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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So what do you guys think?
It seems there are many here who are very keen to speek out about how nice they are and how they defend others.
Yet it seems that this only applies if they happen to agree with the person.
It seems that if a person comes across as crass or against popular opinion it's consent for open season on them.
Shouldn't it be that you try to maintain civility and your calming protective attitude even with those you dissagre with or find brash or crude?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I believe I did try and apologise  x"
Haha nothing to do with you dear xx
Just a few threadsbover the last few days following one where people where falling over themselves to say how good and nice they are being well lets say more mud slinging than riding to the rescue 
It entertains me at least |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"I believe I did try and apologise x
Haha nothing to do with you dear xx
Just a few threadsbover the last few days following one where people where falling over themselves to say how good and nice they are being well lets say more mud slinging than riding to the rescue
It entertains me at least"
 I know, but I can be a big enough bitch if the need arises |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I believe I did try and apologise x
Haha nothing to do with you dear xx
Just a few threadsbover the last few days following one where people where falling over themselves to say how good and nice they are being well lets say more mud slinging than riding to the rescue
It entertains me at least
I know, but I can be a big enough bitch if the need arises "
I replied to that thread btw, think we had wires crossed |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So what do you guys think?
It seems there are many here who are very keen to speek out about how nice they are and how they defend others.
Yet it seems that this only applies if they happen to agree with the person.
It seems that if a person comes across as crass or against popular opinion it's consent for open season on them.
Shouldn't it be that you try to maintain civility and your calming protective attitude even with those you dissagre with or find brash or crude?
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Couldn't agree more. People often tend to lack enough self awareness to have any objectivit when saying how nice and tolerent they are to other people.
It's also amusing how some people spend so much time telling others how nice they are in an attempt to drown out their actions. Genuinely nice people rarely need to shout about it.
That sound it's human nature and far room unique to people on here. |
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I'm nice to everyone. And on my threads I chat and flirt with all.
It's not point to be a bitch. If I don't agree. I try to be respectful and see things from the other persons prospective.
I don't sweat the small stuff. Life is too short
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What the forum is short of at times is apologies.
A good deal of the regulars (myself included) have made the odd silly comment at times, overstepped the mark, taken something too far, been narky when it wasn't needed, made an inappropriate comment, made a comment at an inappropriate time etc.
There's no loss of face for backing down or backing out or even for coming back later and apologising.
There's little kudos for arguing a point to the 'n'th degree or for coming out on top.
So occasionally, it would be great to see people back down and just say 'sorry' if they have taken things too far.
As much as that is the case, showing grace to others and accepting an apology is just as important. |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"I believe I did try and apologise x
Haha nothing to do with you dear xx
Just a few threadsbover the last few days following one where people where falling over themselves to say how good and nice they are being well lets say more mud slinging than riding to the rescue
It entertains me at least
I know, but I can be a big enough bitch if the need arises
I replied to that thread btw, think we had wires crossed"
We did, but my inner bitch saw red originally, hence the apology I am big enough and ugly enough to admit it  |
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"So what do you guys think?
It seems there are many here who are very keen to speek out about how nice they are and how they defend others.
Yet it seems that this only applies if they happen to agree with the person.
It seems that if a person comes across as crass or against popular opinion it's consent for open season on them.
Shouldn't it be that you try to maintain civility and your calming protective attitude even with those you dissagre with or find brash or crude?
Couldn't agree more. People often tend to lack enough self awareness to have any objectivit when saying how nice and tolerent they are to other people.
It's also amusing how some people spend so much time telling others how nice they are in an attempt to drown out their actions. Genuinely nice people rarely need to shout about it.
That sound it's human nature and far room unique to people on here."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So what do you guys think?
It seems there are many here who are very keen to speek out about how nice they are and how they defend others.
Yet it seems that this only applies if they happen to agree with the person.
It seems that if a person comes across as crass or against popular opinion it's consent for open season on them.
Shouldn't it be that you try to maintain civility and your calming protective attitude even with those you dissagre with or find brash or crude?
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Why on earth would I be nice to someone who is brash or crude?
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"So what do you guys think?
It seems there are many here who are very keen to speek out about how nice they are and how they defend others.
Yet it seems that this only applies if they happen to agree with the person.
It seems that if a person comes across as crass or against popular opinion it's consent for open season on them.
Shouldn't it be that you try to maintain civility and your calming protective attitude even with those you dissagre with or find brash or crude?
Couldn't agree more. People often tend to lack enough self awareness to have any objectivit when saying how nice and tolerent they are to other people.
It's also amusing how some people spend so much time telling others how nice they are in an attempt to drown out their actions. Genuinely nice people rarely need to shout about it.
That sound it's human nature and far room unique to people on here."
I can't be arsed responding in a tolerant fashion to people who are intolerant and rude themselves, personally.
Being rude and negative will unsurprisingly attract the same in return.
Those people will usually harp about their right to post their opinion. Therefore they should recognise the right of anyone else to tell them what they think of it. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"So what do you guys think?
It seems there are many here who are very keen to speek out about how nice they are and how they defend others.
Yet it seems that this only applies if they happen to agree with the person.
It seems that if a person comes across as crass or against popular opinion it's consent for open season on them.
Shouldn't it be that you try to maintain civility and your calming protective attitude even with those you dissagre with or find brash or crude?
Why on earth would I be nice to someone who is brash or crude?
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Quite. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've learnt over the years that being nasty serves no purpose at all .
I'd sooner say nothing than deliberately get involved in an argument on here .
Of course there are threads where I think the oplnions stated are poles apart from how I think , and will often say so . But if it gets nasty , I opt out .
Unfortunately I don't know which thread started this one , but this is the way I think anyway .
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"So what do you guys think?
It seems there are many here who are very keen to speek out about how nice they are and how they defend others.
Yet it seems that this only applies if they happen to agree with the person.
It seems that if a person comes across as crass or against popular opinion it's consent for open season on them.
Shouldn't it be that you try to maintain civility and your calming protective attitude even with those you dissagre with or find brash or crude?
Why on earth would I be nice to someone who is brash or crude?
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Why bother to respond at all to someone who is brash or crude? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So what do you guys think?
It seems there are many here who are very keen to speek out about how nice they are and how they defend others.
Yet it seems that this only applies if they happen to agree with the person.
It seems that if a person comes across as crass or against popular opinion it's consent for open season on them.
Shouldn't it be that you try to maintain civility and your calming protective attitude even with those you dissagre with or find brash or crude?
Why on earth would I be nice to someone who is brash or crude?
Why bother to respond at all to someone who is brash or crude? "
And this is the perfect way to look at it .
There are times when a comment may be personal , and I can't help responding , but invariably regret getting involved .
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Personally, I think at times some people should stop.think.and then type......
Also learning to ignore the minority bad comment every now & then would serve some well |
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"So what do you guys think?
It seems there are many here who are very keen to speek out about how nice they are and how they defend others.
Yet it seems that this only applies if they happen to agree with the person.
It seems that if a person comes across as crass or against popular opinion it's consent for open season on them.
Shouldn't it be that you try to maintain civility and your calming protective attitude even with those you dissagre with or find brash or crude?
Why on earth would I be nice to someone who is brash or crude?
Why bother to respond at all to someone who is brash or crude? "
This it just feeds them if you do. I just ignore them |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I reply to words on a screen. I can agree with someone on one thread and disagree on another. I don't take it personally if someone disagrees with me. I apologise if I think I was a knob.
But then I'm not desperate to shag the forum like some people are... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So what do you guys think?
It seems there are many here who are very keen to speek out about how nice they are and how they defend others.
Yet it seems that this only applies if they happen to agree with the person.
It seems that if a person comes across as crass or against popular opinion it's consent for open season on them.
Shouldn't it be that you try to maintain civility and your calming protective attitude even with those you dissagre with or find brash or crude?
Why on earth would I be nice to someone who is brash or crude?
Why bother to respond at all to someone who is brash or crude?
And this is the perfect way to look at it .
There are times when a comment may be personal , and I can't help responding , but invariably regret getting involved .
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i tend to stay away from the horrid stuff but i have strayed once or twice  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Do you know what really grinds my pickles is when I see lots of bum lick comments, usually towards a female by guys that want to hang out of her. Yuck, makes my fanny implode. |
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"Do you know what really grinds my pickles is when I see lots of bum lick comments, usually towards a female by guys that want to hang out of her. Yuck, makes my fanny implode. "
Well. Yes. It's a swingers site. People suck eachother arse, cock,tits and pussy. That is the point.
Btw you are gorgeous
Fancy a fuck?
MrsSB |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I believe I did try and apologise x
Haha nothing to do with you dear xx
Just a few threadsbover the last few days following one where people where falling over themselves to say how good and nice they are being well lets say more mud slinging than riding to the rescue
It entertains me at least
I know, but I can be a big enough bitch if the need arises "
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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago
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"Do you know what really grinds my pickles is when I see lots of bum lick comments, usually towards a female by guys that want to hang out of her. Yuck, makes my fanny implode. "
Are you referring to the sycophantic white knights that will always agree and enable a female forum member, regardless of what she is saying?
An ex was very fond of saying that flattery will get you everywhere... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I reply to words on a screen. I can agree with someone on one thread and disagree on another. I don't take it personally if someone disagrees with me. I apologise if I think I was a knob.
But then I'm not desperate to shag the forum like some people are... "
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"So what do you guys think?
It seems there are many here who are very keen to speek out about how nice they are and how they defend others.
Yet it seems that this only applies if they happen to agree with the person.
It seems that if a person comes across as crass or against popular opinion it's consent for open season on them.
Shouldn't it be that you try to maintain civility and your calming protective attitude even with those you dissagre with or find brash or crude?
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Yes. O.P. I agree totally with you. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"So what do you guys think?
It seems there are many here who are very keen to speek out about how nice they are and how they defend others.
Yet it seems that this only applies if they happen to agree with the person.
It seems that if a person comes across as crass or against popular opinion it's consent for open season on them.
Shouldn't it be that you try to maintain civility and your calming protective attitude even with those you dissagre with or find brash or crude?
Why on earth would I be nice to someone who is brash or crude?
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Beacuse brash and crude are not being mean or spiteful?
Or even not nice.
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"So what do you guys think?
It seems there are many here who are very keen to speek out about how nice they are and how they defend others.
Yet it seems that this only applies if they happen to agree with the person.
It seems that if a person comes across as crass or against popular opinion it's consent for open season on them.
Shouldn't it be that you try to maintain civility and your calming protective attitude even with those you dissagre with or find brash or crude?
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to be honest I don't know O.P., if anything I just use the forums to talk about normal subjects/interact so for the most part I try not to take things personally or act any different to how I would in real life with people even if I dislike them. That being said I speak my mind and frankly if that makes me unpopular or disliked by some then so be it yes I can be either polite with people and I can also be a real fucking prick towards people on here who I dislike depending on my mood I don't give two shits who or what they are if you piss me off then chances are I don't forget or forgive for that matter very easily... Overall though I do tend to try to be civil even at times with those who I dislike in general and mind you there are a fair few....weird thing is that I probably get on the most with the men off the forum as far as conversation goes, probably just comes down to having more in common I suppose. |
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People should learn to distinguish between behaviour or opinion and identity. If I disagree with your opinion, or your behaviour I hope I can do so without attacking YOU as a person.
We also need to learn to do the opposite - you can disagree with what I write but I do NOT have to take that personally.
We are each responsible for our own behaviour AND our own reactions to what other people do. |
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People do crazy stuff at times, not all of it good and not all of it bad, I think it more depends on the difference between them as a person and their opinions/ideas.
Most peoples opinions are different in some shape or form and this is no reason to attack them, a reasonable discussion is a much better idea.
However if some has the personality of a dickhead and consistently attacks/abuses others, then I see them as fair game for giving it back too them. |
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"People do crazy stuff at times, not all of it good and not all of it bad, I think it more depends on the difference between them as a person and their opinions/ideas.
Most peoples opinions are different in some shape or form and this is no reason to attack them, a reasonable discussion is a much better idea.
However if some has the personality of a dickhead and consistently attacks/abuses others, then I see them as fair game for giving it back too them."
I try to for the most part to keep a low profile and not go seeking/causing trouble with others or having a go at them but if people on here at times particularly on certain subjects repeatedly say negative things which I feel real personal about or are directed at me one way or the other keep on going on over and over again on the same subjects I tend to get annoyed to the point where I end up snapping at them all.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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OP I agree. See it in Irish forums too. Can't understand why posters can't put their point across without making personal attacks. Of course we all have different _iews and opinions. Healthy debate is good. Doesn't have to be a winner or loser.We can all co.exist and be respectful of each other despite disagreeing on topics.
And those posters who just out to antagonise and look attention...i ignore, why waste my energy giving them the attention albeit negative that they seek...in my opinion |
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Everyone should be treated with respect and agreeing with them, or not, doesn't matter.
Generally forum posts are to all and not a single person, unless quoted.
It's simple to be civil and polite and it makes the world a better place. |
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"Why on earth would I be nice to someone who is brash or crude?"
Those traits may not always be offensive to all, perhaps funny with context, though not often done artfully enough.
Someone whose first thought in response to a question is to be patronising or condescending...not so much  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So what do you guys think?
It seems there are many here who are very keen to speek out about how nice they are and how they defend others.
Yet it seems that this only applies if they happen to agree with the person.
It seems that if a person comes across as crass or against popular opinion it's consent for open season on them.
Shouldn't it be that you try to maintain civility and your calming protective attitude even with those you dissagre with or find brash or crude?
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I defend people whether I agree with them or not.
I've had people stop talking to me because I 'condoned' other people's behaviour.
I was neither condemning nor condoning. Just pointing out their right as consenting adults to do what they want. |
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British problems eh?
The flirting, arse licking and oh let's all be lovely stuff on here can be tiresome and as useful as a chocolate teapot but it's better than all out war on some forums I've been on |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"British problems eh?
The flirting, arse licking and oh let's all be lovely stuff on here can be tiresome and as useful as a chocolate teapot but it's better than all out war on some forums I've been on"
yes, and I have been sorely tempted to point this out at times. I do enjoy the banter I read here though! I ignore bad tempered threads...usually, unless humour is deployed to withering effect. Some on here are very good at that, and I would hate to be on the receiving end, hehe.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I post my opinion on the topic posted, regardless of who posted it.
Same here!"
Me too, if someone has posted something they should expect it to be debated.
XXX |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"British problems eh?
The flirting, arse licking and oh let's all be lovely stuff on here can be tiresome and as useful as a chocolate teapot but it's better than all out war on some forums I've been on"
I also think it may lead people into a false sense of security at times that everyone who posts is nice & lovely, well they aren't because life ain't like that on a regular basis.
And this is what people need to learn to deal with in a civil manner, to disagree without being overly opinionated / patronising, to ignore & be the better person. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Op. Shouldn't admins on forums be voice and reason?
I'm generally nice, but like everyone can argue aswell as the next person. You've already pointed out that we can all disagree. But slinging mud should have no place around sex sites. Sex is such a positive experience, why ruin it with name calling?
I'd like to be a 'white night' and would be proud. But if we all were, no one would need to be. |
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"So what do you guys think?
It seems there are many here who are very keen to speek out about how nice they are and how they defend others.
Yet it seems that this only applies if they happen to agree with the person.
It seems that if a person comes across as crass or against popular opinion it's consent for open season on them.
Shouldn't it be that you try to maintain civility and your calming protective attitude even with those you dissagre with or find brash or crude?
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a forum is surely about having different opinions and voicing them in an adult manner ,you cant always agree but as long as you don't insite trouble or deliberately offend then voicing it should be fine |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There is a lot of hurt and insecurity and that drives a lot of the behaviour.
One thing for sure, both won't be resolved by posting on here.
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God you come across as wise sometimes! (Just goes to show how bullshit baffles brains! ) |
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"There is a lot of hurt and insecurity and that drives a lot of the behaviour.
One thing for sure, both won't be resolved by posting on here.
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Facebook wisdom:
The surest way to lose your self-worth is by trying to find it in the eyes of others.
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By (user no longer on site)
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In the big wide world outside of Fab I tell people I'm friendly with or related to if I disagree with something they have said. We talk about it,discuss and mull it over. We don't always agree; we know that we have a difference of opinion and it's the same on here. I'm not here to make friends or enemies,but it happens. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Op. Shouldn't admins on forums be voice and reason?
I'm generally nice, but like everyone can argue aswell as the next person. You've already pointed out that we can all disagree. But slinging mud should have no place around sex sites. Sex is such a positive experience, why ruin it with name calling?
I'd like to be a 'white night' and would be proud. But if we all were, no one would need to be. "
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