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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So I'm a single girl, looking for a single guy!
Sounds easy...... It's not
I think my profile is quite direct, I say what I'm looking for etc & most specifically what I'm not looking for but somehow the majority of messages I get are from guys that don't fit my criteria!!!
Everyone says us single ladies have the pick of the crop but I must be doing something wrong here 
Ideally I'm looking for a regular FB/fwb, and when I say regular I mean a few times a week. I'm not fussed if they are meeting numerous others at the same time, I'm just looking for sex!
Advice please, or maybe push me in the direction of the single guys club which I have so obviously missed!  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Lol I have a personal search set up already.
Don't get me wrong, I have had meets & still chat to guys every day but it's that 'click' when you just know you're going to have a good time together! |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"Lol I have a personal search set up already.
Don't get me wrong, I have had meets & still chat to guys every day but it's that 'click' when you just know you're going to have a good time together!"
I know. I only really see the people I have known for many years now. I don't see them often but I know I will get what I like from them.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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if you're looking for nothing much then you will have your pick of the crop, just NSA with hot guys with big dicks.
but yeah if you're after something more than that then you will struggle and it's not just you.
no offence, nothing wrong with fucking hot guys with big cocks, i used to love doing this myself. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Lol I have a personal search set up already.
Don't get me wrong, I have had meets & still chat to guys every day but it's that 'click' when you just know you're going to have a good time together!
I know. I only really see the people I have known for many years now. I don't see them often but I know I will get what I like from them.
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I think I'll be going that way too!  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"if you're looking for nothing much then you will have your pick of the crop, just NSA with hot guys with big dicks.
but yeah if you're after something more than that then you will struggle and it's not just you.
no offence, nothing wrong with fucking hot guys with big cocks, i used to love doing this myself."
I don't know how to phrase it but you know that feeling when you see a face pic, you chat with the guy & you just go 'hell yes, I can get hot & dirty with you!'
That's what I look for.
Recently out of a long standing vanilla relationship so I guess it's just getting it all out of my system.
I like big guys, not muscly but broad shouldered big guys to throw me around the bed a little 
Ooh I've come over all a quiver  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"if you're looking for nothing much then you will have your pick of the crop, just NSA with hot guys with big dicks.
but yeah if you're after something more than that then you will struggle and it's not just you.
no offence, nothing wrong with fucking hot guys with big cocks, i used to love doing this myself.
I don't know how to phrase it but you know that feeling when you see a face pic, you chat with the guy & you just go 'hell yes, I can get hot & dirty with you!'
That's what I look for.
Recently out of a long standing vanilla relationship so I guess it's just getting it all out of my system.
I like big guys, not muscly but broad shouldered big guys to throw me around the bed a little
Ooh I've come over all a quiver "
you'll find that on here. 
i know what you mean yeah. i want that myself and i'm not too fussy on looks either, just a lot of guys i don't fancy them or they say something to put me off them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So I'm a single girl, looking for a single guy!
Sounds easy...... It's not
I think my profile is quite direct, I say what I'm looking for etc & most specifically what I'm not looking for but somehow the majority of messages I get are from guys that don't fit my criteria!!!
Everyone says us single ladies have the pick of the crop but I must be doing something wrong here
Ideally I'm looking for a regular FB/fwb, and when I say regular I mean a few times a week. I'm not fussed if they are meeting numerous others at the same time, I'm just looking for sex!
Advice please, or maybe push me in the direction of the single guys club which I have so obviously missed! "
I have the same issue. I can't find someone who just fits the bill and the ones that do are married and it goes against my morals  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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you'll find that on here.
i know what you mean yeah. i want that myself and i'm not too fussy on looks either, just a lot of guys i don't fancy them or they say something to put me off them."
Yes this!
Completely agree |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I get what i want but i dont just want one person a few times a week might be a bit much for some singles they may as well be in a relationship"
Happy for fuck & go but yes I see your point!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"No men have posted I see!
No-one offering their single man status for us to marvel at lol
Waves  "
Hahahaha!
Thought you might pop up somewhere Rick
Mwah x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So I'm a single girl, looking for a single guy!
Sounds easy...... It's not
I think my profile is quite direct, I say what I'm looking for etc & most specifically what I'm not looking for but somehow the majority of messages I get are from guys that don't fit my criteria!!!
Everyone says us single ladies have the pick of the crop but I must be doing something wrong here
Ideally I'm looking for a regular FB/fwb, and when I say regular I mean a few times a week. I'm not fussed if they are meeting numerous others at the same time, I'm just looking for sex!
Advice please, or maybe push me in the direction of the single guys club which I have so obviously missed! "
Know exactly what you mean, I've just decided not to meet anyone new and to just stuck with those few I have already met and hopefully one of those will become more regular, although sometimes I do think that my sex drive is higher than those I am meeting! !! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"So I'm a single girl, looking for a single guy!
Sounds easy...... It's not
I think my profile is quite direct, I say what I'm looking for etc & most specifically what I'm not looking for but somehow the majority of messages I get are from guys that don't fit my criteria!!!
Everyone says us single ladies have the pick of the crop but I must be doing something wrong here
Ideally I'm looking for a regular FB/fwb, and when I say regular I mean a few times a week. I'm not fussed if they are meeting numerous others at the same time, I'm just looking for sex!
Advice please, or maybe push me in the direction of the single guys club which I have so obviously missed!
Know exactly what you mean, I've just decided not to meet anyone new and to just stuck with those few I have already met and hopefully one of those will become more regular, although sometimes I do think that my sex drive is higher than those I am meeting! !!"
I'm glad I'm not alone!
I need a dial a guy lol
Ready whenever I'm in the mood |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i had to fuck a lot of random guys to get the many regulars that i wanted. it did work out well for me doing that, but it was over 100 guys to find about 20 i wanted to see more than once. had a few shit shags in there as well, and some creeps. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"The 'ease' depends on what exactly it is you want - the more specific you are, the likelier you are to struggle.
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But my specifics are what turns me on, we all have standards.
I don't want to meet just for sex, I like social's on occasion & being able to build a fun chemistry with a guy x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The 'ease' depends on what exactly it is you want - the more specific you are, the likelier you are to struggle.
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But surely those 'specifics' are just ones likes ... You wouldn't want to meet someone who didn't meet that criteria  Can't win really |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So I'm a single girl, looking for a single guy!
Sounds easy...... It's not
I think my profile is quite direct, I say what I'm looking for etc & most specifically what I'm not looking for but somehow the majority of messages I get are from guys that don't fit my criteria!!!
Everyone says us single ladies have the pick of the crop but I must be doing something wrong here
Ideally I'm looking for a regular FB/fwb, and when I say regular I mean a few times a week. I'm not fussed if they are meeting numerous others at the same time, I'm just looking for sex!
Advice please, or maybe push me in the direction of the single guys club which I have so obviously missed! "
Well I'll do this totally impartial ad if you where a single guy.
Effort in = effort out.
Your profile is terrible pretty much all of thr "pick of the crop" would walk on by and never bother
1 picture, which seems to be two women...are we looking st your crotch or are you the back of the head?
Peofile is just all negative, list of don'ts which is largley pointless
Tells nothing about you at all as a person and should be deleted and replaced with a more positive text thats actually informative and aimed at the people you want to meet not the people you don't want to meet.
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Are you wanting to have your cake and eat it?
Someone that would pretty much be matched with you as an ltr partner but without the full commitment. They match us on pretty much every basis - personality, physical stats, perfect sexual chemistry and satisfying. Finding someone who matches us for such a relationship can be a needle in a haystack search event.
The greater your ability to diverge from that narrow set of criteria, the easier it should be, based on probabilities.
Cake and eat it? Don't just stick to wedding cake? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The 'ease' depends on what exactly it is you want - the more specific you are, the likelier you are to struggle.
But my specifics are what turns me on, we all have standards.
I don't want to meet just for sex, I like social's on occasion & being able to build a fun chemistry with a guy x"
This is true, the specifics are what turns you on. I think the point was more that those specifics are what makes it more difficult. That doesn't mean you should not have specific requirements, it just means those requirements will make it more difficult for you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This thread has evolved very differently to one had it been started by a single guy (as per the norm)
You haven't specifically asked for profile feedback so site rules say that we can't comment on it but I'd probably skip right past it (which I'm sure is no great loss to you as I'm not what you're looking for anyway ) |
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I've been looking for a lady friend with benefits for about a year and I don't think anyone in all that time has shown the slightest bit of interest. Not even mentioned it. It doesn't matter but I'd expect sorting the wheat from the chaff is more satisfying than not. |
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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago
not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds) |
Folk often think volume of messages=it's easy for whoever...
Often the volume of messages just muddy the waters.
Search for the guy yourself , be proactive  use your filters that way you control who can contact you |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Funny how last night the responses were positive & I wasn't the only one feeling like this, then this morning a complete flip
You can never get a perfect profile, this is my second time on here & my first profile was all Do's & that didn't work either!
Happy to send pics privately
But after all that last night, I ended up chatting to a lovely bloke til the wee hours so something on my profile is obviously good!
As for cake, I'm on a diet so I'll pass!!
Have a great day you lovely lot!! |
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"Funny how last night the responses were positive & I wasn't the only one feeling like this, then this morning a complete flip
You can never get a perfect profile, this is my second time on here & my first profile was all Do's & that didn't work either!
Happy to send pics privately
But after all that last night, I ended up chatting to a lovely bloke til the wee hours so something on my profile is obviously good!
As for cake, I'm on a diet so I'll pass!!
Have a great day you lovely lot!!"
No cake or biccies for you then when you come to another coffee morning |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Basically looking at your profile is like reading a shopping list...about half way down most men wander off to the DVD isle looking for something they want.
You may have to compromise on what you want! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So I'm a single girl, looking for a single guy!
Sounds easy...... It's not
I think my profile is quite direct, I say what I'm looking for etc & most specifically what I'm not looking for but somehow the majority of messages I get are from guys that don't fit my criteria!!!
Everyone says us single ladies have the pick of the crop but I must be doing something wrong here
Ideally I'm looking for a regular FB/fwb, and when I say regular I mean a few times a week. I'm not fussed if they are meeting numerous others at the same time, I'm just looking for sex!
Advice please, or maybe push me in the direction of the single guys club which I have so obviously missed!
I have the same issue. I can't find someone who just fits the bill and the ones that do are married and it goes against my morals "
As a married man I respect that view. I'm not trying to justify me being on here one not other than to say just as you have your reasons to be here so do I and despite leaving it previously - I come back! Believe it or not friendship is important too. I hope you ladies remain fussy and don't accept second best as you'll look back and regret it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So I'm a single girl, looking for a single guy!
Sounds easy...... It's not
I think my profile is quite direct, I say what I'm looking for etc & most specifically what I'm not looking for but somehow the majority of messages I get are from guys that don't fit my criteria!!!
Everyone says us single ladies have the pick of the crop but I must be doing something wrong here
Ideally I'm looking for a regular FB/fwb, and when I say regular I mean a few times a week. I'm not fussed if they are meeting numerous others at the same time, I'm just looking for sex!
Advice please, or maybe push me in the direction of the single guys club which I have so obviously missed!
Know exactly what you mean, I've just decided not to meet anyone new and to just stuck with those few I have already met and hopefully one of those will become more regular, although sometimes I do think that my sex drive is higher than those I am meeting! !!
I'm glad I'm not alone!
I need a dial a guy lol
Ready whenever I'm in the mood "
Now that would be good |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm with you on this one op.. I'm through same picky to.. but the "oo yes your hot " the first time you see a pic it what gets me going and what I'm after.. just hoping with a bit of time they may pop up xx |
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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago
not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds) |
"So I'm a single girl, looking for a single guy!
Sounds easy...... It's not
I think my profile is quite direct, I say what I'm looking for etc & most specifically what I'm not looking for but somehow the majority of messages I get are from guys that don't fit my criteria!!!
Everyone says us single ladies have the pick of the crop but I must be doing something wrong here
Ideally I'm looking for a regular FB/fwb, and when I say regular I mean a few times a week. I'm not fussed if they are meeting numerous others at the same time, I'm just looking for sex!
Advice please, or maybe push me in the direction of the single guys club which I have so obviously missed! "
I've said it before the more niche your requirements the longer you'll have to search.
Reading your op... You have the pick of the crop who message you, if none are suitable you've no more choice than the guy with an empty mailbox,
Fabio often says it, the popular guys are already out there having fun, you'll need to sell yourself offer something different or more enticing than what they've already got.
Good luck |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I agree, it is hard for a single female to find what she wants. I read a lot of posts from single guys saying that they can't get a meet and that their mailbox is always empty. My mail box is not always empty, but at times it is full of stuff I really don't want to read -everything from the desperate to the downright depraved and all stops in between! I would like to find a lt fwb, I have had them before, I enjoy that sort of relationship. Most have been more than just sex, only one was just about it. I prefer the former where we can at least go out for a drink before we go somewhere, which is why I prefer unmarried/attached guys. Marrieds can't do the flirty conversation over a drink and then back to mine in case they get spotted.
I will meet couples, but as I am not really bi, (tried it, it's ok but prefer men) it's not ideal.
Yes, I am picky, but there is nothing wrong with that, I don't want to settle for just anyone. I have a couple of guys that I am meeting, but they are attached and therefore it's just sex...good sex granted, or else I wouldn't meet up with them. I have a high sex drive and really need someone who can keep up with me, someone who is single, who can 'pop round' when I need him to.
I get tired of wasting time and effort chatting for ages to guys who have no real intention of meeting. They like the sexy banter and the chase but not actually do anything. I have no objection to guys who, after a social decide that I am not for them, it happens (both ways), but I hate the stringing along.
As I said, I have found them before and I will find one again, it just takes time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I agree, it is hard for a single female to find what she wants. I read a lot of posts from single guys saying that they can't get a meet and that their mailbox is always empty. My mail box is not always empty, but at times it is full of stuff I really don't want to read -everything from the desperate to the downright depraved and all stops in between! I would like to find a lt fwb, I have had them before, I enjoy that sort of relationship. Most have been more than just sex, only one was just about it. I prefer the former where we can at least go out for a drink before we go somewhere, which is why I prefer unmarried/attached guys. Marrieds can't do the flirty conversation over a drink and then back to mine in case they get spotted.
I will meet couples, but as I am not really bi, (tried it, it's ok but prefer men) it's not ideal.
Yes, I am picky, but there is nothing wrong with that, I don't want to settle for just anyone. I have a couple of guys that I am meeting, but they are attached and therefore it's just sex...good sex granted, or else I wouldn't meet up with them. I have a high sex drive and really need someone who can keep up with me, someone who is single, who can 'pop round' when I need him to.
I get tired of wasting time and effort chatting for ages to guys who have no real intention of meeting. They like the sexy banter and the chase but not actually do anything. I have no objection to guys who, after a social decide that I am not for them, it happens (both ways), but I hate the stringing along.
As I said, I have found them before and I will find one again, it just takes time. "
It seems a common problem that people arrange to meet them don't turn up. I have to say it's never happened to me but I would NEVER do that - it's so disrespectful. I think that if you know that someone will have made the effort to get ready and turn up the least you can do is so the same even if you decide not to take it further afterwards. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So I'm a single girl, looking for a single guy!
Sounds easy...... It's not
I think my profile is quite direct, I say what I'm looking for etc & most specifically what I'm not looking for but somehow the majority of messages I get are from guys that don't fit my criteria!!!
Everyone says us single ladies have the pick of the crop but I must be doing something wrong here
Ideally I'm looking for a regular FB/fwb, and when I say regular I mean a few times a week. I'm not fussed if they are meeting numerous others at the same time, I'm just looking for sex!
Advice please, or maybe push me in the direction of the single guys club which I have so obviously missed! "
If I could be critical please?.....You have in my opinion come across as quite negative. Most of what you are saying is laying down the law about what you don't want rather than selling yourself as a nice fun person to be with. It's set out rather like a 'To Do List' which I think detracts from your softer side.
Your photo could be more clear as to which one is you, I wasn't sure.
Hope that is helpful, it's not meant to be nasty, just my opinion according to how in saw it.
Hope you find who you're looking for Xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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All opinions read, I did ask for advice so I can't complain when negative comments are made!
Photo wise, you can't win them all.
I had no photos at one point & get berated for that.
I would never show someone else's face so I guess that can be worked out.
I'll put a different non face, non specific pic up in a minute lol!
Thanks to all!
Still glad I'm not the only one wanting certain things x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just remember that while people always say that its hard for single guys.
The ones you're looking for LTFWB have usualy found a few people looking for that too.
So the kind of single men you're after can be as picky as they like as they have 1 or 2 FWB they can meet while they look for new people.
So they're not desperate they dan take thier time and just like single men have to on here you need to sell yourself |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm always suprised when women on here say they can't find meets
I get hundreds of mail a week, I assume all women on here do
How fussy do you have to be to not be able to find a single person you like out of all those messages 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm always suprised when women on here say they can't find meets
I get hundreds of mail a week, I assume all women on here do
How fussy do you have to be to not be able to find a single person you like out of all those messages
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That is what I thought of as well |
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"Yes, but, OP, you are looking for something quite specific.
Whereas many single guys are just looming for a pulse  
Love it! "
Hang on! That's not very fair. They don't always need a pulse so long as they are still warm. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm always suprised when women on here say they can't find meets
I get hundreds of mail a week, I assume all women on here do
How fussy do you have to be to not be able to find a single person you like out of all those messages
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i'm very fussy now.
not many are cuckolds who message me and that's what i'm concentrating on finding. and half the ones who do message me are either pretending they're into cuckolding or i just don't find them attractive.
if i wanted nothing muych then i'd be sorted all day every day and used to be. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm always suprised when women on here say they can't find meets
I get hundreds of mail a week, I assume all women on here do
How fussy do you have to be to not be able to find a single person you like out of all those messages
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When I have a profile I get maybe 20 new mails a day. Usually only 1 or 2 I'd want to chat to. Their attitude usually puts me off within a couple of mails.
When I go looking, I rarely find men in my area that I'd want to mail.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I feel your pain imagine the confidence loss when your everything a girl is asking for your into the same things and your local and she says no your not what I am looking for. This happens to me all the time I just have to pick myself up and move on. I think the sort of girls I want are not the age I want if that makes sense |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I kind of have a regular thing going on. But it's not enough, so I rejoined here.
Sometimes it's just for a one off, but rarely. I'd rather have a connection.
But I'm learning I'm very fussy and easily bored, so having a range of options keeps me entertained and also takes the pressure of finding that perfect one. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'm always suprised when women on here say they can't find meets
I get hundreds of mail a week, I assume all women on here do
How fussy do you have to be to not be able to find a single person you like out of all those messages
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Oh I get messages, plenty thanks.
They're mostly from people who I'm not looking for. Or we chat for a bit & I find there's no spark.
I could fuck a different person everyday if I do chose, but I'm not that kinda girl
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For balance, there are hundreds of female profiles that put me off and I'd either never message or respond to a message from.
It does appear that many men are more forgiving than females.
A nice rack or a shapely bum is enough for some but personally, it becomes so much less attractive an option when it is coupled with a list of demands (sorry, 'preferences'), is littered with inequalities, or is simply a few pics of a shoe collection and a couple of badly written lines.
Simply because of the ratio situation, many women don't have to try at this.
Those that do, those with realistic expectation and criteria and those that give as much as they take are so much more of an attractive option. To me at least. |
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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
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"For balance, there are hundreds of female profiles that put me off and I'd either never message or respond to a message from.
It does appear that many men are more forgiving than females.
A nice rack or a shapely bum is enough for some but personally, it becomes so much less attractive an option when it is coupled with a list of demands (sorry, 'preferences'), is littered with inequalities, or is simply a few pics of a shoe collection and a couple of badly written lines.
Simply because of the ratio situation, many women don't have to try at this.
Those that do, those with realistic expectation and criteria and those that give as much as they take are so much more of an attractive option. To me at least."
I meet both men and women. The above applies to both types of profile as far as I'm concerned. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"For balance, there are hundreds of female profiles that put me off and I'd either never message or respond to a message from.
It does appear that many men are more forgiving than females.
A nice rack or a shapely bum is enough for some but personally, it becomes so much less attractive an option when it is coupled with a list of demands (sorry, 'preferences'), is littered with inequalities, or is simply a few pics of a shoe collection and a couple of badly written lines.
Simply because of the ratio situation, many women don't have to try at this.
Those that do, those with realistic expectation and criteria and those that give as much as they take are so much more of an attractive option. To me at least."
This is a fair point.
That said, I make no apology for my preferences, which I don't think are set out as demands. I have very few deal breakers and I'm clear about those.
If a guy isn't interested in me because he doesn't like my profile then that's fair enough. We would probably not be a good match. Attraction needs to be mutual.
Attracting more men would be pointless if we wouldn't be well matched.
Some people say I'm not realistic in my preferences and that I don't "deserve" the men I want to meet. I prefer men with nicer bodies than I have (who doesn't?!) and considering it only from an aesthetic perspective, I'm being unrealistic. Fortunately there's more to me than my body shape and weight and some guys appreciate that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm always suprised when women on here say they can't find meets
I get hundreds of mail a week, I assume all women on here do
How fussy do you have to be to not be able to find a single person you like out of all those messages
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I did wonder that as well if I'm honest, surely someone must fit the bill? |
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"For balance, there are hundreds of female profiles that put me off and I'd either never message or respond to a message from.
It does appear that many men are more forgiving than females.
A nice rack or a shapely bum is enough for some but personally, it becomes so much less attractive an option when it is coupled with a list of demands (sorry, 'preferences'), is littered with inequalities, or is simply a few pics of a shoe collection and a couple of badly written lines.
Simply because of the ratio situation, many women don't have to try at this.
Those that do, those with realistic expectation and criteria and those that give as much as they take are so much more of an attractive option. To me at least."
thats me i think and i dont struggle im cettainly not an amozonian princess but i meet lovely guys who are what i do for which is fun, great company, respectful and compatable with |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"For balance, there are hundreds of female profiles that put me off and I'd either never message or respond to a message from.
It does appear that many men are more forgiving than females.
A nice rack or a shapely bum is enough for some but personally, it becomes so much less attractive an option when it is coupled with a list of demands (sorry, 'preferences'), is littered with inequalities, or is simply a few pics of a shoe collection and a couple of badly written lines.
Simply because of the ratio situation, many women don't have to try at this.
Those that do, those with realistic expectation and criteria and those that give as much as they take are so much more of an attractive option. To me at least.
This is a fair point.
That said, I make no apology for my preferences, which I don't think are set out as demands. I have very few deal breakers and I'm clear about those.
If a guy isn't interested in me because he doesn't like my profile then that's fair enough. We would probably not be a good match. Attraction needs to be mutual.
Attracting more men would be pointless if we wouldn't be well matched.
Some people say I'm not realistic in my preferences and that I don't "deserve" the men I want to meet. I prefer men with nicer bodies than I have (who doesn't?!) and considering it only from an aesthetic perspective, I'm being unrealistic. Fortunately there's more to me than my body shape and weight and some guys appreciate that."
I am not saying that people shouldn't meet those they find attractive.
I've always found it distasteful that others seek to limit the supposed choices of those they don't find attractive.
I've always found it sad that some people feel they aren't good enough to meet those they find 'drop dead gorgeous' and that they should settle for what they can get.
Speaking from experience though, I have looked at many a profile and found the photos attractive but the written words to be instantly off putting.
Likewise I have seen many lacking in content that speaks to me, yet that person seems very popular with those they seek.
A lot of these, but not all, have been single female profiles.
I choose not to message them but totally understand why some guys might wish to, regardless of profile content.
It's none of my business how others run their profile or how they wish to be seen, in initially responding, I just wanted to offer a little balance to the way the thread had developed. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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We all have the same issues with this. I have a theory that essentially guys/women would like regular but it's like a sweet shop on here You may find a dating site better and no I don't mean for dating lets be honest 70% here are on there 20% on dating sites want a fb giving you far better chances on there than in this place |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm always suprised when women on here say they can't find meets
I get hundreds of mail a week, I assume all women on here do
How fussy do you have to be to not be able to find a single person you like out of all those messages
I did wonder that as well if I'm honest, surely someone must fit the bill? "
I won't fuck anything I think people think if you don't struggle to find meets its because you have no standards
I get the stupid mail
I get messages from guys I don't fancy
I get mail from guys I do fancy but their personality puts me off
I get all kinds of messages
But I also get mail from guys I do fancy and I do get on with
I just find it hard to believe that with all the messages women get on here there's not a single person they are interested in
Or maybe I just do have no standards |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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I also think it depends on where about in the country you are.
Aberdeen is a bit insular and yes I struggle to find people I want to meet also.
I need a balanced package of what I find attractive and whether they can hold a conversation (the latter is surprisingly difficult)
Also for people who say they get hundreds of messages a day? Well I don't. I might get say 10 a day and when you only have a one line profile and a cock to go by, and if all they say is Hi.....it is all very uninspiring. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Your profile is nicely written. Basic and straight to the point which I like.
You are definitely someone I would message but I'm probably 70 miles away and 10 days short of turning 40 xx |
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By *xelciscoMan
over a year ago
Reading/bracknell |
"For balance, there are hundreds of female profiles that put me off and I'd either never message or respond to a message from.
It does appear that many men are more forgiving than females.
A nice rack or a shapely bum is enough for some but personally, it becomes so much less attractive an option when it is coupled with a list of demands (sorry, 'preferences'), is littered with inequalities, or is simply a few pics of a shoe collection and a couple of badly written lines.
Simply because of the ratio situation, many women don't have to try at this.
Those that do, those with realistic expectation and criteria and those that give as much as they take are so much more of an attractive option. To me at least."
I agree too. I have struggled to get a meet (2 no shows in 6mo.. ) and still there are quite a few profiles out there that put me off. Yet, I am forgiving as you say too. It is very easy to dismiss or label someone through a mail.. just look at the work environment for examples. It is also about what you put in and give, I think. there is a being on the other side in the end. We all need a connection of some sort in the end. - Peace! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Thanks again for all the input!
I will look at changing some of the text but from this thread, I got a msg from a lovely guy that fits all my wants & we're meeting this weekend to see if we click face to face!
Plus I've sent a msg out to see what happens.
All is not lost in the single girls club |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Thanks again for all the input!
I will look at changing some of the text but from this thread, I got a msg from a lovely guy that fits all my wants & we're meeting this weekend to see if we click face to face!
Plus I've sent a msg out to see what happens.
All is not lost in the single girls club "
good. hope it continues like this for you. |
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