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Can't send a face pic because of my job?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Be scared incase someone they no sees them or are a couple and won't admit to it.
I work on the Doors of pubs and clubs odds on I will see many people from here so what lol. |
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over a year ago
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Well I work in a school.
Firstly would not like local parents to know, who knows what they'll do with that information.
Secondly, you have to adhere to a set of standards that apply in and out of school in regard to professional behaviour and rightly or wrongly 'swinging' may fall foul of that. |
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"Well I work in a school.
Firstly would not like local parents to know, who knows what they'll do with that information.
Secondly, you have to adhere to a set of standards that apply in and out of school in regard to professional behaviour and rightly or wrongly 'swinging' may fall foul of that. "
Do you not send face pics? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Well I work in a school.
Firstly would not like local parents to know, who knows what they'll do with that information.
Secondly, you have to adhere to a set of standards that apply in and out of school in regard to professional behaviour and rightly or wrongly 'swinging' may fall foul of that. "
But , if i was going to meet you , how can I gauge if I find you attractive without a face pic? Or meet you if I'm wandering round a pub etc, not knowing what you look like ? |
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"Well I work in a school.
Firstly would not like local parents to know, who knows what they'll do with that information.
Secondly, you have to adhere to a set of standards that apply in and out of school in regard to professional behaviour and rightly or wrongly 'swinging' may fall foul of that. "
Yep this  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well I work in a school.
Firstly would not like local parents to know, who knows what they'll do with that information.
Secondly, you have to adhere to a set of standards that apply in and out of school in regard to professional behaviour and rightly or wrongly 'swinging' may fall foul of that. "
So if people never send pics because of this, how do they meet and if parents find out would they really do anything as they are on here also and would hope they would be discreet? Pretty sad state of affairs if someone who may recognise someone on here then goes blabbing and telling on them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Well I work in a school.
Firstly would not like local parents to know, who knows what they'll do with that information.
Secondly, you have to adhere to a set of standards that apply in and out of school in regard to professional behaviour and rightly or wrongly 'swinging' may fall foul of that.
So if people never send pics because of this, how do they meet and if parents find out would they really do anything as they are on here also and would hope they would be discreet? Pretty sad state of affairs if someone who may recognise someone on here then goes blabbing and telling on them. "
Yeah but if I've got to exclude their child or do something they don't agree with, they gonna use that info in some way. It's just too awkward. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I do send in private though. If they aren't willing to send in private that's a bit dodgy.
That's the way to do it and don't meet close to home either  "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Unless I'm missing something or it doesn't work I am thought there is an option of sent pics can only be _iewed and are then disappear? So, I do don't understand people reluctance to send them although in my case I have a valid excuse...
I always look a miserable git in virtually every photo taken of me..puts hand across eyes and shakes head  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well I work in a school.
Firstly would not like local parents to know, who knows what they'll do with that information.
Secondly, you have to adhere to a set of standards that apply in and out of school in regard to professional behaviour and rightly or wrongly 'swinging' may fall foul of that.
So if people never send pics because of this, how do they meet and if parents find out would they really do anything as they are on here also and would hope they would be discreet? Pretty sad state of affairs if someone who may recognise someone on here then goes blabbing and telling on them.
Yeah but if I've got to exclude their child or do something they don't agree with, they gonna use that info in some way. It's just too awkward. "
Not really sure what you're getting at to be honest. I've had a couple of people I know and even a work mate message me in the past, obviously not realising who I am. I deleted their message and blocked them immediately, nothing more said. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Unless I'm missing something or it doesn't work I am thought there is an option of sent pics can only be _iewed and are then disappear? So, I do don't understand people reluctance to send them although in my case I have a valid excuse...
I always look a miserable git in virtually every photo taken of me..puts hand across eyes and shakes head "
I think that might be a site supporter feature only. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What's that all about then? Do employers monitor fab accounts or something ? Or are they secret agents for MI5? "
No face picture no meet that goes for everyone. |
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For some people it's a ruse;
But in many public service jobs( teachers, social workers, police, civil servants, madcap professionals, it would be difficult, professionally, if you were to be recognized.
It depends on circumstances. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Well I work in a school.
Firstly would not like local parents to know, who knows what they'll do with that information.
Secondly, you have to adhere to a set of standards that apply in and out of school in regard to professional behaviour and rightly or wrongly 'swinging' may fall foul of that.
So if people never send pics because of this, how do they meet and if parents find out would they really do anything as they are on here also and would hope they would be discreet? Pretty sad state of affairs if someone who may recognise someone on here then goes blabbing and telling on them.
Yeah but if I've got to exclude their child or do something they don't agree with, they gonna use that info in some way. It's just too awkward.
Not really sure what you're getting at to be honest. I've had a couple of people I know and even a work mate message me in the past, obviously not realising who I am. I deleted their message and blocked them immediately, nothing more said. "
That's you. Others aren't so kind. Lots of people, especially teachers, have had trouble being 'outed' |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Eh?
I have had messages from males. Asked for a face pic and been told, they can't because of their job. "
What do they do when they meet then, wear a balaclava because of their job?! 
I mean what can you do with a pic if them that you can't do if you see them in real life  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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So someone won't send a face pic because of their job,or any other reason.So what? If that's not to your liking forget about them.move on.concentrate on the ones that will.there is someone here for everyone,not everyone for someone. |
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By *manda63Woman
over a year ago
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"Well I work in a school.
Firstly would not like local parents to know, who knows what they'll do with that information.
Secondly, you have to adhere to a set of standards that apply in and out of school in regard to professional behaviour and rightly or wrongly 'swinging' may fall foul of that. "
I have two school jobs and send pics in private. Imho what business is it of the parents? Basically none of their business |
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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago
Paisley |
Some people use kik to get around this and without sharing numbers.
It is rather dodgy if they can't get a face pic somehow. And the old excuse of I don't know how or my phone doesn't do it is a bit lame. |
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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago
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When I first met another (female) forumite in a club, she told me she'd just been chatted up by another guy, who when asked, told her that he couldn't possibly tell her what he did for a loving....
Her response: Alright, calm down 007.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Unless I'm missing something or it doesn't work I am thought there is an option of sent pics can only be _iewed and are then disappear? So, I do don't understand people reluctance to send them although in my case I have a valid excuse...
I always look a miserable git in virtually every photo taken of me..puts hand across eyes and shakes head
I think that might be a site supporter feature only."
Might be wrong but thought you couldn't even message someone without being a site supporter? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well I work in a school.
Firstly would not like local parents to know, who knows what they'll do with that information.
Secondly, you have to adhere to a set of standards that apply in and out of school in regard to professional behaviour and rightly or wrongly 'swinging' may fall foul of that.
So if people never send pics because of this, how do they meet and if parents find out would they really do anything as they are on here also and would hope they would be discreet? Pretty sad state of affairs if someone who may recognise someone on here then goes blabbing and telling on them.
Yeah but if I've got to exclude their child or do something they don't agree with, they gonna use that info in some way. It's just too awkward. "
Awkward I suppose if old ex pupil was some bodies other half in a threesome |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So someone won't send a face pic because of their job,or any other reason.So what? If that's not to your liking forget about them.move on.concentrate on the ones that will.there is someone here for everyone,not everyone for someone."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm governed by professional standards, I have a face pic, no nudity, and polite blurb, the same as I would on a dating site. (This is a legal site after all.)
I'm fairly confident if I was brought to a professional standards hearing my right to a private life would see me right.
If myself and someone else chose to send material privately that's our business as long as the laws of the land are maintained.
So if someone's not prepared to send you a face pic, they're either scared or full of shit! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Anyone who sees your pics on here is, by definition, also on here..... Where's the problem?
Unless you are "fab single" and don't want your partner to know then the problem doesn't really exist. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"So someone won't send a face pic because of their job,or any other reason.So what? If that's not to your liking forget about them.move on.concentrate on the ones that will.there is someone here for everyone,not everyone for someone."
My reason was they wanted to meet, but how can I meet without a face pic? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So someone won't send a face pic because of their job,or any other reason.So what? If that's not to your liking forget about them.move on.concentrate on the ones that will.there is someone here for everyone,not everyone for someone.
My reason was they wanted to meet, but how can I meet without a face pic? "
You turn up and chat to anyone as it could be anyone lol. |
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"So someone won't send a face pic because of their job,or any other reason.So what? If that's not to your liking forget about them.move on.concentrate on the ones that will.there is someone here for everyone,not everyone for someone.
My reason was they wanted to meet, but how can I meet without a face pic? "
They'll be wearing a red carnation with a copy of the Times tucked under their left arm |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What happenes when the person entrusted with private pics gets upset for whatever reason and then threatens or actually leaks those private images to the company you work for or e.g. Parents/Clients who know you?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well one primary school teacher was recently sacked for twerking in a bikini while on holiday and the vid went viral.
Another woman got sacked at a catholic school I'm the mids for wearing a bikini on her Facebook! ! |
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Maybe already said, but we have had face pics and when they turn up, totally different, it puts you in a very awkward position, shame really that people can't put there pics up of who they really are !
We never meet without one. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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OK yes, with us, no face pics, no meets. Totally agree.
But to those of you thinking it's laughable being found out - it does happen, and it happened to us.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think the "I can't send a face pic" is pretty lame to say the least. If it is sent privately what is the receiver really going to do with it......phone the local paper saying your a swinger etc. It is a face pic....it is pretty useless as it is....people are to paranoid...yet they are happy to shop and bank online which carries real risk. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We all have jobs, families etc so I understand not having them on for public _iew but having 1or 2 face pics to send privately there's absolutely no harm!
I stay clear of anyone who refuses to send face pics privately on here or demands mobile number/email details to be able to send 1 xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We all have jobs, families etc so I understand not having them on for public _iew but having 1or 2 face pics to send privately there's absolutely no harm!
I stay clear of anyone who refuses to send face pics privately on here or demands mobile number/email details to be able to send 1 xx "
Totally agree. We were contacted by a 'single fem' on here. She mentioned using kik to send face pics, as she didn't want to send them on here due to the pics being unclear. Instant block. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well I work in a school.
Firstly would not like local parents to know, who knows what they'll do with that information.
Secondly, you have to adhere to a set of standards that apply in and out of school in regard to professional behaviour and rightly or wrongly 'swinging' may fall foul of that.
But , if i was going to meet you , how can I gauge if I find you attractive without a face pic? Or meet you if I'm wandering round a pub etc, not knowing what you look like ? "
It's called KIK messenger! Totally private and without sending your phone number. I will not upload my face pic on here at all. Doesn't make me fake in the slightest! My in person verifications prove this. This site can get hacked. After the whole Swingfield disaster I will not upload my face pic on here. I don't need too. There are many other options. If I'm seen on here by work colleagues, my career would be over. I work in a male dominated industry. There's no way I'm risking my job over providing someone my face pic. Not when there are other options of doing so. If anyone isn't happy with that...tough lol. Plenty more guys that are.
OP you have your way of doing things, let other get on with doing things their way. Happy days! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think the "I can't send a face pic" is pretty lame to say the least. If it is sent privately what is the receiver really going to do with it......phone the local paper saying your a swinger etc. It is a face pic....it is pretty useless as it is....people are to paranoid...yet they are happy to shop and bank online which carries real risk."
Wrong! A popular daily newspaper printed in blurred face pics of people at Swingfields. I dread to think how those people must of felt knowing their families saw what they got upto. Banks do not print personal banking information in newspapers! Same newspaper has been known to send their staff OK to this site to disclose more people and see parties. I used to have my face pic on this site but like heck will I again. That's not being paranoid. That's being sensible. No one has the right calling me fake just because I refuse to load my face pic on here for them to see. I will not be pressured by anyone. Instant block to those that do that. My in person meets verifications prove all anyone needs to know. I'm happy to send my face pic via kik messenger. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What was the Swingfields disaster?"
A swingers open festival. Very popular with hundreds of people's. A daily popular newspaper printed unblurred face pics of swingers onto their newspaper. Exposing them to the British public. They've sent staff on here to expose more people and more sex parties. No way will I risk my private life exposed just to give a demanding person on here my face pic. Not when there are other private options elsewhere. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What's that all about then? Do employers monitor fab accounts or something ? Or are they secret agents for MI5? "
I'm self employed in the medical field so I was a little cautious.... However I concluded if they see me on here then they're on here too  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Send your pic on kik..whats app..etc...or privately on here...but as I said...a pic of a face that someone has sent me is useless to me....apart from me needing to see it prior to a meet. It is pretty useless info..end of.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What was the Swingfields disaster?
A swingers open festival. Very popular with hundreds of people's. A daily popular newspaper printed unblurred face pics of swingers onto their newspaper. Exposing them to the British public. They've sent staff on here to expose more people and more sex parties. No way will I risk my private life exposed just to give a demanding person on here my face pic. Not when there are other private options elsewhere. "
Ooooo wow that's not good at all.. x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What's that all about then? Do employers monitor fab accounts or something ? Or are they secret agents for MI5?
I'm self employed in the medical field so I was a little cautious.... However I concluded if they see me on here then they're on here too "
Yes but then again there's trolls/doxxing |
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By *illnatMan
over a year ago
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"Well I work in a school.
Firstly would not like local parents to know, who knows what they'll do with that information.
Secondly, you have to adhere to a set of standards that apply in and out of school in regard to professional behaviour and rightly or wrongly 'swinging' may fall foul of that.
Yep this "
Agreed I'll send in private but not public. My employer has an Internet code where if you are seen to bring them into disrepute then you're out the door. I firmly believe that being here would fall foul of that. I'm not even allowed too mention who I work for on Facebook so could you imagine what they'd do if they found out I was here? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What was the Swingfields disaster?
A swingers open festival. Very popular with hundreds of people's. A daily popular newspaper printed unblurred face pics of swingers onto their newspaper. Exposing them to the British public. They've sent staff on here to expose more people and more sex parties. No way will I risk my private life exposed just to give a demanding person on here my face pic. Not when there are other private options elsewhere.
Ooooo wow that's not good at all.. x"
I know  . There's some pretty nasty people around. Also on this site too. Revealing my personal info on their status just because I refused to meet them. Some people love trying to humiliate other people. Fab is supposed to be fun. Not bitchy. Not a place to stamp your feet when things don't go your way. So let's just smile and carry on searching for those meets that do match our needs, rather then bitch about those that don't. (Kinky this isn't aimed at you by the way ) x |
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"Well I work in a school.
Firstly would not like local parents to know, who knows what they'll do with that information.
Secondly, you have to adhere to a set of standards that apply in and out of school in regard to professional behaviour and rightly or wrongly 'swinging' may fall foul of that.
But , if i was going to meet you , how can I gauge if I find you attractive without a face pic? Or meet you if I'm wandering round a pub etc, not knowing what you look like ? "
I could always wear my mask in the pub. |
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Both my main job and my second job would have repercusions if it became known that I was on this site. I am perfectly happy to send a face picture by PM, but wouldn't be happy to have it on my public profile.
The image I use is unique to this site because I would not want anyone to use google reverse image search to find any further details about my life. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Well I work in a school.
Firstly would not like local parents to know, who knows what they'll do with that information.
Secondly, you have to adhere to a set of standards that apply in and out of school in regard to professional behaviour and rightly or wrongly 'swinging' may fall foul of that.
But , if i was going to meet you , how can I gauge if I find you attractive without a face pic? Or meet you if I'm wandering round a pub etc, not knowing what you look like ?
I could always wear my mask in the pub. "
But I know what you look like!! |
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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago
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"What was the Swingfields disaster?
A swingers open festival. Very popular with hundreds of people's. A daily popular newspaper printed unblurred face pics of swingers onto their newspaper. Exposing them to the British public. They've sent staff on here to expose more people and more sex parties. No way will I risk my private life exposed just to give a demanding person on here my face pic. Not when there are other private options elsewhere. "
I heard about this a few weeks ago. Won't send my face pic to anyone now and prefer a social to decide |
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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago
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"What's that all about then? Do employers monitor fab accounts or something ? Or are they secret agents for MI5? "
OP would you be willing to send your pic first?
This may be a personal bug-bear of mine but i have found a few people ask for face pics and not send one in return then they either disappear or block you. I find that more annoying as it's a one way street and really puts me off sending any pic.
I know i won't be to everyones taste but do feel there is a general lack of courtesy and politeness on the site even when it's a no  |
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"But how would the other person explain how they came across the face picture of said person? Both people are on a swingers website - bit of a stalemate really!"
But if you were the vicars wife you might be more concerned about people knowing you're on here than the other person is. |
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"What's that all about then? Do employers monitor fab accounts or something ? Or are they secret agents for MI5?
OP would you be willing to send your pic first?
This may be a personal bug-bear of mine but i have found a few people ask for face pics and not send one in return then they either disappear or block you. I find that more annoying as it's a one way street and really puts me off sending any pic.
I know i won't be to everyones taste but do feel there is a general lack of courtesy and politeness on the site even when it's a no "
They either recognised you or didn't fancy you, why would it matter what someone that you're obviously not going to be meeting looks like? A block saves any possible nastiness at being told sorry you not my type |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"What's that all about then? Do employers monitor fab accounts or something ? Or are they secret agents for MI5?
OP would you be willing to send your pic first?
This may be a personal bug-bear of mine but i have found a few people ask for face pics and not send one in return then they either disappear or block you. I find that more annoying as it's a one way street and really puts me off sending any pic.
I know i won't be to everyones taste but do feel there is a general lack of courtesy and politeness on the site even when it's a no "
Yes, for safety reasons I'm not meeting someone I don't know what they look like. Equally I wouldn't expect it the other way round. Plus how do I know it's not a complete waste of time as there's no attraction. Just my observation anyhow.
Kik: I don't like as its mis used. Rather send to a well verified person here.
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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago
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"What's that all about then? Do employers monitor fab accounts or something ? Or are they secret agents for MI5?
OP would you be willing to send your pic first?
This may be a personal bug-bear of mine but i have found a few people ask for face pics and not send one in return then they either disappear or block you. I find that more annoying as it's a one way street and really puts me off sending any pic.
I know i won't be to everyones taste but do feel there is a general lack of courtesy and politeness on the site even when it's a no
They either recognised you or didn't fancy you, why would it matter what someone that you're obviously not going to be meeting looks like? A block saves any possible nastiness at being told sorry you not my type"
Like i said its a personal bug-bear as i find it discourteous. As daft as this may sound I dont mind being told no i do mind rude discourteous behaviour.
As for being recognised then that's more worrying. If someone recognises me but decides to hide themselves is it any different than the swingfields outing that a newspaper did? Invading someones privacy and pitting their private lives out publically? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Both my main job and my second job would have repercusions if it became known that I was on this site. I am perfectly happy to send a face picture by PM, but wouldn't be happy to have it on my public profile.
The image I use is unique to this site because I would not want anyone to use google reverse image search to find any further details about my life."
They say they'll facial recognition software widely available soon that will search faces rather than just duplicate images. Scary. |
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"Both my main job and my second job would have repercusions if it became known that I was on this site. I am perfectly happy to send a face picture by PM, but wouldn't be happy to have it on my public profile.
The image I use is unique to this site because I would not want anyone to use google reverse image search to find any further details about my life.
They say they'll facial recognition software widely available soon that will search faces rather than just duplicate images. Scary. "
Better all stop swinging now then hey |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would never post a face-pic, it tends to scare people away. A nice arse or cock shot should do the trick.....
My profile pic is a picture of a cock.... works for me |
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"I would never post a face-pic, it tends to scare people away. A nice arse or cock shot should do the trick.....
My profile pic is a picture of a cock.... works for me"
Your cock looks like it needs some cheering up?
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over a year ago
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"I would never post a face-pic, it tends to scare people away. A nice arse or cock shot should do the trick.....
My profile pic is a picture of a cock.... works for me"
Surely that's just wasting your time and theirs? If it scares people away then so be it, you weren't their type. |
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By *hav02Man
over a year ago
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It's when the media start portraying individuals here.
There's no reason why the daily mail can't scout here "local MP found on swingers site...!" 
Some people prefer to keep their fab lifestyle private. I'm happy to send a face pic in private... |
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"Well I work in a school.
Firstly would not like local parents to know, who knows what they'll do with that information.
Secondly, you have to adhere to a set of standards that apply in and out of school in regard to professional behaviour and rightly or wrongly 'swinging' may fall foul of that.
Yep this
Agreed I'll send in private but not public. My employer has an Internet code where if you are seen to bring them into disrepute then you're out the door. I firmly believe that being here would fall foul of that. I'm not even allowed too mention who I work for on Facebook so could you imagine what they'd do if they found out I was here? "
Lots of companies have similar rules. I think some people are incredibly naïve. |
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"I do send in private though. If they aren't willing to send in private that's a bit dodgy.
That's the way to do it and don't meet close to home either "
That may work for you but I have no intention of travelling miles for sex. |
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"So someone won't send a face pic because of their job,or any other reason.So what? If that's not to your liking forget about them.move on.concentrate on the ones that will.there is someone here for everyone,not everyone for someone."
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"I'm the queen. So that's why I can't.
Oh go on, nice side profile please, I got a letter to post  "
Damn it queen Clem, had to go and buy your face pic to post my letter  |
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"Well I work in a school.
Firstly would not like local parents to know, who knows what they'll do with that information.
Secondly, you have to adhere to a set of standards that apply in and out of school in regard to professional behaviour and rightly or wrongly 'swinging' may fall foul of that.
Yep this
Agreed I'll send in private but not public. My employer has an Internet code where if you are seen to bring them into disrepute then you're out the door. I firmly believe that being here would fall foul of that. I'm not even allowed too mention who I work for on Facebook so could you imagine what they'd do if they found out I was here?
Lots of companies have similar rules. I think some people are incredibly naïve. "
Indeed, particularly the US based multinationals. |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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I think some people are so desperate for a shag, attention and don't really get that other people play/conduct themselves differently.
Some are in jobs that will not matter, others that it does.
If people try to attract likeminded, people have a hissy fit.
If people dictate how I am expected to conduct myself, they can fuck off. |
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"I think some people are so desperate for a shag, attention and don't really get that other people play/conduct themselves differently.
Some are in jobs that will not matter, others that it does.
If people try to attract likeminded, people have a hissy fit.
If people dictate how I am expected to conduct myself, they can fuck off. "
You have been told before about conducting in tail coat and no trousers, and no amount of fuck offs will get you out of it this time young man
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"I think some people are so desperate for a shag, attention and don't really get that other people play/conduct themselves differently.
Some are in jobs that will not matter, others that it does.
If people try to attract likeminded, people have a hissy fit.
If people dictate how I am expected to conduct myself, they can fuck off. "
Once again I find myself in full agreement. |
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To not have a face pic amongst your public pics is fair enough. As evidenced above.. some people seem to be oblivious for the need to be cautious due to job role and others seem to be much more understanding.
There are 100% definitely jobs that if you were revealed to be on here it would have an impact. Not necessarily a straight up sacking but it would be massively frowned upon and affect your reputation. If face pics were couples with nude pics then could likely be a sacking for many people.
To people saying: "well the person who may reveal this, they're on here too so what's the problem?"
It may not impact on them at all for it to be public knowledge that they're on here. And, more to the point, it really would not take a PhD in being sneaky to reveal it anonymously.
To not send any face pics at all - ie in private, doesn't necessarily suggest they're ugly or cheating etc (it could!) They may just be very very cautious. But in that instance, it's understandable that they're not going to get a meet and they'll have to lump it. |
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"Well I work in a school.
Firstly would not like local parents to know, who knows what they'll do with that information.
Secondly, you have to adhere to a set of standards that apply in and out of school in regard to professional behaviour and rightly or wrongly 'swinging' may fall foul of that.
So if people never send pics because of this, how do they meet and if parents find out would they really do anything as they are on here also and would hope they would be discreet? Pretty sad state of affairs if someone who may recognise someone on here then goes blabbing and telling on them.
Yeah but if I've got to exclude their child or do something they don't agree with, they gonna use that info in some way. It's just too awkward.
Not really sure what you're getting at to be honest. I've had a couple of people I know and even a work mate message me in the past, obviously not realising who I am. I deleted their message and blocked them immediately, nothing more said. "
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I dont do face pics any more. If people insist upon them then ill just have to leave it. There are some jobs where the consequences of being outed would be too great. I suppose the argument could be that those people shouldn't be on here at all, but we all have our limits. There's a big difference between meeting people face to face where both parties are compromised, and having an obvious profile on a public forum which anyone can screenshot. I have been stalked by someone on here I never met, but who recognised me and followed me around town for months. Turned out he lived near me and we worked at same company. My recent partner was also blackmailed after he visited a club and someone found him on linked in. He lost his job. There are people on here who will blackmail and stalk others, and I dont blame people for excercising due diligence especially if being outed would ruin their career and that of those connected to them. |
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to be honest some people possibly cant, there are other ways to send a facepic outwith fab, and not of course reveal mobiles/emails etc..
I met a couple a lot of times..they had tonnes of filthy pics,gazillions of veris, they wouldnt send face pics ever...and she's still one of fabs hottest(and generally really nice people) |
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"I think some people are so desperate for a shag, attention and don't really get that other people play/conduct themselves differently.
Some are in jobs that will not matter, others that it does.
If people try to attract likeminded, people have a hissy fit.
If people dictate how I am expected to conduct myself, they can fuck off. "
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"to be honest some people possibly cant, there are other ways to send a facepic outwith fab, and not of course reveal mobiles/emails etc..
I met a couple a lot of times..they had tonnes of filthy pics,gazillions of veris, they wouldnt send face pics ever...and she's still one of fabs hottest(and generally really nice people)"
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"To not have a face pic amongst your public pics is fair enough. As evidenced above.. some people seem to be oblivious for the need to be cautious due to job role and others seem to be much more understanding.
There are 100% definitely jobs that if you were revealed to be on here it would have an impact. Not necessarily a straight up sacking but it would be massively frowned upon and affect your reputation. If face pics were couples with nude pics then could likely be a sacking for many people.
To people saying: "well the person who may reveal this, they're on here too so what's the problem?"
It may not impact on them at all for it to be public knowledge that they're on here. And, more to the point, it really would not take a PhD in being sneaky to reveal it anonymously.
To not send any face pics at all - ie in private, doesn't necessarily suggest they're ugly or cheating etc (it could!) They may just be very very cautious. But in that instance, it's understandable that they're not going to get a meet and they'll have to lump it. "
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I've never hidden my identity on here through my singles profile or this couples one. I work in the public sector and have no fear that how I conduct my private life, within the law, would impact on that.
That said when I was applying for the Prison Service I was very much made aware how exposed I would be on here and how this kind of behaviour could be deemed to leave me vulnerable for blackmail and therefore would have been a sackable offence.
I think in certain circumstances it is prudent not to be so open, but I think with gut instinct and experience there is no reason at all as to why you can't exchange face pictures with someone you are eventually hoping to meet.
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
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"I've never hidden my identity on here through my singles profile or this couples one. I work in the public sector and have no fear that how I conduct my private life, within the law, would impact on that.
That said when I was applying for the Prison Service I was very much made aware how exposed I would be on here and how this kind of behaviour could be deemed to leave me vulnerable for blackmail and therefore would have been a sackable offence.
I think in certain circumstances it is prudent not to be so open, but I think with gut instinct and experience there is no reason at all as to why you can't exchange face pictures with someone you are eventually hoping to meet.
Cherry "
Did you get the [prison services] job because of the 18 May 2016 photograph? |
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"to be honest some people possibly cant, there are other ways to send a facepic outwith fab, and not of course reveal mobiles/emails etc..
I met a couple a lot of times..they had tonnes of filthy pics,gazillions of veris, they wouldnt send face pics ever...and she's still one of fabs hottest(and generally really nice people)
I've missed you "
awwww x so sweet...throatgub for you anyday xxx |
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"What's that all about then? Do employers monitor fab accounts or something ? Or are they secret agents for MI5? "
Probably a load of shite so you think they have a very important job |
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"What's that all about then? Do employers monitor fab accounts or something ? Or are they secret agents for MI5? "
This old chestnut!
I don't send pictures. I will face cam before a meet.
People can spout all the assumptions they like.
I don't send pictures.
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"What's that all about then? Do employers monitor fab accounts or something ? Or are they secret agents for MI5?
Probably a load of shite so you think they have a very important job"
Oh is THAT why I don't send pictures? Thank god someone told me.
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"Well I work in a school.
Firstly would not like local parents to know, who knows what they'll do with that information.
Secondly, you have to adhere to a set of standards that apply in and out of school in regard to professional behaviour and rightly or wrongly 'swinging' may fall foul of that.
But , if i was going to meet you , how can I gauge if I find you attractive without a face pic? Or meet you if I'm wandering round a pub etc, not knowing what you look like ?
It's called KIK messenger! Totally private and without sending your phone number. I will not upload my face pic on here at all. Doesn't make me fake in the slightest! My in person verifications prove this. This site can get hacked. After the whole Swingfield disaster I will not upload my face pic on here. I don't need too. There are many other options. If I'm seen on here by work colleagues, my career would be over. I work in a male dominated industry. There's no way I'm risking my job over providing someone my face pic. Not when there are other options of doing so. If anyone isn't happy with that...tough lol. Plenty more guys that are.
OP you have your way of doing things, let other get on with doing things their way. Happy days! "
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I can understand not having face pic's on your main profile page but there should not be a problem in sending private face pic's to people they want to meet. |
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"I've never hidden my identity on here through my singles profile or this couples one. I work in the public sector and have no fear that how I conduct my private life, within the law, would impact on that.
That said when I was applying for the Prison Service I was very much made aware how exposed I would be on here and how this kind of behaviour could be deemed to leave me vulnerable for blackmail and therefore would have been a sackable offence.
I think in certain circumstances it is prudent not to be so open, but I think with gut instinct and experience there is no reason at all as to why you can't exchange face pictures with someone you are eventually hoping to meet.
Cherry
Did you get the [prison services] job because of the 18 May 2016 photograph? "
I decided against it in the end... Would have taken the fun out of handcuffs |
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"I would never post a face-pic, it tends to scare people away. A nice arse or cock shot should do the trick.....
My profile pic is a picture of a cock.... works for me
Your cock looks like it needs some cheering up?
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I can't smile in photos; I had it written into a contract with the horn'ed beastie... anyway, what have I got to smile about? Single guys on fab don't smile; well known fact, the ones that do should be avoided; they could be up to something!! |
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"Well I work in a school.
Firstly would not like local parents to know, who knows what they'll do with that information.
Secondly, you have to adhere to a set of standards that apply in and out of school in regard to professional behaviour and rightly or wrongly 'swinging' may fall foul of that.
So if people never send pics because of this, how do they meet and if parents find out would they really do anything as they are on here also and would hope they would be discreet? Pretty sad state of affairs if someone who may recognise someone on here then goes blabbing and telling on them. "
Would rather not take that risk. I have worked hard for my career.. |
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"So someone won't send a face pic because of their job,or any other reason.So what? If that's not to your liking forget about them.move on.concentrate on the ones that will.there is someone here for everyone,not everyone for someone.
My reason was they wanted to meet, but how can I meet without a face pic? "
Then don't meet them,it's as much there prerogative not to send as it is yours to ask.again,concentrate on those that match what you are looking for. |
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"What's that all about then? Do employers monitor fab accounts or something ? Or are they secret agents for MI5?
Probably a load of shite so you think they have a very important job
Oh is THAT why I don't send pictures? Thank god someone told me.
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"So someone won't send a face pic because of their job,or any other reason.So what? If that's not to your liking forget about them.move on.concentrate on the ones that will.there is someone here for everyone,not everyone for someone."
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"What's that all about then? Do employers monitor fab accounts or something ? Or are they secret agents for MI5?
Lol if there that paranoid don't join a sex meeting site xx"
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"Be scared incase someone they no sees them or are a couple and won't admit to it.
I work on the Doors of pubs and clubs odds on I will see many people from here so what lol."
Odds on most people on here wouldn't dare go out looking for fanny in pubs or clubs just in case they actually have to chat people up |
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"So someone won't send a face pic because of their job,or any other reason.So what? If that's not to your liking forget about them.move on.concentrate on the ones that will.there is someone here for everyone,not everyone for someone.
My reason was they wanted to meet, but how can I meet without a face pic?
Then don't meet them,it's as much there prerogative not to send as it is yours to ask.again,concentrate on those that match what you are looking for."
I do get that. I've had a couple of bad experiences hence like a face pic . However reading the thread , I understand some people's reluctance. |
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I've meet my boss's wife and their daughter on this site, I'm discrete and never mentioned it to him even when he sacked me  , it is after all a matter of discretion just being part of this lifestyle.
Oh and I've shagged a WPC too who actually sent me a picture of her face and in uniform too pwooooooooooooooooor |
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I just ignore them. Dont even bother.
Once a guy messaged and said he needed to trust me everything else on his profile was great so thought give him a chance.
I then asked him where he lived now in my head i was asking for a rough location so i could google for somewhere convenient to meet for a social. In his head i wanted his exact address so i could stalk him and out him to his employers. fuck that for a game of soldiers |
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By *S90Man
over a year ago
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I work in the NHS for a profession that has a very strict regulatory body.
They have struck people off the register for less over things they deem to have brought the profession into disrepute in the public's eye.
It could only take a single message to them from someone to trigger a fitness to practice investigation.
I decided to keep my face pictures to friends only and attached to messages for that reason, as it's not worth potentially losing my livelihood over a better looking profile on a sex site. |
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I've no problem with face pictures being sent via a private message on site, my or our gripe is with those who ask for "face" pictures to be sent with message or we will block you, and yet their profile has no pictures at all, and the best one yet is a new profile this very day local to us that has as an opening line "face pictures with all messages or no reply but don't ask us as we are professional and can't or wont send out our face picture not even by E-mail of phone app" .
Guess who is on our Block list even before they contact us lol |
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I work in a public job so no doubt would at some point get recognised if my face pics were public (I made this mistake when I first started on here) however I have no problems showing my face pics to folk I'm chatting to or messaging as its given that should we randomly meet neither of us would say "oh I seen you on fab". So I would say there most likely not really who they make out to be. That's just my opinion  |
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
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"What's that all about then? Do employers monitor fab accounts or something ? Or are they secret agents for MI5? "
I can think of two thousand people who would recognise me if a had my face up as a profile picture .
this fact makes me even think carefully about who I show my face to by that I mean I don't even bother with profiles who say no face picture no reply unless they have their face on show in them circumstance's I will consider approaching them and send a face picture but only if I feel going off of there profile its worth my while doing so . |
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