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Why do men call you 'babe'?
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By *ivinefox OP Woman
over a year ago
Coventry |
Sometimes men message me and use the term 'babe', I don't really like it, tho cdnt put my finger on why exactly, I just find it off putting.
Anyway was wondering why men use it, what is it implying?
E.g I once saw a theory that men who are seeing quite a few women use it as they can't remember/ can't be bothered to remember all the names, or so they don't get them mixed up...
Guys, what's it all about? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I suspect it's to cover themselves when names get forgotten.
Alright flower is better than Alright Sandra? I mean Deidre, I mean Bev.....oh shit!
That's what I reckon anyway  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Slut features and cunty bollocks usually go down a treat.
Those are terms of endearments where I'm from 
Hahahaha yeah they are  "
Got to love the Welsh!! |
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Doesnt bother me, if some repeatdly called me something i didnt like id ask them not to.
Unless someone calls me caz then i ignore them completly.
Its just friendly term same as anything else. My dad used to call every one me duck |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Doesnt bother me, if some repeatdly called me something i didnt like id ask them not to.
Unless someone calls me caz then i ignore them completly.
Its just friendly term same as anything else. My dad used to call every one me duck"
me duck is really endearing I think |
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By *GHertsCouple
over a year ago
North Herts |
Don't understand it either when it comes to first messages or someone you don't have an established relationship (of any kind including the Fab kind!!) with. Strikes me every time as being somewhat presumptious.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don't understand it either when it comes to first messages or someone you don't have an established relationship (of any kind including the Fab kind!!) with. Strikes me every time as being somewhat presumptious.
Mr G"
How would you address a woman in a first message? To whom it may concern? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I hate being called babe or hun or any cutie term really, in messages. It just seems forced and tbh when other women message me with things like that, I generally tend to think they're fake. |
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
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"Sometimes men message me and use the term 'babe', I don't really like it, tho cdnt put my finger on why exactly, I just find it off putting.
Anyway was wondering why men use it, what is it implying?
E.g I once saw a theory that men who are seeing quite a few women use it as they can't remember/ can't be bothered to remember all the names, or so they don't get them mixed up...
Guys, what's it all about? "
for the same reason some woman use the term hun when talking to guys they cant be arsed to remember your name |
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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
Bristol |
I like terms of endearment from those I know. Strangers using them is weird and puts me off since their use comes with familiarity. I only ever call someone 'love' if I'm being sarcastic. I call people trouble or babber if I like them. Those I'm particularly close to get called all sorts. Including numnuts, fuckface and shitbag. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't grumble when a lady calls me Babe or any other endearingly intended terms
Me neither babe!!  "
And there you go! Case in point. I am now wearing a suitably cheesy grin from being addressed thusly by your very lovely self!
(Thanks Babe)  x |
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By *ivinefox OP Woman
over a year ago
Coventry |
"Don't understand it either when it comes to first messages or someone you don't have an established relationship (of any kind including the Fab kind!!) with. Strikes me every time as being somewhat presumptious.
Mr G
How would you address a woman in a first message? To whom it may concern? "
Well what about their Username...?
But ' To whom..' is about as personal as 'babe'! |
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
West Wales |
"Sometimes men message me and use the term 'babe', I don't really like it, tho cdnt put my finger on why exactly, I just find it off putting.
Anyway was wondering why men use it, what is it implying?
E.g I once saw a theory that men who are seeing quite a few women use it as they can't remember/ can't be bothered to remember all the names, or so they don't get them mixed up...
Guys, what's it all about? "
Because they're immature twats..
Next question please...
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
West Wales |
"Don't understand it either when it comes to first messages or someone you don't have an established relationship (of any kind including the Fab kind!!) with. Strikes me every time as being somewhat presumptious.
Mr G
How would you address a woman in a first message? To whom it may concern? "
By their name or initial given on their profile might be a good place to start?
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By *GHertsCouple
over a year ago
North Herts |
"Don't understand it either when it comes to first messages or someone you don't have an established relationship (of any kind including the Fab kind!!) with. Strikes me every time as being somewhat presumptious.
Mr G
How would you address a woman in a first message? To whom it may concern? "
As others have said, I'd either use their username, or the given name on their profile or if neither of those were appropriate I'd keep it to a simple "Hi" or "Hi There" to open.
I personally just find using an endearment like "Babe" a little presumptious if you're addressing someone you haven't already got a rapport with.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My mum used to call my Dad, as an endearment, Dogbreath. She used to call him Arsefeatures.
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My youngest daughter said to me in aldi the other week " why do you call me princess? I don't like it" so I said "it's a term on endermemt it's better then calling you arsehole" to which she replied "id prefer that!" So now H is arsehole or boss. xxx |
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
West Wales |
"Still got no real answer to my question..."
Ok, H just dsid that personally babe is too close to bar. Also when watching TV the sort of guys that tend to use the term are also the sort she'd happily smack in the face with a mallet for being cocky arseholes (think towie & the like, cring)..
Just her take on it...Hun, she doesn't mind so much.
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
West Wales |
"Still got no real answer to my question...
Ok, H just dsid that personally babe is too close to bar. Also when watching TV the sort of guys that tend to use the term are also the sort she'd happily smack in the face with a mallet for being cocky arseholes (think towie & the like, cring)..
Just her take on it...Hun, she doesn't mind so much.
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Sorry meant "bae" |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Anything other than the name that is on my profile doesn't usually go down very well with me..,
Why the hell I would be pleased to be referred to as a talking pig is beyond me though  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I call people huni, but I do that in real life in fact pretty much all my female friends do and some men. I don't mind hun or huni
It's being called babe, baby or love I really really hate being called love my mother in law calls me it despite being told not too  |
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"I don't grumble when a lady calls me Babe or any other endearingly intended terms
Me neither babe!!
And there you go! Case in point. I am now wearing a suitably cheesy grin from being addressed thusly by your very lovely self!
(Thanks Babe) x"
Anytime chuckle buttocks! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't grumble when a lady calls me Babe or any other endearingly intended terms
Me neither babe!!
And there you go! Case in point. I am now wearing a suitably cheesy grin from being addressed thusly by your very lovely self!
(Thanks Babe) x
Anytime chuckle buttocks! "
You saying I have a funny arse snuggle buns? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's just people trying to be nice and friendly.....better than "Hi Divinefox how are you" that's sounds a bit daft......what would you like them to call you? X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I use chick,chuck and duck as terms of endearment all the time with women who I know, its were i was brought up I suppose, people never seem to have any probs with it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't mind being called babe I quite like it. Being called slut by the rite man turns me on.  xxx
Aww shurrup you tart, who asked for your opinion anyway "
If you don't behave yourself I'll knock your goatee outta my hotlist! xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Guys,what's that about? Hey you guys!!!!
Or Cliff Richard in Summer Holiday. It's so naff "
or dude
people actually say dude to me
*confuses me and I want to slap them |
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I thought a Hun was a barbarian from central Asia, famed for attacking the Roman empire in the 4th cent. and for their curious custom of binding the heads of their infants?
Term of endearment, indeed! |
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"Sometimes men message me and use the term 'babe', I don't really like it, tho cdnt put my finger on why exactly, I just find it off putting.
Anyway was wondering why men use it, what is it implying?
E.g I once saw a theory that men who are seeing quite a few women use it as they can't remember/ can't be bothered to remember all the names, or so they don't get them mixed up...
Guys, what's it all about? "
Hate the term. To me it sounds like ownership/disrespect - and I don't do that. |
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"I don't grumble when a lady calls me Babe or any other endearingly intended terms
Me neither babe!!
And there you go! Case in point. I am now wearing a suitably cheesy grin from being addressed thusly by your very lovely self!
(Thanks Babe) x
Anytime chuckle buttocks!
You saying I have a funny arse snuggle buns? "
Didn't notice treacle dude, never got past the private shower pic... |
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When total strangers call me babe and hun and darlin. ...yeah that pisses me off. I think it is so presumptuous!
Totally different with a guy I am seeing etc. ..
But total strangers? No. Don't like it. |
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By *es-sMan
over a year ago
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"Sometimes men message me and use the term 'babe', I don't really like it, tho cdnt put my finger on why exactly, I just find it off putting.
Anyway was wondering why men use it, what is it implying?
E.g I once saw a theory that men who are seeing quite a few women use it as they can't remember/ can't be bothered to remember all the names, or so they don't get them mixed up...
Guys, what's it all about? "
Hey BABE don't take it to heart |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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this is one thing that turns me off its nice from hubby but strangers who've have never met you start calling me sexy or babe or honey yuk gives me the creeps |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I really don't care how people refer to me as long as the message is lovely.
Apparently though I'm a "filthy dirty slut" ...a "fucking Ho" and a "Dirty Filthy Bitch" to name a few...that's just right on a first message..Is It? |
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
West Wales |
"I really don't care how people refer to me as long as the message is lovely.
Apparently though I'm a "filthy dirty slut" ...a "fucking Ho" and a "Dirty Filthy Bitch" to name a few...that's just right on a first message..Is It?"
Are these from the same one line profile, i'm gods gift, pic of cock merchants perchance?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I really don't care how people refer to me as long as the message is lovely.
Apparently though I'm a "filthy dirty slut" ...a "fucking Ho" and a "Dirty Filthy Bitch" to name a few...that's just right on a first message..Is It?
Are these from the same one line profile, i'm gods gift, pic of cock merchants perchance?
x
S"
Usually single guys that don't stick around too long...it's sometimes upsetting but I'm getting used to it! x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Slut features and cunty bollocks usually go down a treat.
Those are terms of endearments where I'm from
Hahahaha yeah they are
Got to love the Welsh!! "
I must be from a different part of Wales |
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Lots of people have a generic term they use and don't really think about it. They probably think it sounds friendlier than your username or nothing.
I don't have a particular problem with it as long as it's not rude.
It's a bit weird when clients at work do it though, especially if they are younger. Being called love by a 20 yr old is just wrong somehow ...
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By (user no longer on site)
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It's our way of being derogatory towards women. We see you as minions. Babe means less of a women and more of a servant. Any time you hear a man say Babe you need to dial 0800 he's a feminist 981.
Just means you hold a special place really  |
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"I don't mind being called babe I quite like it. Being called slut by the rite man turns me on. xxx
Aww shurrup you tart, who asked for your opinion anyway
If you don't behave yourself I'll knock your goatee outta my hotlist! xxx"
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"Why do women whine about been called babe
Its better than been called a slag or a ugly fuk
I think this threads made it quite clear why some women don't like it "
Tbh If this is all some women have to worry about they really need to get a life ha |
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"Anything other than the name that is on my profile doesn't usually go down very well with me..,
Why the hell I would be pleased to be referred to as a talking pig is beyond me though "
My thoughts exactly |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don't mind bbes or Hun they're very endearing it's the term "luuuuuvvv" alright luuuuuvvv
Very derogatory underlined alternative name for "idiot".
Used by both men and women just makes me want to punch my hand through their chest and rip out their fucking hearts!!!!
And breeeeaaattthhh (sorry fr the rant) |
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"Why do women whine about been called babe
Its better than been called a slag or a ugly fuk
I think this threads made it quite clear why some women don't like it
Tbh If this is all some women have to worry about they really need to get a life ha"
Arguably that same can be about men over things that seem trivial to the outside observer yet are important to them |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some guy's use terms of endearment to give a sense of relationship. Put you at ease and be further down the comfort path. There was a guy here who kept messaging us on our couple account and calling me "my dearest"
it was annoying since we never messaged him back, but every two weeks we would get the same cut and paste message. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sometimes men message me and use the term 'babe', I don't really like it, tho cdnt put my finger on why exactly, I just find it off putting.
Anyway was wondering why men use it, what is it implying?
E.g I once saw a theory that men who are seeing quite a few women use it as they can't remember/ can't be bothered to remember all the names, or so they don't get them mixed up...
Guys, what's it all about? "
I once knew a man who called everyone 'Angel' everybody thought it was sweet and endearing. But it was because he couldn't remember names so just used that instead. |
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"lt's just a term of endearment. l like when women call me that or 'hun'.
l mainly call the girls here 'lass' since i'm a Scot."
Yes but terms of endearment are for partners and friends that share love/affection towards each other not complete strangers |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"lt's just a term of endearment. l like when women call me that or 'hun'.
l mainly call the girls here 'lass' since i'm a Scot.
Yes but terms of endearment are for partners and friends that share love/affection towards each other not complete strangers "
Exactly. Hate it when people I don't know call me butt or mate. I don't know you so don't call me it |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Lots of people have a generic term they use and don't really think about it. They probably think it sounds friendlier than your username or nothing.
I don't have a particular problem with it as long as it's not rude.
It's a bit weird when clients at work do it though, especially if they are younger. Being called love by a 20 yr old is just wrong somehow ...
Nita"
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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago
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"Why do women whine about been called babe
Its better than been called a slag or a ugly fuk
I think this threads made it quite clear why some women don't like it "
Although it probably also shows,
some women are to easily offended.
Terms of endearment should not be viewed as offensive.
As a guy,I am constantly being referred to as,
babe,Hun,luv,darling,etc etc.
I don't find it offensive in any way,I just accept it's that persons way.
If you think terms of endearment,are offensive,you already take your to serious.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"lt's just a term of endearment. l like when women call me that or 'hun'.
l mainly call the girls here 'lass' since i'm a Scot.
Yes but terms of endearment are for partners and friends that share love/affection towards each other not complete strangers "
Not necessarily. Many people see it as just being nice. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"lt's just a term of endearment. l like when women call me that or 'hun'.
l mainly call the girls here 'lass' since i'm a Scot.
Yes but terms of endearment are for partners and friends that share love/affection towards each other not complete strangers
Exactly. Hate it when people I don't know call me butt or mate. I don't know you so don't call me it"
Seems unnecessarily cynical and grumpy tbh. There so much hate in the world and people get I a twist about someone calling you mate or love. Seems silly in the grand scale. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why do women whine about been called babe
Its better than been called a slag or a ugly fuk
I think this threads made it quite clear why some women don't like it
Although it probably also shows,
some women are to easily offended.
Terms of endearment should not be viewed as offensive.
As a guy,I am constantly being referred to as,
babe,Hun,luv,darling,etc etc.
I don't find it offensive in any way,I just accept it's that persons way.
If you think terms of endearment,are offensive,you already take your to serious.
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"lt's just a term of endearment. l like when women call me that or 'hun'.
l mainly call the girls here 'lass' since i'm a Scot.
Yes but terms of endearment are for partners and friends that share love/affection towards each other not complete strangers
Not necessarily. Many people see it as just being nice."
So is it still nice when the person states they don't like it and people still choose to do it anyway?
People have the right to have their preferences respected even if others find them trivial |
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