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""Hi, how are you?" Or if you'd like to be slightly more British... "Hi, been raining a lot, huh? How are you?"" Hmm. Maybe. How are you seems too generic and boring? Take this site for example. Not many women respond back to a hi how are you message.  | |||
"Tell her you love pizza "[Walks up to girl] Me:Hi. Girl: hey Me: [whispers into her ear] i like pizza Girl: [sprays a can of mace into pizza's eyes]  | |||
""Hi, how are you?" Or if you'd like to be slightly more British... "Hi, been raining a lot, huh? How are you?"" You forgot to add to ask her for tea and crumpets | |||
""Hi, how are you?" Or if you'd like to be slightly more British... "Hi, been raining a lot, huh? How are you?" Hmm. Maybe. How are you seems too generic and boring? Take this site for example. Not many women respond back to a hi how are you message. "Real life is different. | |||
""Hi, how are you?" Or if you'd like to be slightly more British... "Hi, been raining a lot, huh? How are you?" You forgot to add to ask her for tea and crumpets"  now we're talking | |||
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"Borrow a guards outfit and ask her if you can punch her ticket." | |||
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"Lol @mace. just treat her like you're making a new friend. act 'normal'. it's surprising how much i'm willing to interact with guys who treat me like i'm a person." Haha. 'Normal' for me is freezing and wondering where to look when I catch someone glancing at me. | |||
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"Sorry to bother you, but I have noticed that you've noticed me "And she replies with.. I noticed that you noticed me noticing you? | |||
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"Repress repress repress repress and then repress some more. 20 years later write an epic poem about it " This man gets it. | |||
"Have you tried smiling back then talking to her? Unless she's a praying mantis in disguise you should be safe. " Honest truth is..I get self concious about smiling to women. Sometimes I get the feeling they think I'm just perving | |||
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"Have you tried smiling back then talking to her? Unless she's a praying mantis in disguise you should be safe. " How can I be sure ? | |||
"Smile back and say "hi". "Tooooo fucking complicated.  | |||
"Sorry to bother you, but I have noticed that you've noticed me
And she replies with.. I noticed that you noticed me noticing you? "Yes I apology yet I couldn't help noticing that you are stunning  | |||
"...approach a girl if you see someone smiling at you on the train? Had this happen to me a couple of times recently and it's starting to bug me that I'm unable to initiate a conversation. Any suggesstions?
..or maybe you could share real life experiences.""What you looking at bitch" always gets a response. | |||
"Ask her if she's on Fabs? "Haha. If she says no, I'd have to sit there explaining it all to her. Cringe. | |||
"Lol @mace. just treat her like you're making a new friend. act 'normal'. it's surprising how much i'm willing to interact with guys who treat me like i'm a person. Haha. 'Normal' for me is freezing and wondering where to look when I catch someone glancing at me. "you like that with guys/men? don't build anything up in your head about what will happen. worst that will happen is you say something she doesn't like and you won't see her again (and can avoid her easy enough). an all that would mean is you're not really compatible. how nerve wracking was it to reply to me in here and i have been happy to interact back with you? you got to be like that with her too. | |||
"...approach a girl if you see someone smiling at you on the train? Had this happen to me a couple of times recently and it's starting to bug me that I'm unable to initiate a conversation. Any suggesstions?
..or maybe you could share real life experiences.
"What you looking at bitch" always gets a response."....I'm sure it..does.. | |||
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"Have you tried smiling back then talking to her? Unless she's a praying mantis in disguise you should be safe. How can I be sure ?" If she rips your head off she's a praying mantis. | |||
"Lol @mace. just treat her like you're making a new friend. act 'normal'. it's surprising how much i'm willing to interact with guys who treat me like i'm a person. Haha. 'Normal' for me is freezing and wondering where to look when I catch someone glancing at me.
you like that with guys/men?
don't build anything up in your head about what will happen. worst that will happen is you say something she doesn't like and you won't see her again (and can avoid her easy enough). an all that would mean is you're not really compatible.
how nerve wracking was it to reply to me in here and i have been happy to interact back with you? you got to be like that with her too. "With guys it's different. I'm usually not trying to impress guys. You may have a point about me over thinking things. I'm behind a keyboard on here. Makes it easier | |||
"How did my awesome, super easy method get overlooked? "i did overlook that, but it is a good idea. | |||
"If she is smiling at you you tell her she has a beautiful smile. Easy "..as simple as that? | |||
"Lol @mace. just treat her like you're making a new friend. act 'normal'. it's surprising how much i'm willing to interact with guys who treat me like i'm a person. Haha. 'Normal' for me is freezing and wondering where to look when I catch someone glancing at me.
you like that with guys/men?
don't build anything up in your head about what will happen. worst that will happen is you say something she doesn't like and you won't see her again (and can avoid her easy enough). an all that would mean is you're not really compatible.
how nerve wracking was it to reply to me in here and i have been happy to interact back with you? you got to be like that with her too.
With guys it's different. I'm usually not trying to impress guys.
You may have a point about me over thinking things.
I'm behind a keyboard on here. Makes it easier "you don't need to impress anyone that already likes you. | |||
"How did my awesome, super easy method get overlooked? "Just replied. Sozzle pops | |||
"Have you tried smiling back then talking to her? Unless she's a praying mantis in disguise you should be safe. How can I be sure ? If she rips your head off she's a praying mantis." Ah but the clever ones wait and then rip out your heart. You know, just to bring everyone down a bit. | |||
"Lol @mace. just treat her like you're making a new friend. act 'normal'. it's surprising how much i'm willing to interact with guys who treat me like i'm a person. Haha. 'Normal' for me is freezing and wondering where to look when I catch someone glancing at me.
you like that with guys/men?
don't build anything up in your head about what will happen. worst that will happen is you say something she doesn't like and you won't see her again (and can avoid her easy enough). an all that would mean is you're not really compatible.
how nerve wracking was it to reply to me in here and i have been happy to interact back with you? you got to be like that with her too.
With guys it's different. I'm usually not trying to impress guys.
You may have a point about me over thinking things.
I'm behind a keyboard on here. Makes it easier
you don't need to impress anyone that already likes you."Damn you're good at this. | |||
"Have you tried smiling back then talking to her? Unless she's a praying mantis in disguise you should be safe. How can I be sure ? If she rips your head off she's a praying mantis." ..apparently, there's only a 30% chance that the male will get eaten by the female after sex. ..such a useless fact,but it's what happens when you watch a lot of nature programmes  | |||
"Have you tried smiling back then talking to her? Unless she's a praying mantis in disguise you should be safe. How can I be sure ? If she rips your head off she's a praying mantis. ..apparently, there's only a 30% chance that the male will get eaten by the female after sex. ..such a useless fact,but it's what happens when you watch a lot of nature programmes "You willing to bet on those odds? | |||
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"Have you tried smiling back then talking to her? Unless she's a praying mantis in disguise you should be safe. How can I be sure ? If she rips your head off she's a praying mantis. ..apparently, there's only a 30% chance that the male will get eaten by the female after sex. ..such a useless fact,but it's what happens when you watch a lot of nature programmes
You willing to bet on those odds?"...ummm.
Maybe? | |||
"a big smile back & say hey how are you.... And then you can add in the lines that Courtney suggested."
...by the way, that kit kat picture..fantastic! haha | |||
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"octopus rip their dick off and throw it at a potential date, that would work for me. "Really? Have you just made that up? | |||
"Just wink x" | |||
"If she is smiling at you you tell her she has a beautiful smile. Easy
..as simple as that? "Yes | |||
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"octopus rip their dick off and throw it at a potential date, that would work for me.
Really? Have you just made that up? "saw it on facebook, so it must be true.... had to copy this off a page but apparently there is one type of octopus that does that. Known as the Argonaut, this male mollusc has a very sacrificial way of impregnating their female counterparts. The male has one arm longer than his others, known as a hectocotylus, which is used to transfer sperm to the female. The arm stores up the sperm, and when the male finds a female he wants to mate with, he will detach the arm during the mating process. Specifically, once the “arm” finds the pallial cavity of the female, it gets inserted. A “Funnel-mantle locking apparatus,” basically a Chinese finger torture device for the octopus, then keeps the arm from escaping. | |||
"a big smile back & say hey how are you.... And then you can add in the lines that Courtney suggested.
...by the way, that kit kat picture..fantastic! haha"Ah thank you. There you go, get a Kit Kat & offer her a finger | |||
"...approach a girl if you see someone smiling at you on the train? Had this happen to me a couple of times recently and it's starting to bug me that I'm unable to initiate a conversation. Any suggesstions?
..or maybe you could share real life experiences."No 1, Smile back at her and watch her body language to see if she is interested No2, say hi, she's human and what's the worse that can happen ? A, She ignores you ? so what life goes on B, you get talking, swap numbers and you meet for a drink Never ever have regrets about what you didn't do Good luck | |||
"octopus rip their dick off and throw it at a potential date, that would work for me.
Really? Have you just made that up?
saw it on facebook, so it must be true....
had to copy this off a page but apparently there is one type of octopus that does that.
Known as the Argonaut, this male mollusc has a very sacrificial way of impregnating their female counterparts. The male has one arm longer than his others, known as a hectocotylus, which is used to transfer sperm to the female. The arm stores up the sperm, and when the male finds a female he wants to mate with, he will detach the arm during the mating process. Specifically, once the “arm” finds the pallial cavity of the female, it gets inserted. A “Funnel-mantle locking apparatus,” basically a Chinese finger torture device for the octopus, then keeps the arm from escaping."Mind.blown. ..thank you for that. I shall add this to the other useless facts that I store in my head. | |||
"a big smile back & say hey how are you.... And then you can add in the lines that Courtney suggested.
...by the way, that kit kat picture..fantastic! haha
Ah thank you.
There you go, get a Kit Kat & offer her a finger "Hahaha
..no I couldn't do that....or could I? | |||
"...approach a girl if you see someone smiling at you on the train? Had this happen to me a couple of times recently and it's starting to bug me that I'm unable to initiate a conversation. Any suggesstions?
..or maybe you could share real life experiences.
No 1, Smile back at her and watch her body language to see if she is interested
No2, say hi, she's human and what's the worse that can happen ?
A, She ignores you ? so what life goes on
B, you get talking, swap numbers and you meet for a drink
Never ever have regrets about what you didn't do
Good luck"Good advice. Thanks mate | |||
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"Or play this https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kryV3E4QKGk" ...i think I fancy the girl in there. She's very pretty  | |||
"If it's the same girl that keeps smiling at you then she obviously likes you but may be too shy, there's not hi g wrong with wing shy or a bit nervous mate but if you like the girl then you need to bite the bullet and just return her smile with a smile and make eye contact, see where it leads. Good luck" | |||
"octopus rip their dick off and throw it at a potential date, that would work for me.
Really? Have you just made that up?
saw it on facebook, so it must be true....
had to copy this off a page but apparently there is one type of octopus that does that.
Known as the Argonaut, this male mollusc has a very sacrificial way of impregnating their female counterparts. The male has one arm longer than his others, known as a hectocotylus, which is used to transfer sperm to the female. The arm stores up the sperm, and when the male finds a female he wants to mate with, he will detach the arm during the mating process. Specifically, once the “arm” finds the pallial cavity of the female, it gets inserted. A “Funnel-mantle locking apparatus,” basically a Chinese finger torture device for the octopus, then keeps the arm from escaping.
Mind.blown.
..thank you for that. I shall add this to the other useless facts that I store in my head. "you're welcome. | |||
"Or play this https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kryV3E4QKGk" | |||
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"Okay, I'll stop with the ridiculous comments for the moment and say, I know where you're coming from, I've always struggled to talk to women in real life. Shocking I know. It took me a while to build the confidence to do it but the best thing to do is just keep it simple and friendly. The more important thing to remember is that if nothing happens it really doesn't matter. At least you tired. " Good point I guess | |||
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"It's really weird because I'm great with women. Make em laugh, have a good conversation and keep things light. But never know when a girl's interested in me. "nobody does. when i split with my ex guys i had previously been flirting with just outright offered me their numbers. didn't think they were interested and were just having banter. | |||
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"What you don't want to do is stand next to her on the platform asking her questions about her relationship status; then follow her onto the train,asking her where she's going and getting off; then get off at her stop and follow her onto a bus. That's happened to me twice at the same spot on the same platform at Barking. " ....ah, so that's where I've been going wrong then. ..but seriously, what?
Did he get the message that you were not interested in him? | |||
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"Ask her if she's on Fabs? "If someone asked me that I'd deny it and run a Mile | |||
"It's not that you can't, just that you haven't been doing it. You need to calibrate how accurately you're picking up interest in you, rather than someone who's being socially comfortable, rather than disengaging from strangers in a public place. Once you start being able to fine tune and interpret what signals you're receiving, you'll be able to pick those people who are inviting contact, rather than just being polite. Smile more, use other body language to both communicate and interpret what people are 'saying' to you. Maintain longer periods of eye contact, that is not leering or staring: that would make others uncomfortable. A friendly dispositional stance will be inviting. What you're initiating is a dance with someone. You each respectively give a little more to the other, smiles, gestures, winks, nods, whatever. You can invite someone to come closer, you can move closer - assuming you're standing. If you're in seats, then you can switch seats, so that you're closer. But only do this once someone has signalled that they're likely interested in more contact. Remember, if somewhere is too deserted and quiet, it could appear threatening if a guy moves in closer. Give and take: see what the other person is feeding back, at every part of the dance. I use head gestures a fair bit - you can invite people to come closer fairly easily this way. Show that you're playful, cheeky perhaps and flirty. If you're not feeling quite confident enough, take things in very small steps. Set yourself an achievable target - just smiling at someone once in a week, or whatever seems right. Build on it each week etc. Or go to a different public environment and practise, a bar, a museum, any place where people congregate and can easily make eye contact but particularly a safe environment, where people wouldn't likely feel threatened by your moves. In such places, if you feel that something has gone wrong, you can move off easily, to the next part of the museum, a different spot in a bar or leave. We learn most from our mistakes, so don't do anything other than feel good when things don't go as smoothly or easily as you'd have liked. When I was a kid I used to set myself challenges: the stuff that seemed 'impossible', I'd put myself into situations where I'd have to do something new and learn. If I sensed that I had rules about what I couldn't do, then I set out to get rid of them. I expected a life without rules and things holding me back. We're still learning as adult and just need to apply ourselves - we're hugely social creatures and can learn to overcome the barriers that our habits have built up. I've not read the other posts yet but there'll be some great tips here, I'm sure. The key thing is to get out there and do it. And do it some more. And observe others who are interacting with strangers and see what you can pick up from them - even when they don't get it quite right." Best.answer.ever. Thank you | |||
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"I noticed that you said op that you find it difficult to smile. So I'd suggest that you spend a month smiling to people. And refine that skill over the years to come - you'll get so good at it, you'll not notice how much and how easily that you're doing it. You can do other steps whilst this is going. But I'm a big believer in taking lots of small steps, when the overall outcome can seem a big thing to achieve. You've the rest of your life to keep on enjoying this dance." | |||
"Repress repress repress repress and then repress some more. 20 years later write an epic poem about it "Life too short is thrown around loads and its meaning is lost. Man up, go and say hello. Or regret it when you see she no longer gets on the bus/train. Somebody after you did say hello. | |||
" Somebody after you did say hello. " Powerful stuff. Makes you think | |||
"Lol @mace. just treat her like you're making a new friend. act 'normal'. it's surprising how much i'm willing to interact with guys who treat me like i'm a person. Haha. 'Normal' for me is freezing and wondering where to look when I catch someone glancing at me.
you like that with guys/men?
don't build anything up in your head about what will happen. worst that will happen is you say something she doesn't like and you won't see her again (and can avoid her easy enough). an all that would mean is you're not really compatible.
how nerve wracking was it to reply to me in here and i have been happy to interact back with you? you got to be like that with her too.
With guys it's different. I'm usually not trying to impress guys.
You may have a point about me over thinking things.
I'm behind a keyboard on here. Makes it easier
you don't need to impress anyone that already likes you."That's a really good point. | |||
