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By *ax1971 OP Man
over a year ago
St helens |
I recently had a social and I never tried to make a move just had a good funny chat. So should I of tried to kiss her or is a social just for chat.
P.s she said she wished I had kissed her and more.
So confused. ..lol. ..
Thanks love max. X x |
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By *lla_maiWoman
over a year ago
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I think it depends on the person. For me a social is just that a social, a chat, a drink, a meal, or whatever is decided. However some may want things to progress further if all is going well |
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By *ax1971 OP Man
over a year ago
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Thank you I just guess we're all different I try to be a gent but she thought I didn't like her because I didn't try anything .but also hate the thought that I was being pushy and a slap in the face. ..X x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For me
A social is the foundation
If the social goes well
End it with a meaningful kiss
Eye contact when you say good night
Everything else should fall into place |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thank you I just guess we're all different I try to be a gent but she thought I didn't like her because I didn't try anything .but also hate the thought that I was being pushy and a slap in the face. ..X x"
It might have helped if you had discussed it with her? Communication is all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If in doubt .. opt for caution is my advice - unless you're feeling brave enough to ask directly. If you like each other you can always meet again and move things on 
I've had socials that have just been a nice drink, natter and nothing else and others that started with a drink and nibble to eat and ended with 45 minutes of snogging like hormonal teenagers.
There's no right or wrong answer I think. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For us it's usually a drink/coffee/lunch and no play usually. A cheeky stocking flash at the end on occasion. There's no hard and fast rules really. Sometimes less is more though and sounds like she's happy to meet again so it was a success wasn't it?
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Have had a very good social with a couple of ladies on here. We chatted for a couple of hours and went our separate ways. It's hard to gauge how these things will go but if you go with only a coffee or drink in mind , you won't be dissapointed. If anything else evolves just go with the flow. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"social what's a social 
Precisely, this place gets more like a bloody dating site everyday. If you want a girlfriend there are sites that cater for that. "
this place has always had socials...
it still doesn't mean that it is becoming a dating site!! its just a lot of people, and women in particular, prefer to give someone the once over before we jump into bed with them...and if we don't like the look of them then we can walk away... |
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By *lla_maiWoman
over a year ago
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"social what's a social
Precisely, this place gets more like a bloody dating site everyday. If you want a girlfriend there are sites that cater for that.
this place has always had socials...
it still doesn't mean that it is becoming a dating site!! its just a lot of people, and women in particular, prefer to give someone the once over before we jump into bed with them...and if we don't like the look of them then we can walk away..."
 help to reduce any possible awkwardness and dont feel pressurised |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thank you all just as confused. ..lol..guess it's best to just ask.get over my shyness. Thanks again x x "
Why confused? If you had asked her, she would have said yes.
So, next time, ask. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Thank you I just guess we're all different I try to be a gent but she thought I didn't like her because I didn't try anything .but also hate the thought that I was being pushy and a slap in the face. ..X x"
In my humble opinion, Always stay with what you feel is right, don't change who you are.
Eye contact, watch body language, not forgetting the kiss good bye doesn't have to be on the lips, you could always ask for another 
If you feel it was a good social let them know as soon as you can.
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
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A coffee social works for me. If I like him and I think he might like me back (I'm rubbish at reading signals ) at the end I'll ask him if it's ok to kiss him. If I'm not keen I'll get the hell outta there!!!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"social what's a social
Precisely, this place gets more like a bloody dating site everyday. If you want a girlfriend there are sites that cater for that.
this place has always had socials...
it still doesn't mean that it is becoming a dating site!! its just a lot of people, and women in particular, prefer to give someone the once over before we jump into bed with them...and if we don't like the look of them then we can walk away..."
No money to be made from socials. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"social what's a social
Precisely, this place gets more like a bloody dating site everyday. If you want a girlfriend there are sites that cater for that.
this place has always had socials...
it still doesn't mean that it is becoming a dating site!! its just a lot of people, and women in particular, prefer to give someone the once over before we jump into bed with them...and if we don't like the look of them then we can walk away...
No money to be made from socials."
You charge for a social? |
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"Thank you I just guess we're all different I try to be a gent but she thought I didn't like her because I didn't try anything .but also hate the thought that I was being pushy and a slap in the face. ..X x"
It's very difficult - I go on socials to make sure we both fancy each other, but sometimes I then go on to meet someone and the kissing is really not to my taste and I wish I'd managed to kiss on the social!! But it rarely feels right to me to do so - snogging in a pub carpark feels too cheap to me!!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"social what's a social
Precisely, this place gets more like a bloody dating site everyday. If you want a girlfriend there are sites that cater for that.
this place has always had socials...
it still doesn't mean that it is becoming a dating site!! its just a lot of people, and women in particular, prefer to give someone the once over before we jump into bed with them...and if we don't like the look of them then we can walk away...
No money to be made from socials.
You charge for a social? "
How did you come to that conclusion? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There'll be a thread somewhere,by a woman,saying a man tried it on at a social and she had to block him. There will be cries of pervert! Dirty bastard! And offers of a hug and a nice social where they will be the perfect gent |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There'll be a thread somewhere,by a woman,saying a man tried it on at a social and she had to block him. There will be cries of pervert! Dirty bastard! And offers of a hug and a nice social where they will be the perfect gent "
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If you meet someone at a social and the "chemistry" is there, then you should swap numbers and arrange another more intimate social where you can get to know each other and maybe show off your tactile side.
Failing that, take her outside and bugger her over the bins  |
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We all have our own way of doing things
Some like to take there time
So it feels right
Some like wham bam thank you mam
Would be a sad world if we were all the same cloth
For us its a couple of socials first
Then action and down later |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Having had a few socials lately, a polite kiss on the cheek at the end is how I end it, you usually know before then if there's a connection though, but always play it safe, it's a social after all, never expect anything more. |
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When meeting randoms off the internet I prefer to meet in a public place for a social meet to establish that we're both/all who we say we are and that we're happy to take things further.
Imho a social meet in a coffee shop is not the place to get handsy or full on snogging. So I prefer guys who wait till we're in a private space before getting frisky. Saying it would have been nice is not the same as saying "oh yeah, pounce on me in a cafe"... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"When meeting randoms off the internet I prefer to meet in a public place for a social meet to establish that we're both/all who we say we are and that we're happy to take things further.
Imho a social meet in a coffee shop is not the place to get handsy or full on snogging. So I prefer guys who wait till we're in a private space before getting frisky. Saying it would have been nice is not the same as saying "oh yeah, pounce on me in a cafe"... "
Unless you're in Playa de Las Americas |
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