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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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About half an ago a site member who had been to my flat previously ,has stolen my Sony tablet
Please be careful, he has now deleted his profile and I can't even remember the full username.
I've used the contact button I don't know what else that can be done and I have no pictures or phone number for him.
Just be extra aware.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"About half an ago a site member who had been to my flat previously ,has stolen my Sony tablet
Please be careful, he has now deleted his profile and I can't even remember the full username.
I've used the contact button I don't know what else that can be done and I have no pictures or phone number for him.
Just be extra aware.
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Did you not know his real name and why come on here instead of calling the police ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Do you have anything like "find my gadget"? If so get it activated now an track it. Inform police? Regardless of why they were in your house it's theft. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"About half an ago a site member who had been to my flat previously ,has stolen my Sony tablet
Please be careful, he has now deleted his profile and I can't even remember the full username.
I've used the contact button I don't know what else that can be done and I have no pictures or phone number for him.
Just be extra aware.
Did you not know his real name and why come on here instead of calling the police ? "
This!
Personally I never let anyone into my home and I always make sure I have their number and name before we meet. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'm sorry you've experienced this. It is a risk inviting people in to your home or letting your guard down. Not everyone will steal from you so it's sad when it happens.
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My lesson is truly learnt and I've been on and off here for some time now and 1st time anything as ever happened to me , just wanted to warn people that was all |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Haven't come on to post a message for people to judge only posted to make aware it's happened.
Yes I could have don't things differently and I've paid the price, as I've said lesson learnt |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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That is awful!
I don't really think the police can do anything about it, you have no details of the individual. Unless site admin still have records and if they do and the member was a site supporter it's not to hard to track down.
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"I have no clue, what am I supposed to say to police? I have no clue his name or what he even looks like enough to give description
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how do you not know what he looks like he was in you're house less than an hour ago?? |
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"About half an ago a site member who had been to my flat previously ,has stolen my Sony tablet
Please be careful, he has now deleted his profile and I can't even remember the full username.
I've used the contact button I don't know what else that can be done and I have no pictures or phone number for him.
Just be extra aware.
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 I think you might have to chalk this one up to experience.
We always locked stuff away and put any letters etc in a locked drawer, it safeguarded our guests as much as us. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I have no clue, what am I supposed to say to police? I have no clue his name or what he even looks like enough to give description
how do you not know what he looks like he was in you're house less than an hour ago??"
It was anon as my profile name suggests , I've seen his face briefly when first messaged on his old profile but not enough to describe |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have no clue, what am I supposed to say to police? I have no clue his name or what he even looks like enough to give description
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So you invited a guy into you home dont know his name his number or what he looks like ?
Or am i reading this wrong ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Jeepers, you blame the site for this?
Bonkers
Where did she say the site was to blame?"
"I'm done with this site" is on her profile
It's obviously not great to have something stolen, but inviting a stranger into your home without any means of contact or ID is very silly. Harsh lesson learnt. |
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"I have no clue, what am I supposed to say to police? I have no clue his name or what he even looks like enough to give description
how do you not know what he looks like he was in you're house less than an hour ago??"
thats what i dont get shes met him twice at least |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"About half an ago a site member who had been to my flat previously ,has stolen my Sony tablet
Please be careful, he has now deleted his profile and I can't even remember the full username.
I've used the contact button I don't know what else that can be done and I have no pictures or phone number for him.
Just be extra aware.
Did you not know his real name and why come on here instead of calling the police ?
This!
Personally I never let anyone into my home and I always make sure I have their number and name before we meet."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have no clue, what am I supposed to say to police? I have no clue his name or what he even looks like enough to give description
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What!? How can you not know what someone looks like if you have had them in your home on at least two occasions? Or know their name or exchanged any pictures beforehand. What did you do the first time he came to your house?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Jeepers, you blame the site for this?
Bonkers
Where did she say the site was to blame?
"I'm done with this site" is on her profile
It's obviously not great to have something stolen, but inviting a stranger into your home without any means of contact or ID is very silly. Harsh lesson learnt."
My reasoning was of course it's my own fault and that I shouldn't be on the site , not that it's the sites fault, and exactly what your saying harsh lesson , I learn from my mistakes hence the reason of removing myself |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Haven't you got any personal details on him?
I don't understand how people invite others into their home without the basics, like who they are.
Sorry this is happened to you but learn from it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have no clue, what am I supposed to say to police? I have no clue his name or what he even looks like enough to give description
So you invited a guy into you home dont know his name his number or what he looks like ?
Or am i reading this wrong ? "
I don't think you are .., as already stated, chalk it up to experience OP |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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"I have no clue, what am I supposed to say to police? I have no clue his name or what he even looks like enough to give description
So you invited a guy into you home dont know his name his number or what he looks like ?
Or am i reading this wrong ? "
That is what some people do. Some leave the door open, get 'taken' and the meet then leaves.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"About half an ago a site member who had been to my flat previously ,has stolen my Sony tablet
Please be careful, he has now deleted his profile and I can't even remember the full username.
I've used the contact button I don't know what else that can be done and I have no pictures or phone number for him.
Just be extra aware.
Did you not know his real name and why come on here instead of calling the police ? "
Straight into the 'you're retarded and should have acted differently' routine. Precisely why I don't post on the forums anymore... Apart from, obviously, right now. |
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"I have no clue, what am I supposed to say to police? I have no clue his name or what he even looks like enough to give description
how do you not know what he looks like he was in you're house less than an hour ago??
It was anon as my profile name suggests , I've seen his face briefly when first messaged on his old profile but not enough to describe "
 wow ok well doesn't seem much you can do apart from learn from this as others have said can't say much more without it looking like I'm having a go at you |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I have no clue, what am I supposed to say to police? I have no clue his name or what he even looks like enough to give description
What!? How can you not know what someone looks like if you have had them in your home on at least two occasions? Or know their name or exchanged any pictures beforehand. What did you do the first time he came to your house?
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Madness of course I understand what your thinking, 1sthe time I saw a pic and he had veris etc so had no reason to think other wise and 1sr meet went very well so why would I question a second meet ? Obviously looking back I was silly |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have no clue, what am I supposed to say to police? I have no clue his name or what he even looks like enough to give description
What!? How can you not know what someone looks like if you have had them in your home on at least two occasions? Or know their name or exchanged any pictures beforehand. What did you do the first time he came to your house?
Madness of course I understand what your thinking, 1sthe time I saw a pic and he had veris etc so had no reason to think other wise and 1sr meet went very well so why would I question a second meet ? Obviously looking back I was silly "
But if you've met him twice, how can you not know what he looked like...? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Judgement, judgement everywhere.....
She's entitled to meet however she wants, it's bit her on the arse this time...put it to experience and don't let it take over and put you off fab.
Maybe just be a bit more careful in future |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Think im getting the jist off this. Im really sorry this has happened but you could of ended up dead. Hope you have learnt your lesson"
...that's quite a scary thought actually. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Jeepers, you blame the site for this?
Bonkers
Where did she say the site was to blame?
"I'm done with this site" is on her profile
It's obviously not great to have something stolen, but inviting a stranger into your home without any means of contact or ID is very silly. Harsh lesson learnt."
That has nothing to do with her post. I don't blame her for wanting to leave after being robbed,but she's not saying the site is to blame. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Repugnant behaviour as usual the minority spoiling it for the majority 
Hardly.  "
It's an awful way to behave isn't it and it makes me upset that people can do this, it could make users nervous and tentative about organising meets . |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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But if you've met him twice, how can you not know what he looked like...?
Master of disguise ???"
Or she didn't really see him. She could have been face down. Who knows? She's gone now.
It's not how I would choose to meet and not something I would have thought anyone does until I kept reading about on the forum.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Repugnant behaviour as usual the minority spoiling it for the majority
Hardly.
It's an awful way to behave isn't it and it makes me upset that people can do this, it could make users nervous and tentative about organising meets ."
It doesn't make me nervous...I've been meeting for years and never encountered anything dodgey. But then i look after my own safety a lot better than the op seemed to. Why should others be put off by one person's niavity/stupidity?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some people are very trusting. I've been left alone while people leave the building or pop down to the laundry room. I've also had someone lay naked and blindfolded on a bed,waiting for me in a hotel room. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I get the stranger sex type scenario as I have indulged in this myself but luckily for me my 'stranger' is no longer that ... and we always meet at hotels |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Repugnant behaviour as usual the minority spoiling it for the majority
Hardly.
It's an awful way to behave isn't it and it makes me upset that people can do this, it could make users nervous and tentative about organising meets .
It doesn't make me nervous...I've been meeting for years and never encountered anything dodgey. But then i look after my own safety a lot better than the op seemed to. Why should others be put off by one person's niavity/stupidity??"
I agree safety and security is your own responsibility and some people probably overlook this.
It's the 6 P's isn't it
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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"Everyone is a stranger at first; even people you have known years can throw you a curve ball now and then."
The most serious sexual assault I have experienced was from my partner of two years.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Everyone is a stranger at first; even people you have known years can throw you a curve ball now and then.
The most serious sexual assault I have experienced was from my partner of two years.
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Min was partner of 4 yrs with our baby in the house. But I do think tho op took some enormous risks, |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"Everyone is a stranger at first; even people you have known years can throw you a curve ball now and then.
The most serious sexual assault I have experienced was from my partner of two years.
Min was partner of 4 yrs with our baby in the house. But I do think tho op took some enormous risks, "
I agree. I no longer meet at home after someone scared me.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Everyone is a stranger at first; even people you have known years can throw you a curve ball now and then.
The most serious sexual assault I have experienced was from my partner of two years.
Min was partner of 4 yrs with our baby in the house. But I do think tho op took some enormous risks,
I agree. I no longer meet at home after someone scared me.
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Snap. When I was new is and started meeting I had someone very persistent use the who's near function to try to find me even though I'd said I wasn't interested and don't accommodate. He ended up parked a few doors down and asked what number I was. Gave him a number that doesn't exist and told him to come in the police were waiting. Now learnt to block!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Everyone is a stranger at first; even people you have known years can throw you a curve ball now and then.
The most serious sexual assault I have experienced was from my partner of two years.
Min was partner of 4 yrs with our baby in the house. But I do think tho op took some enormous risks,
I agree. I no longer meet at home after someone scared me.
Snap. When I was new is and started meeting I had someone very persistent use the who's near function to try to find me even though I'd said I wasn't interested and don't accommodate. He ended up parked a few doors down and asked what number I was. Gave him a number that doesn't exist and told him to come in the police were waiting. Now learnt to block! "
This is another level of crazy! You would have to travel a stupid amount just to get in the right direction then carry on doing this until you got to within a mile! This is another level of crazy!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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He only lived a couple of miles away to start with, but was rather unnerving! I'd have no issue accommodating if it was solely my home. But although I can handle myself fairly well I won't invite strangers into my daughters home. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I can handle myself fairly well I won't invite strangers into my daughters home.
That's cool, but what has your daughter got to do with any of this?"
Because she is safeguarding net daughter as any responsible parent should |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"She was here when the idiot tried to locate my house.
"Locate my house" ? sorry you have lost me now 
OK.
He's being daft... locate/lost.
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Ahhh OK, slightly tipsy.  |
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