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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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you arrange to meet someone for a first social meet, but the other person cancels at the last minute, and the excuse is rather a pathetic one...it was something you were looking forward to so would you rearrange a new social or not, and if not why not?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"you arrange to meet someone for a first social meet, but the other person cancels at the last minute, and the excuse is rather a pathetic one...it was something you were looking forward to so would you rearrange a new social or not, and if not why not?
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People get cold feet sometimes. I give second chances if it's someone I really like the look of |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"you arrange to meet someone for a first social meet, but the other person cancels at the last minute, and the excuse is rather a pathetic one...it was something you were looking forward to so would you rearrange a new social or not, and if not why not?
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It depends on the excuse. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"you arrange to meet someone for a first social meet, but the other person cancels at the last minute, and the excuse is rather a pathetic one...it was something you were looking forward to so would you rearrange a new social or not, and if not why not?
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If I was to arrange a meet and that situation arose I would simply re-arrange another meet,
the reason being; I would already have established a very good friendship and confirmation that the person is genuine prior to this arranged meet
a situation can arise at any time which can be out of the control of either party.
these things happen. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"you arrange to meet someone for a first social meet, but the other person cancels at the last minute, and the excuse is rather a pathetic one...it was something you were looking forward to so would you rearrange a new social or not, and if not why not?
People get cold feet sometimes. I give second chances if it's someone I really like the look of"
This  but if they do it a 2nd time, then they're out  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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With them? Entirely up to you and how well you've connected up to that point. I'm personally a great believer in giving the benefit of the doubt - once! Two strikes and out though |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not with that person no.
I appreciate people change their mind or get nervous but if it's a social meet then there's no pressure to go further.
It's bad manners to cancel at the last minute.
My free time is precious and not an endless commodity.
Cancelling with notice is acceptable but a no show or last minute just gets them on my block list! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"you arrange to meet someone for a first social meet, but the other person cancels at the last minute, and the excuse is rather a pathetic one...it was something you were looking forward to so would you rearrange a new social or not, and if not why not?
People get cold feet sometimes. I give second chances if it's someone I really like the look of"
So you would but I asked if you wouldn't  |
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By *GHertsCouple
over a year ago
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Depends on the reason given I guess, and without knowing (or wishing to know) that, it's difficult to judge - but what may seem a little pathetic to one person, may not necessarily be so to another. I'd suggest a second chance was in order, unless that excuse really was transparentally pathetic and obviously an excuse as opposed to a genuine reason.
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I have a strict No Second Chance policy, unless the excuse was a damn good one.
I rarely get any excuses, I've only had 2 no shows in 4 years.
Had one weekend meet who was a no show because he was stabbed and ended up in the hospital (yea, the story checked out)...that qualified as a Good Excuse. So do family emergencies. Pathetic excuses are things that I tend to take with a grain of salt and move on from quickly.
Even if they seem great online, why bother with someone who doesn't have the decency to show when he promises to????? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Depends on the reason given I guess, and without knowing (or wishing to know) that, it's difficult to judge - but what may seem a little pathetic to one person, may not necessarily be so to another. I'd suggest a second chance was in order, unless that excuse really was transparentally pathetic and obviously an excuse as opposed to a genuine reason.
Mr G"
It's not a question about me personally it's about what you would do in the circumstances...
My motto is two strikes and you're out and blocked, regardless |
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By *GHertsCouple
over a year ago
North Herts |
"Depends on the reason given I guess, and without knowing (or wishing to know) that, it's difficult to judge - but what may seem a little pathetic to one person, may not necessarily be so to another. I'd suggest a second chance was in order, unless that excuse really was transparentally pathetic and obviously an excuse as opposed to a genuine reason.
Mr G
It's not a question about me personally it's about what you would do in the circumstances...
My motto is two strikes and you're out and blocked, regardless "
Ah ok, hadn't read it that way. Either way my answer would still be the same to be honest 
Mr G |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Everyone deserves a second chance..
Look how many chances the England footy team have had and they disappoint every time..
Can't knock them for consistency I spose "
trust a man to turn it into football analogy  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"A lot of people double book, then see which is better prospect. So cancel one go to other........but karmas a bitch other people could cancel"
but what would YOU do? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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this happened to us last week, we where literally walking out the front door when we got the txt.
Blamed a call out from work, not the strongest excuse/reason but hey shit happens.
So yes we would give them a second chance but that would be it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Maybe but they wouldn't be at the top of my 'to do list'. They would drop down to the when I get round to it bit.
But they wouldn't get a third chance."
Same as this. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd probably not arrange a meet again. I say probably because I'm sure there are circumstances under which I'd give it a second thought. But probably not. |
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
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"you arrange to meet someone for a first social meet, but the other person cancels at the last minute, and the excuse is rather a pathetic one...it was something you were looking forward to so would you rearrange a new social or not, and if not why not?
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Life's a bit short to be messed around lame excuse normally means one of two things in this world cold feet or a fake profile IE fake pictures so I'd most likely move on .
But I did have a male friend who always canceled the first date his line of thinking was it made him more desirable you know the one you can't have sort of thing lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"you arrange to meet someone for a first social meet, but the other person cancels at the last minute, and the excuse is rather a pathetic one...it was something you were looking forward to so would you rearrange a new social or not, and if not why not?
People get cold feet sometimes. I give second chances if it's someone I really like the look of
So you would but I asked if you wouldn't "
I can be a very patient person 
Tbh if it was somebody who I didn't think was worth a second chance, then I wouldn't have agreed to a meet in the first place : ) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would trust my gut. It would depend on how I felt about the person and if I believed them.
I once had an insane 'excuse' from someone cancelling a meet. I trusted my gut and rearranged. He turned up with proof it wasn't just an excuse. |
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"2nd chances all round. God knows, real life gets in the way of fantasy shag land sometimes. "
If they cancel in good time it's cool. If it's a pathetic excuse I doubt if there will be another time but, if they don't show up it's finished. |
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No.
You've been bitten once. Why go back to be bitten again? That's the sign of lunacy.
To those saying .. awwwwww everyone deserves a second chance.. No they don't. Such sentiment is for your children, your family or someone who missed the bus for a job interview.. this was a meet with a stranger.
O.P. No loyalty was shown to you so don't show any back. You may as well just lie down with the doormat. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It'd depend on the excuse and amount of time given. I value my free time highly as it's almost beyond rare, it'd take a lot to convince me to give a second chance. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Depends on the reason given I guess, and without knowing (or wishing to know) that, it's difficult to judge - but what may seem a little pathetic to one person, may not necessarily be so to another. I'd suggest a second chance was in order, unless that excuse really was transparentally pathetic and obviously an excuse as opposed to a genuine reason.
Mr G
It's not a question about me personally it's about what you would do in the circumstances...
My motto is two strikes and you're out and blocked, regardless "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"you arrange to meet someone for a first social meet, but the other person cancels at the last minute, and the excuse is rather a pathetic one...it was something you were looking forward to so would you rearrange a new social or not, and if not why not?
People get cold feet sometimes. I give second chances if it's someone I really like the look of"
This |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would because I really wanted to meet this guy,but child care was running extremely late! I actually didn't want to give a excuse,because I was afraid he didn't believe me!But I was let down in last minute too! 2 nd chance Is a must for me! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I would because I really wanted to meet this guy,but child care was running extremely late! I actually didn't want to give a excuse,because I was afraid he didn't believe me!But I was let down in last minute too! 2 nd chance Is a must for me!"
Black temptation tried messaging you but you have your filters on did we used to hang out at chams x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends on how much you liked them. If you do genuinely feel they were messing you about and your were in the mood for a good social then go for it and arrange something else. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would go by my gut feeling & if I felt the excuse was genuine I would rearrange but he would need to sort the arrangements out.
However, if I saw a veri pop up on the day (coincidence or not) it might well be a different outcome.... |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
Over the rainbow, under the bridge |
"you arrange to meet someone for a first social meet, but the other person cancels at the last minute, and the excuse is rather a pathetic one...it was something you were looking forward to so would you rearrange a new social or not, and if not why not?
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I give no second chances ever regardless. Been burned too many times before. Plus you say the excuse was pathetic which indicates a lack of respect.
He'd be blocked on here and on my phone if I'd already given my number. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I once got chatting to someone on here and liked him but had to cancel our first 3 meets I think for little things and thought he would deem me a time waster.
Eventually met up and got on like a house on fire and have had lots of fun meets since.
Sometimes perseverance pays off x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No.
You've been bitten once. Why go back to be bitten again? That's the sign of lunacy.
To those saying .. awwwwww everyone deserves a second chance.. No they don't. Such sentiment is for your children, your family or someone who missed the bus for a job interview.. this was a meet with a stranger.
O.P. No loyalty was shown to you so don't show any back. You may as well just lie down with the doormat. "
What if he could lick his eyebrows and his dog unexpectedly had puppies that day and he had to stay home to look after them?  |
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If it was a work appointment you would have to accept it but on a social with someone you don't know then I'm afraid I'd go beserk and I wouldn't be speaking to them again. Too many people mess you about on here so the best thing to do is pass them bye. |
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"No.
You've been bitten once. Why go back to be bitten again? That's the sign of lunacy.
To those saying .. awwwwww everyone deserves a second chance.. No they don't. Such sentiment is for your children, your family or someone who missed the bus for a job interview.. this was a meet with a stranger.
O.P. No loyalty was shown to you so don't show any back. You may as well just lie down with the doormat.
What if he could lick his eyebrows and his dog unexpectedly had puppies that day and he had to stay home to look after them? "
can he lick the dogs eyebrows!? Do dogs have eyebrows  |
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"No.
You've been bitten once. Why go back to be bitten again? That's the sign of lunacy.
To those saying .. awwwwww everyone deserves a second chance.. No they don't. Such sentiment is for your children, your family or someone who missed the bus for a job interview.. this was a meet with a stranger.
O.P. No loyalty was shown to you so don't show any back. You may as well just lie down with the doormat.
What if he could lick his eyebrows and his dog unexpectedly had puppies that day and he had to stay home to look after them? "
99 excuses but a bitch aint one of em...
Still a NO. |
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