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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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what makes a couple that swear that they will never go full swop to stray to the dark side.
if you have any stories please share.
I.E. one will one wont. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I for one respect anyone's position on this
But soft swap has never been an option for me i would find it far too frustrating xx"
Ditto to that. I also find it a little insulting that someone would happily do everything BUT sex with us then switch back to their own partner for the grand finale. It's like they're saying we're good for the light entertainment but not for the headline act, and if they reserve full sex for each other because they are so in love - they perhaps they shouldn't be swinging at all.
I know that opens a can of worms for those swinging couples who are genuinely in love but then they also have full sex with others too. I hope I've come across as intended. |
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"what makes a couple that swear that they will never go full swop to stray to the dark side.
if you have any stories please share.
I.E. one will one wont."
well ive tuned two cpls ive met temptation was to much and they have never looked back and joined us real swingers  |
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"yeah - reckon it must be temptation and enjoyment of the moment kinda thing.
or a few too many lol .
 
everyone to their own tho xx"
so is anal classed as soft swop with no full vgainal intercourse been here witha a cpl  |
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Each to their own and what they are happy with.
If it says "soft swing only" and u want more, don't meet them..simple!
why are they not real swingers?
where is the cut off point?
maybe next thing is only couples who don't use condoms are "real swingers"
or maybe only bi couples are swingers!
I say do what your happy with and dont let people pressure you into anything more! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We soft swapped for a long long time before we crossed over to the dark side and in fact we have been to parties recently where we've only indulged in soft swap and full sex with just each other.
It is solely about the couple involved and not the couple that they are swinging with. If the other couple find it too frustrating dont meet. A couple should only move to full swap when they are completely and utterly confident, secure and happy with the situation and not to make the other couple who they meet happy. Its not that other couple that would have to deal with the fallout and upset and possible relationship breakdown if things went further than was intended.
Please dont say they shouldnt be swinging if they cant do everything, some of us cant do that. Maybe we get turned on by seeing our partner have oral sex with a stranger, but we just dont want to see full penetration and keep that for ourselves. When you are swinging, you dont have to go everything of yourself to a stranger. You go as far as you are comfortable with. It doesnt make you wrong. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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** give everything of yourself to a stranger** the above was meant to read.
I meant to continue but pressed post message too early. We moved onto full swap because we felt it was right to move on to achieve the bigger thrill.
We are not keen on a straight swap, ie; meeting a couple, I go with the guy, he goes with the woman, and thats it. We dont want to have sex with solely one other person, we get that anytime. We like to play as a foursome, so its all intermingled. I rather like two women sharing my guy, one on his face, one on his cock and we'll swap. My OH likes to see me taken from behind whilst Im sucking him, that kind of thing. The things that arent achievable with two people. Doesnt really matter to us whether its just oral |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"what makes a couple that swear that they will never go full swop to stray to the dark side.
if you have any stories please share.
I.E. one will one wont."
Waddaya mean darkside? tch Nowt dark about it for us. Darkside in in your own mind. |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
Newcastle and Gateshead |
"what makes a couple that swear that they will never go full swop to stray to the dark side.
if you have any stories please share.
I.E. one will one wont.
well ive tuned two cpls ive met temptation was to much and they have never looked back and joined us real swingers "
"real" swingers..... 
that be a whole can of worms ready to be opened...... nice hole digging there!!!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The biggest thing is to only do what you are both happy with,nothing worse than a silent car journey home after one of you has done something the otherhalf doesnt like.just because you dont full swap doesnt mean you cant have lots of fun and you may find in time that you want to take it further,talk to each other first dont just try it and see what the response is from the other half |
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By *andKCouple
over a year ago
Norfolk |
"We soft swapped for a long long time before we crossed over to the dark side and in fact we have been to parties recently where we've only indulged in soft swap and full sex with just each other.
It is solely about the couple involved and not the couple that they are swinging with. If the other couple find it too frustrating dont meet. A couple should only move to full swap when they are completely and utterly confident, secure and happy with the situation and not to make the other couple who they meet happy. Its not that other couple that would have to deal with the fallout and upset and possible relationship breakdown if things went further than was intended.
Please dont say they shouldnt be swinging if they cant do everything, some of us cant do that. Maybe we get turned on by seeing our partner have oral sex with a stranger, but we just dont want to see full penetration and keep that for ourselves. When you are swinging, you dont have to go everything of yourself to a stranger. You go as far as you are comfortable with. It doesnt make you wrong. "
completely agree with this, we started as soft swing, even joined a site for soft swingers only but met a couple (at Chams) who we got on really well with, and still do 6 years later, but we chatted with them and the next time we met we 'crossed' the line. Have to say we haven't looked back since. Having said that there are still situations when it happens that full swap doesn't occur although again being honest if a profile says no kissing, no cuddling, no penetration except with own partner we would give them a miss. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I for one respect anyone's position on this
But soft swap has never been an option for me i would find it far too frustrating xx"
Oh god lol.... we had an offer from a couple a good while ago where I could give the lady oral but she wouldn't be returning the favour. I wouldn't be allowed to touch her guy but my man could do the full works with her.... I was left wondering if I should take a book!!!
We declined their offer because THAT would have been frustrating  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"nothing worse than a silent car journey home after one of you has done something the otherhalf doesnt like."
That statement says so much about why some couples shouldn't be swinging.
The silent treatment shows a clear lack of ability to communicate either before or after swinging.
In the past, when Siren has done something with another guy that she hasn't done with me, instead of getting pissed off about it I said, "I didn't realise you liked that." Then we discuss it and the next time we made love we experimented with it. That's what this is all about - trying different things with different people and incorporating the things we like into our own lovemaking later.
Sure, the kinky side of watching each other with other people is horny as hell but it gives each of us the chance to see what the other likes from a 3rd-person viewpoint.
Generally speaking, if you can't communicate about something so intimate, so important to your relationship then you have real problems that should be tackled head on before you go any further. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"nothing worse than a silent car journey home after one of you has done something the otherhalf doesnt like.
That statement says so much about why some couples shouldn't be swinging.
The silent treatment shows a clear lack of ability to communicate either before or after swinging.
In the past, when Siren has done something with another guy that she hasn't done with me, instead of getting pissed off about it I said, "I didn't realise you liked that." Then we discuss it and the next time we made love we experimented with it. That's what this is all about - trying different things with different people and incorporating the things we like into our own lovemaking later.
Sure, the kinky side of watching each other with other people is horny as hell but it gives each of us the chance to see what the other likes from a 3rd-person viewpoint.
Generally speaking, if you can't communicate about something so intimate, so important to your relationship then you have real problems that should be tackled head on before you go any further."
awwww, I thinks yer lovely x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think all couple start this with a list of dos and dont, but as they get into it and more relaxed their rules change
Many years ago when i was with the ex we used to meet a couple and they had so many rules it was hard to remember what you was allowed to do lol
Soft swing
No kissing etc
but the time they had been swinging a couple of years she was having gang bangs and they was meeting alone as well
All because you start off with a set of rule that does not mean they cant change as you get more confident in what your doing |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"nothing worse than a silent car journey home after one of you has done something the otherhalf doesnt like.
That statement says so much about why some couples shouldn't be swinging.
The silent treatment shows a clear lack of ability to communicate either before or after swinging.
In the past, when Siren has done something with another guy that she hasn't done with me, instead of getting pissed off about it I said, "I didn't realise you liked that." Then we discuss it and the next time we made love we experimented with it. That's what this is all about - trying different things with different people and incorporating the things we like into our own lovemaking later.
Sure, the kinky side of watching each other with other people is horny as hell but it gives each of us the chance to see what the other likes from a 3rd-person viewpoint.
Generally speaking, if you can't communicate about something so intimate, so important to your relationship then you have real problems that should be tackled head on before you go any further.
awwww, I thinks yer lovely x"
tks, you're not so bad yerself!  |
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"I think all couple start this with a list of dos and dont, but as they get into it and more relaxed their rules change
*snip*
All because you start off with a set of rule that does not mean they cant change as you get more confident in what your doing"
Totally agree! We started off with soooo many rules!! As time goes on you both push your boundaries a little more and things change.
We dont meet for soft swap ... each to their own but it can be a lot of hassle for the sake of a blowjob!! |
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By way of a chnge its 'no swap for us'..but we still have fun both on here and messenger with others..and we have 'met' some smashing people in the process..
Everyone has limits for their own reasons..and thats the nice thing about this site and swingers in gerneral they respect others wishes.
Our limit is obviously a lot lower than everyone elses here..but bare in mind that most people away from this sort of scene wouldnt even go that far and would find it wrong/weird...so its also a turn on for us knowing that we are just being a little bit naughty..
Being a lot naughtier like you lot sounds a hell of a lot more fun though!!! lol...enjoy!!
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