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over a year ago
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"I was just at an amazing party but just couldn't pluck up the courage to chat to any of the women there, am just too shy  "
Don't beat yourself up over it - most guys are the same.
You need to know it's not something that will just happen without you putting some effort in and practising though.  |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"I was just at an amazing party but just couldn't pluck up the courage to chat to any of the women there, am just too shy
Don't beat yourself up over it - most guys are the same.
You need to know it's not something that will just happen without you putting some effort in and practising though. "
A lot of women are the same too. Fortunately we can hide behind social tradition and wait for blokes to talk to us! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm naturally shy but have made myself of the years not to be. Every now & then though it comes back for no reason & I'm standing in a room of people feeling tongue tied & awkward.
Sounds a tad cliched but I usually have a few rehearsed topics I can fallback on if need be, so for example now, I'd be able to chat about the Olympics |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am the same.
Don't beat yourself up.
Being the way you are, I promise you this;
You've dodged a few bullets, a few bad eggs.
It will happen, don't rush it!
Happy hunting!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I am the same.
Don't beat yourself up.
Being the way you are, I promise you this;
You've dodged a few bullets, a few bad eggs.
It will happen, don't rush it!
Happy hunting!
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ha good point |
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"Get a t-shirt with a dot matrix display, program it to read "I really fancy you" and activate it at the appropriate times? 
Can you see my T Shirt? 
I think you forgot to put it on  "
This is not what is referred to as "a problem".
Having said that, Kinky Minx: can you provide me some high quality photos of you both in and out of a t-shirt so I can verify for the forum which state you're in? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'm shy too but if I had been at the party, and seen you alone, I would have chatted to you.
I was stood up at a Club by a couple and a single guy recently. I sat at the bar alone for an hr. So I know how it feels. There were mainly couples at the club who didn't seem to want to talk, so I left.
Sending a Virtual hug x |
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Take small steps only. The biggest step for some is not to kick themselves when they are down.
Chat with anyone, whatever the gender, age, looks etc when you get a chance. Habits are addictive, so it's worth repeating many times, outside of parties. Think of practical steps for future party support, included wingmen or telling a host you're not hugely confident and would appreciate intros etc.
But just take small steps and don't pressurise yourself.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Take small steps only. The biggest step for some is not to kick themselves when they are down.
Chat with anyone, whatever the gender, age, looks etc when you get a chance. Habits are addictive, so it's worth repeating many times, outside of parties. Think of practical steps for future party support, included wingmen or telling a host you're not hugely confident and would appreciate intros etc.
But just take small steps and don't pressurise yourself.
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If you are shy, even those small steps seem like giant leaps... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I am the same.
Don't beat yourself up.
Being the way you are, I promise you this;
You've dodged a few bullets, a few bad eggs.
It will happen, don't rush it!
Happy hunting!
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Could be that what you say is true , or could be that the op missed the opportunity to have some fun !
Simple fact is he no doubt went home , on his own , and wished he had been braver .
Fortune favours the brave op ....
Use this as a reason to pluck up the courage to man up and be more outgoing next time .
As the saying goes , it's better to regret the things you have done , than to regret not doing the things you wanted to do .
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm shy and I struggle to go up to people. I've learnt over the years to try and catch someone's eye and smile at them is best usually then this starts a conversation. Really hard in clubs sometimes I've sat alone before now while everyone else mingles around it is a horrible feeling. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm naturally shy but have made myself of the years not to be. Every now & then though it comes back for no reason & I'm standing in a room of people feeling tongue tied & awkward.
Sounds a tad cliched but I usually have a few rehearsed topics I can fallback on if need be, so for example now, I'd be able to chat about the Olympics "
This is what I do. When I'm nervous I do tend to babble on to cover it up, then eventually I relax and just chat normally.
Sarah |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've been amazed finding out so many men are shy.
It's a handicap but it can be overcome "
Loads of us are very shy.  Can't wait until we finally completely lose the social norm about guys taking the initiative. |
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By *ficouldMan
over a year ago
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" catch someone's eye and smile at them is best usually then this starts a conversation. "
Very shy here in large social type situations, I believe as the quoted above is the easiest way to get started
I would never just walk up to an unknown lady and start chatting, if you catch their eye and smile and you get a smile back the ice is broken.
Good luck OP |
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