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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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My friend is going through a messy divorce she has three children. Now I have been supportive but with the divorce getting messy she is involving the kids posting crap on facebook etc and I think it is wrong and that she should keep them out of it. I have tried explaining this but now she has turned on me. Should I stay out of it or go with my instincts as I am only thinking of the kids as they shouldn't have to read thus stuff and they should not be treated like weapons. What should I do as I do not want to loose this friendship x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Tell her not to have anything recorded anywhere that could be used against her later. Tell her the people that write personal shit on Facebook look like absolute cunts that people snigger about. Tell her that she's embarrassing herself. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yeah and maybe not write about it on this type of site especially naming the children and having public pictures where you can be recognised and from there your friend can too. |
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By *pal2Man
over a year ago
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Difficult to stay out of it if you have strong feelings on the subject.
As a friend you should offer advice but theres a time to give it and how you put it across. Your job at the moment should be primarily to support. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I do support but hate seeing the kids upset. Sorry for posting on here easier to ask strangers than get others involved have learned this by working with the Samaritans. And I would never slag or judge anyone behind their backs x |
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Anything on social media can be printed & used against her. Kids should not be used in this way & is highly frowned upon by the Courts. Tell her you want to support her but don't agree with their methods. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Anything on social media can be printed & used against her. Kids should not be used in this way & is highly frowned upon by the Courts. Tell her you want to support her but don't agree with their methods. "
Great advice thank you xxx |
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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago
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Been there too. It's messy and hard and your friend is upset and hurt.
Like others have said social media is not the place for her to be putting comments on to. She needs a time out and eventually everything will get sorted. She should speak to a lawyer and get it sorted. |
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I think so long as you shown your support and given advice to her (whether she listens or not is another thing) you have fulfilled your role as a friend.
She'll probably lose a lot of friends the way she is behaving on Facebook, as no one really wants to see that sort of thing.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Posting stuff online about divorces can be bad
Im divorced and avoided the net for ages and certainly didnt comment on situation
Known people who have taken ex partners to solicitors to use it against them
It might cause issues but you should have a word |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My friend is going through a messy divorce she has three children. Now I have been supportive but with the divorce getting messy she is involving the kids posting crap on facebook etc and I think it is wrong and that she should keep them out of it. I have tried explaining this but now she has turned on me. Should I stay out of it or go with my instincts as I am only thinking of the kids as they shouldn't have to read thus stuff and they should not be treated like weapons. What should I do as I do not want to loose this friendship x"
wrong place to discuss things like that  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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As it's such an emotional issue and time I would write her a letter.
It's so easy for this kinda discussion to escalate and become heated with both sides saying things they might regret.
Putting it in writing gives you time to think about what you want to say and allows her time to absorb and think about what you say.
Saying you are concerned for her and the children etc
Good luck  |
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"Yeah and maybe not write about it on this type of site especially naming the children and having public pictures where you can be recognised and from there your friend can too. "
THIS
THIS
THIS AGAIN AND AGAIN AND AGAIN
WTF????
FFS!!! |
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