveal its actually a paper cut on the webbing between your fingers?
Sorry for the length of the post I feel all Sarah Jessica Parker here lol
Going to bed with three children, waking up to find one had died in the night has been my worst pain. Childbirth, break up of marriage, relationships, unrequited love have barely registered.
I survived my son's death (just), everything else has been a walk in the park.
I've stood and watched mouth to mouth on my unconscious toddler son. He survived but for around 15-20 minutes it felt like I was standing in the doorway looking through to what grief for my child would be like. The experience has permanently scarred me, even though he's fine now. It took months before I didn't break down every time I saw an ambulance.
I can't begin to imagine how you get through each day. I hope you have lots of support around you.
My son was still warm so I tried mouth to mouth whilst my husband called the ambulance. We were about five minutes from Kings College hospital, think they were with us in a minute.
I'd managed to get Matthew's heart beating and they took over and rushed him to the hospital. As a former nurse I knew he'd probably be brain damaged at best brain dead at worst.
My husband was happy, I couldn't prepare him for the inevitable. Twelve hours later they informed us he was brain dead...oh, and can we harvest his organs.
I said no, the only regret I have in my life. I didn't want him cut up but they did a post mortem anyway.
Watching him die again as my husband held him whilst they unplugged his life support and the priest administer the last rites is an experience I haven't got over and something I wouldn't wish on anyone.
You learn to live with it, counselling didn't help me. I had two little girls who needed me, I had to get it together for them.
I look at my grandsons now and my happy daughters and try and count my blessings.
I think donating my son's organs after his death was the only thing that made sense to me
I know people will find this wierd, and I've had a lot of stick for allowing organ donation off my family and some other people and I was made to feel like shit about it but to me it just made sense
If he died and was just cremated then that was it, he was gone, but allowing some other child to benifit from his death then a bit of him lives on and I actually got some comfort from that
For me my son was dead and there was nothing I could do to bring him back but if I could save just one other parent from going through what I had then i just felt it was the right thing to do"
That's highly commendable and a lovely thing to do x |
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Thanks deep secret I know my 'pain'is nowhere near the pain of losing someone through bereavement. Cannot and will not compare or compete with that but I'm feeling the love and will find myself again in no time ... Music is therapy and life after love goes on |
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"King Edward II knew about a pain in the arse"
Watched a programme the other day about how they did it....apparently took relatively ages for him to die. |
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"I've seen this scenario before OP, the bit where she tells you about other guys declaring their love for her should tell you that you're being had, big time, this is how she gets her kicks. Harsh but true, there are headfucked women out there who do this to lonely men."
Agree up to the last sentence... people of both sexes can do this. What is her motive in telling the OP this?? Fortunately it appears the OP's attachment to her is based on fantasy rather than reality (and probably that they've never met has led her to be built up, in his mind, as an unattainable love), hopefully the pain will ease soon. |
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"So I know a kick to the balls and child birth are quite extreme pains depending on the person's threshold but is emotional pain the worst kind?
I've fallen hard for someone who is taken, happy in their relationship and despite expressing feelings they care, they only want to remain discreet friends.
Sometimes I feel played as they've told me about other guys who say they love her too.. It's always in back of my mind that I'm being strung along.
So is unrequited love the worst pain? Or will a show of hands reveal its actually a paper cut on the webbing between your fingers?
Sorry for the length of the post I feel all Sarah Jessica Parker here lol"
Believe me i know what your going through i had the same situation and believe me it's painful remember seeing a photo on Facebook saying it's more painful holding on than letting go so sorry to put it like this but i went through the same experience let go now seriously before you do yourself a substancial amount of pain |
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"King Edward II knew about a pain in the arse
Watched a programme the other day about how they did it....apparently took relatively ages for him to die."
shit way to go |
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Unattainable love sounds right, serious amount of pain yeah.. I've seen that photo too I do nothing but look over things and double think everything every move and step .. Every word she said but things have turned sour so altho not a clean break today is the final day I hope in this chapter .
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My view is pretty black and white over emotional pain. Death is probably the worst. Unrequited love is tough but it's not the end of the world. You get over it. I'm not sure it's quite so easy to get over the loss from a partner dying. Perspective... find some. |
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I was woken up at 4.30am this morning with sharp stabbing pains in between the middle and fourth toe of my left foot..
every time I tried to get back to sleep, there was another dig, it was very painful and very uncomfortable, and nothing I did would make it go away..
oh and the pain of appendicitis ...I wouldn't wish that on anyone |
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"My view is pretty black and white over emotional pain. Death is probably the worst. Unrequited love is tough but it's not the end of the world. You get over it. I'm not sure it's quite so easy to get over the loss from a partner dying. Perspective... find some. "
This is pretty much my view too. Yeah a broken heart hurts but it heals. Losing your lifes love well how do you get over that. I don't think people do completely they just learn to live with the pain and get on with life. |
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"The worse pain, I've ever had is when I had a kidney infection. That made child birth seem like a walk in the park. "
Yes had that once and thought I was dying |
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I've done the toothache, unrequited love, childbirth (twice), a rebuilt knee and crushed toes but none compare with the pain of nerve damage and inflammation.
I told my GP that I understood why some folk consider suicide when they suffer chronic pain like that. |
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The worst physical pain I've ever endured was from spinal stenosis. At one point I just hoped to pass out. I'd endure that any day rather than the emotional pain one or two in this thread have and continue to experience. |
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"So I know a kick to the balls and child birth are quite extreme pains depending on the person's threshold but is emotional pain the worst kind?
I've fallen hard for someone who is taken, happy in their relationship and despite expressing feelings they care, they only want to remain discreet friends.
Sometimes I feel played as they've told me about other guys who say they love her too.. It's always in back of my mind that I'm being strung along.
So is unrequited love the worst pain? Or will a show of hands reveal its actually a paper cut on the webbing between your fingers?
Sorry for the length of the post I feel all Sarah Jessica Parker here lol
Going to bed with three children, waking up to find one had died in the night has been my worst pain. Childbirth, break up of marriage, relationships, unrequited love have barely registered.
I survived my son's death (just), everything else has been a walk in the park.
I've stood and watched mouth to mouth on my unconscious toddler son. He survived but for around 15-20 minutes it felt like I was standing in the doorway looking through to what grief for my child would be like. The experience has permanently scarred me, even though he's fine now. It took months before I didn't break down every time I saw an ambulance.
I can't begin to imagine how you get through each day. I hope you have lots of support around you.
My son was still warm so I tried mouth to mouth whilst my husband called the ambulance. We were about five minutes from Kings College hospital, think they were with us in a minute.
I'd managed to get Matthew's heart beating and they took over and rushed him to the hospital. As a former nurse I knew he'd probably be brain damaged at best brain dead at worst.
My husband was happy, I couldn't prepare him for the inevitable. Twelve hours later they informed us he was brain dead...oh, and can we harvest his organs.
I said no, the only regret I have in my life. I didn't want him cut up but they did a post mortem anyway.
Watching him die again as my husband held him whilst they unplugged his life support and the priest administer the last rites is an experience I haven't got over and something I wouldn't wish on anyone.
You learn to live with it, counselling didn't help me. I had two little girls who needed me, I had to get it together for them.
I look at my grandsons now and my happy daughters and try and count my blessings."
you are amazingly strong i dont think i would want to live another second after going through that my heart goes out to you guys x |
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Emotionally: kissing a loved 1 
. Or cut under the nail...ok I need to stop thinking 