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over a year ago
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Do you say sorry if someone bumps into you on the street? I mean, if it's the other person's fault, does "sorry" still automatically come out of your mouth? Or do you say nothing? Or do you tell them to watch where they are going? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I say sorry to lull them into a false sense of security. ..then I follow them and kill them by slow and painful means 
Is it a 'very British' thing to automatically say a very polite sorry? ?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Do you say sorry if someone bumps into you on the street? I mean, if it's the other person's fault, does "sorry" still automatically come out of your mouth? Or do you say nothing? Or do you tell them to watch where they are going?"
Sorry automatically comes out my mouth |
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I used to say sorry automatically but I don't now. If I bump into someone and it IS my fault I will and if the other person apologises I always say "no it was my fault" otherwise I say nothing. I think I turned inti a grumpy old woman at some point over the last few years  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Do you say sorry if someone bumps into you on the street? I mean, if it's the other person's fault, does "sorry" still automatically come out of your mouth? Or do you say nothing? Or do you tell them to watch where they are going?"
I say sorry farrr to much to inconsiderate strangers when I'm not even in the wrong....well I don't think I am anyway... If people walk into my babies pram though I tend to give a dirty look
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By *olgateMan
over a year ago
on the road to nowhere in particular |
"I say sorry to lull them into a false sense of security. ..then I follow them and kill them by slow and painful means
Is it a 'very British' thing to automatically say a very polite sorry? ? "
I have seen knitter do that, she is ruthless |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Mrs M
I automatically say sorry if it's my fault or not even when people apologise to me I'm saying sorry I think it's just my natural response to be polite lol  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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For those who say sorry even when it isn't your fault....why? How did this become your automatic response? Is it because your parents taught you, because other people did it so you learned that way, something completely different?
I'm just curious because its so British and I'm wondering how it became such a pervasive learned response. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I say nothing but when they say sorry I say it's alright. I do however say thank you to cash points sometimes!"
I'm going to start thanking the ATM when I go back to the US and see if anyone says anything to me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If my fault I will automatically say sorry.
If someone else's fault and they say sorry I will politely say no probs.
If someone else's fault and they don't say sorry then I say "for fucks sake" |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I knew you were studying us again. 
Whatever. You never answer my questions anyway.
Lies, I answered your prying last night.  "
That sounds dirtier than it was. Innocent questions  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Mrs M
I automatically say sorry if it's my fault or not even when people apologise to me I'm saying sorry I think it's just my natural response to be polite lol "
I think it's just because of the way I was brought up always be polite manners cost us nothing and a smile always cheers up a person's day |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Sorry automatically comes out of my mouth before I've even had chance to finish colliding into them and kick them in the ankles.
It's like a reflex
Mrs x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I say sorry to lull them into a false sense of security. ..then I follow them and kill them by slow and painful means
Is it a 'very British' thing to automatically say a very polite sorry? ? "
Definitely this. We're a strange lot we brits. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes always polite ,no reason not to be ..that's the way adults should be..polite and well mannered. "
It was the way that I was brought up. Always hold the door open for the next person, smile and say hello. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Mrs M
I automatically say sorry if it's my fault or not even when people apologise to me I'm saying sorry I think it's just my natural response to be polite lol
I think it's just because of the way I was brought up always be polite manners cost us nothing and a smile always cheers up a person's day "
Is it the polite thing to do when it's someone else's fault though? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Mrs M
I automatically say sorry if it's my fault or not even when people apologise to me I'm saying sorry I think it's just my natural response to be polite lol
I think it's just because of the way I was brought up always be polite manners cost us nothing and a smile always cheers up a person's day
Is it the polite thing to do when it's someone else's fault though?"
Well as I say it's just an automatic response really it's like it's been hard wired in to my brain now lol parents done a bloody good job I'm an bloody angel me lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm also getting really bad at say Oh FFS under my breath as well (sometimes not so quietly) I fear I am also becoming a grumpy old woman "
lol I have been known to do this as well, whilst fearing that I am becoming a grumpy old man |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Do you say sorry if someone bumps into you on the street? I mean, if it's the other person's fault, does "sorry" still automatically come out of your mouth? Or do you say nothing? Or do you tell them to watch where they are going?"
I have fallen into saying sorry when I really am not.
It is odd. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Do you say sorry if someone bumps into you on the street? I mean, if it's the other person's fault, does "sorry" still automatically come out of your mouth? Or do you say nothing? Or do you tell them to watch where they are going?"
no I grab their wallet n then disappear into the crowd |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Do you say sorry if someone bumps into you on the street? I mean, if it's the other person's fault, does "sorry" still automatically come out of your mouth? Or do you say nothing? Or do you tell them to watch where they are going?
no I grab their wallet n then disappear into the crowd "
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"For those who say sorry even when it isn't your fault....why? How did this become your automatic response? Is it because your parents taught you, because other people did it so you learned that way, something completely different?
I'm just curious because its so British and I'm wondering how it became such a pervasive learned response."
David Mitchell did a whole episode of his radio series on manners in this topic. It's cultural norm.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"For those who say sorry even when it isn't your fault....why? How did this become your automatic response? Is it because your parents taught you, because other people did it so you learned that way, something completely different?
I'm just curious because its so British and I'm wondering how it became such a pervasive learned response.
David Mitchell did a whole episode of his radio series on manners in this topic. It's cultural norm.
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Yeah, I get that. I was just wondering if people who do it could pinpoint where it comes from, exactly. But I suppose that's difficult with most cultural norms. |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"If everyone walked on the left this wouldn't happnen!!
We manage it on the road why not the pavement!!!! "
That's what Canadians used to do when I went nearly 30 years ago. Not so much when I visited 5 years ago. |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"For those who say sorry even when it isn't your fault....why? How did this become your automatic response? Is it because your parents taught you, because other people did it so you learned that way, something completely different?
I'm just curious because its so British and I'm wondering how it became such a pervasive learned response.
David Mitchell did a whole episode of his radio series on manners in this topic. It's cultural norm.
Yeah, I get that. I was just wondering if people who do it could pinpoint where it comes from, exactly. But I suppose that's difficult with most cultural norms."
Find the series on the BBC iPlayer. Radio 4 earlier this year.
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Whilst the Americans also walk and pass as pedestrians on a specific side, I wonder if the Brits don't, as we're much older culture? Perhaps keeping options open, if up against a potential highway robber, was advantageous. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Nope I'm in the way of saying excuse me, sorry isn't - in my eyes - the right term for if you bump into a stranger much like if you burp or fart in company of someone you're aquainted with. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"For those who say sorry even when it isn't your fault....why? How did this become your automatic response? Is it because your parents taught you, because other people did it so you learned that way, something completely different?
I'm just curious because its so British and I'm wondering how it became such a pervasive learned response."
You've done this haven't you.
Are you worried that you're turning "British". |
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By (user no longer on site)
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haha always - i remember once when in my teens and walking thro town with a group of mates - for some reason i was walking backwards and chatting on and walked into a lamppost - it hurt and i still said sorry  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think it's an auto response from me to avoid confrontation. I can handle myself don't get me wrong. But sometimes it's quicker and easier to just say sorry and move on. I just can't be arsed with the hassle. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I always say sorry and I am Portuguese.But do gets on my nerves how rude people can be.But I still show them I have manners.But sometimes people say isn't your fault is mine and apologies.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Do you say sorry if someone bumps into you on the street? I mean, if it's the other person's fault, does "sorry" still automatically come out of your mouth? Or do you say nothing? Or do you tell them to watch where they are going?"
I tend too....but as I'm dyslexic I tend to spell it "Oi, watch out nob head!" |
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I always thought it was the courteous thing to do for whoever is at fault to say sorry. I wouldn't say sorry if someone bumped into me though, that would just be a bit silly. Sometimes you can both kind of be at fault so then you may both say a quick sorry! I would probably see saying nothing as being a bit rude. I guess it all depends on the circumstances. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think it's an auto response from me to avoid confrontation. I can handle myself don't get me wrong. But sometimes it's quicker and easier to just say sorry and move on. I just can't be arsed with the hassle. "
And sometimes it can teach them to say sorry. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think it's an auto response from me to avoid confrontation. I can handle myself don't get me wrong. But sometimes it's quicker and easier to just say sorry and move on. I just can't be arsed with the hassle.
And sometimes it can teach them to say sorry. "
Yeah there is that too! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I say sorry, it is an automatic response, I just say it and carry on walking. I don't remember how I learnt this but it obviously must have been from my parents.
I do have very British traits though and I find it noticeable when in New York. I still struggle to hail a taxi, to step out and raise my hand. It feels so unnatural to me. I'd rather wait in a queue for a taxi.
I was mocked once by an American guy for holding the door open for him in the lobby of a hotel. When he reached me he said 'Ma'am are you hoping to get a job here', he never said thank you, most rude
But its really noticeable when I'm with American friends having a meal. They'll yell over to the other side of the restaurant to get a waiters attention, I would rather sit and wait until the waiter is nearby and then I'll say 'excuse me, I'm ready to order now' and if he's busy I'll wait. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Whilst the Americans also walk and pass as pedestrians on a specific side, I wonder if the Brits don't, as we're much older culture? Perhaps keeping options open, if up against a potential highway robber, was advantageous."
This is a really interesting response. I do find that Americans are more likely to walk on the right (mimicking driving) than the British are to walk on the left. It's part of why I think it's more common to just automatically say sorry here. Just a guess though. |
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