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Anal, a pain in the arse?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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A little over a year ago after some rather enthusiastic anal, encouraged by myself, I experienced bleeding and pain when using the toilet. This put me off even though I've always enjoyed anal when in the mood. I have tried a couple of times since, once for a little while but became aware it was uncomfortable and stopped. I think it's psychological and I'm getting to the point I don't want to bother trying, even a finger up the bum makes me nervous. Anyone had a similar experience, did you get over your anal anxiety?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Urm...maybe you could have a pile/s due to it and they burst then you did bleed etc
As I've have piles in the past...nice I know but there we go...lol but once they burst on me while I was working and everytime I went loo, (I felt like tom hanks in the green mile) but got cream and it was fine but I've never tried anal, but would be interested in pegging though... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Sounds to me like you need it licked better 
Allow me to volunteer my expert medical services in this field"
A tongue I don't mind at all. It's a starting point.
Do you have any medical certification to prove you're qualified? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Urm...maybe you could have a pile/s due to it and they burst then you did bleed etc
As I've have piles in the past...nice I know but there we go...lol but once they burst on me while I was working and everytime I went loo, (I felt like tom hanks in the green mile) but got cream and it was fine but I've never tried anal, but would be interested in pegging though... "
Possibly, although I've not had symptoms in over a year. More likely a small tear. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sounds to me like you need it licked better
Allow me to volunteer my expert medical services in this field
A tongue I don't mind at all. It's a starting point.
Do you have any medical certification to prove you're qualified? "
Yep.I have a certification from Professor A.Rimmer from the starfish university of exeter.
It is signed and everyfink! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Sounds to me like you need it licked better
Allow me to volunteer my expert medical services in this field
A tongue I don't mind at all. It's a starting point.
Do you have any medical certification to prove you're qualified?
Yep.I have a certification from Professor A.Rimmer from the starfish university of exeter.
It is signed and everyfink!"
Ha ha sounds legit |
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"Sounds to me like you need it licked better
Allow me to volunteer my expert medical services in this field
A tongue I don't mind at all. It's a starting point.
Do you have any medical certification to prove you're qualified? "
We've got qualifications and pictures to prove it
Do you want to come over?
MrsSB  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Sounds to me like you need it licked better
Allow me to volunteer my expert medical services in this field
A tongue I don't mind at all. It's a starting point.
Do you have any medical certification to prove you're qualified?
We've got qualifications and pictures to prove it
Do you want to come over?
MrsSB "
I'm starting to think there are no such things as rimming qualifications but for the sake of my recovery  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Anal done softly and properly is fantastic
Lube lube lube, finger it amd make its inviting before fucking it.
I don't like the spit on it and shove it in type of play lol |
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"Sounds to me like you need it licked better
Allow me to volunteer my expert medical services in this field
A tongue I don't mind at all. It's a starting point.
Do you have any medical certification to prove you're qualified?
We've got qualifications and pictures to prove it
Do you want to come over?
MrsSB
I'm starting to think there are no such things as rimming qualifications but for the sake of my recovery "
Let's meet and we can prove it to you.
MrsSB |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Be brave! And make sure you're anus is relaxed and ready. I'm quite fond of the spit and shove method  "
The part I'm struggling with is the relaxing. Even when I've felt relaxed enough to be penetrated a few minutes in I tense up and it becomes uncomfortable which adds to my tension and that's game over. I know I'm being a complete wuss  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Have you tried wearing an anal plug for a while to get used to it xx"
I have and do still play with myself. I'm been having anal sex for twenty plus years, not constantly I hasten to add lol. It was something I really enjoyed. Maybe it's an anal trust issue  |
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"Be brave! And make sure you're anus is relaxed and ready. I'm quite fond of the spit and shove method
The part I'm struggling with is the relaxing. Even when I've felt relaxed enough to be penetrated a few minutes in I tense up and it becomes uncomfortable which adds to my tension and that's game over. I know I'm being a complete wuss "
If you practice relaxing enough times then you should be able to re-access that state of mind and body fairly automatically. In part this is what yoga supports, where we often enter a relaxed state, before even starting our class.
So if it's partly about not being sufficiently relaxed, I'd spend time away from sex just repeating a relaxation sequence, such that it becomes more naturally automatic for you. Then should be far easier to conjure it up on demand. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Be brave! And make sure you're anus is relaxed and ready. I'm quite fond of the spit and shove method
The part I'm struggling with is the relaxing. Even when I've felt relaxed enough to be penetrated a few minutes in I tense up and it becomes uncomfortable which adds to my tension and that's game over. I know I'm being a complete wuss
If you practice relaxing enough times then you should be able to re-access that state of mind and body fairly automatically. In part this is what yoga supports, where we often enter a relaxed state, before even starting our class.
So if it's partly about not being sufficiently relaxed, I'd spend time away from sex just repeating a relaxation sequence, such that it becomes more naturally automatic for you. Then should be far easier to conjure it up on demand."
That's an interesting idea. My brain does go into overdrive when anything goes near my bum. Thank you x |
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By *ilacWoman
over a year ago
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"Have you tried wearing an anal plug for a while to get used to it xx
I have and do still play with myself. I'm been having anal sex for twenty plus years, not constantly I hasten to add lol. It was something I really enjoyed. Maybe it's an anal trust issue "
Have exactly the same issue as you. One bad experience when I got hurt has now become a mental block. Can't seem to get past it which annoys me because I really used to enjoy it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Have you tried wearing an anal plug for a while to get used to it xx
I have and do still play with myself. I'm been having anal sex for twenty plus years, not constantly I hasten to add lol. It was something I really enjoyed. Maybe it's an anal trust issue
Have exactly the same issue as you. One bad experience when I got hurt has now become a mental block. Can't seem to get past it which annoys me because I really used to enjoy it. "
Really sorry you had the same experience but relieved I'm not alone xx |
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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago
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Some people don't realise that there are two sphincters (the muscle rings) to get past.
As has been said before, clean, lube lube lube, stretch with a soft plug. Consider positions, and being able to trust your partner to go at your pace.
And please, if any anal bleeding persists for more than a few days, go to your GP. A small tear might not be the cause of bleeding xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I find doggy anal hurts me, I think its the angle but me led down and legs back or me on top and I can really enjoy it. Maybe try a diff position? "
you have opened yourself to some course comments there. Anal and doggy sex should not go together
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By *ilacWoman
over a year ago
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"I find doggy anal hurts me, I think its the angle but me led down and legs back or me on top and I can really enjoy it. Maybe try a diff position? you have opened yourself to some course comments there. Anal and doggy sex should not go together"
Always one eh  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sounds to me like you need it licked better
Allow me to volunteer my expert medical services in this field
A tongue I don't mind at all. It's a starting point.
Do you have any medical certification to prove you're qualified?
We've got qualifications and pictures to prove it
Do you want to come over?
MrsSB
I'm starting to think there are no such things as rimming qualifications but for the sake of my recovery "
If you need a 'second opinion' then let me know. Haha. |
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"I find doggy anal hurts me, I think its the angle but me led down and legs back or me on top and I can really enjoy it. Maybe try a diff position? you have opened yourself to some course comments there. Anal and doggy sex should not go together"
Doh |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A little over a year ago after some rather enthusiastic anal, encouraged by myself, I experienced bleeding and pain when using the toilet. This put me off even though I've always enjoyed anal when in the mood. I have tried a couple of times since, once for a little while but became aware it was uncomfortable and stopped. I think it's psychological and I'm getting to the point I don't want to bother trying, even a finger up the bum makes me nervous. Anyone had a similar experience, did you get over your anal anxiety?
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if the girl has had a nice shower o bath and we are in the heat of the moment I must admit I to enjoy anal, especially if she asks for it  |
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