I've spoken to quite a few people who say they prefer private parties to clubs and have noticed there is a whole cross section of people I am never likely to meet because I avoid private parties.
Why do I avoid them? Because they tend to have very few if any single men and I'm straight.
Are there any people out there who are happy to have single guys at their parties to cater for straight single women or is it still frowned upon to have single men?
What I have found is that you get a lot of singlies buddying up to go to parties and it's hard to know who is free to play one to one and who is geniunely looking to play as a couple.
How do you get round this?
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I have soirees or gatherings pmsl ...i avoid the word party as the emphasis shifts to people standing around chatting and a few people getting hammered ...but when i do...i always have one maybe 2 fems spare and 3 guys
but to be honest with you, the single straight fem is getting rare lately.
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Don't you find when you see them advertised they often say 'Strictly no single men!'? This is when I click to the next page and move on. I don't want to share one guy with another woman and compete for their attention. it's nice to have a good cross section and enjoy the company of the opposite sex.
Maybe this is why I like Friday nights at chams lol, although it would be nice to have fun in a different environment, but it seems to be my lot. |
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"Don't you find when you see them advertised they often say 'Strictly no single men!'? This is when I click to the next page and move on. I don't want to share one guy with another woman and compete for their attention. it's nice to have a good cross section and enjoy the company of the opposite sex.
Maybe this is why I like Friday nights at chams lol, although it would be nice to have fun in a different environment, but it seems to be my lot."
There are parties that have quite a few single men, and single women for that matter. But they are very much by invitation. I have friends who hold them monthly and they always make sure no more than a third are couples as it helps the mix. You do find that many single women are not keen on turning up at a house party on there own though. |
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"Don't you find when you see them advertised they often say 'Strictly no single men!'? This is when I click to the next page and move on. I don't want to share one guy with another woman and compete for their attention. it's nice to have a good cross section and enjoy the company of the opposite sex.
Maybe this is why I like Friday nights at chams lol, although it would be nice to have fun in a different environment, but it seems to be my lot."
dont you share your conquests at chams with others ...omg do you tie em down  |
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lol _leasuredome, when I'm at the point that I need a break it's change over time and of course they are welcome to play with others haha. Then once my batteries are re-charged I'm ready for my next flirtation and fun.
Fresh Freddie, it is not easy going to a party when you know no one at all by your self, but if I know one or two people then I'm more than happy, or even better still drive down with someone else (male or female) and go in as single. I guess I just don't know the right people, but not sure how you get this 'invite' if you don't know the people in the first place and go alone. |
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"Don't you find when you see them advertised they often say 'Strictly no single men!'? This is when I click to the next page and move on. I don't want to share one guy with another woman and compete for their attention. it's nice to have a good cross section and enjoy the company of the opposite sex.
Maybe this is why I like Friday nights at chams lol, although it would be nice to have fun in a different environment, but it seems to be my lot."
i never advertise its strictly targetted invites only ... |
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"lol _leasuredome, when I'm at the point that I need a break it's change over time and of course they are welcome to play with others haha. Then once my batteries are re-charged I'm ready for my next flirtation and fun.
Fresh Freddie, it is not easy going to a party when you know no one at all by your self, but if I know one or two people then I'm more than happy, or even better still drive down with someone else (male or female) and go in as single. I guess I just don't know the right people, but not sure how you get this 'invite' if you don't know the people in the first place and go alone."
The party scene is a funny one. Once your in your in it seems. The ones I have frequented have been good I have to say. Ok most have been in large houses and they are a little wary of new people, but I have taken the odd friend as a partner/introduction when the percentages require. I have some good friends up in Harrogate that really plan a party and will have about 30 to 40 people there.
The problem with many parties is the houses need to be large to accommodate more than 10/12 people. And lets face it all those people naked in a 16 by 20 lounge gets a bit warm.
You do seem to make some good friends at house parties though as opposed to the club scene. But it’s a matter of taste I have to say. I do like the clubs but a well mixed house party where they have a heated pool or Jacuzzi is great as there is no kicking out time and rooms to sleep in.
I do appreciate it is hard for a single woman to get over the initial barrier but its well worth the effort.
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Pleasuredome I fully understand why some people would wish not to advertise. You know what you want from your party and what kind of atmosphere you are looking for and after all it is your right, but... I'm not talking about those kind of parties as I am not aware of them. Just the ones that are advertised
I've hosted a few parties myself and I also know that the first thing is asked is, how many single guys are going? Like it's a real put off to have too many. I know there are pressures out there, but it does seem such a shame in this world of growing singly ladies that unless you're bi you're not really catered for. Especially when there are so many single men out there who would love to be invited. |
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"lol _leasuredome, when I'm at the point that I need a break it's change over time and of course they are welcome to play with others haha. Then once my batteries are re-charged I'm ready for my next flirtation and fun.
Fresh Freddie, it is not easy going to a party when you know no one at all by your self, but if I know one or two people then I'm more than happy, or even better still drive down with someone else (male or female) and go in as single. I guess I just don't know the right people, but not sure how you get this 'invite' if you don't know the people in the first place and go alone."
talking of big houses ...you do frequent the same places i sometimes have lady P, that certain large house and couple who I know whos parties you have attended ...what is problem there ..surely there are more than enough guys ..? |
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"Pleasuredome I fully understand why some people would wish not to advertise. You know what you want from your party and what kind of atmosphere you are looking for and after all it is your right, but... I'm not talking about those kind of parties as I am not aware of them. Just the ones that are advertised
I've hosted a few parties myself and I also know that the first thing is asked is, how many single guys are going? Like it's a real put off to have too many. I know there are pressures out there, but it does seem such a shame in this world of growing singly ladies that unless you're bi you're not really catered for. Especially when there are so many single men out there who would love to be invited."
hmmm having a group of singles helps who meet regularly and then supplement with new people you all think would fit in ...perhaps you should look at that lady p |
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"Pleasuredome I fully understand why some people would wish not to advertise. You know what you want from your party and what kind of atmosphere you are looking for and after all it is your right, but... I'm not talking about those kind of parties as I am not aware of them. Just the ones that are advertised
I will agree with Lady P here that unless you are advertising as being at least bi-accessible... it is hard... (being a single woman
I've hosted a few parties myself and I also know that the first thing is asked is, how many single guys are going? Like it's a real put off to have too many. I know there are pressures out there, but it does seem such a shame in this world of growing singly ladies that unless you're bi you're not really catered for. Especially when there are so many single men out there who would love to be invited."
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By *phroditeWoman
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"Pleasuredome I fully understand why some people would wish not to advertise. You know what you want from your party and what kind of atmosphere you are looking for and after all it is your right, but... I'm not talking about those kind of parties as I am not aware of them. Just the ones that are advertised
I will agree with Lady P here that unless you are advertising as being at least bi-accessible... it is hard... (being a single woman
I've hosted a few parties myself and I also know that the first thing is asked is, how many single guys are going? Like it's a real put off to have too many. I know there are pressures out there, but it does seem such a shame in this world of growing singly ladies that unless you're bi you're not really catered for. Especially when there are so many single men out there who would love to be invited."
Oops I end up sticking it into the wrong slot...
Let me repeat, it is HARD for us single women !!! |
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