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over a year ago
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I've been doing some late night pondering, due to the fact I can't get to sleep.
I've been on fab a couple of times, each time meeting some really great people- often just socials and not play.
I always respect boundaries and relationships, and the fact people have their private lives.
There's been a few people I wish I had met elsewhere though.
Meeting people through fab always seems to cheapen friendships a little, or at least make them more disposable in my eyes. For example, because we met just for sex-we therefore can't talk about anything else as that's not cno strings'
I don't want this to be construed as another dating vs. Fab thread.
But I've often thought to myself, 'bugger, I wish I had met you somewhere else'
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"I've been doing some late night pondering, due to the fact I can't get to sleep.
I've been on fab a couple of times, each time meeting some really great people- often just socials and not play.
I always respect boundaries and relationships, and the fact people have their private lives.
There's been a few people I wish I had met elsewhere though.
Meeting people through fab always seems to cheapen friendships a little, or at least make them more disposable in my eyes. For example, because we met just for sex-we therefore can't talk about anything else as that's not cno strings'
I don't want this to be construed as another dating vs. Fab thread.
But I've often thought to myself, 'bugger, I wish I had met you somewhere else'
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nothing wrong with that , lots of couples have got together on here xx |
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"But I've often thought to myself, 'bugger, I wish I had met you somewhere else'"
Have you ever told someone as much?
I know what you mean about respecting other people's motivations for being here, but I don't see the harm in being honest with someone you like. |
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"But I've often thought to myself, 'bugger, I wish I had met you somewhere else'
Have you ever told someone as much?
I know what you mean about respecting other people's motivations for being here, but I don't see the harm in being honest with someone you like."
I'm always mindful of sounding like bunny boiler material!
Some people I've maintained a good friendship with, as each of us have decided to move on.
Telling someone that you like them seems to instantly change the dynamics of any 'arrangement' in place...
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"I'm always mindful of sounding like bunny boiler material!
Some people I've maintained a good friendship with, as each of us have decided to move on.
Telling someone that you like them seems to instantly change the dynamics of any 'arrangement' in place... "
Of course, it's not a trivial concern. I'd hope, in your case, that your honesty and how clearly you respect the other person's choices would make the 'bunny-boiler' worry redundant. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"But I've often thought to myself, 'bugger, I wish I had met you somewhere else'
Have you ever told someone as much?
I know what you mean about respecting other people's motivations for being here, but I don't see the harm in being honest with someone you like.
I'm always mindful of sounding like bunny boiler material!
Some people I've maintained a good friendship with, as each of us have decided to move on.
Telling someone that you like them seems to instantly change the dynamics of any 'arrangement' in place...
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I have people i meet have aex with and we get on then i have people i have sex with who becone good friends and talk about stuff frienda talk about and its and its nice asking advice from the opposite se . i just happen to have sex witb them as well. If your talking about running of into the aun set and lice happily ever after i dont think id think of anybody in that way |
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I am looking to date and on loads of dating sites. But if I met someone here who wanted to date then I would happily do that. But I wouldn't be swinging on here with them. |
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over a year ago
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I don't think that there is necessarily a stigma associated, I've met people on here that I count as good and true friends. It's just about letting things happen naturally |
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I'm not interested in just meeting for sex and then going.
I like to be able to actually have a conversation with someone over a drink or meal as well as have sex with them.
Some may not want that and that's fine, I just wouldn't meet them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm not interested in just meeting for sex and then going.
I like to be able to actually have a conversation with someone over a drink or meal as well as have sex with them.
Some may not want that and that's fine, I just wouldn't meet them."
The best meets that I've had are the ones where I feel connected to my partner, not emotionally but I know them and I enjoy their company, where I feel like I'm making a friend rather than just performing a bodily function |
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Real friendships start where ever they start, I don't think it matters where you met sometimes there is a long lasting connection sometimes not.
I believe that you might start out just having sex but maybe later on become friends just out of chance.
Life has no rules really only the ones you make.
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By (user no longer on site)
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we have made some friends on here - quite a few when i mentally went through who we chat and message quite regularly and i have to say most of the conversations are actually non-fab related - we have always said about the people we meet if they cant/wont chat the small stuff then nothing else will happen |
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By (user no longer on site)
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i don't think i would have met certain guys if they weren't just using me for sex.
sad to say the only freinds i now have on here are the ones i have not fucked and have no intention of doing so. everyone else only wants sex and not much else and is crap at NSA as well, like doing it in a way that doesn't leave me feeling used. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've been doing some late night pondering, due to the fact I can't get to sleep.
I've been on fab a couple of times, each time meeting some really great people- often just socials and not play.
I always respect boundaries and relationships, and the fact people have their private lives.
There's been a few people I wish I had met elsewhere though.
Meeting people through fab always seems to cheapen friendships a little, or at least make them more disposable in my eyes. For example, because we met just for sex-we therefore can't talk about anything else as that's not cno strings'
I don't want this to be construed as another dating vs. Fab thread.
But I've often thought to myself, 'bugger, I wish I had met you somewhere else'
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Couldn't disagree more. The socials I have had have been like meeting your friends for a drink or lunch and had the same conversation as if I had met someone out the blue. Sex never actually came into the conversation. Good conversation and banter....whether you click or not is a different story x |
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Actually meeting someone would be a start. Had so many false starts its untrue!!
I would probably feel a little awkward talking about the sex straight away, unless there was an instant lust/attraction. I think I'd prefer to just chat, lots of eye contact and let nature take her course |
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