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Ever felt alone even though there people around you?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I've felt like this for the last few days. Unsettled and lonely even when with others. It'll get better I'm sure, but It's a strange feeling and wonder if other's ever feel like that? |
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By *ilacWoman
over a year ago
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"I've felt like this for the last few days. Unsettled and lonely even when with others. It'll get better I'm sure, but It's a strange feeling and wonder if other's ever feel like that? "
Sometimes. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've felt like this for the last few days. Unsettled and lonely even when with others. It'll get better I'm sure, but It's a strange feeling and wonder if other's ever feel like that?
Sometimes. "
Yes you can feel lonely in a room full of people, it depends on how you feeling & what's going on in your life at the time, hope it soon passes sending you healing hugs x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes, it's usually when I'm missing the company of one person, it can make me very low. I find that engaging with others helps, exercise helps to clear my head and recognising the signs also helps to prevent a slide.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I get this quite often. It might not work for everyone but when I get like that I read. There's something about connecting with characters that soothes me a bit. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yep X there are some interesting articles on the internet about this subject. I find it hard to explain why I sometimes feel loneliness in social situations. I have lots of friends etc and stil.... If I can help just pm me  |
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"I've felt like this for the last few days. Unsettled and lonely even when with others. It'll get better I'm sure, but It's a strange feeling and wonder if other's ever feel like that? "
every single day of the week depression and anxiety an invisible illness that people don't understand
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Yes, I've felt like this my whole life. I've lost count of the number of times I've been with a group of people and I've just wanted the earth to open and swallow me up. That feeling of total disconnection from what's going on around you. In fact most days at work I have these feelings to some extent.
I remember just walking out of one social gathering. I didn't say goodbye or anything. I just got up and walked out, walked home and went to bed. A room full of hundreds of people and I just couldn't take it anymore and had to escape. I don't think I've ever felt such loneliness as I did in that moment. Thankfully I now understand things better and have got better at dealing with it as I've got older. As someone once said...
Loneliness got a mind of its own
The more people around, the more you feel alone
I'm chained to the earth like a silent slave
Trying to break free out of death's dark cave |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've felt like this for the last few days. Unsettled and lonely even when with others. It'll get better I'm sure, but It's a strange feeling and wonder if other's ever feel like that? "
Sounds like an existential anxiety of some sort.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes but my loneliness comes from being single almost 8 years.
I have my daughter which is constant love and company and I also have really good friends but the loneliness I feel can only be filled from having a partner. I'm going through a bit of a rough complicated time and would be nice to have some loving support, I also think my ex would think twice about the way he treats and speaks to me if he knew I had a fella. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes but my loneliness comes from being single almost 8 years.
I have my daughter which is constant love and company and I also have really good friends but the loneliness I feel can only be filled from having a partner. I'm going through a bit of a rough complicated time and would be nice to have some loving support, I also think my ex would think twice about the way he treats and speaks to me if he knew I had a fella. "
How was your holiday? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've felt like this for the last few days. Unsettled and lonely even when with others. It'll get better I'm sure, but It's a strange feeling and wonder if other's ever feel like that? "
All the time when I was married
Funny how when I was with somebody I felt lonely but now I am alone I don't
I think it comes down to being unhappy, its not always easy to change what's making you unhappy though |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes, I've felt like this my whole life. I've lost count of the number of times I've been with a group of people and I've just wanted the earth to open and swallow me up. That feeling of total disconnection from what's going on around you. In fact most days at work I have these feelings to some extent.
I remember just walking out of one social gathering. I didn't say goodbye or anything. I just got up and walked out, walked home and went to bed. A room full of hundreds of people and I just couldn't take it anymore and had to escape. I don't think I've ever felt such loneliness as I did in that moment. Thankfully I now understand things better and have got better at dealing with it as I've got older. As someone once said...
Loneliness got a mind of its own
The more people around, the more you feel alone
I'm chained to the earth like a silent slave
Trying to break free out of death's dark cave"
That made me sad. 
I get it though!  x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes but my loneliness comes from being single almost 8 years.
I have my daughter which is constant love and company and I also have really good friends but the loneliness I feel can only be filled from having a partner. I'm going through a bit of a rough complicated time and would be nice to have some loving support, I also think my ex would think twice about the way he treats and speaks to me if he knew I had a fella.
How was your holiday?"
Was good thanks apart from my daughter getting a 24 hour bug then passing it to me. I spent 12 hours alone in the hotel room, my friend took my daughter with her and I was alone with my thoughts Sunday night, felt very very sad, no telly either just dissecting my life! |
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Felt alone?
Yes - but in a good way. I cherish and savour my solitude eg when I'm traveling, I feel so at peace even when I'm in a crowded train station because no one knows me and I don't know them.
No responsibility, no commitment, no burden.
Enjoy your solitude OP. There's always 2 sides of things. Chin up. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes, I've felt like this my whole life. I've lost count of the number of times I've been with a group of people and I've just wanted the earth to open and swallow me up. That feeling of total disconnection from what's going on around you. In fact most days at work I have these feelings to some extent.
I remember just walking out of one social gathering. I didn't say goodbye or anything. I just got up and walked out, walked home and went to bed. A room full of hundreds of people and I just couldn't take it anymore and had to escape. I don't think I've ever felt such loneliness as I did in that moment. Thankfully I now understand things better and have got better at dealing with it as I've got older. As someone once said...
Loneliness got a mind of its own
The more people around, the more you feel alone
I'm chained to the earth like a silent slave
Trying to break free out of death's dark cave"
I've done exactly the same thing. Just left a social occasion like that  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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This dissociated state of mind is just that...a state of mind that we are all capable of taking control of.. Look up existential therapy...it's relevant to you personally in the here and now...There's no voodoo involved, just you owning your life |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've felt like this for the last few days. Unsettled and lonely even when with others. It'll get better I'm sure, but It's a strange feeling and wonder if other's ever feel like that? "
Let me throw the opposite back at you. Have you ever felt you wanted to be alone when people are all around you? |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"Yes but my loneliness comes from being single almost 8 years.
I have my daughter which is constant love and company and I also have really good friends but the loneliness I feel can only be filled from having a partner. I'm going through a bit of a rough complicated time and would be nice to have some loving support, I also think my ex would think twice about the way he treats and speaks to me if he knew I had a fella. "
If you don't find peace with yourself having someone won't give it to you. What if you have a fella and your ex still treats you the same, will you continue to feel sad and lonely? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"This dissociated state of mind is just that...a state of mind that we are all capable of taking control of.. Look up existential therapy...it's relevant to you personally in the here and now...There's no voodoo involved, just you owning your life"
I did look at it as saw it further up and it makes good sense. Saw some good hints as well that say it helps with it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've felt like this for the last few days. Unsettled and lonely even when with others. It'll get better I'm sure, but It's a strange feeling and wonder if other's ever feel like that? "
yes. It's hard to explain in words. I don't feel it so much now. Big virtual hug to you!!
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"I've felt like this for the last few days. Unsettled and lonely even when with others. It'll get better I'm sure, but It's a strange feeling and wonder if other's ever feel like that? "
Yep, everybody has or will have at some point in their lives. Absolutely normal and as you say, it will probably improve. If it doesn't, don't let it fester, get out and break your current routine. There's also no harm in hiding away for a few days if that's what you need. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I get it a lot, I do suffer with depression so I try and put mine down to that but I do feel lonely at times and other times I want I company and enjoy day on my own. |
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Regularly!!!... But people don't understand, so I just bottle it up, smile & keep it in the best I can... But I think I just become more moody.
I feel like I haven't uncontrollably laughed for ages.
Chatting to people on here does help though |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This dissociated state of mind is just that...a state of mind that we are all capable of taking control of.. Look up existential therapy...it's relevant to you personally in the here and now...There's no voodoo involved, just you owning your life
I did look at it as saw it further up and it makes good sense. Saw some good hints as well that say it helps with it. "
What you and others are describing is a questioning of...an existential experience
When our minds do this it's all too easy to become disconnected from our own lives... Ever felt at times like"well I'm physically here..but I don't feel present!?"
This is one result of becoming disconnected.
To overcome this you don't have to walk around saying over and over I love ME..
Instead you have to realise that in life there are an abundant amount of choices and anxieties that we are incontrol of and must OWN.
One little trick I use about work is...."right now I want to stick my trowel up my boss's arse...I wanna walk out of my job,however as it offers ME a degree of job satisfaction and job security I AM going to make that decision in 3 months time...for now I know that my boss is a nob and as I can do nothing to change this I will accept and even pity him..."
I have made a decision to do something about the "problem" but have decided to act on it when I am in full emotional control...when I am calm and grounded and present
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thanks for your kind posts and messages. I have walked to clear my head. And thank you for sharing.x "
You've done the best thing possible in taking a walk  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes but my loneliness comes from being single almost 8 years.
I have my daughter which is constant love and company and I also have really good friends but the loneliness I feel can only be filled from having a partner. I'm going through a bit of a rough complicated time and would be nice to have some loving support, I also think my ex would think twice about the way he treats and speaks to me if he knew I had a fella. "
My asshole ex gets worse when i'm in a relationship. Even tries to tell me i have no rights seeing someone while i'm bringing up his kids. He's a control freak though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I don't feel lonely OP, used to when my kids were little and i ended up isolated. I enjoy my own company now and my own little world and i don't bring many people into it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've felt like this for the last few days. Unsettled and lonely even when with others. It'll get better I'm sure, but It's a strange feeling and wonder if other's ever feel like that? "
I often feel that way too ...
For me, I often feel overwhelmed by circumstances beyond my control so I just have to go with it until the feeling passes ...
Sometimes I can go for days without speaking to another adult and it doesn't bother me at all .. Other days if i start to feel stifled by my own company I just have to get out and meet a friend for coffee
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"This dissociated state of mind is just that...a state of mind that we are all capable of taking control of.. Look up existential therapy...it's relevant to you personally in the here and now...There's no voodoo involved, just you owning your life
I did look at it as saw it further up and it makes good sense. Saw some good hints as well that say it helps with it.
What you and others are describing is a questioning of...an existential experience
When our minds do this it's all too easy to become disconnected from our own lives... Ever felt at times like"well I'm physically here..but I don't feel present!?"
This is one result of becoming disconnected.
To overcome this you don't have to walk around saying over and over I love ME..
Instead you have to realise that in life there are an abundant amount of choices and anxieties that we are incontrol of and must OWN.
One little trick I use about work is...."right now I want to stick my trowel up my boss's arse...I wanna walk out of my job,however as it offers ME a degree of job satisfaction and job security I AM going to make that decision in 3 months time...for now I know that my boss is a nob and as I can do nothing to change this I will accept and even pity him..."
I have made a decision to do something about the "problem" but have decided to act on it when I am in full emotional control...when I am calm and grounded and present
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I think calm, grounded and present is exactly where I am usually. It's felt good to share today and to get others thoughts. Thank you x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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God I'm not,could quite easily over react when pushed...constant (fun) battle for me to deal with shite in my life.
It's of importance for me to recognise that I'm an introverted person as well
Apologies to all for my lengthy ramblings.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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If you don't find peace with yourself having someone won't give it to you. What if you have a fella and your ex still treats you the same, will you continue to feel sad and lonely?"
My ex speaking to me like shit isn't the reason I feel sad and lonely but I would like to have a partner to fight my corner when I need to conserve my energy. I would also like to have a partner now for support for myself, I'm propping people up and dealing with stuff myself whilst trying to be there for my daughter and another adolescent that is leaning on me for support. Hugs off my child and long chats with my friend isn't enough for me at the moment, I really want to be looked after (emotionally) so I can just have a breather. |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
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If you don't find peace with yourself having someone won't give it to you. What if you have a fella and your ex still treats you the same, will you continue to feel sad and lonely?
My ex speaking to me like shit isn't the reason I feel sad and lonely but I would like to have a partner to fight my corner when I need to conserve my energy. I would also like to have a partner now for support for myself, I'm propping people up and dealing with stuff myself whilst trying to be there for my daughter and another adolescent that is leaning on me for support. Hugs off my child and long chats with my friend isn't enough for me at the moment, I really want to be looked after (emotionally) so I can just have a breather. "
I understand that. I've been there and felt that too. It became lonely in itself because my support didn't come from within but from an external source (my partner) who would often fail to give me what I thought I needed when I thought I needed it.
Finding my own peace made the difference for me and led to more support from others.
I hope you find a solution for you, Teabags. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I used to feel like that most of the time, I could be in a room full of people and feel like the only one in it, which was horrible for the people with me as they were trying their best to cheer me up, I've been in rooms of people and wanted to get out so bad, I'd make up the most stupidest reasons why I had to leave.
I was talking to someone about this at work today, she reached out to me from across the room, crying and calling my name, she is such a strong proud woman too, so for her to do that to me was a mixed emotion for me, I sat with her for as long as I could and just listened to her.
I'm thankful that now, only on the odd occasion I feel like I did but I try and snap out of it quickly, what works for me, when I'm starting to get really depressed is I take my phone and look at a certain picture and I feel all happy again.
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"I've felt like this for the last few days. Unsettled and lonely even when with others. It'll get better I'm sure, but It's a strange feeling and wonder if other's ever feel like that? "
I've been feeling this over the last couple of days. Looking at my current situation and wondering how he heck I got here.
It will get better OP. Big hugs xx |
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Jokes aside get what u mean OP happens to most of us at some point 
