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After a conversation with a friend made on here, I was wondering if a guy can have too many veris, she was saying that too many would make her think player, where as my opinion is you can't really be a player on here as it's mainly about nsa, and to me a player is about being dishonest to get sex.
Just wondered about other people's opinions. |
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By *amissCouple
over a year ago
chelmsford |
"After a conversation with a friend made on here, I was wondering if a guy can have too many veris, she was saying that too many would make her think player, where as my opinion is you can't really be a player on here as it's mainly about nsa, and to me a player is about being dishonest to get sex.
Just wondered about other people's opinions."
No, I don't think anyone can have too many veries, after all that is what most of us are on here for. Wouldn't use the word player, also. You're obviously very popular  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't care to be honest. Veri's are much of a muchness. I do appreciate a funny veri though. I'd be more inclined to meet someone with a sense of humour rather than it be based on whether they had 2 or 200 veri's. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Thing is how many is too many? It's all perception right? You have to remember people don't always display their veris. They meet people off other sites etc.
You are here to swing. The whole idea is to have multiple partners and just enjoy yourself. If you, or your friend, have issues with it then maybe you shouldn't be swinging. |
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By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago
Ashton Under Lyne |
I don't think there's such a thing as 'too many'. For a lot of us, the content and number is irrelevant and frankly, a private affair between you and your lovers. I never read anyone's verifications but do note that he/she is verified, makes them unlikely to be a time waster. Having said that I take my time to vet my meets and so have met many without any previous verifications and all was good. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No such thing as too many veris as long as they are all ligit. I think it's the content of the veris that can say if your a "player" or not. Remember most veris are from social meets. Xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Swingers complaining about others swinging?
Unbelievable.
Who's complaining? She has an opinion, I have have an opinion, i asked for other people's opinions, there was no complaint."
Perhaps complaining was the wrong word,passing judgement,is that better? |
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By *urpurseCouple
over a year ago
North West |
It's the old you say tomato I say tomato (doesn't work in text but you know what I mean).........we all look at things differently your friend can think that but doesn't mean it's right simply their opinion, if you reflect on it then you will probably feel firmer in your belief either way |
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
in the eye of the storm |
i don't ask to be verified by any woman i meet and i don't verify then for one simple reason i'm a married guy playing away from home there is a stigma attached to this fact .
a stigma I'm willing to live with and except what ever comes my way over this fact but i don't verify any woman i meet for one simple reason i don't want them tarnished by the fact they met a married guy .
this i started doing after one very nice lady i met started getting nasty messages from the guys and couples she turned down basically using the fact she had met a married guy as a way to put the knife in over being rejected . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't care to be honest. Veri's are much of a muchness. I do appreciate a funny veri though. I'd be more inclined to meet someone with a sense of humour rather than it be based on whether they had 2 or 200 veri's. "
What about 550 ?
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By *MaleMan
over a year ago
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"If they were all socials I'd wonder if the person was actually here for the same reason as me. "
Agreed. I can only imagine why anyone would join a swingers website or hit a swingers club if they had zero intention of 'swinging'. Whilst wearing their 'i only do socials' medal and OMG look how many sex meet verification's that profile has, they must be players |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Maybe it's about looking unchoosy.
I can understand not wanting to have sex with someone that will fuck anything.
I guess it's like Marx, I wouldn't want to be a member of a club that would have me. |
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By *MaleMan
over a year ago
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"Maybe it's about looking unchoosy.
I can understand not wanting to have sex with someone that will fuck anything.
I guess it's like Marx, I wouldn't want to be a member of a club that would have me. "
I'm not sure having a few or many verifications equates to someone fucking anything.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Maybe it's about looking unchoosy.
I can understand not wanting to have sex with someone that will fuck anything.
I guess it's like Marx, I wouldn't want to be a member of a club that would have me.
I'm not sure having a few or many verifications equates to someone fucking anything.
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no, quite. However some may see it that way. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm not really bothered whether people think I have too many. If you don't like it keep looking elsewhere.
I personally don't think I have enough and need some more! Any takers? |
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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
Bristol |
I've been 50/50 during my time on here with hiding mine or displaying them. I'be never displayed the summary since I went on cam once and got 3 or 4 cam veris (I don't cam so having the summary would give the wrong impression of what I use the site for). I don't think mine make the blindest bit of difference as to whether or not anyone wants to meet me. |
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"After a conversation with a friend made on here, I was wondering if a guy can have too many veris, she was saying that too many would make her think player, where as my opinion is you can't really be a player on here as it's mainly about nsa, and to me a player is about being dishonest to get sex.
Just wondered about other people's opinions."
well i agree. I could understand someone being referred to as a player on a dating site. If your going to refer to people on here as players then most of us would fall into that catagory |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"I've been 50/50 during my time on here with hiding mine or displaying them. I'be never displayed the summary since I went on cam once and got 3 or 4 cam veris (I don't cam so having the summary would give the wrong impression of what I use the site for). I don't think mine make the blindest bit of difference as to whether or not anyone wants to meet me."
Mine have, including being told I have way too many so must have slept with the whole site.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I did come across this from a few people on my previous profile. I tended to just block people who had a pop.
As it happens I had somewhere over 230 verifications.....over a period of 4 years I should add....a very mixed bunch from meets, socials, clubs, parties etc.
One guy even accused me of taking up too much server space! But as most here have said..,it's a swingers site and we are on here to meet like minded people for a variety of reasons......how can you be wrong for doing this successfully? |
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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
Bristol |
"I've been 50/50 during my time on here with hiding mine or displaying them. I'be never displayed the summary since I went on cam once and got 3 or 4 cam veris (I don't cam so having the summary would give the wrong impression of what I use the site for). I don't think mine make the blindest bit of difference as to whether or not anyone wants to meet me.
Mine have, including being told I have way too many so must have slept with the whole site.
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How very dare they! That is wrong on just so many levels I can't even begin to start. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I dont think you can have to many in my eyes expecaily when u read someones veris and you see a pattern emerging to prove there a genuine person/ couple some verys im sure the person has been an actor because they condtrict each other haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We have a lot, some are social, many are off the same people we've met and have verified us again. We like swinging so have a lot of veri's, If it put's people off that is their choice |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For me it is what it is. I've got a few but have met others who've not verified but we're still friends etc. I'm not a collector but it is nice to receive. Also fab shows me having hidden veris but these are from people who are no longer on fab so they don't show anymore. In terms of giving I usually write one and leave it up to the recipient if they want to show. Ultimately I don't judge anyone on their veris or lack of. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Most guys without loads, or hiding them, are players. Many women too probably.
That is the nature of promiscuous sex that is easily attainable.
I get fed up of people ghosting me until the next meet, or we arrange a meet and that;s it you don't hear off them coz they think they're guarannted a fuck and so are looking for their next fuck before they've even had one off me...
like, fucks sake, you can't organise many fucks at once? You are crap at this shit boy. |
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
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"After a conversation with a friend made on here, I was wondering if a guy can have too many veris, she was saying that too many would make her think player, where as my opinion is you can't really be a player on here as it's mainly about nsa, and to me a player is about being dishonest to get sex.
Just wondered about other people's opinions."
my opinion is that other people will perceive you how they want, whether its true or not..many people dont give veris, for repeat meets or otherwise. they are not mandatory, some however could have loads of socials only and hide them all..i have been told in the past that my veris were intimidating...i was like if you think that, you probably shouldnt meet me..goodness knows what they think of the number now..but ive got over worrying about it x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The snobs come out of the woodwork "oh my god you've got so many veris you can't be fussy" blah blah blah or " its quality over quantity" etc etc.
We play, we verify and we display verifications received, if someone takes the time to write us a verification the least we can do is display it. How many is too many? That question has no validity, if you think someone has too many ask yourself why? Is it your own low self esteem? Jealousy? Snobbery?  |
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By *MaleMan
over a year ago
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"The snobs come out of the woodwork "oh my god you've got so many veris you can't be fussy" blah blah blah or " its quality over quantity" etc etc.
We play, we verify and we display verifications received, if someone takes the time to write us a verification the least we can do is display it. How many is too many? That question has no validity, if you think someone has too many ask yourself why? Is it your own low self esteem? Jealousy? Snobbery? "
I'm not sure what the term is for people who land on these sites passing judgment based on veris from behind their 'only do socials' high ground  Are they swingers if not (press & media aside) wtf are they doing here lmfao ?
I assume the same people join whatever other forum/club whilst having no partaking in and nothing really to do with the forum/club focus other than judging members, so to speak oh and having a few socials |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think you can have too many veris by the same person, that's a tad off putting for me anyway.
Why? "
At times it can come across a little territorial in my mind, would depend though on how it's written & the time scale too. |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"I think you can have too many veris by the same person, that's a tad off putting for me anyway.
Why?
At times it can come across a little territorial in my mind, would depend though on how it's written & the time scale too."
The ones that are weekly with no other verifications and state things like 'keep them all to myself'.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I personally wouldn't meet anyone with lots of veris, what I class as lots, differs, but I can do what I like, just like everyone else does.
I won't meet anyone in not attracted to, nor would I meet anyone who's married either. Doesn't make me a snob or thinking I'm better than these people.
But it's my choice. And I choose to be picky
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't care to be honest. Veri's are much of a muchness. I do appreciate a funny veri though. I'd be more inclined to meet someone with a sense of humour rather than it be based on whether they had 2 or 200 veri's. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I love my veris as they're from people I've enjoyed meeting and most of them I have become friends with and have stayed friends with. However I have had comments about the fact that I have a few in what appears to be a short space of time. I don't understand why these people are being judgemental but it still stung slightly so I only display a couple now!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've been told that I do.
I keep my summary hidden....
But you're beautiful.
Thankyou!
Flattery will get you everywhere... "
Hopefully it'll get you to Bath :p |
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"After a conversation with a friend made on here, I was wondering if a guy can have too many veris, she was saying that too many would make her think player, where as my opinion is you can't really be a player on here as it's mainly about nsa, and to me a player is about being dishonest to get sex.
Just wondered about other people's opinions."
Bollox.
I've had one or two people go, "Ohhh, you've got too many verifications! You must be a slag!"
Two things:
1/ you haven't read them properly
2/ so fucking what?!
My body, my profile. You wanna get precious about it, jog on. |
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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago
Hereford |
"I've been told that I do.
I keep my summary hidden....
But you're beautiful.
Thankyou!
Flattery will get you everywhere...
Hopefully it'll get you to Bath :p"
I might have messaged you about it, but I'm too young for you, apparently.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've been told that I do.
I keep my summary hidden....
But you're beautiful.
Thankyou!
Flattery will get you everywhere...
Hopefully it'll get you to Bath :p
I might have messaged you about it, but I'm too young for you, apparently. "
Ah well |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I tell people not to leave me verifications because I meet a lot of people socially. If I tell people I've met about 400 people socially and from seeing them in the flesh I've only shagged about 3 out of them, it puts pressure on them. |
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