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What's wrong with being liked ?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So from recent threads , it would appear that any of us who like to be liked are either in a clique , or should examine our mentality as it's wrong to seek validation on a site such as this .
I would like to say that this is not how we think at all . Receiving a nice message , a compliment , a good verification , a fab for a pic , or even just a mention in a positive light on a thread , all serve to make us feel good about ourselves .
So if that makes us attention seekers who need to get a life , so be it . We love this place and being here , and getting a positive feedback enhances our experience .
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"So from recent threads , it would appear that any of us who like to be liked are either in a clique , or should examine our mentality as it's wrong to seek validation on a site such as this .
I would like to say that this is not how we think at all . Receiving a nice message , a compliment , a good verification , a fab for a pic , or even just a mention in a positive light on a thread , all serve to make us feel good about ourselves .
So if that makes us attention seekers who need to get a life , so be it . We love this place and being here , and getting a positive feedback enhances our experience .
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Everyone wants to be liked.
If you don't, you're a sociopath.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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ideally you would get your self worth from yourself and not need validation from others.
this site is shallow, it's meant to be as it's people using others for sex. as a deep person myself i do not find compliments from strangers means anything much unless they divulge something more than they want a fuck from me. |
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"ideally you would get your self worth from yourself and not need validation from others.
this site is shallow, it's meant to be as it's people using others for sex. as a deep person myself i do not find compliments from strangers means anything much unless they divulge something more than they want a fuck from me."
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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To be liked by people I care about is important to me. The rest, no.
It's akin to looking down from an aeroplane to see small dots scurrying about and hoping they like you.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"To be liked by people I care about is important to me. The rest, no.
It's akin to looking down from an aeroplane to see small dots scurrying about and hoping they like you.
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Hey, those small dots are my family waving! |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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"To be liked by people I care about is important to me. The rest, no.
It's akin to looking down from an aeroplane to see small dots scurrying about and hoping they like you.
Hey, those small dots are my family waving!"
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"So from recent threads , it would appear that any of us who like to be liked are either in a clique , or should examine our mentality as it's wrong to seek validation on a site such as this .
I would like to say that this is not how we think at all . Receiving a nice message , a compliment , a good verification , a fab for a pic , or even just a mention in a positive light on a thread , all serve to make us feel good about ourselves .
So if that makes us attention seekers who need to get a life , so be it . We love this place and being here , and getting a positive feedback enhances our experience .
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Amen to that!
We get snotty messages about our pics, friends list, veries and so on, saying we "aint all that".... well, we never claimed to be, but (some) people do seem to like us, and we wont apologise for that.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"ideally you would get your self worth from yourself and not need validation from others.
this site is shallow, it's meant to be as it's people using others for sex. as a deep person myself i do not find compliments from strangers means anything much unless they divulge something more than they want a fuck from me."
Being a deep person yourself , do you nor find being on a site as shallowas this a bit of a mindfuck then ?
We , of all people , fully embrace the fact that it's a site to find others for sex . And nsa sex at that , but my point is this - we don't need validation as such - we just like it |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"ideally you would get your self worth from yourself and not need validation from others.
this site is shallow, it's meant to be as it's people using others for sex. as a deep person myself i do not find compliments from strangers means anything much unless they divulge something more than they want a fuck from me."
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"To be liked by people I care about is important to me. The rest, no.
It's akin to looking down from an aeroplane to see small dots scurrying about and hoping they like you.
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Over the years we have the utmost respect for your honest appraisals on the forums .
But if you interacted with the small dots , met some , chatted with a few and then we're told " well that guy _iew is a good sort , nice fella " , wouldn't that be better than being told you were a bit of an attention seeker who needs to get a reality check ?
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By *ilacWoman
over a year ago
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"So from recent threads , it would appear that any of us who like to be liked are either in a clique , or should examine our mentality as it's wrong to seek validation on a site such as this .
I would like to say that this is not how we think at all . Receiving a nice message , a compliment , a good verification , a fab for a pic , or even just a mention in a positive light on a thread , all serve to make us feel good about ourselves .
So if that makes us attention seekers who need to get a life , so be it . We love this place and being here , and getting a positive feedback enhances our experience .
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If it makes you happy, then cool. I would argue that your attention seeking is part of your sexual thrill. It's exhibisionism. Shock factor. And I get that. I do that with vanilla friends and give them stories about the kink scene. But some of the attention seeking on the forum is different. People wanting validation from strangers and to feel like they have connections, to give them a boost due to their insecurities. That's the bit that bores me |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So from recent threads , it would appear that any of us who like to be liked are either in a clique , or should examine our mentality as it's wrong to seek validation on a site such as this .
I would like to say that this is not how we think at all . Receiving a nice message , a compliment , a good verification , a fab for a pic , or even just a mention in a positive light on a thread , all serve to make us feel good about ourselves .
So if that makes us attention seekers who need to get a life , so be it . We love this place and being here , and getting a positive feedback enhances our experience .
Everyone wants to be liked.
If you don't, you're a sociopath.
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Not everyone wants to be liked by everyone though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So from recent threads , it would appear that any of us who like to be liked are either in a clique , or should examine our mentality as it's wrong to seek validation on a site such as this .
I would like to say that this is not how we think at all . Receiving a nice message , a compliment , a good verification , a fab for a pic , or even just a mention in a positive light on a thread , all serve to make us feel good about ourselves .
So if that makes us attention seekers who need to get a life , so be it . We love this place and being here , and getting a positive feedback enhances our experience .
Everyone wants to be liked.
If you don't, you're a sociopath.
Not everyone wants to be liked by everyone though. "
It was a joke.
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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"To be liked by people I care about is important to me. The rest, no.
It's akin to looking down from an aeroplane to see small dots scurrying about and hoping they like you.
Over the years we have the utmost respect for your honest appraisals on the forums .
But if you interacted with the small dots , met some , chatted with a few and then we're told " well that guy _iew is a good sort , nice fella " , wouldn't that be better than being told you were a bit of an attention seeker who needs to get a reality check ?
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But I don't
We use the site differently and I stay on the periphery and intentionally distant. The superficiality of it all stops me caring as its words on a screen and nothing more.
But my first reply said don't allow how someone else uses the site from you to dictate your enjoyment.
You do your thing, you enjoy it and you enjoy validation.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"ideally you would get your self worth from yourself and not need validation from others.
this site is shallow, it's meant to be as it's people using others for sex. as a deep person myself i do not find compliments from strangers means anything much unless they divulge something more than they want a fuck from me.
Being a deep person yourself , do you nor find being on a site as shallowas this a bit of a mindfuck then ?
We , of all people , fully embrace the fact that it's a site to find others for sex . And nsa sex at that , but my point is this - we don't need validation as such - we just like it "
at first no it wasn't. i'd been primed to be used by my ex so it was perfect for me. but now yes it does cause conflict inside me and i don't meet anyone much now and do think about things way too much when i shouldn't as this site is not for people like me.
i'm not averse to using people and being used in return so long as people are clear in what they want...and here lies the problem, for me. too many shady fuckers full of shit and saying what they think we want to hear to get what they want...and it's not just a problem on here it is a problem anywhere in life, although more likely on here. been back here about 6 months and had men blocked pretty much most of that time because i don't want to hear their bullshit...and for what, a fuck?
i am fairly cynical though, just the way i am and this makes me not an easy option any more.
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"ideally you would get your self worth from yourself and not need validation from others.
this site is shallow, it's meant to be as it's people using others for sex. as a deep person myself i do not find compliments from strangers means anything much unless they divulge something more than they want a fuck from me.
Being a deep person yourself , do you nor find being on a site as shallowas this a bit of a mindfuck then ?
We , of all people , fully embrace the fact that it's a site to find others for sex . And nsa sex at that , but my point is this - we don't need validation as such - we just like it "
Totally get what you're saying. We try to be nice to people and like the same back. Do we need it, no but it generally makes us feel better.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think the whole idea of a clique though, is not just that they seek validation and attention from each other (which is fine) but they tend not to interact with anyone outside the clique.
Or worse, they actively put down someone who's not in the "in crowd".
I think that's the problem that was initially talked about.
Frankly I'm just relieved people on here are spelling it clique and not click. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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There's a clique on any forum you go on, fab is no different.
The fab forum is really tame since its heavily moderated. On some forums I use unless you've got a PHD in the subject and have photographic evidence supporting your comment. Then you're best off not speaking. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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There's nothing wrong with wanted to be liked or even attention seeking. I do a bit of attention seeking myself, but it's not because I want validation, I want sex.
As a single guy on here, I'm ten a penny, nothing special. I use the forums for a bit of fun and to interact with people. But I also use it as a tool to let people see more of me.
I'm really more of a second impression kind of guy, there is only so much I can do with pictures and profile text and the forums allow me to show off a bit of my personality. Some will like it, other won't. But because of getting invloved I'm in the process of arranging some social meets and I've made some friends who I talk to outside of fab. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"There's a clique on any forum you go on, fab is no different.
The fab forum is really tame since its heavily moderated. On some forums I use unless you've got a PHD in the subject and have photographic evidence supporting your comment. Then you're best off not speaking. "
We generally provide photographic evidence  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Jolly well said Glos.
We all put up pictures and profiles foe one main reason. To be noticed.
Our profiles are basically an advertisement for ourselves.
I will always fab a great picture, send a message to some one I like and all my friends
A positive remark will always make you smile and your day perk up.
As for this mysterious clique, well if people on here post often and become friends then isn't that a bonus .
We have quite a rather spiffing little community in here and ALL are welcome
Taff and Pooch
Ps Glos your pictures always cause good unrest in my underwear  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Carry on regardless. Avoid the threads you don't like. Enjoy the threads you do. I like it here. I only let myself see the fun stuff.
Gloswingers. Don't stop being you. I think you're awesome. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So from recent threads , it would appear that any of us who like to be liked are either in a clique , or should examine our mentality as it's wrong to seek validation on a site such as this .
I would like to say that this is not how we think at all . Receiving a nice message , a compliment , a good verification , a fab for a pic , or even just a mention in a positive light on a thread , all serve to make us feel good about ourselves .
So if that makes us attention seekers who need to get a life , so be it . We love this place and being here , and getting a positive feedback enhances our experience .
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Well that all makes perfect sense. Nicely put |
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"Carry on regardless. Avoid the threads you don't like. Enjoy the threads you do. I like it here. I only let myself see the fun stuff.
Gloswingers. Don't stop being you. I think you're awesome. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So from recent threads , it would appear that any of us who like to be liked are either in a clique , or should examine our mentality as it's wrong to seek validation on a site such as this .
I would like to say that this is not how we think at all . Receiving a nice message , a compliment , a good verification , a fab for a pic , or even just a mention in a positive light on a thread , all serve to make us feel good about ourselves .
So if that makes us attention seekers who need to get a life , so be it . We love this place and being here , and getting a positive feedback enhances our experience .
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Agree. |
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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago
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"Jolly well said Glos.
We all put up pictures and profiles foe one main reason. To be noticed.
Our profiles are basically an advertisement for ourselves.
I will always fab a great picture, send a message to some one I like and all my friends
A positive remark will always make you smile and your day perk up.
As for this mysterious clique, well if people on here post often and become friends then isn't that a bonus .
We have quite a rather spiffing little community in here and ALL are welcome
Taff and Pooch
Ps Glos your pictures always cause good unrest in my underwear "
Think Taff said it all pretty bloody splendidly!  |
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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago
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Although I will just add....
I have all I need as person validation wise outside of fab. Fab is a laugh, fab is sex, fab is fun - if you drop your uptight knickers and let it be.
Like Mikki said - large pinch of salt (although I'm not asking where she puts it as that could sting like a beeeeyatch!) |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I like the forums and like the people on the forums.
I mostly stick to the funny and less contensious threads as its all a bit of a giggle.
I like to add a little humour when I conbribute (Im funny true story) and I dont mind making fun of myself or looking a little silly.
I prefer to be positive, I try to be kind and if I post a thread I try to make sure everyone who contributes feels included.
However I have learned that not everyone will like me and I am okay with that to be fair I can be somewhat annoying
Gloswingers you guys are just alot of fun and I like you for that reason |
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to Gloswingers and Taff.
Of course we want to be liked and there has to be a certain amount of attention seeking to be successful on here.
It's always nice to get positive comments, you just have to be happy enough in yourself not to let the negatives get to you.
We're here for a bit of fun, life's too short to worry too much about what other people think.
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"So from recent threads , it would appear that any of us who like to be liked are either in a clique , or should examine our mentality as it's wrong to seek validation on a site such as this .
I would like to say that this is not how we think at all . Receiving a nice message , a compliment , a good verification , a fab for a pic , or even just a mention in a positive light on a thread , all serve to make us feel good about ourselves .
So if that makes us attention seekers who need to get a life , so be it . We love this place and being here , and getting a positive feedback enhances our experience .
Everyone wants to be liked.
If you don't, you're a sociopath.
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I think anyone who wants/needs to be liked by everyone has issues I'm ill equipped to deal with. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So from recent threads , it would appear that any of us who like to be liked are either in a clique , or should examine our mentality as it's wrong to seek validation on a site such as this .
I would like to say that this is not how we think at all . Receiving a nice message , a compliment , a good verification , a fab for a pic , or even just a mention in a positive light on a thread , all serve to make us feel good about ourselves .
So if that makes us attention seekers who need to get a life , so be it . We love this place and being here , and getting a positive feedback enhances our experience .
Everyone wants to be liked.
If you don't, you're a sociopath.
I think anyone who wants/needs to be liked by everyone has issues I'm ill equipped to deal with."
Absolutely.
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Glos, Taff, Hanky & Knitter .... Agree with you all 100% and if that makes others _iew me as part of any kind of "clique" so be it.
In most cases I chat and laugh with people on the forums, occasionally there's a PM, I'm just a friendly person and try not to overlook anyone but this place isn't for hassle, don't we all get enough of that in the real world?
Knitter kisses
Pooch sends hugs
Anyone for tea?
Fancy a fuck?
I really should sort out my own sign off ..... We're all mad here, how does that sound?
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So from recent threads , it would appear that any of us who like to be liked are either in a clique , or should examine our mentality as it's wrong to seek validation on a site such as this .
I would like to say that this is not how we think at all . Receiving a nice message , a compliment , a good verification , a fab for a pic , or even just a mention in a positive light on a thread , all serve to make us feel good about ourselves .
So if that makes us attention seekers who need to get a life , so be it . We love this place and being here , and getting a positive feedback enhances our experience .
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I like you.
Like your sense of humour, honesty, attitude and sense of fun.
Like your irreverence and determination to do things "your way".
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So from recent threads , it would appear that any of us who like to be liked are either in a clique , or should examine our mentality as it's wrong to seek validation on a site such as this .
I would like to say that this is not how we think at all . Receiving a nice message , a compliment , a good verification , a fab for a pic , or even just a mention in a positive light on a thread , all serve to make us feel good about ourselves .
So if that makes us attention seekers who need to get a life , so be it . We love this place and being here , and getting a positive feedback enhances our experience .
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Meh...yer ok i suppose
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Isn't the whole point of being here to be noticed? As taff said our profiles are advertising of ourselves to get notice by others and get meets for sex. I only post on silly goofy threads. If people want to think I'm thick or stupid is their prerogative.
I'm here to have a laugh and sex.
Do I have more banter with certain people? Of course I do. That might be because I fancy them and I want to meet them or because we have same sense of humor.
Life is too short and through to much shit to you to be worrying about high school cliches.
MrsSB
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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago
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"Isn't the whole point of being here to be noticed? As taff said our profiles are advertising of ourselves to get notice by others and get meets for sex. I only post on silly goofy threads. If people want to think I'm thick or stupid is their prerogative.
I'm here to have a laugh and sex.
Do I have more banter with certain people? Of course I do. That might be because I fancy them and I want to meet them or because we have same sense of humor.
Life is too short and through to much shit to you to be worrying about high school cliches.
MrsSB
PS fancy a fuck? "
Well if you insist |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think it depends who it is
I'm real life where people have met me and know me its not nice to not be liked because I try and be nice to everybody so when people don't like you when you try your best that's not a nice feeling
On here I really don't care, some people on here seem to go out their way to be offended and look for things to pick fault in, no matter how hard to try its just so hard not to unset people you don't even know on here, I don't let it bother me |
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"Isn't the whole point of being here to be noticed? As taff said our profiles are advertising of ourselves to get notice by others and get meets for sex. I only post on silly goofy threads. If people want to think I'm thick or stupid is their prerogative.
I'm here to have a laugh and sex.
Do I have more banter with certain people? Of course I do. That might be because I fancy them and I want to meet them or because we have same sense of humor.
Life is too short and through to much shit to you to be worrying about high school cliches.
MrsSB
PS fancy a fuck?
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Oh if you wish |
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
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"So from recent threads , it would appear that any of us who like to be liked are either in a clique , or should examine our mentality as it's wrong to seek validation on a site such as this .
I would like to say that this is not how we think at all . Receiving a nice message , a compliment , a good verification , a fab for a pic , or even just a mention in a positive light on a thread , all serve to make us feel good about ourselves .
So if that makes us attention seekers who need to get a life , so be it . We love this place and being here , and getting a positive feedback enhances our experience .
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you can have a positive outlook on this world or a negative one..i choose the positive because i can..not because i haveto..live and let live, but dragging people down, was never my thing in general..it never made my experiences of life any better, so i didnt bother doing it..if people want to join in thats really cool. if that makes us a clique, so be it..couldnt care less. i will just carry on being who i am and doing what i do..be well and be happy x |
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I think a lot of why I come here is habit for me. It passes dull moments when I've got nothing better to do. It also distracts when I do have better things to do but that's beside the point.
Not arsed for validation either here or in reality. I'm perhaps not all that normal cause whilst it's nice to be liked, it really doesn't worry me if I'm not. I'm a decent sort and I'm happy with who I am so for me that's pretty much what's important.
It takes quite a lot to get my back up these days, I figure it's nice to be nice so if I have nothing nice to say, I generally keep my trap shut.
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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"I think a lot of why I come here is habit for me. It passes dull moments when I've got nothing better to do. It also distracts when I do have better things to do but that's beside the point.
Not arsed for validation either here or in reality. I'm perhaps not all that normal cause whilst it's nice to be liked, it really doesn't worry me if I'm not. I'm a decent sort and I'm happy with who I am so for me that's pretty much what's important.
It takes quite a lot to get my back up these days, I figure it's nice to be nice so if I have nothing nice to say, I generally keep my trap shut.
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I agree.
Nothing wrong with wanting to me liked
Nothing wrong about not caring either way
just do your thing |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Glos, Taff, Hanky & Knitter .... Agree with you all 100% and if that makes others _iew me as part of any kind of "clique" so be it.
In most cases I chat and laugh with people on the forums, occasionally there's a PM, I'm just a friendly person and try not to overlook anyone but this place isn't for hassle, don't we all get enough of that in the real world?
Knitter kisses
Pooch sends hugs
Anyone for tea?
Fancy a fuck?
I really should sort out my own sign off ..... We're all mad here, how does that sound?
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Miss A your awesome |
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"Glos, Taff, Hanky & Knitter .... Agree with you all 100% and if that makes others _iew me as part of any kind of "clique" so be it.
In most cases I chat and laugh with people on the forums, occasionally there's a PM, I'm just a friendly person and try not to overlook anyone but this place isn't for hassle, don't we all get enough of that in the real world?
Knitter kisses
Pooch sends hugs
Anyone for tea?
Fancy a fuck?
I really should sort out my own sign off ..... We're all mad here, how does that sound?
Miss A your awesome "
Err ..... WE'RE awesome Knitter my sweet.
We're all flipping awesome |
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"There's a clique on any forum you go on, fab is no different.
The fab forum is really tame since its heavily moderated. On some forums I use unless you've got a PHD in the subject and have photographic evidence supporting your comment. Then you're best off not speaking.
We generally provide photographic evidence "
The evidence takes along time to process but I'm keeping up
I like the forums more than I should but the only harm is my time wasted. |
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"Glos, Taff, Hanky & Knitter .... Agree with you all 100% and if that makes others _iew me as part of any kind of "clique" so be it.
In most cases I chat and laugh with people on the forums, occasionally there's a PM, I'm just a friendly person and try not to overlook anyone but this place isn't for hassle, don't we all get enough of that in the real world?
Knitter kisses
Pooch sends hugs
Anyone for tea?
Fancy a fuck?
I really should sort out my own sign off ..... We're all mad here, how does that sound?
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Forums have made me laugh, cry and smile so much recently. ..hopefully my odd contributions also do tge same for others mad? Possibly. ..but we all like cake...except Knitter she prefers cookies |
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"Glos, Taff, Hanky & Knitter .... Agree with you all 100% and if that makes others _iew me as part of any kind of "clique" so be it.
In most cases I chat and laugh with people on the forums, occasionally there's a PM, I'm just a friendly person and try not to overlook anyone but this place isn't for hassle, don't we all get enough of that in the real world?
Knitter kisses
Pooch sends hugs
Anyone for tea?
Fancy a fuck?
I really should sort out my own sign off ..... We're all mad here, how does that sound?
Miss A your awesome "
After yesterday's thread , we fully agree |
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"Glos, Taff, Hanky & Knitter .... Agree with you all 100% and if that makes others _iew me as part of any kind of "clique" so be it.
In most cases I chat and laugh with people on the forums, occasionally there's a PM, I'm just a friendly person and try not to overlook anyone but this place isn't for hassle, don't we all get enough of that in the real world?
Knitter kisses
Pooch sends hugs
Anyone for tea?
Fancy a fuck?
I really should sort out my own sign off ..... We're all mad here, how does that sound?
Miss A your awesome
Err ..... WE'RE awesome Knitter my sweet.
We're all flipping awesome "
We are all rather spiffing |
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"Glos, Taff, Hanky & Knitter .... Agree with you all 100% and if that makes others _iew me as part of any kind of "clique" so be it.
In most cases I chat and laugh with people on the forums, occasionally there's a PM, I'm just a friendly person and try not to overlook anyone but this place isn't for hassle, don't we all get enough of that in the real world?
Knitter kisses
Pooch sends hugs
Anyone for tea?
Fancy a fuck?
I really should sort out my own sign off ..... We're all mad here, how does that sound?
Miss A your awesome
After yesterday's thread , we fully agree "
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"Glos, Taff, Hanky & Knitter .... Agree with you all 100% and if that makes others _iew me as part of any kind of "clique" so be it.
In most cases I chat and laugh with people on the forums, occasionally there's a PM, I'm just a friendly person and try not to overlook anyone but this place isn't for hassle, don't we all get enough of that in the real world?
Knitter kisses
Pooch sends hugs
Anyone for tea?
Fancy a fuck?
I really should sort out my own sign off ..... We're all mad here, how does that sound?
Miss A your awesome
After yesterday's thread , we fully agree
I loved my seal outfit "
Chuckle what a jolly hoot did you have a little parper too |
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"To be liked by people I care about is important to me. The rest, no.
It's akin to looking down from an aeroplane to see small dots scurrying about and hoping they like you.
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This really sums up how I feel about it too.
I enjoy the forum discussions, primarily the serious ones, I cannot abide what I deem to be silly threads, such as the love ins, the award type threads, that kind of thing, I don't want gossipy private messages either, I don't really want to be involved in that because I can't sustain the level of interest required.
I am appreciative of people who have messaged about my pics (excluding the faux appreciation just to get a meet type) and people who we've met that have verified us, because they have taken time to do so. But ultimately I will always _iew this as just another Internet site.
I don't think it's wrong to enjoy appreciative messages or responses to threads though. We all get something different out of this site. |
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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago
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I would love to know who is in this clique!?
Should I start a thread asking or would I just be accused of cliquey - ness!?!
Cause seriously I just don't see it - it's just a laugh amongst like minded, bloody minded, small minded, sometimes narrow minded but generally quite mindful people? |
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"I think a lot of why I come here is habit for me. It passes dull moments when I've got nothing better to do. It also distracts when I do have better things to do but that's beside the point.
This is exactly why I come on here, to fill the dull moments. I generally don't tend to say much, but if something gets on my tits, then I let rip....a number of times to my cost
Not arsed for validation either here or in reality. I'm perhaps not all that normal cause whilst it's nice to be liked, it really doesn't worry me if I'm not. I'm a decent sort and I'm happy with who I am so for me that's pretty much what's important.
It takes quite a lot to get my back up these days, I figure it's nice to be nice so if I have nothing nice to say, I generally keep my trap shut.
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There's nothing wrong in wanting to be liked of seeking attention, I'm pretty sure the majority are after one or the other from posting on here.
I don't think a clique is formed from being liked alone. |
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"I enjoy the forums, I'm happy in myself and my life. I don't need validation from here but chatting with people and getting on with them feels nice "
And that's exactly my point
It's not that we are seeking validation because we need it . We are very happy in with our lives , and enjoy success in both our business and social life away from fab .
But it's sure as hell a better experience to feel liked , rather than disliked in this community .
Ok , we aren't looking for best friends on here , or even long term friends . People come and go , and that's cool . But to enjoy a giggle with like minded folk is fun . And that's how we look at our swinging journey , fun .
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I am not paticularly fussed who likes me and who doesn't on the forums. I come on here for my own amusement. If anybody happens to like me, find me funny, attractive etc then that's a bonus.
However verifications don't bother me either. My last one was 6 or 7 months ago, however I have had meets since. But if a meet did decide they wanted to leave a verification I would only display it if it was cheesy and ridiculous. Just like my cock. |
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"I enjoy the forums, I'm happy in myself and my life. I don't need validation from here but chatting with people and getting on with them feels nice
And that's exactly my point
It's not that we are seeking validation because we need it . We are very happy in with our lives , and enjoy success in both our business and social life away from fab .
But it's sure as hell a better experience to feel liked , rather than disliked in this community .
Ok , we aren't looking for best friends on here , or even long term friends . People come and go , and that's cool . But to enjoy a giggle with like minded folk is fun . And that's how we look at our swinging journey , fun .
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Totally agree |
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Lol at least you get a response on the forum !!
I just get ignored lol
Do you really care if someone you don't know calls you a name !!
Have fun sexies, totally agree your on fab for fun )
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"Lol at least you get a response on the forum !!
I just get ignored lol
Do you really care if someone you don't know calls you a name !!
Have fun sexies, totally agree your on fab for fun )
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Oh we've had times where we haven't had a response on the forums !
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"Lol at least you get a response on the forum !!
I just get ignored lol
Do you really care if someone you don't know calls you a name !!
Have fun sexies, totally agree your on fab for fun )
Oh we've had times where we haven't had a response on the forums !
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I must have had a day off that day. I always enjoy your threads. |
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