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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Not all young single mates are childish and immature like some people think they are.
I've been chatting to a young guy for a couple of months now with the intentions of meeting him. Today he asked me for a social drink which sadly I had to decline as I needed more notice to get a sitter in to sit with my mother as I'm her full time carer. He messaged me earlier telling me to look on my doorstep which I did to find a beautiful bouquet of lillies there. I was gobsmacked to say the least. When I messaged him and thanked him and asked why he had left them, he just said he wanted to put a smile on my face because I was such a nice person and because of some health issues I'm going through. I thought that was really sweet and kind of him.
So people there really is some nice mature genuine young guys out there  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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aw that's nice!
It's far too easy to draw generalisations and tar everyone with the same brush - but we're all individuals with our own positives and negatives.
He sounds like a decent chap even if he'd actually been right up to your doorstep without you knowing!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Actually having thought about it a bit more isn't this slightly strange?
I take it you've never actually met yet (given that say you have 'intentions to meet'), yet he knows where you live (hopefully you've told him your address in the past otherwise he's sought it out).
Now I could be wrong here but I'm speculating that he bought the flowers hoping you'd meet today - when you didn't he gave them anyway by still coming right up to your house ..
Now I'm sure he is lovely and well meaning and everything but the fact that he was around and about near your house (unless he lives just around the corner anyway) is a bit, well, disconcerting isn't it? Well to a neutral onlooker looking in it does, just a little.
Maybe I'm wrong, maybe it's just me, but if someone did that to me I might be just a little freaked .. ?
Forgive me if I'm speaking totally out of turn here ... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Actually having thought about it a bit more isn't this slightly strange?
I take it you've never actually met yet (given that say you have 'intentions to meet'), yet he knows where you live (hopefully you've told him your address in the past otherwise he's sought it out).
Now I could be wrong here but I'm speculating that he bought the flowers hoping you'd meet today - when you didn't he gave them anyway by still coming right up to your house ..
Now I'm sure he is lovely and well meaning and everything but the fact that he was around and about near your house (unless he lives just around the corner anyway) is a bit, well, disconcerting isn't it? Well to a neutral onlooker looking in it does, just a little.
Maybe I'm wrong, maybe it's just me, but if someone did that to me I might be just a little freaked .. ?
Forgive me if I'm speaking totally out of turn here ... "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Actually having thought about it a bit more isn't this slightly strange?
I take it you've never actually met yet (given that say you have 'intentions to meet'), yet he knows where you live (hopefully you've told him your address in the past otherwise he's sought it out).
Now I could be wrong here but I'm speculating that he bought the flowers hoping you'd meet today - when you didn't he gave them anyway by still coming right up to your house ..
Now I'm sure he is lovely and well meaning and everything but the fact that he was around and about near your house (unless he lives just around the corner anyway) is a bit, well, disconcerting isn't it? Well to a neutral onlooker looking in it does, just a little.
Maybe I'm wrong, maybe it's just me, but if someone did that to me I might be just a little freaked .. ?
Forgive me if I'm speaking totally out of turn here ... "
He had my address already as we was supposed to have met a few weeks ago but I had to cancel at last minute due to finding out news about my health
And he was staying in Skegness last night which is only up the road from where I live and has to pass through my town for him to get home |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Actually having thought about it a bit more isn't this slightly strange?
I take it you've never actually met yet (given that say you have 'intentions to meet'), yet he knows where you live (hopefully you've told him your address in the past otherwise he's sought it out).
Now I could be wrong here but I'm speculating that he bought the flowers hoping you'd meet today - when you didn't he gave them anyway by still coming right up to your house ..
Now I'm sure he is lovely and well meaning and everything but the fact that he was around and about near your house (unless he lives just around the corner anyway) is a bit, well, disconcerting isn't it? Well to a neutral onlooker looking in it does, just a little.
Maybe I'm wrong, maybe it's just me, but if someone did that to me I might be just a little freaked .. ?
Forgive me if I'm speaking totally out of turn here ...
He had my address already as we was supposed to have met a few weeks ago but I had to cancel at last minute due to finding out news about my health
And he was staying in Skegness last night which is only up the road from where I live and has to pass through my town for him to get home "
fair enough .. Sounds less stalkery when you say it like that  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think that's quite sweet!
I'm a huge fan of random acts of kindness and being able to bring a little smile to someone's face is priceless.
So, if someone were to happen to leave an Indian meal outside my door....I wouldn't be upset....  |
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"Actually having thought about it a bit more isn't this slightly strange?
I take it you've never actually met yet (given that say you have 'intentions to meet'), yet he knows where you live (hopefully you've told him your address in the past otherwise he's sought it out).
Now I could be wrong here but I'm speculating that he bought the flowers hoping you'd meet today - when you didn't he gave them anyway by still coming right up to your house ..
Now I'm sure he is lovely and well meaning and everything but the fact that he was around and about near your house (unless he lives just around the corner anyway) is a bit, well, disconcerting isn't it? Well to a neutral onlooker looking in it does, just a little.
Maybe I'm wrong, maybe it's just me, but if someone did that to me I might be just a little freaked .. ?
Forgive me if I'm speaking totally out of turn here ...
He had my address already as we was supposed to have met a few weeks ago but I had to cancel at last minute due to finding out news about my health
And he was staying in Skegness last night which is only up the road from where I live and has to pass through my town for him to get home
fair enough .. Sounds less stalkery when you say it like that "
I still think its scary |
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It starts with....flowers and eventually ends with being bundled into the boot of a car blindfolded, handcuffed, gagged and driven through the night to a disused barn....Once inside, you would be tired to a chair...and toyed with mercilessly with toys that vibrated, nipple clamps and hot wax...
Well with me you would be.. |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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"Not all young single mates are childish and immature like some people think they are.
I've been chatting to a young guy for a couple of months now with the intentions of meeting him. Today he asked me for a social drink which sadly I had to decline as I needed more notice to get a sitter in to sit with my mother as I'm her full time carer. He messaged me earlier telling me to look on my doorstep which I did to find a beautiful bouquet of lillies there. I was gobsmacked to say the least. When I messaged him and thanked him and asked why he had left them, he just said he wanted to put a smile on my face because I was such a nice person and because of some health issues I'm going through. I thought that was really sweet and kind of him.
So people there really is some nice mature genuine young guys out there "
If someone I'd only chatted with & never met, left me flowers on my doorstep. I'd personally find it a bit weird.
It would make me wonder if they would just turn up unexpectedly on another occasion.
That's just my opinion. I'm a bit of a cynical buggar at times.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think that's quite sweet!
I'm a huge fan of random acts of kindness and being able to bring a little smile to someone's face is priceless.
So, if someone were to happen to leave an Indian meal outside my door....I wouldn't be upset.... "
Good idea, just going to find the takeaway menu and post what I fancy. I look forward to my meal being delivered |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Not all young single mates are childish and immature like some people think they are.
I've been chatting to a young guy for a couple of months now with the intentions of meeting him. Today he asked me for a social drink which sadly I had to decline as I needed more notice to get a sitter in to sit with my mother as I'm her full time carer. He messaged me earlier telling me to look on my doorstep which I did to find a beautiful bouquet of lillies there. I was gobsmacked to say the least. When I messaged him and thanked him and asked why he had left them, he just said he wanted to put a smile on my face because I was such a nice person and because of some health issues I'm going through. I thought that was really sweet and kind of him.
So people there really is some nice mature genuine young guys out there
If someone I'd only chatted with & never met, left me flowers on my doorstep. I'd personally find it a bit weird.
It would make me wonder if they would just turn up unexpectedly on another occasion.
That's just my opinion. I'm a bit of a cynical buggar at times.
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* quickly runs back to Bendys doorstep and retrieves his posy of daisies * |
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"Not all young single mates are childish and immature like some people think they are.
I've been chatting to a young guy for a couple of months now with the intentions of meeting him. Today he asked me for a social drink which sadly I had to decline as I needed more notice to get a sitter in to sit with my mother as I'm her full time carer. He messaged me earlier telling me to look on my doorstep which I did to find a beautiful bouquet of lillies there. I was gobsmacked to say the least. When I messaged him and thanked him and asked why he had left them, he just said he wanted to put a smile on my face because I was such a nice person and because of some health issues I'm going through. I thought that was really sweet and kind of him.
So people there really is some nice mature genuine young guys out there " Seem a thoughtfull and considerate jesture . It is good to know that there are people like this around .
Hopefully it was also a moral booster . |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Can I clarify that he sent the flowers to cheer me up. I'm going through some serious health issues at the moment and not feeling that great. There is no stalkish motives behind it at all. The reason he didn't think deliver them personally is because I live with my mum and he thought other family could pissibly be here visiting. All I was trying to say is that there are some nice single guys out there
Wished now I never posted it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don't apologise for posting this. If you think he's a great guy that's all that matters. Of course people will try to look for drama in everything they read, just make sure not to take their opinion personally. |
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"Don't apologise for posting this. If you think he's a great guy that's all that matters. Of course people will try to look for drama in everything they read, just make sure not to take their opinion personally."
Some people  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Can I clarify that he sent the flowers to cheer me up. I'm going through some serious health issues at the moment and not feeling that great. There is no stalkish motives behind it at all. The reason he didn't think deliver them personally is because I live with my mum and he thought other family could pissibly be here visiting. All I was trying to say is that there are some nice single guys out there
Wished now I never posted it "
Some just like to see the negative in everything. I thought it was a lovely post  |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"Can I clarify that he sent the flowers to cheer me up. I'm going through some serious health issues at the moment and not feeling that great. There is no stalkish motives behind it at all. The reason he didn't think deliver them personally is because I live with my mum and he thought other family could pissibly be here visiting. All I was trying to say is that there are some nice single guys out there
Wished now I never posted it
Some just like to see the negative in everything. I thought it was a lovely post "
So did I.
I think the site has meanyitis today. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Can I clarify that he sent the flowers to cheer me up. I'm going through some serious health issues at the moment and not feeling that great. There is no stalkish motives behind it at all. The reason he didn't think deliver them personally is because I live with my mum and he thought other family could pissibly be here visiting. All I was trying to say is that there are some nice single guys out there
Wished now I never posted it "
Sounds like a lovely man! Such a Generous thing to do.
I hope your health issues soon get better x
(And ignore all the negative comments) |
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"Can I clarify that he sent the flowers to cheer me up. I'm going through some serious health issues at the moment and not feeling that great. There is no stalkish motives behind it at all. The reason he didn't think deliver them personally is because I live with my mum and he thought other family could pissibly be here visiting. All I was trying to say is that there are some nice single guys out there
Wished now I never posted it "
I think it's a lovely thing for him to do. Its hard being a full time carer. I live with my mum as her carer too. You never get a day off and its a 24 hour a day job. You don't have time to be ill!
I'm struggling with my own health too and it really makes a difference when someone does something nice for you |
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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago
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"Can I clarify that he sent the flowers to cheer me up. I'm going through some serious health issues at the moment and not feeling that great. There is no stalkish motives behind it at all. The reason he didn't think deliver them personally is because I live with my mum and he thought other family could pissibly be here visiting. All I was trying to say is that there are some nice single guys out there
Wished now I never posted it
Some just like to see the negative in everything. I thought it was a lovely post "
Me too  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Can I clarify that he sent the flowers to cheer me up. I'm going through some serious health issues at the moment and not feeling that great. There is no stalkish motives behind it at all. The reason he didn't think deliver them personally is because I live with my mum and he thought other family could pissibly be here visiting. All I was trying to say is that there are some nice single guys out there
Wished now I never posted it
Some just like to see the negative in everything. I thought it was a lovely post
Me too "
So did I once the OP had explained. I wasn't trying to be negative but, with limited info up front, it did set some initial alarm bells ringing.
I'd rather be seen as negative and sound a cautionary note if there was genuine cause for concern than sit back and say nothing.
But as it happens, as the OP explained there's a very legitimate explanation so I concur - what a lovely thoughtful gesture from the young lad! Top marks to him!  |
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