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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I've not been on here incredibly long, but I'm realising that theres a lot of guys on here (including myself), who rarely even get given a chance, simply because of the volume of disrespectful twats, ruining it for the genuine folks on here.
So my question is to the women on here. How do you cypher out which ones are genuine? |
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These sort of posts annoy me. Noone spoils it for anyone. In over nine years ive never had a single problem with "disrespectful twats" if i dont like a message i move on. I chat, i have my bar set, if i get on with the person i will meet. Social. Then if that works move on to the play meet. All serms pretty straight forward to me AND if i did start meeting disrespectful twats id be giving my head a wobble for not having my radar tuned in |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Giving someone a chance isn't the best way of describing meeting someone on here. A chance to what,talk? I talk to anyone I'm interested in and other men's behaviour has no impact on that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've not been on here incredibly long, but I'm realising that theres a lot of guys on here (including myself), who rarely even get given a chance, simply because of the volume of disrespectful twats, ruining it for the genuine folks on here.
So my question is to the women on here. How do you cypher out which ones are genuine?"
Yes because it is obviously everyone else's fault isn't it? |
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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago
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"I've not been on here incredibly long, but I'm realising that theres a lot of guys on here (including myself), who rarely even get given a chance, simply because of the volume of disrespectful twats, ruining it for the genuine folks on here.
So my question is to the women on here. How do you cypher out which ones are genuine?"
Nope. The "disrespectful twats" as you call them just make the decent guys stand out a mile  .
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Wonder how come the same disrespectful twats that are spoiling it for you aren't spoiling it for those who get and enjoy meeting via Fab. It's a poser for sure... |
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"I've not been on here incredibly long, but I'm realising that theres a lot of guys on here (including myself), who rarely even get given a chance, simply because of the volume of disrespectful twats, ruining it for the genuine folks on here.
So my question is to the women on here. How do you cypher out which ones are genuine?"
Do you think calling other blokes 'disrespectful twats' makes you respectful?
Concentrate on how you behave rather than how others behave.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Up until last night l would have agreed with Diamondsmiles. However last night l met and got on with a couple. I asked them for their fab name and they said they had come of fab because of the fantasists, timewasters and plain twats, their words. They said they got over 100 new messages a day of which 90 belonged to men who fell into the just mentoned categories. They came off fab. Looking at threads on fab there is a clear theme of couples and women not using fab due to single men stupidity. Therefore although the reduction may not directly affect OP, l would suggest it indirectly affects all genuine single men. |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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"I've not been on here incredibly long, but I'm realising that theres a lot of guys on here (including myself), who rarely even get given a chance, simply because of the volume of disrespectful twats, ruining it for the genuine folks on here.
So my question is to the women on here. How do you cypher out which ones are genuine?"
No one ruins or spoils it for others. You make your own luck/success on here.
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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago
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"Up until last night l would have agreed with Diamondsmiles. However last night l met and got on with a couple. I asked them for their fab name and they said they had come of fab because of the fantasists, timewasters and plain twats, their words. They said they got over 100 new messages a day of which 90 belonged to men who fell into the just mentoned categories. They came off fab. Looking at threads on fab there is a clear theme of couples and women not using fab due to single men stupidity. Therefore although the reduction may not directly affect OP, l would suggest it indirectly affects all genuine single men."
Don't doubt some get fed up, but on the other side, I know of a number of men who get women saying how great it is to receive a nice message, or even messaging the blokes first. They often make a point of saying how refreshing it is to get a nice message and see a nice profile. Some of these guys are far from being gods gift and hung like a horse too.
I don't deny for a minute that the "single guy" issue can be a problem, but often the real issue lies a lot closer to home. |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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"Up until last night l would have agreed with Diamondsmiles. However last night l met and got on with a couple. I asked them for their fab name and they said they had come of fab because of the fantasists, timewasters and plain twats, their words. They said they got over 100 new messages a day of which 90 belonged to men who fell into the just mentoned categories. They came off fab. Looking at threads on fab there is a clear theme of couples and women not using fab due to single men stupidity. Therefore although the reduction may not directly affect OP, l would suggest it indirectly affects all genuine single men."
If single men and 100 odd shit messages are annoying couples and women that much, they can just filter them out.
It's often far easier and less stressful going searching yourself.
So that doesn't really wash with me, sorry. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've not been on here incredibly long, but I'm realising that theres a lot of guys on here (including myself), who rarely even get given a chance, simply because of the volume of disrespectful twats, ruining it for the genuine folks on here.
So my question is to the women on here. How do you cypher out which ones are genuine?"
Oh look, another one who expects meets on demand. Oh dear  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've not been on here incredibly long, but I'm realising that theres a lot of guys on here (including myself), who rarely even get given a chance, simply because of the volume of disrespectful twats, ruining it for the genuine folks on here.
So my question is to the women on here. How do you cypher out which ones are genuine?"
there are a fair share of twatty women too. But there's the odd diamond here and there |
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"Up until last night l would have agreed with Diamondsmiles. However last night l met and got on with a couple. I asked them for their fab name and they said they had come of fab because of the fantasists, timewasters and plain twats, their words. They said they got over 100 new messages a day of which 90 belonged to men who fell into the just mentoned categories. They came off fab. Looking at threads on fab there is a clear theme of couples and women not using fab due to single men stupidity. Therefore although the reduction may not directly affect OP, l would suggest it indirectly affects all genuine single men.
If single men and 100 odd shit messages are annoying couples and women that much, they can just filter them out.
It's often far easier and less stressful going searching yourself.
So that doesn't really wash with me, sorry."
nor me, i get just as many idiotic messages a day as the next person pretty damn easy to skip through. Depends if people want to turn things into a drama or not |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Up until last night l would have agreed with Diamondsmiles. However last night l met and got on with a couple. I asked them for their fab name and they said they had come of fab because of the fantasists, timewasters and plain twats, their words. They said they got over 100 new messages a day of which 90 belonged to men who fell into the just mentoned categories. They came off fab. Looking at threads on fab there is a clear theme of couples and women not using fab due to single men stupidity. Therefore although the reduction may not directly affect OP, l would suggest it indirectly affects all genuine single men.
If single men and 100 odd shit messages are annoying couples and women that much, they can just filter them out.
It's often far easier and less stressful going searching yourself.
So that doesn't really wash with me, sorry."
Or come off fab and meet at events, which is easier and more reliable if you have limited time. |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"I've not been on here incredibly long, but I'm realising that theres a lot of guys on here (including myself), who rarely even get given a chance, simply because of the volume of disrespectful twats, ruining it for the genuine folks on here.
So my question is to the women on here. How do you cypher out which ones are genuine?"
I know why you may not be getting a chance going by your post. |
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"I've not been on here incredibly long, but I'm realising that theres a lot of guys on here (including myself), who rarely even get given a chance, simply because of the volume of disrespectful twats, ruining it for the genuine folks on here.
So my question is to the women on here. How do you cypher out which ones are genuine?"
No one has to "give you a chance" you're not applying for a job!
If you meet what the people are seeking and there's attraction they may meet you.
There are thousands of "genuine" men on site, they don't meet my criteria, doesn't make them less so. As for running other men down, doesn't impress me. The one's I want to meet stand out, what others do doesn't change that. |
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"Up until last night l would have agreed with Diamondsmiles. However last night l met and got on with a couple. I asked them for their fab name and they said they had come of fab because of the fantasists, timewasters and plain twats, their words. They said they got over 100 new messages a day of which 90 belonged to men who fell into the just mentoned categories. They came off fab. Looking at threads on fab there is a clear theme of couples and women not using fab due to single men stupidity. Therefore although the reduction may not directly affect OP, l would suggest it indirectly affects all genuine single men."
I come across this argument time and again on the forums and I still Dont buy it
Some are discouraged by the bad behaviour of some and I've been shown some dreadful examples of that but It doesn't mean that the net number of couples and women willing to meet single guys is declining as new people join all the time replenishing the numbers that leave. |
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"These sort of posts annoy me. Noone spoils it for anyone. In over nine years ive never had a single problem with "disrespectful twats" if i dont like a message i move on. I chat, i have my bar set, if i get on with the person i will meet. Social. Then if that works move on to the play meet. All serms pretty straight forward to me AND if i did start meeting disrespectful twats id be giving my head a wobble for not having my radar tuned in"
100% this!!! |
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"Up until last night l would have agreed with Diamondsmiles. However last night l met and got on with a couple. I asked them for their fab name and they said they had come of fab because of the fantasists, timewasters and plain twats, their words. They said they got over 100 new messages a day of which 90 belonged to men who fell into the just mentoned categories. They came off fab. Looking at threads on fab there is a clear theme of couples and women not using fab due to single men stupidity. Therefore although the reduction may not directly affect OP, l would suggest it indirectly affects all genuine single men.
If single men and 100 odd shit messages are annoying couples and women that much, they can just filter them out.
It's often far easier and less stressful going searching yourself.
So that doesn't really wash with me, sorry."
Nor me! Easy to set filters, not answer those outwith what you want. Some just like the attention to maddahe their egos! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've not been on here incredibly long, but I'm realising that theres a lot of guys on here (including myself), who rarely even get given a chance, simply because of the volume of disrespectful twats, ruining it for the genuine folks on here.
So my question is to the women on here. How do you cypher out which ones are genuine?"
I'm confused by your contradictory profile so others may be too but you haven't asked for critique so I won't offer specifics |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've not been on here incredibly long, but I'm realising that theres a lot of guys on here (including myself), who rarely even get given a chance, simply because of the volume of disrespectful twats, ruining it for the genuine folks on here.
So my question is to the women on here. How do you cypher out which ones are genuine?"
Ah, the "others ruin it for me" post ...
Apply some logic, OP. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Up until last night l would have agreed with Diamondsmiles. However last night l met and got on with a couple. I asked them for their fab name and they said they had come of fab because of the fantasists, timewasters and plain twats, their words. They said they got over 100 new messages a day of which 90 belonged to men who fell into the just mentoned categories. They came off fab. Looking at threads on fab there is a clear theme of couples and women not using fab due to single men stupidity. Therefore although the reduction may not directly affect OP, l would suggest it indirectly affects all genuine single men."
There is also a clear theme of women and couples not using fab better due to their own stupidity. It's simple to use mail filters, even I know how to do it.
Some women and couples could be described as "disrespectful twats" yet they generally get away with it for obvious reasons.
If I'm having a shit time it's MY stupid fault. No-one else's. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've not been on here incredibly long, but I'm realising that theres a lot of guys on here (including myself), who rarely even get given a chance, simply because of the volume of disrespectful twats, ruining it for the genuine folks on here.
So my question is to the women on here. How do you cypher out which ones are genuine?"
I use my common sense. Simple as that. It works.
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
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do have my message filters on because of it, i admit, because it takes time away from me talking to those i want to talk to..thats how it effects me
how i filter them....well that, but i appreciate its probably annoying for those who are genuine who may want to talk to me, however i always place a club visit in my status, if anyone really wanted to meet me or, they could come and chat to me on the forums..i observe and watch quite alot..im in stealth perv mode so i can read profiles without people knowing ive visited. i can keep an eye on status's, i go on the forums..plenty of chance for those who want to to make themselves known. For me, its all about interest and timing... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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" do have my message filters on because of it, i admit, because it takes time away from me talking to those i want to talk to..thats how it effects me
how i filter them....well that, but i appreciate its probably annoying for those who are genuine who may want to talk to me, however i always place a club visit in my status, if anyone really wanted to meet me or, they could come and chat to me on the forums..i observe and watch quite alot..im in stealth perv mode so i can read profiles without people knowing ive visited. i can keep an eye on status's, i go on the forums..plenty of chance for those who want to to make themselves known. For me, its all about interest and timing..."
Just to let you know, if you have filters on and someone asks to message you on the forums because they can't because of your filters, it's seen as trying to get round your filters and you get into trouble |
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
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" do have my message filters on because of it, i admit, because it takes time away from me talking to those i want to talk to..thats how it effects me
how i filter them....well that, but i appreciate its probably annoying for those who are genuine who may want to talk to me, however i always place a club visit in my status, if anyone really wanted to meet me or, they could come and chat to me on the forums..i observe and watch quite alot..im in stealth perv mode so i can read profiles without people knowing ive visited. i can keep an eye on status's, i go on the forums..plenty of chance for those who want to to make themselves known. For me, its all about interest and timing...
Just to let you know, if you have filters on and someone asks to message you on the forums because they can't because of your filters, it's seen as trying to get round your filters and you get into trouble "
i do chat to people on forums without them asking that question ms innocent x..im not trying to get anyone into trouble..what i mean is that i read and comment on peoples posts and threads and sometimes i 'chat' on the threads...socially..if mutual interest without them asking i message or they may wink or something..no one needs to break any rules  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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" do have my message filters on because of it, i admit, because it takes time away from me talking to those i want to talk to..thats how it effects me
how i filter them....well that, but i appreciate its probably annoying for those who are genuine who may want to talk to me, however i always place a club visit in my status, if anyone really wanted to meet me or, they could come and chat to me on the forums..i observe and watch quite alot..im in stealth perv mode so i can read profiles without people knowing ive visited. i can keep an eye on status's, i go on the forums..plenty of chance for those who want to to make themselves known. For me, its all about interest and timing...
Just to let you know, if you have filters on and someone asks to message you on the forums because they can't because of your filters, it's seen as trying to get round your filters and you get into trouble i do chat to people on forums without them asking that question ms innocent x..im not trying to get anyone into trouble..what i mean is that i read and comment on peoples posts and threads and sometimes i 'chat' on the threads...socially..if mutual interest without them asking i message or they may wink or something..no one needs to break any rules "
I know you're not trying to get anyone in trouble 
It was just a warning for anyone thinking of doing this |
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
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" do have my message filters on because of it, i admit, because it takes time away from me talking to those i want to talk to..thats how it effects me
how i filter them....well that, but i appreciate its probably annoying for those who are genuine who may want to talk to me, however i always place a club visit in my status, if anyone really wanted to meet me or, they could come and chat to me on the forums..i observe and watch quite alot..im in stealth perv mode so i can read profiles without people knowing ive visited. i can keep an eye on status's, i go on the forums..plenty of chance for those who want to to make themselves known. For me, its all about interest and timing...
Just to let you know, if you have filters on and someone asks to message you on the forums because they can't because of your filters, it's seen as trying to get round your filters and you get into trouble i do chat to people on forums without them asking that question ms innocent x..im not trying to get anyone into trouble..what i mean is that i read and comment on peoples posts and threads and sometimes i 'chat' on the threads...socially..if mutual interest without them asking i message or they may wink or something..no one needs to break any rules
I know you're not trying to get anyone in trouble
It was just a warning for anyone thinking of doing this "
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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago
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Johnsodas third law Of fab...
The more genuine a person is inversely proportional to the amount of genuines used.
I've always found in all walks of life 'twats' make themselves known pretty quickly  |
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No, they don't ruin it for anyone, I just delete their vulgar, presumptuous messages without even opening them.
But, I have to say OP I think you have been misled by someone into thinking you would be beating them off with a stick - it isn't quite like that, especially if you are rather too young for most of us. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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time that they messages is quite a good indicator of what they actually want.
what's on their profile can give hints, and this includes their status.
what they actually say, and how conversation continues.
that's about it for me. i know more guys are genuine than i care to reply to but often i don't fancy the guy for various reasons or something shows he's not compatible with me. |
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"The first message is usually a good indication of whether someone is genuine or a twat. "
I'd like to know if you consider the two are mutually exclusive.
Could some of them not be "genuine twats"? |
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over a year ago
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"The first message is usually a good indication of whether someone is genuine or a twat.
I'd like to know if you consider the two are mutually exclusive.
Could some of them not be "genuine twats"? "
I won't rule it out  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've not been on here incredibly long, but I'm realising that theres a lot of guys on here (including myself), who rarely even get given a chance, simply because of the volume of disrespectful twats, ruining it for the genuine folks on here.
So my question is to the women on here. How do you cypher out which ones are genuine?"
By talking to them |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Dude! I've been on hear for over a year now and have only recently received a verification after one of only 3 socials I've had in that time.
I don't believe in necessarily making your own luck because if women don't fancy you, they don't fancy you.
I guess what in trying to say is that for some people, me included, you just have to persevere and be patient. Expect nothing and you won't be disappointed.
Some men do actually find it very easy to attract the opposite sex on fab, whether it's looks or how they portrait themselves through messages. We are all different and have our own ways.
There are also many twats on here but I somehow doubt that because of them, the good guys take a pasting. They get found out and the women on here aren't stupid.
Keep expectations low and whatever happens, if anything happens is a bonus.
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
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"Dude! I've been on hear for over a year now and have only recently received a verification after one of only 3 socials I've had in that time.
I don't believe in necessarily making your own luck because if women don't fancy you, they don't fancy you.
I guess what in trying to say is that for some people, me included, you just have to persevere and be patient. Expect nothing and you won't be disappointed.
Some men do actually find it very easy to attract the opposite sex on fab, whether it's looks or how they portrait themselves through messages. We are all different and have our own ways.
There are also many twats on here but I somehow doubt that because of them, the good guys take a pasting. They get found out and the women on here aren't stupid.
Keep expectations low and whatever happens, if anything happens is a bonus.
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wish you were nearer xx |
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"Dude! I've been on hear for over a year now and have only recently received a verification after one of only 3 socials I've had in that time.
I don't believe in necessarily making your own luck because if women don't fancy you, they don't fancy you.
I guess what in trying to say is that for some people, me included, you just have to persevere and be patient. Expect nothing and you won't be disappointed.
Some men do actually find it very easy to attract the opposite sex on fab, whether it's looks or how they portrait themselves through messages. We are all different and have our own ways.
There are also many twats on here but I somehow doubt that because of them, the good guys take a pasting. They get found out and the women on here aren't stupid.
Keep expectations low and whatever happens, if anything happens is a bonus.
wish you were nearer xx"
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"I've not been on here incredibly long, but I'm realising that theres a lot of guys on here (including myself), who rarely even get given a chance, simply because of the volume of disrespectful twats, ruining it for the genuine folks on here.
So my question is to the women on here. How do you cypher out which ones are genuine?"
I'm happy to have contributed to completely and utterly wrecking your fab experience and if only I was told by you HOW I managed this miracle of feats, I sincerely promise I won't do it again and then you'll be knee deep in clunge. |
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By *hav02Man
over a year ago
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I've met more women in real life who are attracted to me than off fab, so i don't count my chances on here.
Woman won't necessarily jump into bed with every guy that messages them
Also, this "single guy struggle topic" is becoming a repetitive weekly theme, can we ban it please |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"I've not been on here incredibly long, but I'm realising that theres a lot of guys on here (including myself), who rarely even get given a chance, simply because of the volume of disrespectful twats, ruining it for the genuine folks on here.
So my question is to the women on here. How do you cypher out which ones are genuine?"
no no no no
its a easy "bit" to use... blame everyone else.... them mean nasty people!!! oh funny enough that leave me blameless.....
you then become as bad as the people you seek to blame!
see the easy thing to do is to blame everyone else... rather than being self reflective and say well what can i do better! how do i find a better way of standing out rather than to be known as the person who ran down the other single guys to mnke himself look better!!!
you focus on the one thing you can control.... YOU!!!!
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