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How did you break it to your partner?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Quick question.
How did you ever break it to your partner about swinging or trying it out?
Was it awkward?
I'm single at the moment but if I was to get a girlfriend or get married in future, I'd like to carry on swinging with her.
I know I'm thinking slightly ahead but it's playing on my mind.
Would love to know how you guys did it.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I just used my telepathic powers to let him think it was him bringing it up 
On a serious note, honesty communication is the best policy."
Hmm. So was it your idea?
did you just sit down with him and say..hey, I want us to try this?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I just used my telepathic powers to let him think it was him bringing it up
On a serious note, honesty communication is the best policy.
Hmm. So was it your idea?
did you just sit down with him and say..hey, I want us to try this? "
No, we were discussing fantasies and past sexual experiences (we've always been very open with each other), and he suggested we give it a try. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We were both into the fetish lifestyle, swinging came afterwards. So we knew we were both kinky. That makes any discussions easier.
Sarah "
I guess it does. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I just used my telepathic powers to let him think it was him bringing it up
On a serious note, honesty communication is the best policy.
Hmm. So was it your idea?
did you just sit down with him and say..hey, I want us to try this?
No, we were discussing fantasies and past sexual experiences (we've always been very open with each other), and he suggested we give it a try."
Nice.
I'll keep that in mind about discussing past experiences |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Short version: early on in our relationship we got talking about fantasies and past experiences etc
Find out girlfriend is bi, get talking about 3somes. Decide we want to try a 3some with a bi women. The rest is history as we expanded our interests.
Wasn't a case of one of us pushing for it, it was a mutual thing. |
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By *oo hotCouple
over a year ago
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"I just used my telepathic powers to let him think it was him bringing it up
On a serious note, honesty communication is the best policy."
This
You have to talk openly about it as a JOINT adventure. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not a chance in hell I'd tell a future partner about this!!"
If they can't accept me as I am then they're not for me. I'd rather be alone that with someone I can't be honest with. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not a chance in hell I'd tell a future partner about this!!
Haha. Why not? 
Because most people think women that like sex are sluts.
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And why exactly would you want to be with someone who thought that way? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Not a chance in hell I'd tell a future partner about this!!
Haha. Why not?
Because most people think women that like sex are sluts.
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Hmm. I'm not going to lie..I did think that way once upon a time, but times change and so do thoughts.
I've come to the point where you have to accept that be it a woman or a man, we all have our needs |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Be in a relationship first.
You don't know if you'll want to swing. Honest."
Maybe. I guess I'll only know for sure when I'm in one again.
For now though, I'd like to dream about the possibilites and fantasies that I have  |
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Our conversation was something like this.
MrsSB :"I had a really horny dream again "
Mr:"what did you dream about ? "
MrsSB :" I was having sex with a woman and then you fuck us both ".
Mr:"do you have that dream a lot?"
MrsSB :"most nights "
Mr:" let's make your dreams come true "
And they live happily ever after
MrsSB  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not a chance in hell I'd tell a future partner about this!!
Haha. Why not?
Because most people think women that like sex are sluts.
And why exactly would you want to be with someone who thought that way?"
I didn't say I would.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Our conversation was something like this.
MrsSB :"I had a really horny dream again "
Mr:"what did you dream about ? "
MrsSB :" I was having sex with a woman and then you fuck us both ".
Mr:"do you have that dream a lot?"
MrsSB :"most nights "
Mr:" let's make your dreams come true "
And they live happily ever after
MrsSB "
Wow. Amazing Mrs. SB |
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"Our conversation was something like this.
MrsSB :"I had a really horny dream again "
Mr:"what did you dream about ? "
MrsSB :" I was having sex with a woman and then you fuck us both ".
Mr:"do you have that dream a lot?"
MrsSB :"most nights "
Mr:" let's make your dreams come true "
And they live happily ever after
MrsSB
Wow. Amazing Mrs. SB "
True Story |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not a chance in hell I'd tell a future partner about this!!
Haha. Why not?
Because most people think women that like sex are sluts.
And why exactly would you want to be with someone who thought that way?
I didn't say I would. "
But yet you would hide your past from someone just in case they might be that kind of person. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not a chance in hell I'd tell a future partner about this!!
Haha. Why not?
Because most people think women that like sex are sluts.
And why exactly would you want to be with someone who thought that way?
I didn't say I would.
But yet you would hide your past from someone just in case they might be that kind of person."
Yep. My past is my business. I don't tell meets or friends or anyone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not a chance in hell I'd tell a future partner about this!!
Haha. Why not?
Because most people think women that like sex are sluts.
And why exactly would you want to be with someone who thought that way?
I didn't say I would.
But yet you would hide your past from someone just in case they might be that kind of person.
Yep. My past is my business. I don't tell meets or friends or anyone. "
Nor do I, but my partner is someone I don't hide anything from.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I met other half on another kinky site and he told me he was going to chams one night and did I want to go.
Never heard of the place and had no idea these places existed so went along, had amazing night and now there is no stopping us! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I just told her within the first month: made it clear that if she didn't want to swing, she can fuck off..
Here we are, 4 years later, married and she's keener than me now
Love her to bits..
X"
Haha. Brilliant |
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By *exysuzi and Mr.SCouple
over a year ago
CONISTON .Stoke Suburbia. Staffs. BARMOUTH. The Lakes (Monthly) |
We didn't really discuss it. We had sex in the dunes on holiday one day, watched by a few guys. The following day we did it again, and hubby allowed a couple of hot guys to join in.
From there we were hooked. Our first club experience was my special birthday present to my hubby mmmmm Suzi xxxxx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We didn't really discuss it. We had sex in the dunes on holiday one day, watched by a few guys. The following day we did it again, and hubby allowed a couple of hot guys to join in.
From there we were hooked. Our first club experience was my special birthday present to my hubby mmmmm Suzi xxxxx"
Sounds hot! |
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By *oo hotCouple
over a year ago
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Unless your new partner knows about this kind of stuff, she will see your wish to swing as a failing on her part sexually.
We were in this scene within a few months of being together because we spoke about sharing new experiences together and even now many, many years later we just see this as one of our shared hobbies. Neither of us are inclined to do anything that does not also turn the other on and everything we do, we do together. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Unless your new partner knows about this kind of stuff, she will see your wish to swing as a failing on her part sexually.
We were in this scene within a few months of being together because we spoke about sharing new experiences together and even now many, many years later we just see this as one of our shared hobbies. Neither of us are inclined to do anything that does not also turn the other on and everything we do, we do together."
Great point.
I didn't think of it that way. I guess you have to treat it in such a way that you aren't doubting their performance in bed. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I was to get into a relationship again which I don't see happening lol I'd make sure he was into the things I am plus if we clicked I'm having wayyyy too much fun atm being single though lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd probably try and find a partner with the same kinks as me firstly, having a 'vanilla' boyfriend, who had never even thought about this kind thing wouldn't work for me personally speaking.
Say you met the girl of your dreams and then you mentioned in conversation about swinging with her and she refused, would you stay with her despite being everything else you wanted?
That be said, ads and I met here but we would never imagine swinging with anyone, life changes for some people
G x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'd probably try and find a partner with the same kinks as me firstly, having a 'vanilla' boyfriend, who had never even thought about this kind thing wouldn't work for me personally speaking.
Say you met the girl of your dreams and then you mentioned in conversation about swinging with her and she refused, would you stay with her despite being everything else you wanted?
That be said, ads and I met here but we would never imagine swinging with anyone, life changes for some people
G x"
Hmm. Thought provoking.
If she does refuse, then I would definitely have to respect her decision.
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By *exysuzi and Mr.SCouple
over a year ago
CONISTON .Stoke Suburbia. Staffs. BARMOUTH. The Lakes (Monthly) |
"I'd probably try and find a partner with the same kinks as me firstly, having a 'vanilla' boyfriend, who had never even thought about this kind thing wouldn't work for me personally speaking.
Say you met the girl of your dreams and then you mentioned in conversation about swinging with her and she refused, would you stay with her despite being everything else you wanted?
That be said, ads and I met here but we would never imagine swinging with anyone, life changes for some people
G x"
Had to fab your pic guys. You 2 are certainly loved up now. Not long to your 1st anniversary .... love Suzi xxxxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'd probably try and find a partner with the same kinks as me firstly, having a 'vanilla' boyfriend, who had never even thought about this kind thing wouldn't work for me personally speaking.
Say you met the girl of your dreams and then you mentioned in conversation about swinging with her and she refused, would you stay with her despite being everything else you wanted?
That be said, ads and I met here but we would never imagine swinging with anyone, life changes for some people
G x
Had to fab your pic guys. You 2 are certainly loved up now. Not long to your 1st anniversary .... love Suzi xxxxx "
I know!!! It's gone so quick and now we have committed to a house this week too!! Xx |
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By *exysuzi and Mr.SCouple
over a year ago
CONISTON .Stoke Suburbia. Staffs. BARMOUTH. The Lakes (Monthly) |
"I'd probably try and find a partner with the same kinks as me firstly, having a 'vanilla' boyfriend, who had never even thought about this kind thing wouldn't work for me personally speaking.
Say you met the girl of your dreams and then you mentioned in conversation about swinging with her and she refused, would you stay with her despite being everything else you wanted?
That be said, ads and I met here but we would never imagine swinging with anyone, life changes for some people
G x
Had to fab your pic guys. You 2 are certainly loved up now. Not long to your 1st anniversary .... love Suzi xxxxx
I know!!! It's gone so quick and now we have committed to a house this week too!! Xx"
Oh wow..... congrats.... hope all goes well, and no hiccups xxxxx Suzi |
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Depends on the partner, my last girlfriend knew I was on the site and asked me to disable my profile as
A./ her mum was on the site too and
B./ she (ex not the mum) didn't want to be part of the site.
If it was a woman that had never heard of Fab I would talk about our fantasies and histories (leaving out graphic details) and in the early stages of seeing each other ask about online dating ect which sites if any she's been on.
Maybe leave Fab open on my phone while I nip to the loo and let her see the site for herself to ask me about and then go by her reaction |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"How did you ever break it to your partner about swinging or trying it out?
You make it sound like people delivered some kind of bad news!"
Haha. Well it might be bad news to the person you're about to break it to |
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"Not a chance in hell I'd tell a future partner about this!!
Haha. Why not?
Because most people think women that like sex are sluts.
And why exactly would you want to be with someone who thought that way?
I didn't say I would.
But yet you would hide your past from someone just in case they might be that kind of person.
Yep. My past is my business. I don't tell meets or friends or anyone. "
I've changed so much, the past may be interesting but now and the future are the focus. |
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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago
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"How did you ever break it to your partner about swinging or trying it out?
You make it sound like people delivered some kind of bad news!
Haha. Well it might be bad news to the person you're about to break it to "
I used to tell people I dated in a bid to be "honest". They all ran a mile. Apart from one who siad that I was "disgusting" for being on here, we broke up soon after. Now she's on here and bt all accounts meets a lot..... |
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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago
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It was a natural progression from our fantasies. It was never one persons idea we just talked about it, agreed our boundaries and then realised we didn't have the first clue about how to go about making it reality. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Drop the bomb around a warm and fresh pizza "
[Takes a bite out of a slice of pizza]
By the way hun, do you fancy sleeping around with other couples? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Drop the bomb around a warm and fresh pizza
[Takes a bite out of a slice of pizza]
By the way hun, do you fancy sleeping around with other couples? "
Haha it does sound hardh but I guess you have to experience it |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Drop the bomb around a warm and fresh pizza
[Takes a bite out of a slice of pizza]
By the way hun, do you fancy sleeping around with other couples? "
don't go with 'hun' |
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