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Compliments; genuine or not?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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The discussion on self deprecation sparked a bit of self reflection and I'm interested in people's views; how genuine do you feel the compliments you get from fellow fabbers are? Either in messages or veris? I receive some lovely ones that certainly soothe the ego but I always take them with a pinch of salt... Are us women perceived differently through the rose tinted fog of lust on here than the cool light of real life?? Just pondering... |
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"Basically to most we are just a bit of fanny! Just a shag! That's it.
As you said I'd take EVERYTHING with a big pinch of salt. "
Such pessimistic views!
. . Cant a guy just enjoy
Your company and leave an honest compliment without it being over analysed?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Basically to most we are just a bit of fanny! Just a shag! That's it.
As you said I'd take EVERYTHING with a big pinch of salt.
Such pessimistic views!
. . Cant a guy just enjoy
Your company and leave an honest compliment without it being over analysed?
Lol "
I'm not pessimistic in real life!
Here on on fab it's realism. |
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By *GHertsCouple
over a year ago
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I guess by the very nature of the site complimenting others is one of its basic tenets, and at the very centre of how it works.
Whether those compliments are always genuine, or a means to an end though is another matter.
Personally I'd not complimwnt someone on their looks etc unless I genuinely meant them, but then I wouldn't want to meet/play with anyone unless I found them genuinely attractive.
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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
Bristol |
Some are, some aren't. The trick is in knowing the difference and not allowing your sense of self-worth to be defined by other people's perceptions. I refuse to stop making jokey comments or being sarcastic when the occasion warrants just in case people think that's me fishing for compliments since that would also mean I let others define who I am in this online world. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not genuine. Mainly because I don't have face pics for just anyone and still get complimented. I suppose it's part of the flirting process and all, but unless I've met someone in the flesh and they say it to my face, then I don't believe it's genuine. I try not to compliment unless I really mean it, but sometimes it's good to make others feel good. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My public photos say it all. The ones which are not rude at all, just my face, got a few Fabs but as soon as I got my tits out (with bra), they went through the roof. Ho hum. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Not genuine. Mainly because I don't have face pics for just anyone and still get complimented. I suppose it's part of the flirting process and all, but unless I've met someone in the flesh and they say it to my face, then I don't believe it's genuine. I try not to compliment unless I really mean it, but sometimes it's good to make others feel good."
This is interesting... I think I feel similarly. Why be effusive in a verification but not say anything in person? This makes me doubt how genuine the compliment is. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Some are, some aren't. The trick is in knowing the difference and not allowing your sense of self-worth to be defined by other people's perceptions. I refuse to stop making jokey comments or being sarcastic when the occasion warrants just in case people think that's me fishing for compliments since that would also mean I let others define who I am in this online world."
It depends on the compliment and context. If someone says that you are super hot and your tits are totally awesome but they are hitting on you then that seems like a compliment you can disregard. If someone calls you beautiful and you have no pics that show more than boobs or pussy then that also seems like a bit of a stretch.
However if the person complimenting you has no ulterior motive then maybe it's a genuine expression of their opinion on you.
No one should use compliments to validate themselves. You are a magnificent person regardless of whether other people online notice it or not, after all we are all here for self serving interests and it's easy to focus on just what you need rather than what other people need. Likewise we shouldn't use negative feedback as a value of our person either. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I prefer the compliments about the style of pics I post rather than the bog standard ones saying 'nice tits' etc..
But I LOL when they say 'you're gorgeous' as I think 'how on earth can you tell that if you can't see my face!'
Mainly though, compliments are mainly a tool used by the desperate in order to get a shag and are not to be taken seriously |
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"I prefer the compliments about the style of pics I post rather than the bog standard ones saying 'nice tits' etc..
But I LOL when they say 'you're gorgeous' as I think 'how on earth can you tell that if you can't see my face!'
Mainly though, compliments are mainly a tool used by the desperate in order to get a shag and are not to be taken seriously "
That is such nonsense!
Now sit on my face you long legged length of loveliness!!
I beg you!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm happy to receive / give compliments from those I consider friends as I think they are the ones that will mean something to me.
'Nice tits / arse, stunning, beautiful' are lines usually dolled out to all & sundry on here.
If every 'compliment' received was genuine I should then surely be at the top of everyone's to do / best women list, which quite clearly isn't the case. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My public photos say it all. The ones which are not rude at all, just my face, got a few Fabs but as soon as I got my tits out (with bra), they went through the roof. Ho hum. "
Oh sorry, was it you I was meant to be fabbing. I just appreciate black underwear. ;o)
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"The discussion on self deprecation sparked a bit of self reflection and I'm interested in people's views; how genuine do you feel the compliments you get from fellow fabbers are? Either in messages or veris? I receive some lovely ones that certainly soothe the ego but I always take them with a pinch of salt... Are us women perceived differently through the rose tinted fog of lust on here than the cool light of real life?? Just pondering..."
All compliments can be seen as a gambit to get in your knickers. Only if you know the person well giving them well can you decide how genuine they are. |
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"Basically to most we are just a bit of fanny! Just a shag! That's it.
As you said I'd take EVERYTHING with a big pinch of salt. "
This! 
Still amazed at the preening displayed by some who believe their own press.
They want to get into your knickers love. You can go from Kate Moss to Ann Widdecombe in a message so keep it real! |
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
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"The discussion on self deprecation sparked a bit of self reflection and I'm interested in people's views; how genuine do you feel the compliments you get from fellow fabbers are? Either in messages or veris? I receive some lovely ones that certainly soothe the ego but I always take them with a pinch of salt... Are us women perceived differently through the rose tinted fog of lust on here than the cool light of real life?? Just pondering..."
I can't speak for other men but if I pay someone a compliment it has no ulterior motive apart from its a compliment .
I'm not saying it to win favour or to impress I'm saying it because I was impressed end of.
That's how I roll so I expect every compliment I receive to be genuine because every compliment I issue out will be genuine with out and devoid of any ulterior motives .
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Basically to most we are just a bit of fanny! Just a shag! That's it.
As you said I'd take EVERYTHING with a big pinch of salt.
This!
Still amazed at the preening displayed by some who believe their own press.
They want to get into your knickers love. You can go from Kate Moss to Ann Widdecombe in a message so keep it real! "
And then they do a thread about it.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I thank them but I don't believe them. I just think it's what people say to get a bit really; nothing more.
If I actually get to know them however, then I'll possibly give some weight to their comments but generally it's BS to me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My public photos say it all. The ones which are not rude at all, just my face, got a few Fabs but as soon as I got my tits out (with bra), they went through the roof. Ho hum.
Oh sorry, was it you I was meant to be fabbing. I just appreciate black underwear. ;o)
Q
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Ah ha!!! See??? I knew it!  |
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What!!! What!!! You mean the 23 year olds who say I only look 30 are lying?
I can see myself, I know I'm not bad for an old bird but I also have a finely honed bull shit detector. It's all part of the game.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Compliments before seeing my face pic/me in the flesh are taken with a pinch of salt and a polite thankyou. Compliments after they have spent time in my company are worth more than gold and give me a warm fuzzy feeling inside 
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"My public photos say it all. The ones which are not rude at all, just my face, got a few Fabs but as soon as I got my tits out (with bra), they went through the roof. Ho hum.
Oh sorry, was it you I was meant to be fabbing. I just appreciate black underwear. ;o)
Q
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Ah ha!!! See??? I knew it! "
Shouldn't be so...you are a lovely looking woman...and although I must admit I did fab the black bra thing...it wouldn't have been so popular if it didn't include your face.
Tit's are tits and their attractiveness is largely linked to the context applied by who owns them.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I send compliments to people and I genuinely mean them..99% of the time a meet will never be on the cards and I usually state I don't need a reply. I hope that the people I've complimented have taken it as genuine and with no ulterior motive. |
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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago
not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds) |
Depends what's said...
If it's from someone I've not met saying I've got the best cock or whatever.. I'm happy to have the message but it's like yeah whatever.
If it's about my profile or a forum post etc I'm more inclined to think it's sincere. |
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
West Wales |
"Some are, some aren't. The trick is in knowing the difference and not allowing your sense of self-worth to be defined by other people's perceptions. I refuse to stop making jokey comments or being sarcastic when the occasion warrants just in case people think that's me fishing for compliments since that would also mean I let others define who I am in this online world.
It depends on the compliment and context. If someone says that you are super hot and your tits are totally awesome but they are hitting on you then that seems like a compliment you can disregard. If someone calls you beautiful and you have no pics that show more than boobs or pussy then that also seems like a bit of a stretch.
However if the person complimenting you has no ulterior motive then maybe it's a genuine expression of their opinion on you.
No one should use compliments to validate themselves. You are a magnificent person regardless of whether other people online notice it or not, after all we are all here for self serving interests and it's easy to focus on just what you need rather than what other people need. Likewise we shouldn't use negative feedback as a value of our person either. "
I compliment the ladies on their pics whether they fit our profile or not, acomplimented body/feature is to be complimented, whether you could or would want to have it is a different matter. I have also fabbed a couple of guy pics as I know the effort involved to get what some have, but do this less due to the "Fab" straight thing..
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I never compliment without meaning it. But the "you have the best body/arse/tits" "you're gorgeous" messages are accepted but I do know they say the same thing to hundreds of other women they cast the net wide |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I just accept them as compliments - even in person compliments often have an ulterior motive so I'm not going to worry my head about it too much.
Given that pretty much everyone has something that can be complimented, I enjoy handing them out as much as I enjoy receiving them! |
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I find this particularly thorny mostly because I think what I find beautiful and attractive is not conventional, so if I compliment a lady on her body or her look, her profile etc I think sometimes it's not taken as genuine, when in fact it is totally genuine. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think you will find compliments of all types here just like when you meet people in real life. Some people mean it..some don't perhaps because they have another motive. I suppose what I find odd is that there are a lot of women...tho by no means all showing their body off...boobs..bum..sexy lingerie...surely they must..expect comments about it. I fab and comment on some great profiles and pixs...do I think I will get in a girls knixs because of it...no....I really doubt it. But if you have it and and you flaunt it...then take the compliments and not worry. I used to see a woman at work....one time I took the courage to say what I felt...that I thought she was stunning....and I always thought it...and I just think she thought I was mad. I don't see her now..changed jobs...but I really meant it...and I wanted her to know even more so because I think her confidence was low ..husband had an affair..it was meant honestly...and sure...it wasn't a sex thing..I'd love to have dated her. . |
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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago
Pleasuretown |
"Basically to most we are just a bit of fanny! Just a shag! That's it.
As you said I'd take EVERYTHING with a big pinch of salt.
Such pessimistic views!
. . Cant a guy just enjoy
Your company and leave an honest compliment without it being over analysed?
Lol
I'm not pessimistic in real life!
Here on on fab it's realism. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My public photos say it all. The ones which are not rude at all, just my face, got a few Fabs but as soon as I got my tits out (with bra), they went through the roof. Ho hum.
Oh sorry, was it you I was meant to be fabbing. I just appreciate black underwear. ;o)
Q
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Ah ha!!! See??? I knew it! "
Mind you if you had one with your hair up that would be super-fabable. Chignon/French plait maybe  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I take all compliments with a pinch of salt. The compliment they give to me they've given to every female they've messaged. You can look like Quasimodo and they will tell you your the most stunning person on site. A lot of people will say anything to get in your knickers. |
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