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Just been reminded how terribly single I am. Ex just called to invite me to her wedding. In the three years since we split, she's moved on, found someone new, moved in and now are to be wed.
Incredibly happy for the them both but all I've done in that time is shag strangers!!
Here's to all the single people who enjoy swinging but sometimes wish they could share it with someone else.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I wasn't single I wouldn't be swinging. But I'd love to have a kinky guy in my life.
I've been invited to a wedding with a plus one and so has another friend with her hubby. Her 10 yr old son overheard us talking about me having no one to go with and he offered to come..... he even asked if it would be ok if he could casual as he doesn't do smart casual x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm just going to have to accept that a woman like me (outspoken, no interest in kids, plus size, fruity jobs) can get shags a plenty but not a relationship."
You never know what the future holds.  |
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over a year ago
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"I'm just going to have to accept that a woman like me (outspoken, no interest in kids, plus size, fruity jobs) can get shags a plenty but not a relationship."
You could meet 'the one' tomorrow or next year, but until you do .. carry on shagging lol  |
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
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"I'm just going to have to accept that a woman like me (outspoken, no interest in kids, plus size, fruity jobs) can get shags a plenty but not a relationship.
You never know what the future holds. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There are times that I find being single rather lonely, but after dating some complete arseholes, and now a fair bit of time on my own, I won't be dating again. |
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over a year ago
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"I'm just going to have to accept that a woman like me (outspoken, no interest in kids, plus size, fruity jobs) can get shags a plenty but not a relationship."
I do not think any of those things would put the right person off. I wish the plus size women or outspoken women would stop seeing those things as a negative. Personally l prefer curvy woman and one that knows her own mind. I think people mistake outspoken and saying the truth with outspoken for the sake of it and talking rubbish, the latter is off putting no matter the gender or relationship. |
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Aah thanks guys.
Would feel better if a friend who asked me to go to Torture Garden with him hadn't just left me in the smoking area so he could bugger off take part in an orgy. Wouldn't have minded if I'd been asked  |
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over a year ago
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"I'm just going to have to accept that a woman like me (outspoken, no interest in kids, plus size, fruity jobs) can get shags a plenty but not a relationship.
I do not think any of those things would put the right person off. I wish the plus size women or outspoken women would stop seeing those things as a negative. Personally l prefer curvy woman and one that knows her own mind. I think people mistake outspoken and saying the truth with outspoken for the sake of it and talking rubbish, the latter is off putting no matter the gender or relationship."
Depends what 'outspoken' means.
The grass is always greener OP. I'm sure you would find things you miss about being single. |
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I sometimes feel like I'd like a relationship again but in all honesty I don't think I'd know how anymore. I've got very used to being single and think it's made me very intolerant to others. Not in a uncaring way don't think that will ever be me but I won't entertain arguments any more. Think I'm getting old if I'm honest |
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over a year ago
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A worthy lament and one I understand well enough. I have been on my own for five years and there isn't a day I don't miss my ex and the family life I had. I've sorted much out in my mind...I don't look at my ex and love like I once did... she's met someone else now... that's fine...but when a family breaks up so so much is lost. I do sometimes wonder if I'll meet the right woman to be with again tho...best of luck OP...! |
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"Aah thanks guys.
Would feel better if a friend who asked me to go to Torture Garden with him hadn't just left me in the smoking area so he could bugger off take part in an orgy. Wouldn't have minded if I'd been asked "
And hes a friend ???...
.....make some new ones hunny  |
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"A worthy lament and one I understand well enough. I have been on my own for five years and there isn't a day I don't miss my ex and the family life I had. I've sorted much out in my mind...I don't look at my ex and love like I once did... she's met someone else now... that's fine...but when a family breaks up so so much is lost. I do sometimes wonder if I'll meet the right woman to be with again tho...best of luck OP...!"
Aweeee .... you sounded lovley ..... UNTIL ...I read you like to meet women between the size of 12 - 16 ......
Good luck there then ....  |
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"A worthy lament and one I understand well enough. I have been on my own for five years and there isn't a day I don't miss my ex and the family life I had. I've sorted much out in my mind...I don't look at my ex and love like I once did... she's met someone else now... that's fine...but when a family breaks up so so much is lost. I do sometimes wonder if I'll meet the right woman to be with again tho...best of luck OP...!
Aweeee .... you sounded lovley ..... UNTIL ...I read you like to meet women between the size of 12 - 16 ......
Good luck there then .... "
Most men wouldn't have a clue what dress size a women in unless he reads her labels!!  |
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"A worthy lament and one I understand well enough. I have been on my own for five years and there isn't a day I don't miss my ex and the family life I had. I've sorted much out in my mind...I don't look at my ex and love like I once did... she's met someone else now... that's fine...but when a family breaks up so so much is lost. I do sometimes wonder if I'll meet the right woman to be with again tho...best of luck OP...!
Aweeee .... you sounded lovley ..... UNTIL ...I read you like to meet women between the size of 12 - 16 ......
Good luck there then ....
Most men wouldn't have a clue what dress size a women in unless he reads her labels!! "
...lol....this guy just happens too...having a retail background...I just like a curvy woman...but not too large a lady...trying to put that politely....and busty too...! |
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"A worthy lament and one I understand well enough. I have been on my own for five years and there isn't a day I don't miss my ex and the family life I had. I've sorted much out in my mind...I don't look at my ex and love like I once did... she's met someone else now... that's fine...but when a family breaks up so so much is lost. I do sometimes wonder if I'll meet the right woman to be with again tho...best of luck OP...!
Aweeee .... you sounded lovley ..... UNTIL ...I read you like to meet women between the size of 12 - 16 ......
Good luck there then .... "
. Thanks for the nice comment....I can still be a lovely guy you know....!!!!!! |
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"I'm just going to have to accept that a woman like me (outspoken, no interest in kids, plus size, fruity jobs) can get shags a plenty but not a relationship."
After my divorce and one disastrous rebound relationship I "shut down" and had no intention of having another relationship. I joined adult site purely for sex, and if they got needy/clingy I was off!
Everything worked fine until November 2013 when someone sent me a message about a comment I'd made in the forums. We exchanged several messages, nothing sexual, we were just on the same wavelength.
We spoke on the phone and he sent me his picture. I was going to block him after that as he looked like a cross between Jason Statham and Bruce Willis...I'm more Monique than Beyonce. For the first time since meeting strangers for sex I was nervous and doubted myself. I nearly cancelled the meet as I thought this 6ft 1 Dutch man, who speaks six languages and used to dating slender, leggy European is not going to be interested in me, but I met him anyway.
He had gone to the other entrance to the museum we were meeting at and came running to where I was. He dropped to his knees and said "sorry I'm late!" to the amusement of the people around us...We've not been apart since, even though on our first date we discovered we were polar opposites in almost everything.
He's a ukip voting, business owner, never married with a loathing for kids whilst I'm a tree hugging, leftie union trouble maker (his words), mother and grandmother.
He moved in with me and is snoring away beside me.
If this fat, old bird can pull a Jason lookalike on here without even trying, there's hope for all!   |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm just going to have to accept that a woman like me (outspoken, no interest in kids, plus size, fruity jobs) can get shags a plenty but not a relationship.
After my divorce and one disastrous rebound relationship I "shut down" and had no intention of having another relationship. I joined adult site purely for sex, and if they got needy/clingy I was off!
Everything worked fine until November 2013 when someone sent me a message about a comment I'd made in the forums. We exchanged several messages, nothing sexual, we were just on the same wavelength.
We spoke on the phone and he sent me his picture. I was going to block him after that as he looked like a cross between Jason Statham and Bruce Willis...I'm more Monique than Beyonce. For the first time since meeting strangers for sex I was nervous and doubted myself. I nearly cancelled the meet as I thought this 6ft 1 Dutch man, who speaks six languages and used to dating slender, leggy European is not going to be interested in me, but I met him anyway.
He had gone to the other entrance to the museum we were meeting at and came running to where I was. He dropped to his knees and said "sorry I'm late!" to the amusement of the people around us...We've not been apart since, even though on our first date we discovered we were polar opposites in almost everything.
He's a ukip voting, business owner, never married with a loathing for kids whilst I'm a tree hugging, leftie union trouble maker (his words), mother and grandmother.
He moved in with me and is snoring away beside me.
If this fat, old bird can pull a Jason lookalike on here without even trying, there's hope for all! "
does he have a brother? Statham makes me drool! |
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"A worthy lament and one I understand well enough. I have been on my own for five years and there isn't a day I don't miss my ex and the family life I had. I've sorted much out in my mind...I don't look at my ex and love like I once did... she's met someone else now... that's fine...but when a family breaks up so so much is lost. I do sometimes wonder if I'll meet the right woman to be with again tho...best of luck OP...!
Aweeee .... you sounded lovley ..... UNTIL ...I read you like to meet women between the size of 12 - 16 ......
Good luck there then .... "
So because he has a size preference he's no longer lovely?!!
Wow!!! Didn't realise you couldn't have a preference. |
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"A worthy lament and one I understand well enough. I have been on my own for five years and there isn't a day I don't miss my ex and the family life I had. I've sorted much out in my mind...I don't look at my ex and love like I once did... she's met someone else now... that's fine...but when a family breaks up so so much is lost. I do sometimes wonder if I'll meet the right woman to be with again tho...best of luck OP...!
Aweeee .... you sounded lovley ..... UNTIL ...I read you like to meet women between the size of 12 - 16 ......
Good luck there then ....
So because he has a size preference he's no longer lovely?!!
Wow!!! Didn't realise you couldn't have a preference. "
I took it to mean she was interested in till that point as doesn't meet the criteria, not that it ment he wasn't nice. .. |
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"A worthy lament and one I understand well enough. I have been on my own for five years and there isn't a day I don't miss my ex and the family life I had. I've sorted much out in my mind...I don't look at my ex and love like I once did... she's met someone else now... that's fine...but when a family breaks up so so much is lost. I do sometimes wonder if I'll meet the right woman to be with again tho...best of luck OP...!
Aweeee .... you sounded lovley ..... UNTIL ...I read you like to meet women between the size of 12 - 16 ......
Good luck there then ....
Most men wouldn't have a clue what dress size a women in unless he reads her labels!! ...lol....this guy just happens too...having a retail background...I just like a curvy woman...but not too large a lady...trying to put that politely....and busty too...!"
You were polite and 100% entitled to your preferences. |
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With you there OP
I do enjoy been single as in no worries just have to look after myself and such buttt I would love to find some one who's like me just female miss the nice things cuddles kisses wakin up with some one day trips going for meals and well lots more but my luck with the ladies is a bit shitty lol also trying to find one as open as me |
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By (user no longer on site)
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now my daughter is getting older I keep thinking it's about time I went out to meet someone because sometimes the company would be nice but as I've been single for such a long I honestly don't think I could have a guy in my life full time. I have my daughter/dogs and horse so trying to fit anything else in would be a struggle.
There is nothing wrong with being single and enjoying yourself xx |
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"A worthy lament and one I understand well enough. I have been on my own for five years and there isn't a day I don't miss my ex and the family life I had. I've sorted much out in my mind...I don't look at my ex and love like I once did... she's met someone else now... that's fine...but when a family breaks up so so much is lost. I do sometimes wonder if I'll meet the right woman to be with again tho...best of luck OP...!
Aweeee .... you sounded lovley ..... UNTIL ...I read you like to meet women between the size of 12 - 16 ......
Good luck there then ....
So because he has a size preference he's no longer lovely?!!
Wow!!! Didn't realise you couldn't have a preference.
I took it to mean she was interested in till that point as doesn't meet the criteria, not that it ment he wasn't nice. .. "
Open to interpretation I suppose, but the use of capitals, the emoji and the follow up comment from the bloke she responded to makes me think my interpretation is closer. |
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"A worthy lament and one I understand well enough. I have been on my own for five years and there isn't a day I don't miss my ex and the family life I had. I've sorted much out in my mind...I don't look at my ex and love like I once did... she's met someone else now... that's fine...but when a family breaks up so so much is lost. I do sometimes wonder if I'll meet the right woman to be with again tho...best of luck OP...!
Aweeee .... you sounded lovley ..... UNTIL ...I read you like to meet women between the size of 12 - 16 ......
Good luck there then .... "
Right. It's okay for you to say you're only interested in well endowed men and exclude other men of certain ethnic backgrounds but this guy expresses a preference for a size of female that excludes you and all of a sudden he's no longer lovely and deserving of an eye roll? The word hypocrite springs to the forefront of my mind. |
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"A worthy lament and one I understand well enough. I have been on my own for five years and there isn't a day I don't miss my ex and the family life I had. I've sorted much out in my mind...I don't look at my ex and love like I once did... she's met someone else now... that's fine...but when a family breaks up so so much is lost. I do sometimes wonder if I'll meet the right woman to be with again tho...best of luck OP...!
Aweeee .... you sounded lovley ..... UNTIL ...I read you like to meet women between the size of 12 - 16 ......
Good luck there then ....
Most men wouldn't have a clue what dress size a women in unless he reads her labels!! ...lol....this guy just happens too...having a retail background...I just like a curvy woman...but not too large a lady...trying to put that politely....and busty too...!"
You don't have to apologise to catty comments. Ignore women that get huffy when they are excluded. |
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"I'm just going to have to accept that a woman like me (outspoken, no interest in kids, plus size, fruity jobs) can get shags a plenty but not a relationship.
After my divorce and one disastrous rebound relationship I "shut down" and had no intention of having another relationship. I joined adult site purely for sex, and if they got needy/clingy I was off!
Everything worked fine until November 2013 when someone sent me a message about a comment I'd made in the forums. We exchanged several messages, nothing sexual, we were just on the same wavelength.
We spoke on the phone and he sent me his picture. I was going to block him after that as he looked like a cross between Jason Statham and Bruce Willis...I'm more Monique than Beyonce. For the first time since meeting strangers for sex I was nervous and doubted myself. I nearly cancelled the meet as I thought this 6ft 1 Dutch man, who speaks six languages and used to dating slender, leggy European is not going to be interested in me, but I met him anyway.
He had gone to the other entrance to the museum we were meeting at and came running to where I was. He dropped to his knees and said "sorry I'm late!" to the amusement of the people around us...We've not been apart since, even though on our first date we discovered we were polar opposites in almost everything.
He's a ukip voting, business owner, never married with a loathing for kids whilst I'm a tree hugging, leftie union trouble maker (his words), mother and grandmother.
He moved in with me and is snoring away beside me.
If this fat, old bird can pull a Jason lookalike on here without even trying, there's hope for all! "
Well that just melted my cold icy heart |
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Just because your single why would you blame it on the way you are.
For no real reason apart from i didnt want to be in a relationship i decided to stay single.
I was 22 and 1/2 stone
Mentally unstable
Had a dubious sex life.
Ended up meeting the love of my life and 10 years on hes still the love of my life
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By *annooWoman
over a year ago
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"Just been reminded how terribly single I am. Ex just called to invite me to her wedding. In the three years since we split, she's moved on, found someone new, moved in and now are to be wed.
Incredibly happy for the them both but all I've done in that time is shag strangers!!
Here's to all the single people who enjoy swinging but sometimes wish they could share it with someone else.
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Glass raised x single wishing I could be with someone who we both told each other we love each other but he's with someone and trying for ababy so I walked away...now wanna enjoy the single fab life again |
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"Just because your single why would you blame it on the way you are.
For no real reason apart from i didnt want to be in a relationship i decided to stay single.
I was 22 and 1/2 stone
Mentally unstable
Had a dubious sex life.
.... you sound a lovely lady .... a happy ending .... congratulations
Ended up meeting the love of my life and 10 years on hes still the love of my life
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