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What does it take to get onto your friends list?

By *ee Viante OP Woman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

When do you add people as friends and why?

Do you add anyone who asks? Only those you've met and liked? People you chat to a lot on here? How long does it take you to add them after you 'meet' them on here or meet them in person?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Usually if we've met or have chatted on the forums etc. I know you ladies don't like to be bombarded with friend requests so *mostly* I don't do the asking (but will on the odd occasion) but will accept most requests unless I have no idea who they are

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Depends on the vibe I get from them, but I definitely first need a chat and see if we get on somehow.

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By *edRidingWolfCouple over a year ago

Lydney

The reasons vary!

Some are those we have met through organised socials and would like to play with.

Others are people who we have chatted with and are hoping to play with and we are planning to social with (we social first before play). Not all of those who we have socialled with have led to play yet.

Some we have met and played with already.

Finally some are fellow forumites who's humour or integrity I appreciate.

What goes without saying is that we don't add without chatting first, and we always ask if it's ok to add too. We aren't the sort to flounce and paddy if the answer is no.

Red x

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By *aucy tiggerWoman over a year ago

Back where I belong

I only add after I've met someone or someone I've been chatting to - I don't accept random requests x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Our friends list is strictly people we have met or intend meeting. We used to be less discriminating but got plagued by photo collectors.

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By *evaquitCouple over a year ago

Catthorpe

Potential meets, either arranged or we would like to in the future.

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By *olgateMan over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

I don't have any friends

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't have any friends

"
.

I'll be your dog....

But only if you adore kiora

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So far it's been after a period of conversation where it's clear that i want to get to know someone more. I'm loathe to ask - not sure it makes much of a difference - but I think it works for me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My friends are people who I've met/still meet/keep in touch with to arrange to meet again,and a couple of people from the forums I talk to. To be on my friends list I have to want to talk to you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

In general, people who I like, make me laugh, or I find unbelievabley sexy

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By *ikeC81Man over a year ago

harrow

I would say most of my friends are people I have met in clubs both play and non play or from other sites

I sometimes will add some one from forum if I think there is a chance we may meet in the future but a lot of those are on my hotlist

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's people I would like to meet. If I've met them then we would have chatted somewhere else first as I don't meet people who only message on here!

If it's a good meet and we get on then they stay on my friends list, if not then they get deleted.

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By *inglehotchickWoman over a year ago

blackpool

When I've chatted and either one of us has asked to add

I tend to delete unsolicited requests

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"In general, people who I like, make me laugh, or I find unbelievabley sexy

That's about it

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By *ischief ManagedCouple over a year ago

manchester

For fellas it has to be After we have chatted for a while.. I wont add people who just send requests. I hope I can judge well enough if we have a genuine fella. I normally ask a few questions before I decide! Couples and females if we have similar likes on profiles and have a good banter over messages then we will add. I always ask if they want a friend request first tho, as I find they do with us. X

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By *ee Viante OP Woman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"My friends are people who I've met/still meet/keep in touch with to arrange to meet again,and a couple of people from the forums I talk to. To be on my friends list I have to want to talk to you. "

I've had a few on mine very keen to talk until they made it onto my friends list. Then they stayed friends but didn't message or reply to me again, until I deleted them.

It seems like a lot of effort to go to just to see my private photos. I don't even have any explicit private pics. Quite a few are just of my face.

A lot of people have public pics much better than my private ones.

I don't really understand why anyone would bother to pretend to want to be friends for that.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

People we've met or intend to meet.

Or people I chat with on the forums.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"People we've met or intend to meet.

Or people I chat with on the forums. "

This

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

People I've spoke to but not a lot really lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We once had a very open policy on fab friends and our list was quite long. But these days are different . We are careful and our list is very much smaller. We don't accept random friend requests at all.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think the majority on my friends list are from the forum. So they're a mixture of people I've met,would like to meet or just get on with on here.

I don't look at friends requests so I'll tend to add someone if we've been messaging & get on, with a view to meeting at some point.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If we've met or are planning to meet for me. If it looks like a meet isn't going to happen I'll remove, then if it looks back on again I'll re-add.

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By *laskan lovers 1984Couple over a year ago

West midlands

Have been far to liberal with our friends list. Feel a cull coming on mwahaha

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By *odareyouMan over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

If you fit my preferences...

You just gotta ask

...

There's nothing in my friends gallery other than my face picture, that's a big deterrent , tie that with my crap jokes for status updates

it's a brave person who joins my friends lst

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

A pulse, vagina, and will talk to me x

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Only if we've met or are going to meet.

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By *allipygousMan over a year ago

Leicester

I rarely look at my Friends List, though always check my Hotlist when entering the site, but have just realised my FL only has people I have met in person. Not necessarily had sex with, but seen the whites of their eyes.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Only if we've conversed through messages or on the forums. Meets and potential meets too.

I always delete random friend requests.

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By *edsBonkingMan over a year ago

Near MK

Only after a chat or two.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If we've chatted for a bit and the person sends a request I'll probably accept. No other way to get on it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Your all on my friends list, until you annoy me. Then you go on my Hot list (secretly my hit list

)

We'd have to chat/mail swap opinions on he forum and find something in common before a friend request was sent.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Women I chat with a lot, those those that it's looking good that I'll meet because there is a connection there and those that I have met are on my friends list.

Oh, those with uber sexy black and white pics are also most welcome

if all the above applies

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

a good conversationalist with a sense of humour

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What is the purpose of friend request on fab? What benefits for they provide? Considering fab is private messaging, I don't see any benefits for sending / accepting friend requests.

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By *ordonBennettMan over a year ago

dover

Those I'm likely to meet or want to keep in touch with....not photo hunters.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What is the purpose of friend request on fab? What benefits for they provide? Considering fab is private messaging, I don't see any benefits for sending / accepting friend requests.

Friends only pic. for women and couples they can also identify their friends messages in their inbox easier.

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By *edRidingWolfCouple over a year ago

Lydney

"What is the purpose of friend request on fab? What benefits for they provide? Considering fab is private messaging, I don't see any benefits for sending / accepting friend requests.

Friends only pic. for women and couples they can also identify their friends messages in their inbox easier. "

we keep our face pics in the friends only gallery

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By *ee Viante OP Woman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"What is the purpose of friend request on fab? What benefits for they provide? Considering fab is private messaging, I don't see any benefits for sending / accepting friend requests.

You see their updates and new photos on your updates feed.

You can see their friends only pictures and they can see yours.

You can use it as a filter in the chat rooms so only friends may send you pm. It stops you being bombarded with private message windows at busy times.

You can find them more easily to message and are less likely to lose track of them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What is the purpose of friend request on fab? What benefits for they provide? Considering fab is private messaging, I don't see any benefits for sending / accepting friend requests.

Friends only pic. for women and couples they can also identify their friends messages in their inbox easier. "

Is that it? Lol. Thought there would be some special allowance or something lol. I always seem to receive random friend requests. No message just the request. Wasn't sure why so just ignore them. Thanks for letting me know!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What is the purpose of friend request on fab? What benefits for they provide? Considering fab is private messaging, I don't see any benefits for sending / accepting friend requests.

Friends only pic. for women and couples they can also identify their friends messages in their inbox easier.

we keep our face pics in the friends only gallery "

Last time i was on i used to send my face pic attached to messages of those I planned to meet. Now I kindly show my face pic via kik. After the whole Swingfield disaster, there's no way I'm logging my face pic on this sites system! Worried in case fab gets hacked! unlikely but possible. My career would be over if it did

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What is the purpose of friend request on fab? What benefits for they provide? Considering fab is private messaging, I don't see any benefits for sending / accepting friend requests.

You see their updates and new photos on your updates feed.

You can see their friends only pictures and they can see yours.

You can use it as a filter in the chat rooms so only friends may send you pm. It stops you being bombarded with private message windows at busy times.

You can find them more easily to message and are less likely to lose track of them."

Oh I don't use the chat rooms. Not a paying member and I'm always using my phone for fab. Finding friends more easily and not losing track seems a great idea. I tend to swap my kik though to those I really want to keep in touch with. Thank you for your helpful advice

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Probably a trust thing for me, and if I feel the person is genuine and also if the is a chance of meeting or at least some conversation

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My friends only pics are face and fanny so only those I have met or would meet get accepted. Think I've got about 11 friends!

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By *ee Viante OP Woman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"My friends only pics are face and fanny so only those I have met or would meet get accepted. Think I've got about 11 friends!"

I've got 20. Mostly people I've met at socials and get on with, that I've met for fun or plan to meet.

There are two or three who've not logged in for a while I haven't removed yet and one who's going in another few days if I don't hear from him.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"My friends only pics are face and fanny so only those I have met or would meet get accepted. Think I've got about 11 friends!

I've got 20. Mostly people I've met at socials and get on with, that I've met for fun or plan to meet.

There are two or three who've not logged in for a while I haven't removed yet and one who's going in another few days if I don't hear from him."

Hope it's not 'that' one?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"My friends only pics are face and fanny so only those I have met or would meet get accepted. Think I've got about 11 friends!"

No bum pics? Meh, that's poor effort

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By *ee Viante OP Woman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"My friends only pics are face and fanny so only those I have met or would meet get accepted. Think I've got about 11 friends!

I've got 20. Mostly people I've met at socials and get on with, that I've met for fun or plan to meet.

There are two or three who've not logged in for a while I haven't removed yet and one who's going in another few days if I don't hear from him.

Hope it's not 'that' one?"

It is.

Plenty more fish.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I only friend ppl I intend to meet or get on well with on here too many picture collectors which is why I don't accept random requests xx

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By *mojeeCouple over a year ago

Dunfermline

People that we've chatted to for a while or met. We used to add them if we'd agreed a meet but obv deleted them when they didn't show

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By *ola.Woman over a year ago

Just where I need to be.

I have 14 in my friends list. A few are people that I chat to from when I joined.People I have met and will meet. A few that I just chat to, interesting people who I enjoy bantering with. I have no rude pics in my friends gallery. They are in private. I very rarely add anyone and never look in friends invites.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I only friend ppl I intend to meet or get on well with on here too many picture collectors which is why I don't accept random requests xx"

Oh is that why random guys send friend requests without even bothering to message and talk? Personally I consider it rude to send a friend request without even messaging to introduce yourself. That's just my opinion though

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By *iamondjoeMan over a year ago

Glastonbury

There's an application process that involves a short written test, some Zen training and a 30 day cool-off period for either party.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There's an application process that involves a short written test, some Zen training and a 30 day cool-off period for either party. "

May I have an application form please XXX

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By *ee Viante OP Woman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"There's an application process that involves a short written test, some Zen training and a 30 day cool-off period for either party. "

You never told me there was a cooling off period!

I'm writing to the Ombudsman. The terms weren't made clear!

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By *hingford manMan over a year ago

highams park East London

Add anyone except single guys even if I do t know them as makes easier for some people to start talking.... And if we don't chat then they get booted. Easy

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would only add if I have chatted to a person for some time or meet the person,

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

a vial of your blood, two bottles of fine wiiiine unt a bucket of fried chicken....

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By *ee Viante OP Woman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"a vial of your blood, two bottles of fine wiiiine unt a bucket of fried chicken...."

I've been underselling myself!

Wine and bacon sarnies it is from now on!

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By *icentiousCouple over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Good sense of humour.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"a vial of your blood, two bottles of fine wiiiine unt a bucket of fried chicken...."

How on earth will I get fine wine

, do you give any hints or clues?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I seem to find a lot of people just chat to me only to get a look at my friends pictures, then they stop talking. Bloody perves lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"a vial of your blood, two bottles of fine wiiiine unt a bucket of fried chicken....

How on earth will I get fine wine

, do you give any hints or clues?"

top shelf, Waitrose

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

A chat first. Maybe a flirt. Although if they are gorgeous they can just get in there!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I seem to find a lot of people just chat to me only to get a look at my friends pictures, then they stop talking. Bloody perves lol"

Yep...that too. I let them perve and then delete a day later

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

the friends list is mostly people we have or would really like to play with - there are some we know its unlikely we will meet but we have great chats with (these are mostly my fault as they are forum buddies) - and even then we manage to meet up somehow one way or another - the hotlist however is a mishmash of good and bad

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By *imiUKMan over a year ago

Hereford

Uusally people I've met or intend to.

The occasional forumite sneaks in there too.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

To be on my friends list, we have to meet, then cut the palm of our hands with an 18th century dagger. We hold those hands and then drink the blood that has mixed. We then kiss as we get to tase each other's tongues.

That's the only way, I won't compromise.

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By *eKoopleCouple over a year ago

Germany / Manchester

We use the list for people we've met and would meet again.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"a vial of your blood, two bottles of fine wiiiine unt a bucket of fried chicken....

How on earth will I get fine wine

, do you give any hints or clues?

top shelf, Waitrose"

Ok, expect it in the mail by Friday. The vial will be in the yellow box with hazard label on it

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Only if we've met or are going to meet."

Oh yeah, forgot...

Having a willy helps

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"a vial of your blood, two bottles of fine wiiiine unt a bucket of fried chicken....

How on earth will I get fine wine

, do you give any hints or clues?

top shelf, Waitrose

Ok, expect it in the mail by Friday. The vial will be in the yellow box with hazard label on it

health and safety

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't have many friends , normally people Iv met... hope to meet & the odd one that I chat to.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple over a year ago

Halifax

We add them after we have chatted a while and think we might meet in future.Its my bug bear when people send a friends request but have no pictures though,Miss.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It quite simple either someone that i have met or someone that i speak to on a regular basis who i consider a friend and would hang out with socially

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Depends on the vibe and if 9ve chatted to them for a period of time....Billy no mates at the moment haha

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By *hyllyphyllyMan over a year ago

Bradford

Everyone on my friends list have had my cock up their bum

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It quite simple either someone that i have met or someone that i speak to on a regular basis who i consider a friend and would hang out with socially

"
this

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By *ath_Neil_bifunCouple over a year ago

near cardiff

"When do you add people as friends and why?

Do you add anyone who asks? Only those you've met and liked? People you chat to a lot on here? How long does it take you to add them after you 'meet' them on here or meet them in person?"

I dont have any solid criteria really..I dont get annoyed about being sent them randomly either,especially if they are from some fit and hot people..

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By *uzy444Woman over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

those that get into my inbox..because if i clean out my inbox i dont want to lose touch with them..

a friend's request from someone ive just met as i have all my filters on helps me find them , verify and keep in touch.

getting into my inbox is harder than becoming my 'friend' on here x thats because once in the inbox, thers no way of exiting apart from a block..and i dont like the stress of blocking, hence my filters

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By *osmicplusMan over a year ago

Birmingham

GSOH

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have 13 on my list. Most are people I have met, but a few are people I have exchanged lots of messages with, whether we ever meet or not. People who have interesting conversation, intelligent conversation, a couple inhabit the forums and we share similar views and with the exception of one, they are all within an hours drive.

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By *ikki ShooterTV/TS over a year ago

Epsom

More than a one line mail and a request.

It varies from person to person, but there has to be some connection even if it's only verbal. A good conversation, a chat up that put a smile on my face. All things are considered..... Not all pass the test x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We have four total and they are forumites that we have had a connection with on here, we don't accept random people or generally add anyone

G x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

To get on my friend list we need to have met..or you be exceptional at keeping my attention.

To stay on my friend list I have to want to meet you again or you're the exceptional person who is still keeping my attention and I'd love to meet you but can't.

Friend list regularly culled. Some get moved to my hot list.

Yeah I know I'm harsh but I like my profile tidy..

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