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I just want to scream and scream and scream

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I know not everyone is for everyone and some won't get along and some won't agree with certain threads.

I agree it's an open forum and everyone should have the opportunity to voice their opinions.

I also think that equally it's important to remember that the threads we post or our comments have an impact on the real people that read them.

I feel really sad right now

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Huh?

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"I know not everyone is for everyone and some won't get along and some won't agree with certain threads.

I agree it's an open forum and everyone should have the opportunity to voice their opinions.

I also think that equally it's important to remember that the threads we post or our comments have an impact on the real people that read them.

I feel really sad right now

*hugs*

Someone will be along shortly though to say they can say what they like within the rules and anyone upset by it shouldn't be here because they are too insecure and yadda yadda.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I know not everyone is for everyone and some won't get along and some won't agree with certain threads.

I agree it's an open forum and everyone should have the opportunity to voice their opinions.

I also think that equally it's important to remember that the threads we post or our comments have an impact on the real people that read them.

I feel really sad right now

*hugs*

Someone will be along shortly though to say they can say what they like within the rules and anyone upset by it shouldn't be here because they are too insecure and yadda yadda."

I know what people are going to say D but I cant understand why people need to be cruel to each other

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have clearly missed something.

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By *r TriomanMan over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

"I know not everyone is for everyone and some won't get along and some won't agree with certain threads.

I agree it's an open forum and everyone should have the opportunity to voice their opinions.

I also think that equally it's important to remember that the threads we post or our comments have an impact on the real people that read them.

I feel really sad right now

*hugs*

Someone will be along shortly though to say they can say what they like within the rules and anyone upset by it shouldn't be here because they are too insecure and yadda yadda."

There are rules?????

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Such is life. Move on!

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By *axandbooCouple over a year ago

Bristol

with most sites today you are going to get the internet trolls or keyboard warriors, the idiots that like to pick fights and start aguments unfortunately

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"I know not everyone is for everyone and some won't get along and some won't agree with certain threads.

I agree it's an open forum and everyone should have the opportunity to voice their opinions.

I also think that equally it's important to remember that the threads we post or our comments have an impact on the real people that read them.

I feel really sad right now

*hugs*

Someone will be along shortly though to say they can say what they like within the rules and anyone upset by it shouldn't be here because they are too insecure and yadda yadda.

I know what people are going to say D but I cant understand why people need to be cruel to each other

Tell me about it...

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"There are rules?????"

Forum rules? Yes, quite a few. And mods with vapesabres and ban hammers to enforce them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have clearly missed something.

Me too! Unless it's the thread requesting to fab a picture.

But yes, OP, people should consider what they say and how it impacts people.

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"with most sites today you are going to get the internet trolls or keyboard warriors, the idiots that like to pick fights and start aguments unfortunately"

And people who are thoughtless or just don't care what impact their words have.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Don't let them get you down. Keep smiling.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think you've got to put this into context bearing in mind all the threads / comments posted.

Also with the exception of a few, we don't know each other & we're not really 'friends' ~ I _iew it as just a group of people that comment on a forum that's forever changing people & dynamic wise.

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman over a year ago

stourbridge area

"I have clearly missed something.

Your a man ...

... easily done ..

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Be told: like Thumper

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have clearly missed something.

Your a man ...

... easily done .."

Shall I tell them Courtney, or will you?

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman over a year ago

stourbridge area

...ooooooo im in trouble now ...x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have clearly missed something.

Your a man ...

... easily done ..

Shall I tell them Courtney, or will you?

I think I've missed a few things this morning, Dan.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I know not everyone is for everyone and some won't get along and some won't agree with certain threads.

I agree it's an open forum and everyone should have the opportunity to voice their opinions.

I also think that equally it's important to remember that the threads we post or our comments have an impact on the real people that read them.

I feel really sad right now

*hugs*

Someone will be along shortly though to say they can say what they like within the rules and anyone upset by it shouldn't be here because they are too insecure and yadda yadda.

I know what people are going to say D but I cant understand why people need to be cruel to each other

The problem is everybody is different

Some people have a don't give a shit attitude, they say things just to be nasty and when people as nasty to them its water off a ducks back

What some don't understand is not everybody is like that

Not everybody can shrug at abuse

Some people care, they are careful what they write as they don't want to upset other and when others upset them they care

But all they get from others is "shit happens, move on" like we are supposed to go through life emotionless

Yes ok this is the internet but when somebody on here is rude or nasty its still a real person saying these things to you and some people on here can be really rude/cruel, sad thing is certain people seem to come on here just for that very reason

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By *irtyGirlWoman over a year ago

Edinburgh

Sadly you'll never change other people so you have to alter your reaction to it. There's really no need to be rude in any circumstances and it's much easier to say nothing than waste time being nasty. It appears some people just can't help themselves. It's thoughtless and unnecessary but it won't change.

If you see a post that you feel is uncalled for then report it. I don't believe in turning a blind eye and I will always stand up for someone being picked on because it's the right thing to do.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I am glad I stayed out of whatever happened

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I am glad I stayed out of whatever happened"

Me too

I don't have a clue what they are talking about

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By *unandbuckCouple over a year ago

Sheffield

The problem is, some people think it's OK to say horrible things and shout people down on the forums. It would be nearly impossible to act in the same way in 'real' non-virtual life, as no-one would have anything to do with you. In a forum these people can just pop up, be offensive or hurtful then go away again.

A lot (most) fab members I have met in person say they avoid the forums as it's too easy to suddenly be pounced on. That' sad.

Let's be nice and try to listen to what people have to say and answer in a non confrontational way

MrB

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I know not everyone is for everyone and some won't get along and some won't agree with certain threads.

I agree it's an open forum and everyone should have the opportunity to voice their opinions.

I also think that equally it's important to remember that the threads we post or our comments have an impact on the real people that read them.

I feel really sad right now

*hugs*

Someone will be along shortly though to say they can say what they like within the rules and anyone upset by it shouldn't be here because they are too insecure and yadda yadda.

I know what people are going to say D but I cant understand why people need to be cruel to each other

It seems to me that humans are preconditioned to be nasty to each other, it goes back to early humans who were originally nomadic hunter gatherers, hardly crossing with others. Then at some point in our history, decided to settle and create territories and boundaries, thats when the instinct to fall out, argue and fight reared its head. We can't help falling out, bullying and generally being quite nasty to others especially from the comfort of our defined online internet boundaries. Hope all that makes sense. Lol.

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By *erdita Von TeaseWoman over a year ago

nottingham

There are times when the old saying "if you have nothing nice to say don't say anything at all" should apply. People on here have real feelings and emotions and nasty comments are just uncalled for

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"There are times when the old saying "if you have nothing nice to say don't say anything at all" should apply. People on here have real feelings and emotions and nasty comments are just uncalled for "

See my comment: that's what Thumpers mum says to him.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I am glad I stayed out of whatever happened

Me too

I don't have a clue what they are talking about

I guess somebody has been mean again.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Agreed. It's something most people tend to forget when they start to attack / take the piss out of the newbie single males who dare to post on here too. Respect for all would be spiffing x

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By *unandbuckCouple over a year ago

Sheffield

"There are times when the old saying "if you have nothing nice to say don't say anything at all" should apply. People on here have real feelings and emotions and nasty comments are just uncalled for

Agreed. It's something most people tend to forget when they start to attack / take the piss out of the newbie single males who dare to post on here too. Respect for all would be spiffing x"

It's horrible to see a newbie say the 'wrong' thing and be shredded by a pack of keyboard wolves. Surely much better to spend that message saying something helpful / educational?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There are times when the old saying "if you have nothing nice to say don't say anything at all" should apply. People on here have real feelings and emotions and nasty comments are just uncalled for

Agreed. It's something most people tend to forget when they start to attack / take the piss out of the newbie single males who dare to post on here too. Respect for all would be spiffing x

It's horrible to see a newbie say the 'wrong' thing and be shredded by a pack of keyboard wolves. Surely much better to spend that message saying something helpful / educational?"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Alas, some folk just seem to need to be 'orrible and make others feel shit.

Yeah, yeah no rules, but still... Just don't get it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think I missed whatever it was XXX

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"I will always stand up for someone being picked on because it's the right thing to do."

Me too but it's not a popular stance.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Is this going to be another drip feeding of information thread where come post 150 we find out the key peices of information that changes the context of everything before?

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

There's a guy on here who says he's ill and I've said 'man up, wimpy' instead of being sympathetic and kind and consoling and offering to do his shopping and shit.

I hope he posts on here so I can tell him something.

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

To me, the thoughtless threads are just as bad, or the ones where someone is trying to be nice to one person and ends up insulting a group of others.

For example, posting on a pro-BBW thread to compliment large women and saying they don't like bags of bones.

A lot just don't think or don't realise what they're saying.

It really wears me down how much people are compared and pigeon holed on here and how much we hear about what's perfect/imperfect in terms of looks.

Most of the things deemed inadequate or imperfect aren't things people can change. It's what they got in the genetic lottery.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

But why is knitter sad? (that's definitely against the rules)

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By *unandbuckCouple over a year ago

Sheffield

It takes strength to be gentle and kind.

-Morrissey.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My earlier post sounded like I don't give a fuck, which is pretty much as far from the truth as can be.

I do care what's said on here but I've learnt not to let it affect me. I was deeply upset by comments on 2 threads running this time last year so much so I logged off & didn't log in for a few weeks.

I learnt then that some people really didn't care what they said or who they upset as long as they posted within the rules.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Do people actually get upset over forum posts? Really?

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"It takes strength to be gentle and kind.

-Morrissey."

The same Morrissey a judge described as 'sly'

Ooooh crikey! I like the smiffs though

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Do people actually get upset over forum posts? Really?"

Yes, something recently upset me. I didn't say anything, I just blocked all communication with that person.

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By *irtyGirlWoman over a year ago

Edinburgh

"I will always stand up for someone being picked on because it's the right thing to do.

Me too but it's not a popular stance."

Thankfully I give no shits about being popular.

Having suffered a bully in real life I just think it's more important to stand up to them and deal with the consequences of that rather than stand by and watch someone being ripped to shreds.

I'm glad I'm not alone.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Oh is this related to someone being mean to newbies thread?

In that case some peopels replies are so wildly hypocritical it begs the question to if they are simply trying to claim the moral high ground or if they are so deluded to have forgotten thier own actions.

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By *unandbuckCouple over a year ago

Sheffield

"It takes strength to be gentle and kind.

-Morrissey.

The same Morrissey a judge described as 'sly'

Ooooh crikey! I like the smiffs though

The words are equally as valid though

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Do people actually get upset over forum posts? Really?

Yes, something recently upset me. I didn't say anything, I just blocked all communication with that person."

Yes same. What a silly sausage I was!

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By *rchie_pMan over a year ago

Birmingham

"I know not everyone is for everyone and some won't get along and some won't agree with certain threads.

I agree it's an open forum and everyone should have the opportunity to voice their opinions.

I also think that equally it's important to remember that the threads we post or our comments have an impact on the real people that read them.

I feel really sad right now

I have absolutely no idea what's Goin on here but on another note it's raining again :/

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Do people actually get upset over forum posts? Really?"

Of course some people will

I wouldn't say I've ever got upset but certain people have pissed me off on many occasions

And not always when their comments have been aimed at me

There are certain people who only seem to post when they are ripping apart or being rude

I've seen many quoted posts that have been nasty and straight away I've knows who's wrote it and when I've traced the thread back to the original post that was quoted, yep it's them, that annoys be because I sorry but I can't help thinking, why have you got to be rude all the time

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There's a guy on here who says he's ill and I've said 'man up, wimpy' instead of being sympathetic and kind and consoling and offering to do his shopping and shit.

I hope he posts on here so I can tell him something. "

I've got a really bad knot in my back today, fancy giving it a rub?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There seem to be a lot of keyboard warriors on the forums unfortunately who revel in making snide comments on threads. I don't think it's acceptable at all as its bullying plain and simple. Agree with an earlier poster, if you have nothing nice to say, keep it zipped

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Do people actually get upset over forum posts? Really?"

I'm like you and let things wash over me and smile, but some people do, yes. To us it's pixels on a screen - others take things to heart and it can upset them - sadly this is why some trolls do it all the more as they know the impact it has!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I will always stand up for someone being picked on because it's the right thing to do.

Me too but it's not a popular stance."

Yep, I've done it and was accused of being in the clique

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Oh is this related to someone being mean to newbies thread?

I think it maybe relating to comments made on a fab my pics thread (I could be wrong).

However I was about to write what you just have!

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"There's a guy on here who says he's ill and I've said 'man up, wimpy' instead of being sympathetic and kind and consoling and offering to do his shopping and shit.

I hope he posts on here so I can tell him something.

I've got a really bad knot in my back today, fancy giving it a rub?"
o naked?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Do people actually get upset over forum posts? Really?

Yes, something recently upset me. I didn't say anything, I just blocked all communication with that person."

I find it incredibly difficult to be upset over words written on the web. Perhaps it's me, i'm not the most sensitive of people.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Oh is this related to someone being mean to newbies thread?

I think it maybe relating to comments made on a fab my pics thread (I could be wrong).

However I was about to write what you just have!"

It is rapidly becoming a circle jerk of who's the better person in here.

I will expect to see all these brave defenders in the next thread.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I know not everyone is for everyone and some won't get along and some won't agree with certain threads.

I agree it's an open forum and everyone should have the opportunity to voice their opinions.

I also think that equally it's important to remember that the threads we post or our comments have an impact on the real people that read them.

I feel really sad right now

I have absolutely no idea what's Goin on here but on another note it's raining again :/"

Now that has upset me.

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Do people actually get upset over forum posts? Really?"

Some can really knock one's confidence, yes, particularly if it's a bad day anyway.

It's not such a problem now but years ago I developed an eating disorder as a result of constant criticism.

Some people feel a lot of pressure to meet other people's standards.

Look at society with plastic surgery commonplace amongst women and growing for men, eating disorders and self harm a serious problem, the diet and beauty industries massive, young girls of 5 and 6 thinking they are fat and wanting to diet, models eating paper and taking drugs to keep their weight down to what's expected of them.

Things people say here and in the real world can have real impact.

A lot are chasing an impossible ideal and things said on here can make people believe they ought to be able to fulfil it and they are a failure and inadequate if not.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"Do people actually get upset over forum posts? Really?

Yes, something recently upset me. I didn't say anything, I just blocked all communication with that person.

I find it incredibly difficult to be upset over words written on the web. Perhaps it's me, i'm not the most sensitive of people. "

Me too, I usually just laugh.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Do people actually get upset over forum posts? Really?

Yes, something recently upset me. I didn't say anything, I just blocked all communication with that person.

I find it incredibly difficult to be upset over words written on the web. Perhaps it's me, i'm not the most sensitive of people.

Me too, I usually just laugh."

Me too yet I do get upset over Racist comments !

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I'm not the most kind person all of the time on here but I have given out loads of profile advice and been helpful as well. I'm not as Mary Poppinsy as I could be but that's just me. I have a daft sense of humour and I like word play and sometimes the combination loses its meaning in the translation so to speak so what I've written isn't always exactly what I meant.

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By *irtyGirlWoman over a year ago

Edinburgh

"Do people actually get upset over forum posts? Really?

Lots of people do take things to heart. When someone is nasty then it doesn't really matter whether it's simply an attempt to be funny or whether it's intentionally nasty, if the recipient is vulnerable or just having an off day, it has the power to hurt and that, to me, is pretty unkind. I don't feel the need to be mean to anyone. I'm not able to understand the reasons behind it. I just know that there's clearly something wrong with the person who thinks that's it's okay to be horrible to a stranger from the other side of a computer.

For me, it certainly provides much more information than the verification system ever will.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Do people actually get upset over forum posts? Really?

Of course some people will

I wouldn't say I've ever got upset but certain people have pissed me off on many occasions

And not always when their comments have been aimed at me

There are certain people who only seem to post when they are ripping apart or being rude

Again, perhaps it's me. I couldn't much care who says what about me on here. I know not everyone will like me and i don't expect them too. If they choose to be mean that's more a reflection on them so just smile and leave them to their bitterness

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

glad i had a lie-in - dont be sad knitter some people are just horrid and its their insecurities usually that makes them act that way - xxx

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"Do people actually get upset over forum posts? Really?

Some can really knock one's confidence, yes, particularly if it's a bad day anyway.

It's not such a problem now but years ago I developed an eating disorder as a result of constant criticism.

Some people feel a lot of pressure to meet other people's standards.

Things people say here and in the real world can have real impact.

A lot are chasing an impossible ideal and things said on here can make people believe they ought to be able to fulfil it and they are a failure and inadequate if not."

What I'm about to say is a huge generalisation but...people with low self esteem tend to look for things that reinforce their low opinion of themselves rather than things that boost them up. I've seen it here and among friends you can tell them 100 times they're slim, good looking or whatever but they will believe the one person who tells them they aren't. While I believe we need to stand up for people, people need to stand up for themselves too. So to an extent I agree with the _iew that unless you're pretty tough you should keep away from places like this.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Oh is this related to someone being mean to newbies thread?

I think it maybe relating to comments made on a fab my pics thread (I could be wrong).

However I was about to write what you just have!

It is rapidly becoming a circle jerk of who's the better person in here.

I will expect to see all these brave defenders in the next thread.

Yeah, I wish they were around when I needed the moral support....

My memory for random stuff serves me well on here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I know not everyone is for everyone and some won't get along and some won't agree with certain threads.

I agree it's an open forum and everyone should have the opportunity to voice their opinions.

I also think that equally it's important to remember that the threads we post or our comments have an impact on the real people that read them.

I feel really sad right now

HUGS... forget the haters

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By *irtyGirlWoman over a year ago

Edinburgh

"Oh is this related to someone being mean to newbies thread?

I think it maybe relating to comments made on a fab my pics thread (I could be wrong).

However I was about to write what you just have!

It is rapidly becoming a circle jerk of who's the better person in here.

I will expect to see all these brave defenders in the next thread.

I'll see you there!

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By *unandbuckCouple over a year ago

Sheffield

"I'm not the most kind person all of the time on here but I have given out loads of profile advice and been helpful as well. I'm not as Mary Poppinsy as I could be but that's just me. I have a daft sense of humour and I like word play and sometimes the combination loses its meaning in the translation so to speak so what I've written isn't always exactly what I meant. "

This is a big problem. You can write something and it sounds right in your head, but another person can take it differently to how you meant.

Text has no tone to it. Sometimes you can see a thread suddenly spiral out of control from this.

Dry humour is difficult to get across too.

MrB

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Oh is this related to someone being mean to newbies thread?

I think it maybe relating to comments made on a fab my pics thread (I could be wrong).

However I was about to write what you just have!

It is rapidly becoming a circle jerk of who's the better person in here.

I will expect to see all these brave defenders in the next thread.

Yeah, I wish they were around when I needed the moral support....

My memory for random stuff serves me well on here."

My mercenary moral support can be bought with ice cream.

Tears of your enemies are an additional flake

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Is this something I've said on here? If it helps I'd be equally as mean in real life as on here, no change, I am a cunt!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Do people actually get upset over forum posts? Really?

Some can really knock one's confidence, yes, particularly if it's a bad day anyway.

It's not such a problem now but years ago I developed an eating disorder as a result of constant criticism.

Some people feel a lot of pressure to meet other people's standards.

Things people say here and in the real world can have real impact.

A lot are chasing an impossible ideal and things said on here can make people believe they ought to be able to fulfil it and they are a failure and inadequate if not."

I really am numb to external influence it seems...

i've always been pretty none caring of what folk say to me or expect of me and just bumbled through life doing my own thing.

Again though...i'm really not the most sensitive of souls.

i was always taught that i would never please everyone so that maybe helped.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Oh is this related to someone being mean to newbies thread?

I think it maybe relating to comments made on a fab my pics thread (I could be wrong).

However I was about to write what you just have!

It is rapidly becoming a circle jerk of who's the better person in here.

I will expect to see all these brave defenders in the next thread.

Yeah, I wish they were around when I needed the moral support....

My memory for random stuff serves me well on here.

My mercenary moral support can be bought with ice cream.

Tears of your enemies are an additional flake"

Ah tears of my enemies, that's how I keep my hair all soft and shiny.

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By *unandbuckCouple over a year ago

Sheffield

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By *ola.Woman over a year ago

Just where I need to be.

There is a big difference in voicing an opinion and being intentionally cruel and unkind. The lines are often blurred on here. Some sit on the line and dip their toe into the unkind, some just jump in head first.Challenge or report if you feel it's against rules. One shouldn't allow others to affect you on behalf of others upset. As John Niven wrote in his book the second coming.Just be kind.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

As some of you're aware, I like a kiss, fuck, avoid thread. One couple in particular have messaged me directly on numerous occasions saying Avoid and then go on to explain why. I find it quite funny really but I often think why would anyone do that?!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Oh is this related to someone being mean to newbies thread?

I think it maybe relating to comments made on a fab my pics thread (I could be wrong).

However I was about to write what you just have!

It is rapidly becoming a circle jerk of who's the better person in here.

I will expect to see all these brave defenders in the next thread.

Yeah, I wish they were around when I needed the moral support....

My memory for random stuff serves me well on here.

My mercenary moral support can be bought with ice cream.

Tears of your enemies are an additional flake"

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Do people actually get upset over forum posts? Really?

Some can really knock one's confidence, yes, particularly if it's a bad day anyway.

It's not such a problem now but years ago I developed an eating disorder as a result of constant criticism.

Some people feel a lot of pressure to meet other people's standards.

Things people say here and in the real world can have real impact.

A lot are chasing an impossible ideal and things said on here can make people believe they ought to be able to fulfil it and they are a failure and inadequate if not.

It's not difficult to find things to reinforce negative thoughts though when there are so many "which is better?" threads and threads discussing the perfect whatever.

I mean, the perfect female nipple? Who knew women could have imperfect nipples? Is there nothing at all that women are not suposed to meet some standard on? And it's the same for men to some extent. Height, cock size, cut/uncut, hairy/not hairy.

Everyone has to be assessed and rated and it can't be done quietly when deciding whom to meet. No, it has to be discussed to death here. Every damned day.

I'm not saying we need to blow smoke up each others arses all the time, just stop with the constant comparisons and debating what's best.

It's not necessarily about insecurity either. Sometimes it's from seeing the effects it has on others. Or having been there inthe past and not wanting anyone else to feel that way.

I've seen some truly awful things on here.

On a "Which is best, real or augmented boobs?" thread, (naturally fake was used in place of augmented), I remember a guy expressing that he prefers real by saying, "fake boobs look like two tennis balls thrown against velcro".

There's just no need for it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Is this something I've said on here? If it helps I'd be equally as mean in real life as on here, no change, I am a cunt!"

A cute one if that can help

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Is this something I've said on here? If it helps I'd be equally as mean in real life as on here, no change, I am a cunt!"

I actually don't think I've ever seen you put anything mean on here

If I'm honest you make me laugh

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"As some of you're aware, I like a kiss, fuck, avoid thread. One couple in particular have messaged me directly on numerous occasions saying Avoid and then go on to explain why. I find it quite funny really but I often think why would anyone do that?! "

Kiss

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think its more acceptable for certain forum users to be abused then others.