You know you get that
"do you want to meet again sometime?"
as they walk through the door after a meet.
Would you prefer if someone is just honest and upfront and say "no" if they aren't really feeling it or say "yes sure" and not really mean it?
I've tried both ways (no pun intended) with different responses.
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That's really hard. I always prefer when people are honest, but it would hurt to hear a no right after sex. I just wouldn't ask. I usually ask later via text/messaging. It's easier for the person to be honest that way. |
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I'd kind of hope that the guy wouldn't bring himself to have sex with me in the first place if he didn't want to have sex with me again. I would prefer a no just so I know not to expect anything and would cut my losses but like Courtney said, it would be pretty shit to hear a no straight after you've fucked. Would leave me with loads of unanswered questions like did I fart, did my fanny stink, what, what did I do wrong? |
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I always get the "do you want to meet again" at the front door ha ha must be just me then.
My usual response is yes as I like to think I'm more of a regular than a 1 off 30min fumble guy and like you wouldn't have met them in the first instance if i didn't really fancy them in the first place.
Just asking as i recently had the reverse where I've met someone a few times "straight" man and up for meeting again but now all the excuses under the sun used but still replies to my messages. Why not just block if no intentions to meet again? wouldn't that be reasonable, at least we all know where we stand then, right? |
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"I always get the "do you want to meet again" at the front door ha ha must be just me then.
My usual response is yes as I like to think I'm more of a regular than a 1 off 30min fumble guy and like you wouldn't have met them in the first instance if i didn't really fancy them in the first place.
Just asking as i recently had the reverse where I've met someone a few times "straight" man and up for meeting again but now all the excuses under the sun used but still replies to my messages. Why not just block if no intentions to meet again? wouldn't that be reasonable, at least we all know where we stand then, right?"
Some people may not want to offend face to face and could say yes face to face not to hurt your feelings but could avoid via messages etc. |
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"Arrange to speak more by text or something. Don't ask in the step.
'I'll speak to you tomorrow' is safe, "
Yes I HATE being put on the spot at the end of a social, I like to go away and sleep on it then talk the next day.  |
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If the meet's gone well then you're not committing to more sex by stating you'd meet again - a chat in a club would count. I'd prefer not to be put on the spot generally. If it's a poor meet, leaving and making your excuses, with an I'll be in touch' etc is fine.
I'm certainly not into humiliating others or creating uncomfortable situations, or any more than they may need to be. |
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All good replies I guess. I think I'm just more direct then because I let people know what the deal is. I hate that left to wonder thing we do. If you know you can move on. Guess we're all different in dealing with situations. |
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