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over a year ago
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Men that have been in this type of relationship. I need your help... please explain to a neophyte the benefits of this type of relationship for the benefactor.
The genesis of my curiosity was me meeting a beautiful college student a few weeks back. (Not on Fab) When I finally contacted her this week. She agreed to go on a date with me but she said " All her relationships are mutual beneficial "
Being a pervert of the highest order my curiosity was piqued.. I have never heard of this and thought it sounded kinky. I asked her to explain what this type of relationship entailed.
She told me , I would have to give her a monthly allowance , Rent her a apartment , give her money for school books , take her out to meals weekly , and take her shopping whenever she needed something.
I said " that sounds more like adopting a child rather than a relationship . What do I get out of this? "
She says I get to have her as a dinner companion , and if she is in the mood... Sex sometimes.
Now please explain for a man how is that fair? What trill did you get out of this relationship?
If I wanted to give one woman my money and not get sex. I would just get married.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sounds like someone has read about these sorts of arrangements and thought she would try her luck!
Sounds like prostitution but with her having the option not to have sex, but you still get the financial liabilities! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Yes I heard most University students are doing this Sugar Daddy thing. I feel insulted. First I'm in my thirties so I'm far too young to be a sugar daddy
Secondly , why would a young woman think some man would just hand her money and she gets to choose if she has sex?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It is not uncommon in this country, either.
Students making money.
It clearly works for some people or it wouldn't happen but, yes, it is basically prostitution. It wouldn't work for me but, hey, it is a wide world. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Sounds like a sugardaddy type thing
That's all it is....  They tend to be much much older and tired of pulling...  "
But what is the benefit for the Sugar Daddy? |
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"Sounds like a sugardaddy type thing
That's all it is.... They tend to be much much older and tired of pulling...
But what is the benefit for the Sugar Daddy? "
Obviously some find it worth it for the companionship, the status of having her on their arm maybe, and occasional sex. I can also imagine some people need to feel needed and this might work for them? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sounds like a sugardaddy type thing
That's all it is.... They tend to be much much older and tired of pulling...
But what is the benefit for the Sugar Daddy?
Obviously some find it worth it for the companionship, the status of having her on their arm maybe, and occasional sex. I can also imagine some people need to feel needed and this might work for them?"
that's more or less it, get the attention of a young woman who wouldn't even acknowledge his existence if he wasn't rich |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sounds like a sugardaddy type thing
That's all it is.... They tend to be much much older and tired of pulling...
But what is the benefit for the Sugar Daddy?
Obviously some find it worth it for the companionship, the status of having her on their arm maybe, and occasional sex. I can also imagine some people need to feel needed and this might work for them? that's more or less it, get the attention of a young woman who wouldn't even acknowledge his existence if he wasn't rich "
Looses 35 years or more too... |
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"Men that have been in this type of relationship. I need your help... please explain to a neophyte the benefits of this type of relationship for the benefactor.
The genesis of my curiosity was me meeting a beautiful college student a few weeks back. (Not on Fab) When I finally contacted her this week. She agreed to go on a date with me but she said " All her relationships are mutual beneficial "
Being a pervert of the highest order my curiosity was piqued.. I have never heard of this and thought it sounded kinky. I asked her to explain what this type of relationship entailed.
She told me , I would have to give her a monthly allowance , Rent her a apartment , give her money for school books , take her out to meals weekly , and take her shopping whenever she needed something.
I said " that sounds more like adopting a child rather than a relationship . What do I get out of this? "
She says I get to have her as a dinner companion , and if she is in the mood... Sex sometimes.
Now please explain for a man how is that fair? What trill did you get out of this relationship?
If I wanted to give one woman my money and not get sex. I would just get married. "
Just think of it like a marriage without the emotional angle. 
Then before you do anything else get the divorce underway (without the alimony)! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sounds like a sugardaddy type thing
That's all it is.... They tend to be much much older and tired of pulling...
But what is the benefit for the Sugar Daddy?
Obviously some find it worth it for the companionship, the status of having her on their arm maybe, and occasional sex. I can also imagine some people need to feel needed and this might work for them?"
Gosh that's sad though. Tell them to get a puppy ffs |
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"Sounds like a sugardaddy type thing
That's all it is.... They tend to be much much older and tired of pulling...
But what is the benefit for the Sugar Daddy?
Obviously some find it worth it for the companionship, the status of having her on their arm maybe, and occasional sex. I can also imagine some people need to feel needed and this might work for them?
Gosh that's sad though. Tell them to get a puppy ffs"
If its mutually acceptable let them get on with it, one psychological crutch is no better than any other, who's to say shagging around is any less sad? |
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"Yes I heard most University students are doing this Sugar Daddy thing. I feel insulted. First I'm in my thirties so I'm far too young to be a sugar daddy
Secondly , why would a young woman think some man would just hand her money and she gets to choose if she has sex?
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Because some men do |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes I heard most University students are doing this Sugar Daddy thing. I feel insulted. First I'm in my thirties so I'm far too young to be a sugar daddy
Secondly , why would a young woman think some man would just hand her money and she gets to choose if she has sex?
Because some men do"
What do you mean? |
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"Yes I heard most University students are doing this Sugar Daddy thing. I feel insulted. First I'm in my thirties so I'm far too young to be a sugar daddy
Secondly , why would a young woman think some man would just hand her money and she gets to choose if she has sex?
Because some men do What do you mean?"
I mean some men do make arrangements like this- that's why she thinks she can ask. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes I heard most University students are doing this Sugar Daddy thing. I feel insulted. First I'm in my thirties so I'm far too young to be a sugar daddy
Secondly , why would a young woman think some man would just hand her money and she gets to choose if she has sex?
Because some men do What do you mean?
I mean some men do make arrangements like this- that's why she thinks she can ask."
oh ok, that makes sense  |
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There are actually websites devoted to sugar daddies, personally I see it as a dishonest prostitute, but then I can appreciate others might get something from it, just never really wrapped my head around what that is... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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The benefit of being a sugar daddy is that you should be the type of person who likes to be in the position of mentor/philanthropist/leaving a legacy. If this way of life appeals to you as a person especially with the added bonus of getting to spend naughty time with the student/benefactor then you are a sugar daddy, if it doesn't, walk on by and make it clear you are not looking for sugar babies. Simples |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Men that have been in this type of relationship. I need your help... please explain to a neophyte the benefits of this type of relationship for the benefactor.
The genesis of my curiosity was me meeting a beautiful college student a few weeks back. (Not on Fab) When I finally contacted her this week. She agreed to go on a date with me but she said " All her relationships are mutual beneficial "
Being a pervert of the highest order my curiosity was piqued.. I have never heard of this and thought it sounded kinky. I asked her to explain what this type of relationship entailed.
She told me , I would have to give her a monthly allowance , Rent her a apartment , give her money for school books , take her out to meals weekly , and take her shopping whenever she needed something.
I said " that sounds more like adopting a child rather than a relationship . What do I get out of this? "
She says I get to have her as a dinner companion , and if she is in the mood... Sex sometimes.
Now please explain for a man how is that fair? What trill did you get out of this relationship?
If I wanted to give one woman my money and not get sex. I would just get married. "
And back in the room |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sounds like a sugardaddy type thing
That's all it is.... They tend to be much much older and tired of pulling...
But what is the benefit for the Sugar Daddy?
Obviously some find it worth it for the companionship, the status of having her on their arm maybe, and occasional sex. I can also imagine some people need to feel needed and this might work for them?
Gosh that's sad though. Tell them to get a puppy ffs
If its mutually acceptable let them get on with it, one psychological crutch is no better than any other, who's to say shagging around is any less sad? "
You asking whether most men think that getting bucket loads of pussy is cooler than paying for it? Yeah I think I could win that arguement. |
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"Sounds like a sugardaddy type thing
That's all it is.... They tend to be much much older and tired of pulling...
But what is the benefit for the Sugar Daddy?
Obviously some find it worth it for the companionship, the status of having her on their arm maybe, and occasional sex. I can also imagine some people need to feel needed and this might work for them?
Gosh that's sad though. Tell them to get a puppy ffs
If its mutually acceptable let them get on with it, one psychological crutch is no better than any other, who's to say shagging around is any less sad?
You asking whether most men think that getting bucket loads of pussy is cooler than paying for it? Yeah I think I could win that arguement."
Oh I know you could round here, but they too are often simply feeding a fucked up psyche, so there's no high ground to be claimed, everyone is chasing their own dragon, running from their own demons. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There are sugar mummy sites too.
Why do I always think this sounds like it didn't really happen. "
Just out of interest, you understand, but what are the names of these sites?! It would really help my studies  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sounds like a sugardaddy type thing
That's all it is.... They tend to be much much older and tired of pulling...
But what is the benefit for the Sugar Daddy?
Obviously some find it worth it for the companionship, the status of having her on their arm maybe, and occasional sex. I can also imagine some people need to feel needed and this might work for them?
Gosh that's sad though. Tell them to get a puppy ffs
If its mutually acceptable let them get on with it, one psychological crutch is no better than any other, who's to say shagging around is any less sad?
You asking whether most men think that getting bucket loads of pussy is cooler than paying for it? Yeah I think I could win that arguement.
Oh I know you could round here, but they too are often simply feeding a fucked up psyche, so there's no high ground to be claimed, everyone is chasing their own dragon, running from their own demons."
That's a deeper level of analysis that I'd initially considered. Actually I agree with you and retract my remarks from the record. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"To be honest I don't know why you are considering it at all.With a donkey dick like yours you should have them queuing up by the hundreds."
Yes , I got a donkey dick , but a face like a donkey's ass.
But seriously I never considered it. I was just shocked that she would ask me. I'm not even 40 yet. I thought she gave me her number because she wanted my body.
But I couldn't afford to be a benefactor. I'm credit rich , cash poor. I live on credit cards  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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What about the poor old man when she graduates and doesn't need him any more 
If he has the money and it makes him happy then I don't see any harm in it. If it's skinting him and he's becoming psychologically affected it's abhorrent. What's wrong with getting a job to see you through uni? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There are sugar mummy sites too.
Why do I always think this sounds like it didn't really happen.
I'm looking for a sugar mummy. All offers considered.  "
I'm too young |
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"Men that have been in this type of relationship. I need your help... please explain to a neophyte the benefits of this type of relationship for the benefactor.
The genesis of my curiosity was me meeting a beautiful college student a few weeks back. (Not on Fab) When I finally contacted her this week. She agreed to go on a date with me but she said " All her relationships are mutual beneficial "
Being a pervert of the highest order my curiosity was piqued.. I have never heard of this and thought it sounded kinky. I asked her to explain what this type of relationship entailed.
She told me , I would have to give her a monthly allowance , Rent her a apartment , give her money for school books , take her out to meals weekly , and take her shopping whenever she needed something.
I said " that sounds more like adopting a child rather than a relationship . What do I get out of this? "
She says I get to have her as a dinner companion , and if she is in the mood... Sex sometimes.
Now please explain for a man how is that fair? What trill did you get out of this relationship?
If I wanted to give one woman my money and not get sex. I would just get married. "
run Forrest .. Run...!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What about the poor old man when she graduates and doesn't need him any more
If he has the money and it makes him happy then I don't see any harm in it. If it's skinting him and he's becoming psychologically affected it's abhorrent. What's wrong with getting a job to see you through uni? "
because they're lazy lol. It's much easier and pays better to feign an interest in an old man and send him pretty selfies |
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By (user no longer on site)
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That sounds like a very dated arrangement. The aristocracy used to 'keep' their mistresses in that manner. Wouldn't work in this day and age when men can get sex elsewhere, and women are financially independent. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What about the poor old man when she graduates and doesn't need him any more
If he has the money and it makes him happy then I don't see any harm in it. If it's skinting him and he's becoming psychologically affected it's abhorrent. What's wrong with getting a job to see you through uni? "
In a genuine sd/sb relationship the idea is that the sb will be studying in a field the sd is already experienced in and so can provide contacts and a longstanding business relationship after graduation.
Also if you have to get a job to put you through uni, you can't dedicate as much time to your studies and networking.
As with everything though, including swinging, it evolves over time,lines get blurred and it turns into something it was never really meant to be like girls with no intention of studying or getting a job free loading off old guys who think it's the only way to attract a bit of young skirt and putting people's backs up  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"personally I see it as a dishonest prostitute"
So just a prostitute.
I worked in the trade, trust me on this, theres no such thing as an "Honest" prostitute. Or i never met one in my time in the industry.
Every single one of them, to a woman, had boyfriends while they worked. And in only the rarest examples did he know. And in those cases it was always that the girl was outed and he chose to stay, not that she was up front about it.
As for OP - Run. Seriously, tell her to do one, and run. If you want to pay for companionship, get on AW and pay the market rate, dont be going in for this bullshit. |
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I've known several students who've done this, had sugar daddies who have given them monthly allowances for clothes & travel etc which they've then spent paying their way through uni. One girlfriend of mine had a married guy who she saw twice a month, he would book a top hotel in London, she'd dress to impress, he'd hang her off his arm in some top restaurant and then there would be sex. It's nothing new and I'm quite jealous  she's left uni now but still sees him. I wish I was a lot younger haha ! |
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"I've known several students who've done this, had sugar daddies who have given them monthly allowances for clothes & travel etc which they've then spent paying their way through uni. One girlfriend of mine had a married guy who she saw twice a month, he would book a top hotel in London, she'd dress to impress, he'd hang her off his arm in some top restaurant and then there would be sex. It's nothing new and I'm quite jealous she's left uni now but still sees him. I wish I was a lot younger haha ! "
Was she a lot more attractive than him? I mean is this something that an older wealthy man might do because it's his only chance of having a young babe on his arm? |
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"There are sugar mummy sites too.
Why do I always think this sounds like it didn't really happen.
I'm looking for a sugar mummy. All offers considered.
I'm too young "
Well what about a sugar step mummy? |
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"I've known several students who've done this, had sugar daddies who have given them monthly allowances for clothes & travel etc which they've then spent paying their way through uni. One girlfriend of mine had a married guy who she saw twice a month, he would book a top hotel in London, she'd dress to impress, he'd hang her off his arm in some top restaurant and then there would be sex. It's nothing new and I'm quite jealous she's left uni now but still sees him. I wish I was a lot younger haha !
Was she a lot more attractive than him? I mean is this something that an older wealthy man might do because it's his only chance of having a young babe on his arm? "
She's no catwalk stick thin model but she's pretty and a lovely smart young lady. I guess he was lonely when away from home and this in his head was more ethical than paying for a different prostitute every time. Hats off to her for getting what she wants without the drama! I wouldn't mind a fried with extra benefits |
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"If you get a thrill out of being used and can afford it, your choice. But by the sounds of it, you already know to avoid the whole thing."
Yes , this is something I wouldn't do.
I'm still curious if any Sugar daddies will reply on this thread and tell me about the joy's of this type of relationship. |
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