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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi all getting a bit addicted to these forums now lol
How do people decide to meet who they meet aside from the obvious things like chat etc I find things that put me off our little things like if a person/ couple have 50 plus veris then I wouldn't even carry on chatting or say in there pics you see a lot of penetrative pics that clearly show no protection am I to picky is it just me ??? |
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over a year ago
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I wouldn't meet anyone who says someone has too many verifications.
I wouldn't meet someone who says they won't meet anyone who has had sex with bi men.
I wouldn't meet anyone who says they don't meet women who have sex with non-white men.
I wouldn't meet anyone who looks down on others' way of conducting their sex lives. |
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"I wouldn't meet anyone who says someone has too many verifications.
I wouldn't meet someone who says they won't meet anyone who has had sex with bi men.
I wouldn't meet anyone who says they don't meet women who have sex with non-white men.
I wouldn't meet anyone who looks down on others' way of conducting their sex lives. "
Preach! All of these points. The bi men point in particular strikes a chord with me |
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over a year ago
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Totally agree we don't have an issue with bi men as long as they understand my fella is straight and we are not into that when we meet live and let live |
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"Hi all getting a bit addicted to these forums now lol
How do people decide to meet who they meet aside from the obvious things like chat etc I find things that put me off our little things like if a person/ couple have 50 plus veris then I wouldn't even carry on chatting or say in there pics you see a lot of penetrative pics that clearly show no protection am I to picky is it just me ???"
Lots of veris can be from meeting people socially in clubs and couples don't usually use protection with each other so I wouldn't dismiss people on that alone. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Hi all getting a bit addicted to these forums now lol
How do people decide to meet who they meet aside from the obvious things like chat etc I find things that put me off our little things like if a person/ couple have 50 plus veris then I wouldn't even carry on chatting or say in there pics you see a lot of penetrative pics that clearly show no protection am I to picky is it just me ???
Lots of veris can be from meeting people socially in clubs and couples don't usually use protection with each other so I wouldn't dismiss people on that alone."
See this is my problem I to thought exactly that am I being to harsh in the way I select people lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi all getting a bit addicted to these forums now lol
How do people decide to meet who they meet aside from the obvious things like chat etc I find things that put me off our little things like if a person/ couple have 50 plus veris then I wouldn't even carry on chatting or say in there pics you see a lot of penetrative pics that clearly show no protection am I to picky is it just me ???"
Very very carefully with caution on here...If they've more than 20 different veris then I walk by. A potential meet is _iewed to be a regular or no meet happens. Yes I'm picky very picky but it works for me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I wouldn't meet anyone who says someone has too many verifications.
I wouldn't meet someone who says they won't meet anyone who has had sex with bi men.
I wouldn't meet anyone who says they don't meet women who have sex with non-white men.
I wouldn't meet anyone who looks down on others' way of conducting their sex lives.
Preach! All of these points. The bi men point in particular strikes a chord with me"
Someone said it to me as he was dropping me home after fucking. He should have asked first,fucked later. |
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"I wouldn't meet anyone who says someone has too many verifications.
I wouldn't meet someone who says they won't meet anyone who has had sex with bi men.
I wouldn't meet anyone who says they don't meet women who have sex with non-white men.
I wouldn't meet anyone who looks down on others' way of conducting their sex lives. "
And we will meet whoever we find attractive when we have the free time to do so. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The non protection pics do put me off,
Oh and a couple I was talking about meeting put pictures up of a FMMMM meet a few days before I was thinking about meeting them, she had everyone of them unprotected and the last pic was legs open with the words every ones spunk 
Also another couple asked if the Male could physically put my cock into his wife, Not my thing so I said no
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"The non protection pics do put me off,
Oh and a couple I was talking about meeting put pictures up of a FMMMM meet a few days before I was thinking about meeting them, she had everyone of them unprotected and the last pic was legs open with the words every ones spunk
Also another couple asked if the Male could physically put my cock into his wife, Not my thing so I said no
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Exactly the way I would _iew that and react the same I wouldn't even entertain a meet in those circumstances |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi all getting a bit addicted to these forums now lol
How do people decide to meet who they meet aside from the obvious things like chat etc I find things that put me off our little things like if a person/ couple have 50 plus veris then I wouldn't even carry on chatting or say in there pics you see a lot of penetrative pics that clearly show no protection am I to picky is it just me ???
Lots of veris can be from meeting people socially in clubs and couples don't usually use protection with each other so I wouldn't dismiss people on that alone.
See this is my problem I to thought exactly that am I being to harsh in the way I select people lol"
If it's what suits you why question it? Do you ask people who only have a few verifications how many people they have had sex with in total? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I wouldn't meet anyone I wouldn't sit in a coffee shop with.... Basic rule of fab
So where does that leave "us"?
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Joe......Its time we showed the pictures..... all this pretending is just teasing, its time we came clean...or filthy, either way..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Height, handsome face, penis size, humour. They're the initial things that would make me want to meet someone. Other factors come in to play once I've met them but I'm looking for more than NSA. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For me it goes on instincts and if it feels right and if there is a spark but quality over quantities would rather have good playmates rather than one ofs x |
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"I wouldn't meet anyone I wouldn't sit in a coffee shop with.... Basic rule of fab
So where does that leave "us"?
Joe......Its time we showed the pictures..... all this pretending is just teasing, its time we came clean...or filthy, either way....."
*bottom lip trembles and tears well in eyes*
But... but... You told me you loved me?
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I wouldn't meet anyone I wouldn't sit in a coffee shop with.... Basic rule of fab
So where does that leave "us"?
Joe......Its time we showed the pictures..... all this pretending is just teasing, its time we came clean...or filthy, either way....."
Show them pics. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I wouldn't meet anyone I wouldn't sit in a coffee shop with.... Basic rule of fab
So where does that leave "us"?
Joe......Its time we showed the pictures..... all this pretending is just teasing, its time we came clean...or filthy, either way.....
*bottom lip trembles and tears well in eyes*
But... but... You told me you loved me?
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Thats it, out me in the forums as a heart breaker; your shield maidens will be along in a minute....
12 minutes to UNLOS........( ) |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I wouldn't meet anyone I wouldn't sit in a coffee shop with.... Basic rule of fab
So where does that leave "us"?
Joe......Its time we showed the pictures..... all this pretending is just teasing, its time we came clean...or filthy, either way.....
*bottom lip trembles and tears well in eyes*
But... but... You told me you loved me?
Thats it, out me in the forums as a heart breaker; your shield maidens will be along in a minute....
12 minutes to UNLOS........()"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi all getting a bit addicted to these forums now lol
How do people decide to meet who they meet aside from the obvious things like chat etc I find things that put me off our little things like if a person/ couple have 50 plus veris then I wouldn't even carry on chatting or say in there pics you see a lot of penetrative pics that clearly show no protection am I to picky is it just me ???"
But what's wrong with more than 50 plus verifications? |
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"I wouldn't meet anyone I wouldn't sit in a coffee shop with.... Basic rule of fab
So where does that leave "us"?
Joe......Its time we showed the pictures..... all this pretending is just teasing, its time we came clean...or filthy, either way.....
*bottom lip trembles and tears well in eyes*
But... but... You told me you loved me?
Thats it, out me in the forums as a heart breaker; your shield maidens will be along in a minute....
12 minutes to UNLOS........()"
*opens one eye carefully, making sure no-one's looking sniggers before falling back to the ground thinking, My work here is done*
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"Hi all getting a bit addicted to these forums now lol
How do people decide to meet who they meet aside from the obvious things like chat etc I find things that put me off our little things like if a person/ couple have 50 plus veris then I wouldn't even carry on chatting or say in there pics you see a lot of penetrative pics that clearly show no protection am I to picky is it just me ???
Lots of veris can be from meeting people socially in clubs and couples don't usually use protection with each other so I wouldn't dismiss people on that alone.
See this is my problem I to thought exactly that am I being to harsh in the way I select people lol"
Personally I just use my own judgement. I don't assume that every guy that can't accomodate is married, but I can read the signs. The only thing I check with veris are if they are cam or meets. Anyone that obviously hasn't bothered to read my profile before messaging is out. Guys that want to talk sex tend to be just after wank material. I only give face pics, it deters the pic hunters. Just listen to your gut feeling and have fun  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I wouldn't meet anyone I wouldn't sit in a coffee shop with.... Basic rule of fab
So where does that leave "us"?
Joe......Its time we showed the pictures..... all this pretending is just teasing, its time we came clean...or filthy, either way.....
*bottom lip trembles and tears well in eyes*
But... but... You told me you loved me?
Thats it, out me in the forums as a heart breaker; your shield maidens will be along in a minute....
12 minutes to UNLOS........()
*opens one eye carefully, making sure no-one's looking sniggers before falling back to the ground thinking, My work here is done*
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Want me to show the pic where I was teaching you how to plough a straight furrow? eh? eh?
You may have won this time, but my next profile (female, 6ft, blonde; gravity defying tits and only slightly bearded ) will DESTROY you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As long as I like the person and how they come across I'm happy, if their not what i expected or it doesn't feel right when we meet I'll tell them politely.
Easy really |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If we like them as people, fancy them and think we can trust them, then we play, if the play goes badly what have we lost? We've enjoyed there company, if the play goes well then great, we don't expect potential play meets to jump through hoops and we won't either, when all is said and done all the build up, flirting and enjoying each other company doesn't mean anything when you start playing! The dynamics may work, they may not..... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Hi all getting a bit addicted to these forums now lol
How do people decide to meet who they meet aside from the obvious things like chat etc I find things that put me off our little things like if a person/ couple have 50 plus veris then I wouldn't even carry on chatting or say in there pics you see a lot of penetrative pics that clearly show no protection am I to picky is it just me ???
But what's wrong with more than 50 plus verifications?"
In my eyes and this is just my opinion just how I look at it loads of veris would say to me the person just sleeps with anything admittedly if a lot of them were social or club based that's a different story as I said that's just my opinion I am not saying g it is right or wrong hence the original post am I being to fussy |
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"I wouldn't meet anyone I wouldn't sit in a coffee shop with.... Basic rule of fab
So where does that leave "us"?
Joe......Its time we showed the pictures..... all this pretending is just teasing, its time we came clean...or filthy, either way.....
*bottom lip trembles and tears well in eyes*
But... but... You told me you loved me?
Thats it, out me in the forums as a heart breaker; your shield maidens will be along in a minute....
12 minutes to UNLOS........()
*opens one eye carefully, making sure no-one's looking sniggers before falling back to the ground thinking, My work here is done*
Want me to show the pic where I was teaching you how to plough a straight furrow? eh? eh?
You may have won this time, but my next profile (female, 6ft, blonde; gravity defying tits and only slightly bearded ) will DESTROY you"
Yeah, yeah, your arse got ploughed... Send my cheque to the usual place  |
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"Hi all getting a bit addicted to these forums now lol
How do people decide to meet who they meet aside from the obvious things like chat etc I find things that put me off our little things like if a person/ couple have 50 plus veris then I wouldn't even carry on chatting or say in there pics you see a lot of penetrative pics that clearly show no protection am I to picky is it just me ???
But what's wrong with more than 50 plus verifications?
In my eyes and this is just my opinion just how I look at it loads of veris would say to me the person just sleeps with anything admittedly if a lot of them were social or club based that's a different story as I said that's just my opinion I am not saying g it is right or wrong hence the original post am I being to fussy"
sleeps with "anything"  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I wouldn't meet anyone I wouldn't sit in a coffee shop with.... Basic rule of fab
So where does that leave "us"?
Joe......Its time we showed the pictures..... all this pretending is just teasing, its time we came clean...or filthy, either way.....
*bottom lip trembles and tears well in eyes*
But... but... You told me you loved me?
Thats it, out me in the forums as a heart breaker; your shield maidens will be along in a minute....
12 minutes to UNLOS........()
*opens one eye carefully, making sure no-one's looking sniggers before falling back to the ground thinking, My work here is done*
Want me to show the pic where I was teaching you how to plough a straight furrow? eh? eh?
You may have won this time, but my next profile (female, 6ft, blonde; gravity defying tits and only slightly bearded ) will DESTROY you
Yeah, yeah, your arse got ploughed... Send my cheque to the usual place "
You took green shield stamps last time..... |
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"Hi all getting a bit addicted to these forums now lol
How do people decide to meet who they meet aside from the obvious things like chat etc I find things that put me off our little things like if a person/ couple have 50 plus veris then I wouldn't even carry on chatting or say in there pics you see a lot of penetrative pics that clearly show no protection am I to picky is it just me ???"
We play with people we like, who we'd like to be friends with.
If they have loads of veries.... well, good for them... just shows they are popular, and they don't mess people around, after all, this is a swinging site last time I checked lol! |
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"Hi all getting a bit addicted to these forums now lol
How do people decide to meet who they meet aside from the obvious things like chat etc I find things that put me off our little things like if a person/ couple have 50 plus veris then I wouldn't even carry on chatting or say in there pics you see a lot of penetrative pics that clearly show no protection am I to picky is it just me ???
But what's wrong with more than 50 plus verifications?
In my eyes and this is just my opinion just how I look at it loads of veris would say to me the person just sleeps with anything admittedly if a lot of them were social or club based that's a different story as I said that's just my opinion I am not saying g it is right or wrong hence the original post am I being to fussy"
Someone one day will define what an "anything" is.... because I am sorry to say OP that term annoys me immensely, people use the term "anything" without defining it..... I guess people's "anythings" are all different? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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If you can afford to be picky then you should be. The wonderful world of fab allows us to be very choosy as there is lots to choose from. And if it works for you, then carry on xx |
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"Hi all getting a bit addicted to these forums now lol
How do people decide to meet who they meet aside from the obvious things like chat etc I find things that put me off our little things like if a person/ couple have 50 plus veris then I wouldn't even carry on chatting or say in there pics you see a lot of penetrative pics that clearly show no protection am I to picky is it just me ???
But what's wrong with more than 50 plus verifications?
In my eyes and this is just my opinion just how I look at it loads of veris would say to me the person just sleeps with anything admittedly if a lot of them were social or club based that's a different story as I said that's just my opinion I am not saying g it is right or wrong hence the original post am I being to fussy
sleeps with "anything" "
 sorry wrong choice of words but you get my point |
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"Hi all getting a bit addicted to these forums now lol
How do people decide to meet who they meet aside from the obvious things like chat etc I find things that put me off our little things like if a person/ couple have 50 plus veris then I wouldn't even carry on chatting or say in there pics you see a lot of penetrative pics that clearly show no protection am I to picky is it just me ???
But what's wrong with more than 50 plus verifications?
In my eyes and this is just my opinion just how I look at it loads of veris would say to me the person just sleeps with anything admittedly if a lot of them were social or club based that's a different story as I said that's just my opinion I am not saying g it is right or wrong hence the original post am I being to fussy
sleeps with "anything"
sorry wrong choice of words but you get my point"
I do get your point to an extent but have you considered that people might only have three verifications on here but be out at the weekend having sex with lots of different people?
In the end you should choose who to meet based on what you feel suits you...that's what we do |
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"Hi all getting a bit addicted to these forums now lol
How do people decide to meet who they meet aside from the obvious things like chat etc I find things that put me off our little things like if a person/ couple have 50 plus veris then I wouldn't even carry on chatting or say in there pics you see a lot of penetrative pics that clearly show no protection am I to picky is it just me ???
Very very carefully with caution on here...If they've more than 20 different veris then I walk by. A potential meet is _iewed to be a regular or no meet happens. Yes I'm picky very picky but it works for me."
Well you have 16 verifications from 11 different women in 4 months. Depending on whether you achieve finding a 'regular', it could be entirely realistic that you reach your 'walk by' limit within a year. |
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"Hi all getting a bit addicted to these forums now lol
How do people decide to meet who they meet aside from the obvious things like chat etc I find things that put me off our little things like if a person/ couple have 50 plus veris then I wouldn't even carry on chatting or say in there pics you see a lot of penetrative pics that clearly show no protection am I to picky is it just me ???
But what's wrong with more than 50 plus verifications?
In my eyes and this is just my opinion just how I look at it loads of veris would say to me the person just sleeps with anything admittedly if a lot of them were social or club based that's a different story as I said that's just my opinion I am not saying g it is right or wrong hence the original post am I being to fussy
sleeps with "anything"
sorry wrong choice of words but you get my point
I do get your point to an extent but have you considered that people might only have three verifications on here but be out at the weekend having sex with lots of different people?
In the end you should choose who to meet based on what you feel suits you...that's what we do "
I know it is in a way my hang up with the way I look at profiles and people I have turned down people that we have got al9ng with really well it's just been a gut feel8ng that something isn't right |
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It's simple, basic requirements of common sense, humour, maturity and an ego thats under control, this narrows the field so dramatically that we will meet everyone who qualifies. |
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"Hi all getting a bit addicted to these forums now lol
How do people decide to meet who they meet aside from the obvious things like chat etc I find things that put me off our little things like if a person/ couple have 50 plus veris then I wouldn't even carry on chatting or say in there pics you see a lot of penetrative pics that clearly show no protection am I to picky is it just me ???
But what's wrong with more than 50 plus verifications?
In my eyes and this is just my opinion just how I look at it loads of veris would say to me the person just sleeps with anything admittedly if a lot of them were social or club based that's a different story as I said that's just my opinion I am not saying g it is right or wrong hence the original post am I being to fussy
sleeps with "anything"
sorry wrong choice of words but you get my point
I do get your point to an extent but have you considered that people might only have three verifications on here but be out at the weekend having sex with lots of different people?
In the end you should choose who to meet based on what you feel suits you...that's what we do
I know it is in a way my hang up with the way I look at profiles and people I have turned down people that we have got al9ng with really well it's just been a gut feel8ng that something isn't right"
Then I think you should carry on doing that, its no good choosing people the way others do it wont work for you. We go on gut feeling too. |
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"Hi all getting a bit addicted to these forums now lol
How do people decide to meet who they meet aside from the obvious things like chat etc I find things that put me off our little things like if a person/ couple have 50 plus veris then I wouldn't even carry on chatting or say in there pics you see a lot of penetrative pics that clearly show no protection am I to picky is it just me ???
But what's wrong with more than 50 plus verifications?
In my eyes and this is just my opinion just how I look at it loads of veris would say to me the person just sleeps with anything admittedly if a lot of them were social or club based that's a different story as I said that's just my opinion I am not saying g it is right or wrong hence the original post am I being to fussy"
Nothing wrong in being fussy. It's you whom you're protecting and it's your choice and your filters. |
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"Thanks for all the input guys answered a few queries I had
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I am sorry if you found my "anything" post a little aggressive; its just one of those "words".... I should probably calm down |
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"Nope. You like what you like. You have preferences, be true to them. We've always found if we ignore or gut instincts it inevitably goes wrong "
Couldn't agree more. Gut instinct is the best way. If someone seems perfect but something at the back of yourself mind is even the slightest bit unsure, don't do it.
And the opposite is true. If your gut says yes but your brain can't figure out why, just relax and go for it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Thanks for all the input guys answered a few queries I had
I am sorry if you found my "anything" post a little aggressive; its just one of those "words".... I should probably calm down "
No not at all honesty is the best policy it's a shame there are a lot of fakes and pretend people on here lol |
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"Hi all getting a bit addicted to these forums now lol
How do people decide to meet who they meet aside from the obvious things like chat etc I find things that put me off our little things like if a person/ couple have 50 plus veris then I wouldn't even carry on chatting or say in there pics you see a lot of penetrative pics that clearly show no protection am I to picky is it just me ???
But what's wrong with more than 50 plus verifications?
In my eyes and this is just my opinion just how I look at it loads of veris would say to me the person just sleeps with anything admittedly if a lot of them were social or club based that's a different story as I said that's just my opinion I am not saying g it is right or wrong hence the original post am I being to fussy
sleeps with "anything"
sorry wrong choice of words but you get my point"
We have 58 verifications from 41 people. I personally have had full blown sex with 14 men since we started swinging 3 years ago. My husband has had full blown sex with 6 women in that time. We have both had various soft play experiences too. As swingers we attend a party approxamately once a month, and we will usually play, and most times will come away with a verification. We do not, by any stretch of the imagination 'sleep with anything'. I've no doubt I would be considered a complete slag in the vanilla world, but I'd rather like to think that in the swing scene, sexual liberation is to be celebrated, not judged or frowned upon. |
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"Hi all getting a bit addicted to these forums now lol
How do people decide to meet who they meet aside from the obvious things like chat etc I find things that put me off our little things like if a person/ couple have 50 plus veris then I wouldn't even carry on chatting or say in there pics you see a lot of penetrative pics that clearly show no protection am I to picky is it just me ???
Very very carefully with caution on here...If they've more than 20 different veris then I walk by. A potential meet is _iewed to be a regular or no meet happens. Yes I'm picky very picky but it works for me.
Well you have 16 verifications from 11 different women in 4 months. Depending on whether you achieve finding a 'regular', it could be entirely realistic that you reach your 'walk by' limit within a year."
I could indeed good job I'm not meeting myself As you so rightly pointed out 11 women....so I'm just over half way if i last a year on here......I have a few regulars and would need to be very special to change that atm.  |
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"I wouldn't meet anyone who says someone has too many verifications.
I wouldn't meet someone who says they won't meet anyone who has had sex with bi men.
I wouldn't meet anyone who says they don't meet women who have sex with non-white men.
I wouldn't meet anyone who looks down on others' way of conducting their sex lives.
Preach! All of these points. The bi men point in particular strikes a chord with me"
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"Hi all getting a bit addicted to these forums now lol
How do people decide to meet who they meet aside from the obvious things like chat etc I find things that put me off our little things like if a person/ couple have 50 plus veris then I wouldn't even carry on chatting or say in there pics you see a lot of penetrative pics that clearly show no protection am I to picky is it just me ???
But what's wrong with more than 50 plus verifications?
In my eyes and this is just my opinion just how I look at it loads of veris would say to me the person just sleeps with anything admittedly if a lot of them were social or club based that's a different story as I said that's just my opinion I am not saying g it is right or wrong hence the original post am I being to fussy
sleeps with "anything"
sorry wrong choice of words but you get my point
We have 58 verifications from 41 people. I personally have had full blown sex with 14 men since we started swinging 3 years ago. My husband has had full blown sex with 6 women in that time. We have both had various soft play experiences too. As swingers we attend a party approxamately once a month, and we will usually play, and most times will come away with a verification. We do not, by any stretch of the imagination 'sleep with anything'. I've no doubt I would be considered a complete slag in the vanilla world, but I'd rather like to think that in the swing scene, sexual liberation is to be celebrated, not judged or frowned upon."
Sorry no offence intended just trying to get different point of _iews regarding this even though we have been on fab for a few years now we are still learning as we go again no offence intended |
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"Hi all getting a bit addicted to these forums now lol
How do people decide to meet who they meet aside from the obvious things like chat etc I find things that put me off our little things like if a person/ couple have 50 plus veris then I wouldn't even carry on chatting or say in there pics you see a lot of penetrative pics that clearly show no protection am I to picky is it just me ???
But what's wrong with more than 50 plus verifications?
In my eyes and this is just my opinion just how I look at it loads of veris would say to me the person just sleeps with anything admittedly if a lot of them were social or club based that's a different story as I said that's just my opinion I am not saying g it is right or wrong hence the original post am I being to fussy
sleeps with "anything"
sorry wrong choice of words but you get my point
I do get your point to an extent but have you considered that people might only have three verifications on here but be out at the weekend having sex with lots of different people?
In the end you should choose who to meet based on what you feel suits you...that's what we do
I know it is in a way my hang up with the way I look at profiles and people I have turned down people that we have got al9ng with really well it's just been a gut feel8ng that something isn't right
Then I think you should carry on doing that, its no good choosing people the way others do it wont work for you. We go on gut feeling too. "
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"Hi all getting a bit addicted to these forums now lol
How do people decide to meet who they meet aside from the obvious things like chat etc I find things that put me off our little things like if a person/ couple have 50 plus veris then I wouldn't even carry on chatting or say in there pics you see a lot of penetrative pics that clearly show no protection am I to picky is it just me ???
Very very carefully with caution on here...If they've more than 20 different veris then I walk by. A potential meet is _iewed to be a regular or no meet happens. Yes I'm picky very picky but it works for me.
Well you have 16 verifications from 11 different women in 4 months. Depending on whether you achieve finding a 'regular', it could be entirely realistic that you reach your 'walk by' limit within a year.
I could indeed good job I'm not meeting myself As you so rightly pointed out 11 women....so I'm just over half way if i last a year on here......I have a few regulars and would need to be very special to change that atm. "
Yes but some people stay on here for years, so verifications build up. And regulars come and go. I only have one regular left from this time last year, so the others have needed replacing. A year from now, who knows? I can't help it if my regulars leave the swing scene, get girls friends etc. I'll be damned if I'm gonna be judged for having too many verifications! |
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"Hi all getting a bit addicted to these forums now lol
How do people decide to meet who they meet aside from the obvious things like chat etc I find things that put me off our little things like if a person/ couple have 50 plus veris then I wouldn't even carry on chatting or say in there pics you see a lot of penetrative pics that clearly show no protection am I to picky is it just me ???
But what's wrong with more than 50 plus verifications?
In my eyes and this is just my opinion just how I look at it loads of veris would say to me the person just sleeps with anything admittedly if a lot of them were social or club based that's a different story as I said that's just my opinion I am not saying g it is right or wrong hence the original post am I being to fussy
sleeps with "anything"
sorry wrong choice of words but you get my point
We have 58 verifications from 41 people. I personally have had full blown sex with 14 men since we started swinging 3 years ago. My husband has had full blown sex with 6 women in that time. We have both had various soft play experiences too. As swingers we attend a party approxamately once a month, and we will usually play, and most times will come away with a verification. We do not, by any stretch of the imagination 'sleep with anything'. I've no doubt I would be considered a complete slag in the vanilla world, but I'd rather like to think that in the swing scene, sexual liberation is to be celebrated, not judged or frowned upon."
I don't take it as being judged or frowned up. It's just a personal choice/preference or filtering system....no different from someone saying they won't meet anyone under 6ft or not interested in bbw or small boobs or big boobs or if they can't kiss or some won't kiss. It's no judgement it's just a filter. |
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"Hi all getting a bit addicted to these forums now lol
How do people decide to meet who they meet aside from the obvious things like chat etc I find things that put me off our little things like if a person/ couple have 50 plus veris then I wouldn't even carry on chatting or say in there pics you see a lot of penetrative pics that clearly show no protection am I to picky is it just me ???
Very very carefully with caution on here...If they've more than 20 different veris then I walk by. A potential meet is _iewed to be a regular or no meet happens. Yes I'm picky very picky but it works for me.
Well you have 16 verifications from 11 different women in 4 months. Depending on whether you achieve finding a 'regular', it could be entirely realistic that you reach your 'walk by' limit within a year.
I could indeed good job I'm not meeting myself As you so rightly pointed out 11 women....so I'm just over half way if i last a year on here......I have a few regulars and would need to be very special to change that atm.
Yes but some people stay on here for years, so verifications build up. And regulars come and go. I only have one regular left from this time last year, so the others have needed replacing. A year from now, who knows? I can't help it if my regulars leave the swing scene, get girls friends etc. I'll be damned if I'm gonna be judged for having too many verifications!"
It's just the way the cookie crumbles...There are many who will not meet unverified people or those who have no public photos or those who will only meet for coffee first etc. |
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"Hi all getting a bit addicted to these forums now lol
How do people decide to meet who they meet aside from the obvious things like chat etc I find things that put me off our little things like if a person/ couple have 50 plus veris then I wouldn't even carry on chatting or say in there pics you see a lot of penetrative pics that clearly show no protection am I to picky is it just me ???
But what's wrong with more than 50 plus verifications?
In my eyes and this is just my opinion just how I look at it loads of veris would say to me the person just sleeps with anything admittedly if a lot of them were social or club based that's a different story as I said that's just my opinion I am not saying g it is right or wrong hence the original post am I being to fussy
sleeps with "anything"
sorry wrong choice of words but you get my point
We have 58 verifications from 41 people. I personally have had full blown sex with 14 men since we started swinging 3 years ago. My husband has had full blown sex with 6 women in that time. We have both had various soft play experiences too. As swingers we attend a party approxamately once a month, and we will usually play, and most times will come away with a verification. We do not, by any stretch of the imagination 'sleep with anything'. I've no doubt I would be considered a complete slag in the vanilla world, but I'd rather like to think that in the swing scene, sexual liberation is to be celebrated, not judged or frowned upon.
Sorry no offence intended just trying to get different point of _iews regarding this even though we have been on fab for a few years now we are still learning as we go again no offence intended"
No I know it wasn't meant personally at us, but it does bother me that there are people who would choose not to meet us simply because our numbers of verifications mean we are too promiscuous. I guess we could hide our summery and most of the veris, then nobody would know. |
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"Hi all getting a bit addicted to these forums now lol
How do people decide to meet who they meet aside from the obvious things like chat etc I find things that put me off our little things like if a person/ couple have 50 plus veris then I wouldn't even carry on chatting or say in there pics you see a lot of penetrative pics that clearly show no protection am I to picky is it just me ???
Very very carefully with caution on here...If they've more than 20 different veris then I walk by. A potential meet is _iewed to be a regular or no meet happens. Yes I'm picky very picky but it works for me.
Well you have 16 verifications from 11 different women in 4 months. Depending on whether you achieve finding a 'regular', it could be entirely realistic that you reach your 'walk by' limit within a year.
I could indeed good job I'm not meeting myself As you so rightly pointed out 11 women....so I'm just over half way if i last a year on here......I have a few regulars and would need to be very special to change that atm.
Yes but some people stay on here for years, so verifications build up. And regulars come and go. I only have one regular left from this time last year, so the others have needed replacing. A year from now, who knows? I can't help it if my regulars leave the swing scene, get girls friends etc. I'll be damned if I'm gonna be judged for having too many verifications!
It's just the way the cookie crumbles...There are many who will not meet unverified people or those who have no public photos or those who will only meet for coffee first etc. "
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I usually trust my instincts..
Lots of verifications means naff all to me as that is what other people think of someone, and I'd much rather find out for myself what they are like...
One thing that is guaranteed to put me off is loads of bj pics showing different women.. as that smacks of scalping lol |
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"Hi all getting a bit addicted to these forums now lol
How do people decide to meet who they meet aside from the obvious things like chat etc I find things that put me off our little things like if a person/ couple have 50 plus veris then I wouldn't even carry on chatting or say in there pics you see a lot of penetrative pics that clearly show no protection am I to picky is it just me ???
But what's wrong with more than 50 plus verifications?
In my eyes and this is just my opinion just how I look at it loads of veris would say to me the person just sleeps with anything admittedly if a lot of them were social or club based that's a different story as I said that's just my opinion I am not saying g it is right or wrong hence the original post am I being to fussy
sleeps with "anything"
sorry wrong choice of words but you get my point
We have 58 verifications from 41 people. I personally have had full blown sex with 14 men since we started swinging 3 years ago. My husband has had full blown sex with 6 women in that time. We have both had various soft play experiences too. As swingers we attend a party approxamately once a month, and we will usually play, and most times will come away with a verification. We do not, by any stretch of the imagination 'sleep with anything'. I've no doubt I would be considered a complete slag in the vanilla world, but I'd rather like to think that in the swing scene, sexual liberation is to be celebrated, not judged or frowned upon.
I don't take it as being judged or frowned up. It's just a personal choice/preference or filtering system....no different from someone saying they won't meet anyone under 6ft or not interested in bbw or small boobs or big boobs or if they can't kiss or some won't kiss. It's no judgement it's just a filter."
I think most people with multiple verifications would take it as being judged as its not a preference based on anything tangible, some people don't like small boobs, white guys etc etc that's tangible, choosing not to play with people as they have lots of verifications has nothing tangible about it, seems many with this opinion don't actually play, however they like the idea of swinging, love the attention, socials etc |
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"Hi all getting a bit addicted to these forums now lol
How do people decide to meet who they meet aside from the obvious things like chat etc I find things that put me off our little things like if a person/ couple have 50 plus veris then I wouldn't even carry on chatting or say in there pics you see a lot of penetrative pics that clearly show no protection am I to picky is it just me ???
But what's wrong with more than 50 plus verifications?
In my eyes and this is just my opinion just how I look at it loads of veris would say to me the person just sleeps with anything admittedly if a lot of them were social or club based that's a different story as I said that's just my opinion I am not saying g it is right or wrong hence the original post am I being to fussy
sleeps with "anything"
sorry wrong choice of words but you get my point
We have 58 verifications from 41 people. I personally have had full blown sex with 14 men since we started swinging 3 years ago. My husband has had full blown sex with 6 women in that time. We have both had various soft play experiences too. As swingers we attend a party approxamately once a month, and we will usually play, and most times will come away with a verification. We do not, by any stretch of the imagination 'sleep with anything'. I've no doubt I would be considered a complete slag in the vanilla world, but I'd rather like to think that in the swing scene, sexual liberation is to be celebrated, not judged or frowned upon.
Sorry no offence intended just trying to get different point of _iews regarding this even though we have been on fab for a few years now we are still learning as we go again no offence intended
No I know it wasn't meant personally at us, but it does bother me that there are people who would choose not to meet us simply because our numbers of verifications mean we are too promiscuous. I guess we could hide our summery and most of the veris, then nobody would know."
yes you could. There are those who skip over those who hide their verifications too. I know someone here who hid the fact they met with groups and MM and thought they might get away with meeting me...some nice person warned me knowing I filter those people out. You can'tthink that you can and have a right to anyone on here. It takes all types...some are happy with bareback and will only do bareback...not everyone here will gladly meet with them, but others will. |
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"Hi all getting a bit addicted to these forums now lol
How do people decide to meet who they meet aside from the obvious things like chat etc I find things that put me off our little things like if a person/ couple have 50 plus veris then I wouldn't even carry on chatting or say in there pics you see a lot of penetrative pics that clearly show no protection am I to picky is it just me ???
But what's wrong with more than 50 plus verifications?
In my eyes and this is just my opinion just how I look at it loads of veris would say to me the person just sleeps with anything admittedly if a lot of them were social or club based that's a different story as I said that's just my opinion I am not saying g it is right or wrong hence the original post am I being to fussy
sleeps with "anything"
sorry wrong choice of words but you get my point
We have 58 verifications from 41 people. I personally have had full blown sex with 14 men since we started swinging 3 years ago. My husband has had full blown sex with 6 women in that time. We have both had various soft play experiences too. As swingers we attend a party approxamately once a month, and we will usually play, and most times will come away with a verification. We do not, by any stretch of the imagination 'sleep with anything'. I've no doubt I would be considered a complete slag in the vanilla world, but I'd rather like to think that in the swing scene, sexual liberation is to be celebrated, not judged or frowned upon.
I don't take it as being judged or frowned up. It's just a personal choice/preference or filtering system....no different from someone saying they won't meet anyone under 6ft or not interested in bbw or small boobs or big boobs or if they can't kiss or some won't kiss. It's no judgement it's just a filter."
If you find a physical attribute unattractive, then that's personal preference. But why would someone need to use numbers of verifications as a filter? Is it promiscuity that you find a turn off? |
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"Hi all getting a bit addicted to these forums now lol
How do people decide to meet who they meet aside from the obvious things like chat etc I find things that put me off our little things like if a person/ couple have 50 plus veris then I wouldn't even carry on chatting or say in there pics you see a lot of penetrative pics that clearly show no protection am I to picky is it just me ???
Very very carefully with caution on here...If they've more than 20 different veris then I walk by. A potential meet is _iewed to be a regular or no meet happens. Yes I'm picky very picky but it works for me.
Well you have 16 verifications from 11 different women in 4 months. Depending on whether you achieve finding a 'regular', it could be entirely realistic that you reach your 'walk by' limit within a year.
I could indeed good job I'm not meeting myself As you so rightly pointed out 11 women....so I'm just over half way if i last a year on here......I have a few regulars and would need to be very special to change that atm.
Yes but some people stay on here for years, so verifications build up. And regulars come and go. I only have one regular left from this time last year, so the others have needed replacing. A year from now, who knows? I can't help it if my regulars leave the swing scene, get girls friends etc. I'll be damned if I'm gonna be judged for having too many verifications!
It's just the way the cookie crumbles...There are many who will not meet unverified people or those who have no public photos or those who will only meet for coffee first etc.
So will you change your rule when you reach over twenty meets?"
I rather doubt I'll reach twenty....we'll I've no intention of meeting that many. My meets are not one offs....not looking or needing any new meets for forseable future. |
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"Hi all getting a bit addicted to these forums now lol
How do people decide to meet who they meet aside from the obvious things like chat etc I find things that put me off our little things like if a person/ couple have 50 plus veris then I wouldn't even carry on chatting or say in there pics you see a lot of penetrative pics that clearly show no protection am I to picky is it just me ???
But what's wrong with more than 50 plus verifications?
In my eyes and this is just my opinion just how I look at it loads of veris would say to me the person just sleeps with anything admittedly if a lot of them were social or club based that's a different story as I said that's just my opinion I am not saying g it is right or wrong hence the original post am I being to fussy
sleeps with "anything"
sorry wrong choice of words but you get my point
We have 58 verifications from 41 people. I personally have had full blown sex with 14 men since we started swinging 3 years ago. My husband has had full blown sex with 6 women in that time. We have both had various soft play experiences too. As swingers we attend a party approxamately once a month, and we will usually play, and most times will come away with a verification. We do not, by any stretch of the imagination 'sleep with anything'. I've no doubt I would be considered a complete slag in the vanilla world, but I'd rather like to think that in the swing scene, sexual liberation is to be celebrated, not judged or frowned upon.
I don't take it as being judged or frowned up. It's just a personal choice/preference or filtering system....no different from someone saying they won't meet anyone under 6ft or not interested in bbw or small boobs or big boobs or if they can't kiss or some won't kiss. It's no judgement it's just a filter.
I think most people with multiple verifications would take it as being judged as its not a preference based on anything tangible, some people don't like small boobs, white guys etc etc that's tangible, choosing not to play with people as they have lots of verifications has nothing tangible about it, seems many with this opinion don't actually play, however they like the idea of swinging, love the attention, socials etc "
I disagree to an extent you say most who look at it l8ke that don't play and like the idea etc and attention totally get where your coming from but we do look at it like that and do play yes we are more in depth as to how we pick people and yes it may be not a tangible way of doing it hence I asked the question originally to get different points of _iew I don't think there is a right or wrong answer regarding this |
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The other thing to consider if you really want to drive yourself mad is this. Even though your prospective meet might only have two very nice verifications how do you know that those two people haven't had sex with 200 people each? |
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"Hi all getting a bit addicted to these forums now lol
How do people decide to meet who they meet aside from the obvious things like chat etc I find things that put me off our little things like if a person/ couple have 50 plus veris then I wouldn't even carry on chatting or say in there pics you see a lot of penetrative pics that clearly show no protection am I to picky is it just me ???
But what's wrong with more than 50 plus verifications?
In my eyes and this is just my opinion just how I look at it loads of veris would say to me the person just sleeps with anything admittedly if a lot of them were social or club based that's a different story as I said that's just my opinion I am not saying g it is right or wrong hence the original post am I being to fussy
sleeps with "anything"
sorry wrong choice of words but you get my point
We have 58 verifications from 41 people. I personally have had full blown sex with 14 men since we started swinging 3 years ago. My husband has had full blown sex with 6 women in that time. We have both had various soft play experiences too. As swingers we attend a party approxamately once a month, and we will usually play, and most times will come away with a verification. We do not, by any stretch of the imagination 'sleep with anything'. I've no doubt I would be considered a complete slag in the vanilla world, but I'd rather like to think that in the swing scene, sexual liberation is to be celebrated, not judged or frowned upon.
I don't take it as being judged or frowned up. It's just a personal choice/preference or filtering system....no different from someone saying they won't meet anyone under 6ft or not interested in bbw or small boobs or big boobs or if they can't kiss or some won't kiss. It's no judgement it's just a filter.
I think most people with multiple verifications would take it as being judged as its not a preference based on anything tangible, some people don't like small boobs, white guys etc etc that's tangible, choosing not to play with people as they have lots of verifications has nothing tangible about it, seems many with this opinion don't actually play, however they like the idea of swinging, love the attention, socials etc "
They can take it however they like but it's tangible both to me and certainly to those I look to meet with too. I guess we think differently to those with loads of veris. Most of those I have met have felt the same way and I guess they also looked for someone regular and who didn't have many veris. |
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"Hi all getting a bit addicted to these forums now lol
How do people decide to meet who they meet aside from the obvious things like chat etc I find things that put me off our little things like if a person/ couple have 50 plus veris then I wouldn't even carry on chatting or say in there pics you see a lot of penetrative pics that clearly show no protection am I to picky is it just me ???
But what's wrong with more than 50 plus verifications?
In my eyes and this is just my opinion just how I look at it loads of veris would say to me the person just sleeps with anything admittedly if a lot of them were social or club based that's a different story as I said that's just my opinion I am not saying g it is right or wrong hence the original post am I being to fussy
sleeps with "anything"
sorry wrong choice of words but you get my point
We have 58 verifications from 41 people. I personally have had full blown sex with 14 men since we started swinging 3 years ago. My husband has had full blown sex with 6 women in that time. We have both had various soft play experiences too. As swingers we attend a party approxamately once a month, and we will usually play, and most times will come away with a verification. We do not, by any stretch of the imagination 'sleep with anything'. I've no doubt I would be considered a complete slag in the vanilla world, but I'd rather like to think that in the swing scene, sexual liberation is to be celebrated, not judged or frowned upon.
Sorry no offence intended just trying to get different point of _iews regarding this even though we have been on fab for a few years now we are still learning as we go again no offence intended
No I know it wasn't meant personally at us, but it does bother me that there are people who would choose not to meet us simply because our numbers of verifications mean we are too promiscuous. I guess we could hide our summery and most of the veris, then nobody would know.
yes you could. There are those who skip over those who hide their verifications too. I know someone here who hid the fact they met with groups and MM and thought they might get away with meeting me...some nice person warned me knowing I filter those people out. You can'tthink that you can and have a right to anyone on here. It takes all types...some are happy with bareback and will only do bareback...not everyone here will gladly meet with them, but others will."
I don't think I have a right to anyone on here. But if someone thinks I'm too promiscuous for their filters, I would question whether that's a bit hypocritical. |
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"Hi all getting a bit addicted to these forums now lol
How do people decide to meet who they meet aside from the obvious things like chat etc I find things that put me off our little things like if a person/ couple have 50 plus veris then I wouldn't even carry on chatting or say in there pics you see a lot of penetrative pics that clearly show no protection am I to picky is it just me ???
But what's wrong with more than 50 plus verifications?
In my eyes and this is just my opinion just how I look at it loads of veris would say to me the person just sleeps with anything admittedly if a lot of them were social or club based that's a different story as I said that's just my opinion I am not saying g it is right or wrong hence the original post am I being to fussy
sleeps with "anything"
sorry wrong choice of words but you get my point
We have 58 verifications from 41 people. I personally have had full blown sex with 14 men since we started swinging 3 years ago. My husband has had full blown sex with 6 women in that time. We have both had various soft play experiences too. As swingers we attend a party approxamately once a month, and we will usually play, and most times will come away with a verification. We do not, by any stretch of the imagination 'sleep with anything'. I've no doubt I would be considered a complete slag in the vanilla world, but I'd rather like to think that in the swing scene, sexual liberation is to be celebrated, not judged or frowned upon.
I don't take it as being judged or frowned up. It's just a personal choice/preference or filtering system....no different from someone saying they won't meet anyone under 6ft or not interested in bbw or small boobs or big boobs or if they can't kiss or some won't kiss. It's no judgement it's just a filter.
I think most people with multiple verifications would take it as being judged as its not a preference based on anything tangible, some people don't like small boobs, white guys etc etc that's tangible, choosing not to play with people as they have lots of verifications has nothing tangible about it, seems many with this opinion don't actually play, however they like the idea of swinging, love the attention, socials etc
They can take it however they like but it's tangible both to me and certainly to those I look to meet with too. I guess we think differently to those with loads of veris. Most of those I have met have felt the same way and I guess they also looked for someone regular and who didn't have many veris."
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"Hi all getting a bit addicted to these forums now lol
How do people decide to meet who they meet aside from the obvious things like chat etc I find things that put me off our little things like if a person/ couple have 50 plus veris then I wouldn't even carry on chatting or say in there pics you see a lot of penetrative pics that clearly show no protection am I to picky is it just me ???
But what's wrong with more than 50 plus verifications?
In my eyes and this is just my opinion just how I look at it loads of veris would say to me the person just sleeps with anything admittedly if a lot of them were social or club based that's a different story as I said that's just my opinion I am not saying g it is right or wrong hence the original post am I being to fussy
sleeps with "anything"
sorry wrong choice of words but you get my point
We have 58 verifications from 41 people. I personally have had full blown sex with 14 men since we started swinging 3 years ago. My husband has had full blown sex with 6 women in that time. We have both had various soft play experiences too. As swingers we attend a party approxamately once a month, and we will usually play, and most times will come away with a verification. We do not, by any stretch of the imagination 'sleep with anything'. I've no doubt I would be considered a complete slag in the vanilla world, but I'd rather like to think that in the swing scene, sexual liberation is to be celebrated, not judged or frowned upon.
I don't take it as being judged or frowned up. It's just a personal choice/preference or filtering system....no different from someone saying they won't meet anyone under 6ft or not interested in bbw or small boobs or big boobs or if they can't kiss or some won't kiss. It's no judgement it's just a filter.
I think most people with multiple verifications would take it as being judged as its not a preference based on anything tangible, some people don't like small boobs, white guys etc etc that's tangible, choosing not to play with people as they have lots of verifications has nothing tangible about it, seems many with this opinion don't actually play, however they like the idea of swinging, love the attention, socials etc
They can take it however they like but it's tangible both to me and certainly to those I look to meet with too. I guess we think differently to those with loads of veris. Most of those I have met have felt the same way and I guess they also looked for someone regular and who didn't have many veris.
tangible in what way? "
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"Hi all getting a bit addicted to these forums now lol
How do people decide to meet who they meet aside from the obvious things like chat etc I find things that put me off our little things like if a person/ couple have 50 plus veris then I wouldn't even carry on chatting or say in there pics you see a lot of penetrative pics that clearly show no protection am I to picky is it just me ???
But what's wrong with more than 50 plus verifications?
In my eyes and this is just my opinion just how I look at it loads of veris would say to me the person just sleeps with anything admittedly if a lot of them were social or club based that's a different story as I said that's just my opinion I am not saying g it is right or wrong hence the original post am I being to fussy
sleeps with "anything"
sorry wrong choice of words but you get my point
We have 58 verifications from 41 people. I personally have had full blown sex with 14 men since we started swinging 3 years ago. My husband has had full blown sex with 6 women in that time. We have both had various soft play experiences too. As swingers we attend a party approxamately once a month, and we will usually play, and most times will come away with a verification. We do not, by any stretch of the imagination 'sleep with anything'. I've no doubt I would be considered a complete slag in the vanilla world, but I'd rather like to think that in the swing scene, sexual liberation is to be celebrated, not judged or frowned upon.
I don't take it as being judged or frowned up. It's just a personal choice/preference or filtering system....no different from someone saying they won't meet anyone under 6ft or not interested in bbw or small boobs or big boobs or if they can't kiss or some won't kiss. It's no judgement it's just a filter.
I think most people with multiple verifications would take it as being judged as its not a preference based on anything tangible, some people don't like small boobs, white guys etc etc that's tangible, choosing not to play with people as they have lots of verifications has nothing tangible about it, seems many with this opinion don't actually play, however they like the idea of swinging, love the attention, socials etc
They can take it however they like but it's tangible both to me and certainly to those I look to meet with too. I guess we think differently to those with loads of veris. Most of those I have met have felt the same way and I guess they also looked for someone regular and who didn't have many veris.
tangible in what way? "
There's a couple we know who attend parties once or twice a month, but don't play, and they are known not to play. They have well over fifty verifications, and only one of them represents a play meet. They are very picky. Numbers of verifications don't mean anything. Likewise there are people who hide their verifications who play all the times. Numbers of verifications seems to be a very unreliable filter. |
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"I wouldn't meet anyone I wouldn't sit in a coffee shop with.... Basic rule of fab
So where does that leave "us"?
Joe......Its time we showed the pictures..... all this pretending is just teasing, its time we came clean...or filthy, either way....."
I agree, let's do it over coffee in a coffee shop |
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"Hi all getting a bit addicted to these forums now lol
How do people decide to meet who they meet aside from the obvious things like chat etc I find things that put me off our little things like if a person/ couple have 50 plus veris then I wouldn't even carry on chatting or say in there pics you see a lot of penetrative pics that clearly show no protection am I to picky is it just me ???
But what's wrong with more than 50 plus verifications?
In my eyes and this is just my opinion just how I look at it loads of veris would say to me the person just sleeps with anything admittedly if a lot of them were social or club based that's a different story as I said that's just my opinion I am not saying g it is right or wrong hence the original post am I being to fussy
sleeps with "anything"
sorry wrong choice of words but you get my point
We have 58 verifications from 41 people. I personally have had full blown sex with 14 men since we started swinging 3 years ago. My husband has had full blown sex with 6 women in that time. We have both had various soft play experiences too. As swingers we attend a party approxamately once a month, and we will usually play, and most times will come away with a verification. We do not, by any stretch of the imagination 'sleep with anything'. I've no doubt I would be considered a complete slag in the vanilla world, but I'd rather like to think that in the swing scene, sexual liberation is to be celebrated, not judged or frowned upon.
I don't take it as being judged or frowned up. It's just a personal choice/preference or filtering system....no different from someone saying they won't meet anyone under 6ft or not interested in bbw or small boobs or big boobs or if they can't kiss or some won't kiss. It's no judgement it's just a filter.
I think most people with multiple verifications would take it as being judged as its not a preference based on anything tangible, some people don't like small boobs, white guys etc etc that's tangible, choosing not to play with people as they have lots of verifications has nothing tangible about it, seems many with this opinion don't actually play, however they like the idea of swinging, love the attention, socials etc
They can take it however they like but it's tangible both to me and certainly to those I look to meet with too. I guess we think differently to those with loads of veris. Most of those I have met have felt the same way and I guess they also looked for someone regular and who didn't have many veris.
tangible in what way?
I guess we'll not understand each other's _iew....just see it as others think differently and have different ways of filtering. "
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"I wouldn't meet anyone who says someone has too many verifications.
I wouldn't meet someone who says they won't meet anyone who has had sex with bi men.
I wouldn't meet anyone who says they don't meet women who have sex with non-white men.
I wouldn't meet anyone who looks down on others' way of conducting their sex lives. "
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"Hi all getting a bit addicted to these forums now lol
How do people decide to meet who they meet aside from the obvious things like chat etc I find things that put me off our little things like if a person/ couple have 50 plus veris then I wouldn't even carry on chatting or say in there pics you see a lot of penetrative pics that clearly show no protection am I to picky is it just me ???
But what's wrong with more than 50 plus verifications?
In my eyes and this is just my opinion just how I look at it loads of veris would say to me the person just sleeps with anything admittedly if a lot of them were social or club based that's a different story as I said that's just my opinion I am not saying g it is right or wrong hence the original post am I being to fussy
sleeps with "anything"
sorry wrong choice of words but you get my point
We have 58 verifications from 41 people. I personally have had full blown sex with 14 men since we started swinging 3 years ago. My husband has had full blown sex with 6 women in that time. We have both had various soft play experiences too. As swingers we attend a party approxamately once a month, and we will usually play, and most times will come away with a verification. We do not, by any stretch of the imagination 'sleep with anything'. I've no doubt I would be considered a complete slag in the vanilla world, but I'd rather like to think that in the swing scene, sexual liberation is to be celebrated, not judged or frowned upon.
I don't take it as being judged or frowned up. It's just a personal choice/preference or filtering system....no different from someone saying they won't meet anyone under 6ft or not interested in bbw or small boobs or big boobs or if they can't kiss or some won't kiss. It's no judgement it's just a filter.
I think most people with multiple verifications would take it as being judged as its not a preference based on anything tangible, some people don't like small boobs, white guys etc etc that's tangible, choosing not to play with people as they have lots of verifications has nothing tangible about it, seems many with this opinion don't actually play, however they like the idea of swinging, love the attention, socials etc
They can take it however they like but it's tangible both to me and certainly to those I look to meet with too. I guess we think differently to those with loads of veris. Most of those I have met have felt the same way and I guess they also looked for someone regular and who didn't have many veris.
tangible in what way?
There's a couple we know who attend parties once or twice a month, but don't play, and they are known not to play. They have well over fifty verifications, and only one of them represents a play meet. They are very picky. Numbers of verifications don't mean anything. Likewise there are people who hide their verifications who play all the times. Numbers of verifications seems to be a very unreliable filter."
The same as in the real world then.
If you meet someone, you don't usually ask how many people they've slept with before deciding to play. |
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"Hi all getting a bit addicted to these forums now lol
How do people decide to meet who they meet aside from the obvious things like chat etc I find things that put me off our little things like if a person/ couple have 50 plus veris then I wouldn't even carry on chatting or say in there pics you see a lot of penetrative pics that clearly show no protection am I to picky is it just me ???"
your would not talk to us then lol.we like showing are varis. as it shows n tells you all about how we are so before your talk to us you have a rough idea what we are like. |
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I go purely on the chat.....I tend not to look at their profile and just see how the conversation pans out...as long as the chat has good banter and there is no sex chat they get a big tick in my book x |
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"Hi all getting a bit addicted to these forums now lol
How do people decide to meet who they meet aside from the obvious things like chat etc I find things that put me off our little things like if a person/ couple have 50 plus veris then I wouldn't even carry on chatting or say in there pics you see a lot of penetrative pics that clearly show no protection am I to picky is it just me ???
But what's wrong with more than 50 plus verifications?
In my eyes and this is just my opinion just how I look at it loads of veris would say to me the person just sleeps with anything admittedly if a lot of them were social or club based that's a different story as I said that's just my opinion I am not saying g it is right or wrong hence the original post am I being to fussy
sleeps with "anything"
sorry wrong choice of words but you get my point
We have 58 verifications from 41 people. I personally have had full blown sex with 14 men since we started swinging 3 years ago. My husband has had full blown sex with 6 women in that time. We have both had various soft play experiences too. As swingers we attend a party approxamately once a month, and we will usually play, and most times will come away with a verification. We do not, by any stretch of the imagination 'sleep with anything'. I've no doubt I would be considered a complete slag in the vanilla world, but I'd rather like to think that in the swing scene, sexual liberation is to be celebrated, not judged or frowned upon.
I don't take it as being judged or frowned up. It's just a personal choice/preference or filtering system....no different from someone saying they won't meet anyone under 6ft or not interested in bbw or small boobs or big boobs or if they can't kiss or some won't kiss. It's no judgement it's just a filter.
I think most people with multiple verifications would take it as being judged as its not a preference based on anything tangible, some people don't like small boobs, white guys etc etc that's tangible, choosing not to play with people as they have lots of verifications has nothing tangible about it, seems many with this opinion don't actually play, however they like the idea of swinging, love the attention, socials etc
They can take it however they like but it's tangible both to me and certainly to those I look to meet with too. I guess we think differently to those with loads of veris. Most of those I have met have felt the same way and I guess they also looked for someone regular and who didn't have many veris.
tangible in what way?
I guess we'll not understand each other's _iew....just see it as others think differently and have different ways of filtering.
But what exactly are you trying to filter out by putting a cap on verification number? "
Maybe it's people who don't want to play regularly with a few regular partners....as it seems most of their meets are then socials. I do my socialising in other ways but not through fab. |
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I decide if i find them attractive and then if i still find them attractive after chatting for a while and they turn out not to be a dick..And..if i have a burning desire to meet them only then, i will. Nothing else influences my decision. |
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"Hi all getting a bit addicted to these forums now lol
How do people decide to meet who they meet aside from the obvious things like chat etc I find things that put me off our little things like if a person/ couple have 50 plus veris then I wouldn't even carry on chatting or say in there pics you see a lot of penetrative pics that clearly show no protection am I to picky is it just me ???
But what's wrong with more than 50 plus verifications?
In my eyes and this is just my opinion just how I look at it loads of veris would say to me the person just sleeps with anything admittedly if a lot of them were social or club based that's a different story as I said that's just my opinion I am not saying g it is right or wrong hence the original post am I being to fussy
sleeps with "anything"
sorry wrong choice of words but you get my point
We have 58 verifications from 41 people. I personally have had full blown sex with 14 men since we started swinging 3 years ago. My husband has had full blown sex with 6 women in that time. We have both had various soft play experiences too. As swingers we attend a party approxamately once a month, and we will usually play, and most times will come away with a verification. We do not, by any stretch of the imagination 'sleep with anything'. I've no doubt I would be considered a complete slag in the vanilla world, but I'd rather like to think that in the swing scene, sexual liberation is to be celebrated, not judged or frowned upon.
I don't take it as being judged or frowned up. It's just a personal choice/preference or filtering system....no different from someone saying they won't meet anyone under 6ft or not interested in bbw or small boobs or big boobs or if they can't kiss or some won't kiss. It's no judgement it's just a filter.
I think most people with multiple verifications would take it as being judged as its not a preference based on anything tangible, some people don't like small boobs, white guys etc etc that's tangible, choosing not to play with people as they have lots of verifications has nothing tangible about it, seems many with this opinion don't actually play, however they like the idea of swinging, love the attention, socials etc
They can take it however they like but it's tangible both to me and certainly to those I look to meet with too. I guess we think differently to those with loads of veris. Most of those I have met have felt the same way and I guess they also looked for someone regular and who didn't have many veris.
tangible in what way?
I guess we'll not understand each other's _iew....just see it as others think differently and have different ways of filtering.
But what exactly are you trying to filter out by putting a cap on verification number?
Maybe it's people who don't want to play regularly with a few regular partners....as it seems most of their meets are then socials. I do my socialising in other ways but not through fab."
I don't meet couples so it's purely hypothetical anyways in this case. |
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I'm here for sex and have met a lot more men than my verifications indicate. You may think some of them are "anythings",they may not want to meet you because they think you are an "anything". They could all be fit as fuck and I get to meet them because I am too |
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We do of course have to remember the higher level of swinger the "royal swinger" who are "professional" look for "quality over quantity" attend only what they perceive as the very best clubs & parties, if you jump through enough hoops they may deem you worthy of a meet one day although there diary is packed with real left stuff (oh yes they have a life outside of fab, unlike the rest of us) so maybe 3 months from now you'll meet for a social |
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"Hi all getting a bit addicted to these forums now lol
How do people decide to meet who they meet aside from the obvious things like chat etc I find things that put me off our little things like if a person/ couple have 50 plus veris then I wouldn't even carry on chatting or say in there pics you see a lot of penetrative pics that clearly show no protection am I to picky is it just me ???
Lots of veris can be from meeting people socially in clubs and couples don't usually use protection with each other so I wouldn't dismiss people on that alone.
See this is my problem I to thought exactly that am I being to harsh in the way I select people lol"
I dont think you are, i completely agree that most couples bareback together and there can be allot of socials to boost someones veris
At the end of the day its your body and your meeting a stranger for sex your head will keep you safe dont get into the habbit of ignoring your gut instinct no matter what people say
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I think for me there are several 'stages' ... Firstly what's their profile like when they've sent me a message, any pictures (if so are they attractive, how old are the pictures) and do we have similar interests, have they bothered to fill anything out?
Next it's how long until they ask for my Kik or whatsapp or whatever, and how the conversation has been going, and how long, like a couple of messages of small talk isn't gonna make me want to talk to them more.
Then its logistics, organizing a meet and how pesky and annoying they are between then and the meet. I get tonnes of messages but rarely meet anyone. I also have to take my safety into consideration, which is another major factor in the decision making process. There are a couple of men I've dropped everything for but it's given them a false sense of themselves and turned them into entitled knobs! |
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"We do of course have to remember the higher level of swinger the "royal swinger" who are "professional" look for "quality over quantity" attend only what they perceive as the very best clubs & parties, if you jump through enough hoops they may deem you worthy of a meet one day although there diary is packed with real left stuff (oh yes they have a life outside of fab, unlike the rest of us) so maybe 3 months from now you'll meet for a social "
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"We do of course have to remember the higher level of swinger the "royal swinger" who are "professional" look for "quality over quantity" attend only what they perceive as the very best clubs & parties, if you jump through enough hoops they may deem you worthy of a meet one day although there diary is packed with real left stuff (oh yes they have a life outside of fab, unlike the rest of us) so maybe 3 months from now you'll meet for a social "
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"Hi all getting a bit addicted to these forums now lol
How do people decide to meet who they meet aside from the obvious things like chat etc I find things that put me off our little things like if a person/ couple have 50 plus veris then I wouldn't even carry on chatting or say in there pics you see a lot of penetrative pics that clearly show no protection am I to picky is it just me ???
But what's wrong with more than 50 plus verifications?
In my eyes and this is just my opinion just how I look at it loads of veris would say to me the person just sleeps with anything admittedly if a lot of them were social or club based that's a different story as I said that's just my opinion I am not saying g it is right or wrong hence the original post am I being to fussy
sleeps with "anything"
sorry wrong choice of words but you get my point
We have 58 verifications from 41 people. I personally have had full blown sex with 14 men since we started swinging 3 years ago. My husband has had full blown sex with 6 women in that time. We have both had various soft play experiences too. As swingers we attend a party approxamately once a month, and we will usually play, and most times will come away with a verification. We do not, by any stretch of the imagination 'sleep with anything'. I've no doubt I would be considered a complete slag in the vanilla world, but I'd rather like to think that in the swing scene, sexual liberation is to be celebrated, not judged or frowned upon.
I don't take it as being judged or frowned up. It's just a personal choice/preference or filtering system....no different from someone saying they won't meet anyone under 6ft or not interested in bbw or small boobs or big boobs or if they can't kiss or some won't kiss. It's no judgement it's just a filter.
I think most people with multiple verifications would take it as being judged as its not a preference based on anything tangible, some people don't like small boobs, white guys etc etc that's tangible, choosing not to play with people as they have lots of verifications has nothing tangible about it, seems many with this opinion don't actually play, however they like the idea of swinging, love the attention, socials etc
They can take it however they like but it's tangible both to me and certainly to those I look to meet with too. I guess we think differently to those with loads of veris. Most of those I have met have felt the same way and I guess they also looked for someone regular and who didn't have many veris.
tangible in what way?
I guess we'll not understand each other's _iew....just see it as others think differently and have different ways of filtering.
But what exactly are you trying to filter out by putting a cap on verification number?
Maybe it's people who don't want to play regularly with a few regular partners....as it seems most of their meets are then socials. I do my socialising in other ways but not through fab."
Yes I think I get what you mean. Myself as a 'swinger', and more specifically someone who attends sex parties with my husband, and has made a whole social lifestyle within that, would not be a suitable match for a single man who wants a few regular single female partners. However our verifications don't reflect numbers of meets (have actually only met 7 men privately from a Fab, the rest are party meets), nor do they reflect numbers of partners. But they do reflect a lifestyle, and everybody we know within the party scene also has verifications reflecting that lifestyle. I usually deliberately find my regular lovers from within our lifestyle too, because they understand me better. I do get twitchy though if people use verifications as a measure of promiscuity, because that is totally inaccurate, and my husband and I are both very particular about who we play we. |
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"Hi all getting a bit addicted to these forums now lol
How do people decide to meet who they meet aside from the obvious things like chat etc I find things that put me off our little things like if a person/ couple have 50 plus veris then I wouldn't even carry on chatting or say in there pics you see a lot of penetrative pics that clearly show no protection am I to picky is it just me ???
Lots of veris can be from meeting people socially in clubs and couples don't usually use protection with each other so I wouldn't dismiss people on that alone.
See this is my problem I to thought exactly that am I being to harsh in the way I select people lol"
I don't think anything is too harsh. I'll turn people down for very petty reasons, known only to me. It's supposed to be fun. I have fun. |
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How do people decide to meet who they meet aside from the obvious things like chat etc I find things that put me off our little things like if a person/ couple have 50 plus veris then I wouldn't even carry on chatting or say in there pics you see a lot of penetrative pics that clearly show no protection am I to picky is it just me ???"
A good barometer for me is knowing what I dont like - I can't say everything I like because I haven't tried everything…… but I am clear on what I dont like, this allows making some choices a bit easier. |
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"Hi all getting a bit addicted to these forums now lol
How do people decide to meet who they meet aside from the obvious things like chat etc I find things that put me off our little things like if a person/ couple have 50 plus veris then I wouldn't even carry on chatting or say in there pics you see a lot of penetrative pics that clearly show no protection am I to picky is it just me ???"
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Lots of people leave this site so all their verifications dont show, i dont always leave men verifications and they dont leave me any, you can choose which ones to show. Im never that sure about who i want to meet, theres nothing wrong with being fussy, just because a few men on here think you should have sex with everyone who messages you. If i think about it too much i wouldnt meet anyone so sometimes i just take a chance and hope for the best. |
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"Hi all getting a bit addicted to these forums now lol
How do people decide to meet who they meet aside from the obvious things like chat etc I find things that put me off our little things like if a person/ couple have 50 plus veris then I wouldn't even carry on chatting or say in there pics you see a lot of penetrative pics that clearly show no protection am I to picky is it just me ???
But what's wrong with more than 50 plus verifications?
In my eyes and this is just my opinion just how I look at it loads of veris would say to me the person just sleeps with anything admittedly if a lot of them were social or club based that's a different story as I said that's just my opinion I am not saying g it is right or wrong hence the original post am I being to fussy
sleeps with "anything"
sorry wrong choice of words but you get my point
We have 58 verifications from 41 people. I personally have had full blown sex with 14 men since we started swinging 3 years ago. My husband has had full blown sex with 6 women in that time. We have both had various soft play experiences too. As swingers we attend a party approxamately once a month, and we will usually play, and most times will come away with a verification. We do not, by any stretch of the imagination 'sleep with anything'. I've no doubt I would be considered a complete slag in the vanilla world, but I'd rather like to think that in the swing scene, sexual liberation is to be celebrated, not judged or frowned upon.
I don't take it as being judged or frowned up. It's just a personal choice/preference or filtering system....no different from someone saying they won't meet anyone under 6ft or not interested in bbw or small boobs or big boobs or if they can't kiss or some won't kiss. It's no judgement it's just a filter."
I don't understand why people get so huffy when anyone says they wouldn't want to meet them. Verifications mean nothing because they could be hidden or social or a drop in the ocean of thousands of meets off the site. However it's still a valid reason for someone to have as their preference. Whether they want to meet someone with less than 10 or more than 50.
If someone doesn't want to meet me because of my size, verifications, age, whatever, I respect that.
Seems some people have guilt complexes and need to transfer their guilt to the people that turn them down, to make themselves feel better. |
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"The non protection pics do put me off,
Oh and a couple I was talking about meeting put pictures up of a FMMMM meet a few days before I was thinking about meeting them, she had everyone of them unprotected and the last pic was legs open with the words every ones spunk
Also another couple asked if the Male could physically put my cock into his wife, Not my thing so I said no
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The first part would put me off, the second my FWB would not do.
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With regards to veris...i understand where you're coming from completely and if there were 2 guys i was interested in and one had 10 veris but all from random types (fat,thin,ugly,pretty etc) and the other had 40 but seemed to be selective i'd go for the one with 40 veris.
I know that my comment will offend some but that's not intended as i know some don't have a type as such...i just mean i personally prefer to meet someone who seems more..lets say..FUSSY.
Just my preference and i think that's all any of us can go off...what suits us and what we're looking for. Thats not to say we are judging others...we like what we like...SIMPLES |
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For us there has to be initial attraction for both of us.We struggle sometimes ,as so many profiles have very little pictures of the male half.
If we liked a couples pics and profile ,we chat a bit to see if we have the same outlook etc,eith a _iew to a social meet.
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I don't see the point in not meeting based on number of verifications, we have met people who don't have any who are fantastic friends now and great in bed! and we have met others with loads who didn't do it for us at all. You don't have your verification summary on your profile OP you could have 100 verifications and only publish 3 to make it look better on yourself. Who knows? you could just not publish any on your profile at all and we wouldn't know, all we would know is you are verified. So it's a pretty arbitrary way to determine who sleeps with "anything" as plenty of people could just hide how many verifications they have.
Anywho on to what makes or breaks a meet for us:
People who only want to meet one of us initially but then change their tune when we say we don't meet alone. - we have meet people like this before and it never worked out for us as it was clear they still only wanted one of us.
People who out on their profile that they won't meet non white people (I am mixed race, that may be white enough for them but I'm not ok with that)
And finally people who give us the heebie jeebies before we even meet. Not a specific thing they have said just an overall not nice feeling about them
Other than that we generally meet anyone for a social and see how things go!
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The way we choose, is that we almost don't deliberately choose. Because we attend parties and have a few regular men, we are rarely actively looking for anyone new. So it's a case of single men for private meets are automatically a no because we don't normally have time to take on anyone new. However from time to time, we stumble across a profile and something sparks. So that's how we normally choose a single man. Those profiles where something sparks, do tend to be fuller, have pictures of a face that I fancy, and say stuff that suggests they understand the psychology of what we're looking for. I tend to glaze over with most male profiles as they are a bit samey, especially if all they have show for themselves are pictures of cocks. If nothing stands out, we tend not to bother, because we don't have much time. We do use verifications to guide us as to whether they are comfortable in an MFM scenario, and we prefer men who are experienced on the swing scene. We also make sure the man is the type we could meet for a drink and have a laugh with, as well as play. However we're increasingly finding that it's easier to get to know men at parties. And we would only ever get to know a couple at parties. To to a certain extent we're no longer really using our profile much for the purposes of private meets. |
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"The applicant stays out on the porch for several days. Each day he is asked to leave. Jack comes out with a broom and begins striking the applicant, telling him he will go back inside and get a shovel. Eventually, after a few days, Tyler invites the man inside, where the applicant shaves his head." |
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"Hi all getting a bit addicted to these forums now lol
How do people decide to meet who they meet aside from the obvious things like chat etc I find things that put me off our little things like if a person/ couple have 50 plus veris then I wouldn't even carry on chatting or say in there pics you see a lot of penetrative pics that clearly show no protection am I to picky is it just me ???
But what's wrong with more than 50 plus verifications?
In my eyes and this is just my opinion just how I look at it loads of veris would say to me the person just sleeps with anything admittedly if a lot of them were social or club based that's a different story as I said that's just my opinion I am not saying g it is right or wrong hence the original post am I being to fussy
sleeps with "anything"
sorry wrong choice of words but you get my point
We have 58 verifications from 41 people. I personally have had full blown sex with 14 men since we started swinging 3 years ago. My husband has had full blown sex with 6 women in that time. We have both had various soft play experiences too. As swingers we attend a party approxamately once a month, and we will usually play, and most times will come away with a verification. We do not, by any stretch of the imagination 'sleep with anything'. I've no doubt I would be considered a complete slag in the vanilla world, but I'd rather like to think that in the swing scene, sexual liberation is to be celebrated, not judged or frowned upon.
I don't take it as being judged or frowned up. It's just a personal choice/preference or filtering system....no different from someone saying they won't meet anyone under 6ft or not interested in bbw or small boobs or big boobs or if they can't kiss or some won't kiss. It's no judgement it's just a filter.
I don't understand why people get so huffy when anyone says they wouldn't want to meet them. Verifications mean nothing because they could be hidden or social or a drop in the ocean of thousands of meets off the site. However it's still a valid reason for someone to have as their preference. Whether they want to meet someone with less than 10 or more than 50.
If someone doesn't want to meet me because of my size, verifications, age, whatever, I respect that.
Seems some people have guilt complexes and need to transfer their guilt to the people that turn them down, to make themselves feel better. "
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"With regards to veris...i understand where you're coming from completely and if there were 2 guys i was interested in and one had 10 veris but all from random types (fat,thin,ugly,pretty etc) and the other had 40 but seemed to be selective i'd go for the one with 40 veris.
I know that my comment will offend some but that's not intended as i know some don't have a type as such...i just mean i personally prefer to meet someone who seems more..lets say..FUSSY.
Just my preference and i think that's all any of us can go off...what suits us and what we're looking for. Thats not to say we are judging others...we like what we like...SIMPLES "
So the man who meets 'random' ones as you say is less fussy? What if he's fussy because those seemily random ons have real personality and character and being a Sapiophile it's their mind that has connected with him and he is less concerned about the physical attributes than with the mind. The 'more fussy' as you put it with more veries may only like women with big tits. How would someone with a great mind, great personality and A cup tits feel with those veries?
I think your comment about selection on veris may be a bit of a shortfall in its method. |
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"We get them to fill in a 50 page questionnaire. If we like the majority of their answers, they move on to the next round.
Lol "
That's actually not far off alot of what is expected here on fab tbh. |
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I don't necessarily go for "looks". But I do go for attraction. I've tried meeting guys I'm not attracted to because our personalities meshed well and I didn't want to be "shallow". Needless to say it wasn't a pleasant experience. I felt slightly repulsed at the thought of even a kiss and the result was to feel like I was a terrible, shallow person.
And then I realised that being attracted to a person IS important and that who I am attracted to is not some conscious choice in my mind where I can look at someone and force myself to find them attractive. It's not because I'm close minded or shallow or only care about looks. It's because attraction means something in the connection and it doesn't always have to do with the way someone looks but a myriad of other things. Their mannerisms, even the way they smell can play a part (pheromones).
I've never gone for "looks" and I've never gone on just "attraction" but I understand that both are important in meeting on here.
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"As a single man, it's simple:
Meet any woman who asks!
You can't afford to be picky!!"
You mean you would fuck ANY woman, and it doesn't matter if you are attracted to her or even like her? You can't be THAT desperate for sex, surely! |
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"As a single man, it's simple:
Meet any woman who asks!
You can't afford to be picky!!"
That's a pretty sad outlook to have!
I'd rather go without sex then have it with someone I don't fancy. |
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"As a single man, it's simple:
Meet any woman who asks!
You can't afford to be picky!!
That's a pretty sad outlook to have!
I'd rather go without sex then have it with someone I don't fancy."
...and they can be few and far between if one doesn't look for regulars |
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I'm not how I choose who I meet, I don't have any set rules
I think for me it simply depends how the conversation goes, some people are really hard to talk to and the conversation dries up very quick then talking to them feels hard work
While with others the conversation just flows
If they are easy to talk to and nice to look at i tend to just take it from there |
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