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Unusual 'Safe' Words?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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We were thinking flowers:
I thought 'Rose' for stop,
'Daisy' for ease off and (wait for it)
'Pansy' for do it harder!!! 
I do think it is important in a new relationship to use safe words as you may not know your own limits, so you need to be able to convey your thoughts and feeling safely and efficiently if you're not managing ..providing you're not gagged of course!!!  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I use mercy. That way she can get into the role and scream stop or dont etc. When she says mercy i can stop and she hasnt had to say anything too silly like bananas lol
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Ooo.. I like 'Mercy' that sounds quite hot!   |
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Tap out....what is this??"
Safe words aren't much use if you are gagged. Tap out is a non verbal alternative.
If I'm with a new person, my safe word is balloon. I tend not to use safe words though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My safe word is 'red' I've never had to use it though. Mr NbN knows my limits.
Mrs NbN "
 traffic light system always works and never changes. Red always means danger or warning as a universal colour. In the BDSM community 90% of people I know use this. I've never ever used my safe word though got close but he took notice of my body language and eased off |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Tap out....what is this??
Safe words aren't much use if you are gagged. Tap out is a non verbal alternative.
If I'm with a new person, my safe word is balloon. I tend not to use safe words though."
Tap out is when your unable to verbally communicate. There are other ways also. But the person giving should be experienced enough to look at you and take your body language etc into consideration also |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The thing is with safe words they are ok if your just 1-1 but if your swinging or doing any other type of group couple sex their needs to be a universal safe word otherwise you forget , so if your in a group setting etc pushing boundaries 'strawberries or mum' just dosent mean anything whereas RED AMBER(universal for stop slow down) is well known
It's ok for soft play in the bedroom but if your doing bdsm edge play or pushing boundaries it's not a thing to take lightly |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The thing is with safe words they are ok if your just 1-1 but if your swinging or doing any other type of group couple sex their needs to be a universal safe word otherwise you forget , so if your in a group setting etc pushing boundaries 'strawberries or mum' just dosent mean anything whereas RED AMBER(universal for stop slow down) is well known
It's ok for soft play in the bedroom but if your doing bdsm edge play or pushing boundaries it's not a thing to take lightly "
The person who is giving should also be aware of body language etc, |
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"The thing is with safe words they are ok if your just 1-1 but if your swinging or doing any other type of group couple sex their needs to be a universal safe word otherwise you forget , so if your in a group setting etc pushing boundaries 'strawberries or mum' just dosent mean anything whereas RED AMBER(universal for stop slow down) is well known
It's ok for soft play in the bedroom but if your doing bdsm edge play or pushing boundaries it's not a thing to take lightly
The person who is giving should also be aware of body language etc, "
That's where clicking my fingers works brilliantly. Hubby will often say 'she'll click her fingers', but, if he forgets, the protagonist will pretty much always stop anyway, because it's such a weird thing to do during a sexual situation! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The thing is with safe words they are ok if your just 1-1 but if your swinging or doing any other type of group couple sex their needs to be a universal safe word otherwise you forget , so if your in a group setting etc pushing boundaries 'strawberries or mum' just dosent mean anything whereas RED AMBER(universal for stop slow down) is well known
It's ok for soft play in the bedroom but if your doing bdsm edge play or pushing boundaries it's not a thing to take lightly
The person who is giving should also be aware of body language etc,
That's where clicking my fingers works brilliantly. Hubby will often say 'she'll click her fingers', but, if he forgets, the protagonist will pretty much always stop anyway, because it's such a weird thing to do during a sexual situation!"
Yes to that , it's all about awerness and tuning into how your sub bottom little etc is behaving. Anyone with experience will know to look for body language , not just a safe word x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The thing is with safe words they are ok if your just 1-1 but if your swinging or doing any other type of group couple sex their needs to be a universal safe word otherwise you forget , so if your in a group setting etc pushing boundaries 'strawberries or mum' just dosent mean anything whereas RED AMBER(universal for stop slow down) is well known
It's ok for soft play in the bedroom but if your doing bdsm edge play or pushing boundaries it's not a thing to take lightly
The person who is giving should also be aware of body language etc,
That's where clicking my fingers works brilliantly. Hubby will often say 'she'll click her fingers', but, if he forgets, the protagonist will pretty much always stop anyway, because it's such a weird thing to do during a sexual situation!"
he understands you and your body language sometimes safe words fale if they are silly but ultimately should never be used. I've only ever used Amber before but it wasn't vocally it was by a tap and eye contact he knew to ease off. It's had for others to understand if they can't comprehend , but things can go wrong have gone wrong unless the person in control understands and is aware of his/her sub and sorrroundings |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The thing is with safe words they are ok if your just 1-1 but if your swinging or doing any other type of group couple sex their needs to be a universal safe word otherwise you forget , so if your in a group setting etc pushing boundaries 'strawberries or mum' just dosent mean anything whereas RED AMBER(universal for stop slow down) is well known
It's ok for soft play in the bedroom but if your doing bdsm edge play or pushing boundaries it's not a thing to take lightly
The person who is giving should also be aware of body language etc,
That's where clicking my fingers works brilliantly. Hubby will often say 'she'll click her fingers', but, if he forgets, the protagonist will pretty much always stop anyway, because it's such a weird thing to do during a sexual situation!
he understands you and your body language sometimes safe words fale if they are silly but ultimately should never be used. I've only ever used Amber before but it wasn't vocally it was by a tap and eye contact he knew to ease off. It's had for others to understand if they can't comprehend , but things can go wrong have gone wrong unless the person in control understands and is aware of his/her sub and sorrroundings "
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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago
Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you) |
I use red & amber but I have never used them yet.....it is easier when you play in a group if everyone uses the same words and we find BDSM very often do and others have random words or none |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
Up on them there hills |
"My safe word is 'red' I've never had to use it though. Mr NbN knows my limits.
Mrs NbN
traffic light system always works and never changes. Red always means danger or warning as a universal colour. In the BDSM community 90% of people I know use this. I've never ever used my safe word though got close but he took notice of my body language and eased off "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ring +44 08900 467 853 ext 543
press 1 for 'ooh that's nice'
2 for 'would you mind slowing down a bit'
3 for 'ok that's enough'
4 for 'do that again and I'll scream the place down'
Thank you for calling the Safe Word company.Your call is important to us.
(calls charged at $1.50 a second) |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Mine is purple........or marry me.....that makes them stop 
'Marry Me'!!!! Haha, that could make them stop - forever!!!
with some that was the intention "
Oh dear...  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Bad wolf = slow down
Big bad wolf = stop
Bad wolf is 2 syllables, and big bad wolf is 3, they are easily represented by ah ah, and ah ah ah, when ball gagged, plus I like Dr who OK! |
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