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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Wow not sure if I'm being overly sensitive or not but bare with me.
I'm new to the scene ok I get that it's hard to get started without verifications etc but
One reply a was "Thank you for your interest but you are not suitable for us" and that was fine. Nice socially responsive but a nice way to say no thank you.
On the flip side I've just had one come back "No thanks. Bye!" Bit harsh I thought as I'm always polite in my messages and don't send cock pics etc
Funny how different responses make you feel  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's Fab, you need a thick skin.
My response tends to be extremely blunt, along the lines of "no thanks" or "not interested." It's a case of not wanting to get into a conversation. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Don't get me wrong g I appreciate the response see its just how they come across.
The latter response seemed somewhat the opposite to the way people were describing them in the reviews. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Wow not sure if I'm being overly sensitive or not but bare with me.
I'm new to the scene ok I get that it's hard to get started without verifications etc but
One reply a was "Thank you for your interest but you are not suitable for us" and that was fine. Nice socially responsive but a nice way to say no thank you.
On the flip side I've just had one come back "No thanks. Bye!" Bit harsh I thought as I'm always polite in my messages and don't send cock pics etc
Funny how different responses make you feel "
Don't want to be rude but what kind of reply would you like?
No thanks, bye seems perfectly acceptable to me, what's the point in saying anymore, would you like an explanation as to why they don't want to meet? Does it matter why they don't want to meet? It says all it needs to
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We always try to reply, that's if there is something to reply to. If the message is a single sentence, the profile is a single sentence and just a few cock pics....... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To be fair, the amount of messages women get, is unreal
Out of 100 a day, there might only be one or two that spark their interest. No matter how polite, if you're not their type, then you're not their type.
It would take ages to reply to every person, a minute a message, over an hour and half just saying no thank you. That's an hour and half, I could be talking to someone I have interest in. I know it seams harsh but the amount of abuse I have got from guys when I've said no thank you,
I have had to block yet again. Nob heads spoiling it for everyone else |
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"Wow not sure if I'm being overly sensitive or not but bare with me.
I'm new to the scene ok I get that it's hard to get started without verifications etc but
One reply a was "Thank you for your interest but you are not suitable for us" and that was fine. Nice socially responsive but a nice way to say no thank you.
On the flip side I've just had one come back "No thanks. Bye!" Bit harsh I thought as I'm always polite in my messages and don't send cock pics etc
Funny how different responses make you feel "
Don't it personally.delete message,and move on to the next one. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No thanks bye? Thats actualy quite polite. 
Your right though, the same answer served different ways can induce various feelings. I'd get used to rejections though, I've found its hard to enjoy somebody's personality when it's obvious the initial attraction on the forefront is your looks.
You'll do alright as your well handsome.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don't get me wrong g I appreciate the response see its just how they come across.
The latter response seemed somewhat the opposite to the way people were describing them in the reviews."
Reviews? 
Well of course women will appear different to someone they don't want to meet as opposed to those they've liked enough to meet. |
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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago
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Tbh some people I get no response, some I get thanks but no thanks, some I get blocked, some I get a good response.
I would say that I don't often ask people to meet tho I did today and she said yes 
Normally I will try to meet someone either at a club or socially and then see what happens |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes you are being overly sensitive, both replies were probably typed once then pasted to 50 messages that didn't appeal but were worth a no thanks reply. count it as a win that your opening message didn't go straight to block. |
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I always use a simple 'no thanks X'
What's wrong with that?
I don't want a conversation about it, I don't want to hurt someone's feelings and I don't want to tell them why.
A reply is better than a delete is it not? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I usually reply to messages I'm not interested in pursuing with a standard reply saying something like thanks for the message but you aren't what we are looking for. I hope you have fun meets with others.
I constantly get people asking what it is I am looking for. Constantly! I just delete the message at that point because I'm not interested in explaining myself.
Sometimes people will continue to message asking why. Recently I answered someone's third such message honestly, and the guy said I was being harsh.
OP, you don't really want to know each situation that has led women to reply or not reply to your message in a certain way. Just move on and don't dwell on it.
You are likely to be ignored. You may get nasty replies. You may get more "no thanks, bye" messages. Don't overthink it. Thick skin is all you need. |
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"Aha do you always put a kiss?
See that takes it from being blunt to sociable. It makes a big difference"
Depends... if someone sends me something crude I omit the kiss. If there's effort gone into the message I usually elaborate and say that I'm not meeting at the moment. Nice to be polite I say.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think a good old fashioned....Fuck Off is the best policy ...no beating around the bush then is there  "
And I bet that would be interpreted as Come Fuck Me Now |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think a good old fashioned....Fuck Off is the best policy ...no beating around the bush then is there
And I bet that would be interpreted as Come Fuck Me Now "
I've gotta headache sausage  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You're being human. Unfortunately some people have been here a long time and are hardened to those kids of messages. We just shrug and move on.
I do feel there is a difference between someone saying bye and bye!! The latter would make me think they were having a laugh at my expense; even though I wouldn't give a shit  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My point to exactly
Use the "quote and reply" button as we can't see who you're responding to "
But isn't it more fun trying to work out who he is answering |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Aha do you always put a kiss?
See that takes it from being blunt to sociable. It makes a big difference"
I understand, I've a lifelong habit of being overly sensitive to little details.
But ...
"It's Fab, you need a thick skin."
This. You could spend forever torturing yourself over such little details and although I'd personally much rather be a sensitive person than not, sometimes you just have to let it go and move on.
As has been pointed out, some people here get many dozens of messages every day, so don't take it personally if they don't spend much time on polite rejections. On a busy day I might get 10-20 messages and even that many sometimes has me bulk deleting, I'm ashamed to say. Usually it's to do with my own mood swings and what kind of day I'm having, rather than anything to do with the people messaging me.
Good luck, and don't get disillusioned : ) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some are just on a power trip and will be harsh, I think they lose perspective of what it's like to be new. Everyone was new once.
Just move on and don't take it personally.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Anyway look on the bright side .. if you value good manners and you've been turned down by someone who appears to lack them, then you're probably better off anyway |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I had a reply from an add somewhere else of " sorry but......" (that was exact message) after I sent a lady a body shot of me in undies. I was a bit upset at time, deflated my confidence somewhat. XXX |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Here's a good one ... Friend request from a total stranger. I have a look and see that the profile is about as far as it can get from what I'm here for. And at the end of the profile she says, "do not send a friend request without messaging me first".
Just thought I'd share, carry on : ) |
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By *arksidesubCouple
over a year ago
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"Wow not sure if I'm being overly sensitive or not but bare with me.
I'm new to the scene ok I get that it's hard to get started without verifications etc but
One reply a was "Thank you for your interest but you are not suitable for us" and that was fine. Nice socially responsive but a nice way to say no thank you.
On the flip side I've just had one come back "No thanks. Bye!" Bit harsh I thought as I'm always polite in my messages and don't send cock pics etc
Funny how different responses make you feel "
Being rude is not in my nature!
There is no need for it.
Even if someone is rude to me I will be even more polite in response.
My advice would be take no notice it's them with the attitude problem!
I choose to stay well clear of people who are rude.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"To be fair, the amount of messages women get, is unreal
Out of 100 a day, there might only be one or two that spark their interest. No matter how polite, if you're not their type, then you're not their type.
It would take ages to reply to every person, a minute a message, over an hour and half just saying no thank you. That's an hour and half, I could be talking to someone I have interest in. I know it seams harsh but the amount of abuse I have got from guys when I've said no thank you,
I have had to block yet again. Nob heads spoiling it for everyone else"
For every no thanks you get a reply. It's a vicious circle. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don't get me wrong g I appreciate the response see its just how they come across.
The latter response seemed somewhat the opposite to the way people were describing them in the reviews."
I can see where you are coming from, but on the other hand, maybe the "bye" was meant as a final word on the matter. I have politely knocked back guys and then got pestered. It happens to me. Sometimes people just don;t get the message and maybe that is their way of under-lining the "no thanks". Just my take on it. |
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"Wow not sure if I'm being overly sensitive or not but bare with me.
I'm new to the scene ok I get that it's hard to get started without verifications etc but
One reply a was "Thank you for your interest but you are not suitable for us" and that was fine. Nice socially responsive but a nice way to say no thank you.
On the flip side I've just had one come back "No thanks. Bye!" Bit harsh I thought as I'm always polite in my messages and don't send cock pics etc
Funny how different responses make you feel "
My personal opinion is that you are being over sensitive and also over analysing the response to your message.
It is short and to the point but it isn't abusive there's no swearing or insults and you know exactly where you stand. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Here's a good one ... Friend request from a total stranger. I have a look and see that the profile is about as far as it can get from what I'm here for. And at the end of the profile she says, "do not send a friend request without messaging me first".
Just thought I'd share, carry on : )"
That's random Niki. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Here's a good one ... Friend request from a total stranger. I have a look and see that the profile is about as far as it can get from what I'm here for. And at the end of the profile she says, "do not send a friend request without messaging me first".
Just thought I'd share, carry on : )
That's random Niki. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I once got a "sorry you're a bit large for us" message
Which I thought was a bit harsh as if that was so why did they message me in the first place "
Mean |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I once got a "sorry you're a bit large for us" message
Which I thought was a bit harsh as if that was so why did they message me in the first place
Mean "
I know and they messaged me first but decided this when I told them I would only meet in a club  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i can imagine that actually replying on here means that you have to be fairly harsh, blunt, and boring even, so the guy does not pester to ask why, or any other pointless questions and take up more time in your inbox. |
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"Don't get me wrong g I appreciate the response see its just how they come across.
The latter response seemed somewhat the opposite to the way people were describing them in the reviews."
try reading the responses with a different frame of mind eg fuck off no way read as: fuck not this time im off and thankyou but thanks for taking time to read my profile and writing me a lovely message have a great fab experience |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I once got a "sorry you're a bit large for us" message
Which I thought was a bit harsh as if that was so why did they message me in the first place
Mean
I know and they messaged me first but decided this when I told them I would only meet in a club "
Sounds like a lucky escape from idiots to me. Their loss I am sure x |
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