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Ladies why so much self-deprecation?
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over a year ago
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"So that guys reply telling them not to be daft and how gorgeous/sexy/perfect they are! It's called fishing for compliments 
Gold medal for that brave reply  "
Seen it far too often on here and usually from the same attention-seeking few. Not an attractive trait  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"So that guys reply telling them not to be daft and how gorgeous/sexy/perfect they are! It's called fishing for compliments "
I will genuinely never understand your wily ways, find you ladies far to confusing at times. |
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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago
Hereford |
To be honest, if you want to actually scratch beneath the surface, there is lot of pressure on women to look a certain way, and I think younger blokes are starting to feel the same thing (I've certainly noticed a difference in younger guys body image to that which I had when i was a similar age).
Lots of incredibly attractive women have no confidence at all.
As a father to a girl, I worry about this. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"To be honest, if you want to actually scratch beneath the surface, there is lot of pressure on women to look a certain way, and I think younger blokes are starting to feel the same thing (I've certainly noticed a difference in younger guys body image to that which I had when i was a similar age).
Lots of incredibly attractive women have no confidence at all.
As a father to a girl, I worry about this. "
Well.said |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Because some of us like taking the piss and don't make serious forum comments all the time?"
You'd think the laughing emojis would give it away. Apparently not
I suppose sarcasm is the lowest form of wit  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So that guys reply telling them not to be daft and how gorgeous/sexy/perfect they are! It's called fishing for compliments
I will genuinely never understand your wily ways, find you ladies far to confusing at times."
I wasn't fishing lol I can assure you that.
I genuinely have dry spells so was merely stating a fact. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So that guys reply telling them not to be daft and how gorgeous/sexy/perfect they are! It's called fishing for compliments
Gold medal for that brave reply
Seen it far too often on here and usually from the same attention-seeking few. Not an attractive trait "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Could be sarcasm, banter, genuinely feeling frumpy and unattractive to name a few.
We all have our off days. It's hard being a lady y'know!"
I want that mug  |
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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
Bristol |
"Could be sarcasm, banter, genuinely feeling frumpy and unattractive to name a few.
We all have our off days. It's hard being a lady y'know!
I want that mug "
I want to use what's written on that mug as a veri. It would be fucking hilarious.  |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"Could be sarcasm, banter, genuinely feeling frumpy and unattractive to name a few.
We all have our off days. It's hard being a lady y'know!
I want that mug
I want to use what's written on that mug as a veri. It would be fucking hilarious. "
I was thinking about writing it across my next meet and taking photos  |
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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
Bristol |
"Could be sarcasm, banter, genuinely feeling frumpy and unattractive to name a few.
We all have our off days. It's hard being a lady y'know!
I want that mug
I want to use what's written on that mug as a veri. It would be fucking hilarious.
I was thinking about writing it across my next meet and taking photos "
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"Perhaps I asked the question wrong, all I was trying to say was the ladies in question had no reason to....you are all beautiful "
Ahhh.
No, we're not.
Beauty is subjective and most of us will be attractive to some people. However, it's unlikely there is anyone in the world that would find all of us beautiful. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Perhaps I asked the question wrong, all I was trying to say was the ladies in question had no reason to....you are all beautiful
Ahhh.
No, we're not.
Beauty is subjective and most of us will be attractive to some people. However, it's unlikely there is anyone in the world that would find all of us beautiful."
I generally don't know what to say to that! A blind man or Jesus, it is Sunday, seem too flippant somehow |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"Perhaps I asked the question wrong, all I was trying to say was the ladies in question had no reason to....you are all beautiful
Ahhh.
No, we're not.
Beauty is subjective and most of us will be attractive to some people. However, it's unlikely there is anyone in the world that would find all of us beautiful.
I generally don't know what to say to that! A blind man or Jesus, it is Sunday, seem too flippant somehow "
How about not saying patently daft things to try to curry favour with the women here, presumably in the hope it will help you get sex, in the first place? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Could be sarcasm, banter, genuinely feeling frumpy and unattractive to name a few.
We all have our off days. It's hard being a lady y'know!
I want that mug "
Available as part of the MrsB merchandise range. I lamppost piss with a mug. It graces workdesks and comes with a matching coaster too. I feel it gives a more personal touch. |
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"So that guys reply telling them not to be daft and how gorgeous/sexy/perfect they are! It's called fishing for compliments
Gold medal for that brave reply
Seen it far too often on here and usually from the same attention-seeking few. Not an attractive trait "
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Personally guys who message me saying I'm gorgeous, sexy, beautiful, etc make me nervous - it's bullshit!
I'm a realist and have a mirror, I know what I look like and I am certainly not perfect, BUT I have a fabulous sense of humour. Let's face it with a body and face like mine I need it!!!!! Lol xx |
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"Personally guys who message me saying I'm gorgeous, sexy, beautiful, etc make me nervous - it's bullshit!
I'm a realist and have a mirror, I know what I look like and I am certainly not perfect, BUT I have a fabulous sense of humour. Let's face it with a body and face like mine I need it!!!!! Lol xx"
Well tigger seems to like it |
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"On recent thread many ladies putting themselves down, "munter" "lucky to get laid" etc, why?"
Sad and needy fishing for compliments. Usually the same types that post pictures of their open fannies with names like washedupslut4u, complaining about the zillion messages they have from men treating them like erm...washed up sluts, go figure.
Some how they know how to upload pics of themselves yet struggle to set filters to stop the "unwanted" attention.
#yeahright |
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"So that guys reply telling them not to be daft and how gorgeous/sexy/perfect they are! It's called fishing for compliments
Gold medal for that brave reply
Seen it far too often on here and usually from the same attention-seeking few. Not an attractive trait "
Pathetic is what comes to mind. |
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"On recent thread many ladies putting themselves down, "munter" "lucky to get laid" etc, why?
Sad and needy fishing for compliments. Usually the same types that post pictures of their open fannies with names like washedupslut4u, complaining about the zillion messages they have from men treating them like erm...washed up sluts, go figure.
Some how they know how to upload pics of themselves yet struggle to set filters to stop the "unwanted" attention.
#yeahright"
Check you out, blasting through the forums, like a gale of fresh air |
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"On recent thread many ladies putting themselves down, "munter" "lucky to get laid" etc, why?
Sad and needy fishing for compliments. Usually the same types that post pictures of their open fannies with names like washedupslut4u, complaining about the zillion messages they have from men treating them like erm...washed up sluts, go figure.
Some how they know how to upload pics of themselves yet struggle to set filters to stop the "unwanted" attention.
#yeahright"
No way, women on here do that?!
Get outta town.... ()
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By (user no longer on site)
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"On recent thread many ladies putting themselves down, "munter" "lucky to get laid" etc, why?
Sad and needy fishing for compliments. Usually the same types that post pictures of their open fannies with names like washedupslut4u, complaining about the zillion messages they have from men treating them like erm...washed up sluts, go figure.
Some how they know how to upload pics of themselves yet struggle to set filters to stop the "unwanted" attention.
#yeahright
Check you out, blasting through the forums, like a gale of fresh air "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"On recent thread many ladies putting themselves down, "munter" "lucky to get laid" etc, why?
Sad and needy fishing for compliments. Usually the same types that post pictures of their open fannies with names like washedupslut4u, complaining about the zillion messages they have from men treating them like erm...washed up sluts, go figure.
Some how they know how to upload pics of themselves yet struggle to set filters to stop the "unwanted" attention.
#yeahright"
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"On recent thread many ladies putting themselves down, "munter" "lucky to get laid" etc, why?
Sad and needy fishing for compliments. Usually the same types that post pictures of their open fannies with names like washedupslut4u, complaining about the zillion messages they have from men treating them like erm...washed up sluts, go figure.
Some how they know how to upload pics of themselves yet struggle to set filters to stop the "unwanted" attention.
#yeahright
Check you out, blasting through the forums, like a gale of fresh air "
Not had my morning coffee yet. The coffee maker is still snoring beside me! |
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"On recent thread many ladies putting themselves down, "munter" "lucky to get laid" etc, why?
Sad and needy fishing for compliments. Usually the same types that post pictures of their open fannies with names like washedupslut4u, complaining about the zillion messages they have from men treating them like erm...washed up sluts, go figure.
Some how they know how to upload pics of themselves yet struggle to set filters to stop the "unwanted" attention.
#yeahright
Check you out, blasting through the forums, like a gale of fresh air
Not had my morning coffee yet. The coffee maker is still snoring beside me! "
Does that mean you'll participate in the needy thread, once you've been soothed by coffee |
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"On recent thread many ladies putting themselves down, "munter" "lucky to get laid" etc, why?
Sad and needy fishing for compliments. Usually the same types that post pictures of their open fannies with names like washedupslut4u, complaining about the zillion messages they have from men treating them like erm...washed up sluts, go figure.
Some how they know how to upload pics of themselves yet struggle to set filters to stop the "unwanted" attention.
#yeahright
Check you out, blasting through the forums, like a gale of fresh air
Not had my morning coffee yet. The coffee maker is still snoring beside me!
Does that mean you'll participate in the needy thread, once you've been soothed by coffee "
Yes...He should be awake with coffee then up for a shag. This lack of attention will drive me to start a "who likes black bbws?" thread...then again I may just wake him up! |
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"To be honest, if you want to actually scratch beneath the surface, there is lot of pressure on women to look a certain way, and I think younger blokes are starting to feel the same thing (I've certainly noticed a difference in younger guys body image to that which I had when i was a similar age).
Lots of incredibly attractive women have no confidence at all.
As a father to a girl, I worry about this. "
I agree so it's down to us as parents to put a little perspective on thing's and instill that confidence in them |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Its a dichotomy isn't it? You'd think somewhere like fab would be great for an ego boost, but we're probably *more* open to being rejected on sites like this, than anywhere else. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"To be honest, if you want to actually scratch beneath the surface, there is lot of pressure on women to look a certain way, and I think younger blokes are starting to feel the same thing (I've certainly noticed a difference in younger guys body image to that which I had when i was a similar age).
Lots of incredibly attractive women have no confidence at all.
As a father to a girl, I worry about this.
I agree so it's down to us as parents to put a little perspective on thing's and instill that confidence in them"
Perspective, that's a great thing to say. Looks aren't the be all and end all, although when it comes to nsa, fab, etc., it's going to be the first criteria. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm stretching I'm yawning I'm fluffing and rolling round in my bed trying to psyche myself up to go downstairs and make a cuppa tea.
Right what's the op, right yeah, I'll never put my external appearance down because all that is perfect, it's my inner workings that I will criticise but I sit fishing or compliments when I do that I'm just pre warning people that I am a bit of a melt! |
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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
Bristol |
"low self esteem."
Or maybe, just maybe (as in the thread the OP is referring to) they simply have a sense of the absurd and the ensuing self-deprecation was a comment in a humorous context without any hidden motive whatsoever? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"low self esteem.
Or maybe, just maybe (as in the thread the OP is referring to) they simply have a sense of the absurd and the ensuing self-deprecation was a comment in a humorous context without any hidden motive whatsoever?"
Nah not possible, they're all just desperately needy - and need telling so repeatedly in derogatory terms.
Of course, the men who attempt to capitalise on this vulnerability are entirely blameless.
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"So that guys reply telling them not to be daft and how gorgeous/sexy/perfect they are! It's called fishing for compliments
Gold medal for that brave reply
Seen it far too often on here and usually from the same attention-seeking few. Not an attractive trait "
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Its a very unattractive trait in men and women and surely if they felt like that they wouldnt post the pictures they do. Some do it for attention.
But then there is the joking about ones which make me laugh.
Im always joking about being old a past it, i doubt anyone takes me serious for one moment |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Its a very unattractive trait in men and women and surely if they felt like that they wouldnt post the pictures they do. Some do it for attention.
But then there is the joking about ones which make me laugh.
Im always joking about being old a past it, i doubt anyone takes me serious for one moment"
I do |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"low self esteem.
Or maybe, just maybe (as in the thread the OP is referring to) they simply have a sense of the absurd and the ensuing self-deprecation was a comment in a humorous context without any hidden motive whatsoever?"
^^^ this
Last time I'll make a tongue in cheek comment |
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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
Bristol |
"low self esteem.
Or maybe, just maybe (as in the thread the OP is referring to) they simply have a sense of the absurd and the ensuing self-deprecation was a comment in a humorous context without any hidden motive whatsoever?
^^^ this
Last time I'll make a tongue in cheek comment "
But that would be self-censoring in case someone you don't know and will probably never meet reads something into a comment you make in good faith. At which point their issue becomes your issue. So post as you see fit; if others don't get it then does that really matter in the grander scheme of things? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"low self esteem.
Or maybe, just maybe (as in the thread the OP is referring to) they simply have a sense of the absurd and the ensuing self-deprecation was a comment in a humorous context without any hidden motive whatsoever?
^^^ this
Last time I'll make a tongue in cheek comment
But that would be self-censoring in case someone you don't know and will probably never meet reads something into a comment you make in good faith. At which point their issue becomes your issue. So post as you see fit; if others don't get it then does that really matter in the grander scheme of things?"
Actually you're right. If some people aren't capable of reading more than the words (especially when this is used) it's not my problem |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"low self esteem.
Or maybe, just maybe (as in the thread the OP is referring to) they simply have a sense of the absurd and the ensuing self-deprecation was a comment in a humorous context without any hidden motive whatsoever?
^^^ this
Last time I'll make a tongue in cheek comment
But that would be self-censoring in case someone you don't know and will probably never meet reads something into a comment you make in good faith. At which point their issue becomes your issue. So post as you see fit; if others don't get it then does that really matter in the grander scheme of things?
Actually you're right. If some people aren't capable of reading more than the words (especially when this is used) it's not my problem "
You tell 'em Pussycat |
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"Its a very unattractive trait in men and women and surely if they felt like that they wouldnt post the pictures they do. Some do it for attention.
But then there is the joking about ones which make me laugh.
Im always joking about being old a past it, i doubt anyone takes me serious for one moment"
I think we can tell the difference. 
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Maybe some days our confidence does get dented when faced with the messages of
"Didn't think you could afford to be fussy? .......hence you having to be on a site like this to get sex.
Please don't flatter yourself"
When you politely say no thank you.
And that is today's nicer messages this mornings from one man was vile!
We are flesh and blood. We have feelings and sometimes things get to us and make us doubt ourselves. |
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