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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Me and my partner have been swinging as a couple for a few months. We have agreed that either one of us can swing alone and I don't have a problem with him doing so if thats what he wants to do (so long as it doesnt impede on our time together and he follows the rules!) but I have no interest in swinging solo myself, my
pleasure comes out of swinging with him by my side so to speak, 1:1 is something I only want with him, its isn't down to not trusting myself or him not trusting me, its just the way I'm wired I guess, I get so much from 1:1 with him I don't wanna taint it by going off having it with random blokes...does that make sense? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sounds like when we first started meeting separately.
Think I've done 3 or 4 solo meets without Mrsdpt. she likes the whole whatever you want to call it scenario??
She has done one meet with a couple on her own now though. But totally understand where you're coming from with your OP.
After seeing a few threads it seems to becoming more common, but as I've said on other threads we don't actively pursue it on fab, since it's met with a lot of faces going  if a couple message just asking about the guy meeting. |
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By *ws101Man
over a year ago
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How would it make you feel knowing he was out with another person? In my eyes this is odd ground. My oppinion (which means nothing to anyone) as a coupple either swing together as a coupple or dont swing at all. Especially if only 1 of the party wants to go it alone.
Just sayin tho. That would scare me in a relationship  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How would it make you feel knowing he was out with another person? In my eyes this is odd ground. My oppinion (which means nothing to anyone) as a coupple either swing together as a coupple or dont swing at all. Especially if only 1 of the party wants to go it alone.
Just sayin tho. That would scare me in a relationship "
A couple playing seperatly with full consent are swinging together....its just another scenario that works for their relationship.
It's not all about the physicals there's a lot of it that plays with the mind too. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks guys, as a couple swinging together I get this huge satisfaction knowing he still wants to get in there (or just snuggle up) after seeing or listening to me with someone else, its that what drives me and turns me on not the act in itself so for me to go out and do it without him would be pretty mind numbing! |
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By *ilacWoman
over a year ago
Cheshire |
"Me and my partner have been swinging as a couple for a few months. We have agreed that either one of us can swing alone and I don't have a problem with him doing so if thats what he wants to do (so long as it doesnt impede on our time together and he follows the rules!) but I have no interest in swinging solo myself, my
pleasure comes out of swinging with him by my side so to speak, 1:1 is something I only want with him, its isn't down to not trusting myself or him not trusting me, its just the way I'm wired I guess, I get so much from 1:1 with him I don't wanna taint it by going off having it with random blokes...does that make sense? "
Can totally relate. If I'm seeing someone, I'm happy for them to swing solo but have no interest in doing the same. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"How would it make you feel knowing he was out with another person? In my eyes this is odd ground. My oppinion (which means nothing to anyone) as a coupple either swing together as a coupple or dont swing at all. Especially if only 1 of the party wants to go it alone.
Just sayin tho. That would scare me in a relationship "
He has swung alone and I was OK with it, a little anxious to begin with I admit but if he wanted to stray he would stray with or without my approval. Guess I'm just having a hard time trying to explain why I'm happy for him to do it when im not happy about me doing it myself! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Me and my partner have been swinging as a couple for a few months. We have agreed that either one of us can swing alone and I don't have a problem with him doing so if thats what he wants to do (so long as it doesnt impede on our time together and he follows the rules!) but I have no interest in swinging solo myself, my
pleasure comes out of swinging with him by my side so to speak, 1:1 is something I only want with him, its isn't down to not trusting myself or him not trusting me, its just the way I'm wired I guess, I get so much from 1:1 with him I don't wanna taint it by going off having it with random blokes...does that make sense?
Can totally relate. If I'm seeing someone, I'm happy for them to swing solo but have no interest in doing the same. "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"How would it make you feel knowing he was out with another person? In my eyes this is odd ground. My oppinion (which means nothing to anyone) as a coupple either swing together as a coupple or dont swing at all. Especially if only 1 of the party wants to go it alone.
Just sayin tho. That would scare me in a relationship
A couple playing seperatly with full consent are swinging together....its just another scenario that works for their relationship.
It's not all about the physicals there's a lot of it that plays with the mind too. "
as I say the act in itself would for me playing solo be pretty mind numbing and mechanical, my pleasure comes from knowing he is there with me as I'm playing with someone else! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Neither of us would be comfortable playing with out the other it would make us feel like we were missing out. "
I wouldn't want to meet another person or couple he had met previously without me as I feel that has the potential to make you feel a little excluded!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I've been trying to reply privately to couples on here but you've all blocked single guys, I'd like to discuss away from the forums "
Have p.m'd u, chat away  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Me and my partner have been swinging as a couple for a few months. We have agreed that either one of us can swing alone and I don't have a problem with him doing so if thats what he wants to do (so long as it doesnt impede on our time together and he follows the rules!) but I have no interest in swinging solo myself, my
pleasure comes out of swinging with him by my side so to speak, 1:1 is something I only want with him, its isn't down to not trusting myself or him not trusting me, its just the way I'm wired I guess, I get so much from 1:1 with him I don't wanna taint it by going off having it with random blokes...does that make sense? "
Yes, makes complete sense.
You are doing what's comfortable for you. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Me and my partner have been swinging as a couple for a few months. We have agreed that either one of us can swing alone and I don't have a problem with him doing so if thats what he wants to do (so long as it doesnt impede on our time together and he follows the rules!) but I have no interest in swinging solo myself, my
pleasure comes out of swinging with him by my side so to speak, 1:1 is something I only want with him, its isn't down to not trusting myself or him not trusting me, its just the way I'm wired I guess, I get so much from 1:1 with him I don't wanna taint it by going off having it with random blokes...does that make sense?
Yes, makes complete sense.
You are doing what's comfortable for you. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We considered swinging separately, OP. We started by having threesomes where Marc would leave for a while, etc. I must say that I didn't find it quite as enjoyable as when Marc and I are together.
So I know exactly what you mean. I'm happy for him to play alone, it isn't the singularity of it that I wasn't as keen on. It was just that I didn't get as much enjoyment out of the scenario as when Marc was there with me. |
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By *GHertsCouple
over a year ago
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At the end of the day it's down to individual wants and needs (and indeed reasons for wanting to play solo or not) and so long as you're ALL happy with that scenario it's not for anyone else to say it's right or wrong. Where it gets difficult is when boundaries are crossed, that it becomes about more than plain old transactional sex, or a bit of fun.
If you don't want or feel able to play solo OP, there's nothing wrong with that, any more than there is anything wrong with your OH doing so with your blessing.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We considered swinging separately, OP. We started by having threesomes where Marc would leave for a while, etc. I must say that I didn't find it quite as enjoyable as when Marc and I are together.
So I know exactly what you mean. I'm happy for him to play alone, it isn't the singularity of it that I wasn't as keen on. It was just that I didn't get as much enjoyment out of the scenario as when Marc was there with me. "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"At the end of the day it's down to individual wants and needs (and indeed reasons for wanting to play solo or not) and so long as you're ALL happy with that scenario it's not for anyone else to say it's right or wrong. Where it gets difficult is when boundaries are crossed, that it becomes about more than plain old transactional sex, or a bit of fun.
If you don't want or feel able to play solo OP, there's nothing wrong with that, any more than there is anything wrong with your OH doing so with your blessing.
Mr G"
Thanks Mr G, as Mr wild says we both have to be 100% happy with a situation otherwise we don't go ahead with it, I guess Im cautious that because I won't do it he will think I disagree with him doing it which isn't the case!
I believe we both get different things from sex whether together or seperately, bit like the footie lol he likes it I dont!! |
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By *GHertsCouple
over a year ago
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"Thanks Mr G, as Mr wild says we both have to be 100% happy with a situation otherwise we don't go ahead with it, I guess Im cautious that because I won't do it he will think I disagree with him doing it which isn't the case!
I believe we both get different things from sex whether together or seperately, bit like the footie lol he likes it I dont!!"
Yep that's a good way of summing it!!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've been trying to reply privately to couples on here but you've all blocked single guys, I'd like to discuss away from the forums
Have p.m'd u, chat away "
You've blocked me?! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Im happy for jack to meet alone but im similar in that at the min ,i dont want to meet anyone on my own.miss."
Would u guys be happy for ur partner to meet the same person regularly on their own or is it a case of a"one off" is OK but anything more is a boundary ur not so keen to cross? |
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"Im happy for jack to meet alone but im similar in that at the min ,i dont want to meet anyone on my own.miss.
Would u guys be happy for ur partner to meet the same person regularly on their own or is it a case of a"one off" is OK but anything more is a boundary ur not so keen to cross?"
Jack has met a couple that i would be happy for him to see again,might feel a bit different if it was a single woman he met .Miss |
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By *woOfaKindCouple
over a year ago
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Due to our difficulty in finding compatible couples, my wife and I decided we could try solo dates. On paper, it sounds much easier than attempting 4 way chemistry.
That said, we ended up in the same boat! We still can't find compatible people! She has dealt with nothing but macho game players and fake liars, and me? Well... It's never easy for a single guy.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Im happy for jack to meet alone but im similar in that at the min ,i dont want to meet anyone on my own.miss.
Would u guys be happy for ur partner to meet the same person regularly on their own or is it a case of a"one off" is OK but anything more is a boundary ur not so keen to cross?
Jack has met a couple that i would be happy for him to see again,might feel a bit different if it was a single woman he met .Miss"
Yeah not sure I'd let him meet a single girl more than once, a couple would of course be very different! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Reading this thread with great interest.
I definitely only want to play as a couple. No interest in playing solo. "
But what about ur partner? Does he/she swing solo?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We play separately and both have fun. Works for us. "
Good on u guys,
Do u watch or listen the other when playing solo either in phone or Skype lol wild would love that if I played solo! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We play separately and both have fun. Works for us.
Good on u guys,
Do u watch or listen the other when playing solo either in phone or Skype lol wild would love that if I played solo!"
Have tried skype before. Hotel wifi was crap lol kept cutting out. Videos better to watch together next day. For me, she just asks if I had fun, doesn't want details. Works great for us. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The wife and myself mainly swing alone as we've found it easier than trying to meet couples, we do have 3somes with another guy occasionally though.
Unless we went to a club I don't see us ever meeting another couple and doing a full swap, just too hard to find a couple where we all gel. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We play separately and both have fun. Works for us.
Good on u guys,
Do u watch or listen the other when playing solo either in phone or Skype lol wild would love that if I played solo!
Have tried skype before. Hotel wifi was crap lol kept cutting out. Videos better to watch together next day. For me, she just asks if I had fun, doesn't want details. Works great for us."
Too right I don't want details haha, knowing he had fun and used a condom is all I need to know about it  |
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