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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Why do you care? It's come up before and I really don't see the deal. People can identify however the wish and if recent news teaches us anything is that we're all better off when we don't concern ourselves with other people's gender or sexual orientation. |
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Various reasons,they like to keep it secret,don't want to put off those people that won't meet bi guy's,probably need to ask them. It makes it hard to find them if they're not honest on their profile though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why do guys who are bi and have verifications from men and TS say they are straight on their profile ?!?
Baffles me aswell that one  "
i particularly like the reply I got when I declined a guy, "I only let him fuck me so his wife would give me a BJ, I'm not bi". Really?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We have verifications from single men... we don't meet single men, but we have met single men at clubs/parties and chatted to them. We do invite them to our parties because our friends may want to meet with/play with single guys.
Perhaps not all is what it seems... though likelihood is it is! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Could it just simply be they think everyone else is stupid enough not to see the hypocrisy ,
Or it could be something altogether less controversial....
I mean it could just be they are simply dishonest.... untrustworthy , deluded , suffering from a personality disorder or it could even be that they meet other guys socially and don't engage in same sex activity with them.... or perhaps they understand their TS partners right to have a gender specific identity that defines them as a person and feel it would be improper to call themselves bisexual as a sign of validation and respect of their partners true identity....
I guess what I'm trying to say is there is no one blanket answer too cover all situation...
PS other scenario's may also have relevancy as my list of suggestions is not exhaustive...
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"Could it just simply be they think everyone else is stupid enough not to see the hypocrisy ,
Or it could be something altogether less controversial....
I mean it could just be they are simply dishonest.... untrustworthy , deluded , suffering from a personality disorder or it could even be that they meet other guys socially and don't engage in same sex activity with them.... or perhaps they understand their TS partners right to have a gender specific identity that defines them as a person and feel it would be improper to call themselves bisexual as a sign of validation and respect of their partners true identity....
I guess what I'm trying to say is there is no one blanket answer too cover all situation...
PS other scenario's may also have relevancy as my list of suggestions is not exhaustive...
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That's far to many words for this time of morning  |
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"Why do guys who are bi and have verifications from men and TS say they are straight on their profile ?!?"
You know what? It used to bother me too and now I couldn't care less if they want to identify as straight - it's their profile and they're not exactly hiding their veris so as long as they harm no one, they can do what they want.
I'm bisexual and proud of it. As I am my left bicep.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I had to put the message blocks on the so called straight fellas to stop the offers of meeting up! They just wouldn't accept "no" either!! 
Jeez! Made me realise what the ladies have to put up with on here! Men huh?!!  |
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"I had to put the message blocks on the so called straight fellas to stop the offers of meeting up! They just wouldn't accept "no" either!!
Jeez! Made me realise what the ladies have to put up with on here! Men huh?!! "
...b..b..but you're straight!!!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Could it just simply be they think everyone else is stupid enough not to see the hypocrisy ,
Or it could be something altogether less controversial....
I mean it could just be they are simply dishonest.... untrustworthy , deluded , suffering from a personality disorder or it could even be that they meet other guys socially and don't engage in same sex activity with them.... or perhaps they understand their TS partners right to have a gender specific identity that defines them as a person and feel it would be improper to call themselves bisexual as a sign of validation and respect of their partners true identity....
I guess what I'm trying to say is there is no one blanket answer too cover all situation...
PS other scenario's may also have relevancy as my list of suggestions is not exhaustive...
That's far to many words for this time of morning "
Well pardon me all over the place....I'm utterly speechless
I've been up since 5 ,,,I just returned from a walk along the beach ..... I've drank lots of coffee......That was my short answer... and as people well know..... I'm a man of few words....
Sheeeeshhhhhh
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"Why do guys who are bi and have verifications from men and TS say they are straight on their profile ?!?"
Interesting..They identify as straight,yet you have decided they are bi..On the basis of a few verifications from men /tv's..suggest you check out the difference between sexual behaviour and sexual identify. Looking at the behaviour of Male prisoners could be a beginning. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm bi selfish. There is no button for that so say straight. When I had bi curious on my profile more was expected of me than I can give so I removed it.
I've heard a few men that have said during group play anything goes but they wouldn't meet a guy so maybe it's the same |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Probably because of the same thinking that excludes gay and bi men from donating blood, some people have health concerns, wether those concerns are valid is not for me to say |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I had to put the message blocks on the so called straight fellas to stop the offers of meeting up! They just wouldn't accept "no" either!!
Jeez! Made me realise what the ladies have to put up with on here! Men huh?!! ...b..b..but you're straight!!! "
Yep! Almost like they didn't read my profile innit? |
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"Could it just simply be they think everyone else is stupid enough not to see the hypocrisy ,
Or it could be something altogether less controversial....
I mean it could just be they are simply dishonest.... untrustworthy , deluded , suffering from a personality disorder or it could even be that they meet other guys socially and don't engage in same sex activity with them.... or perhaps they understand their TS partners right to have a gender specific identity that defines them as a person and feel it would be improper to call themselves bisexual as a sign of validation and respect of their partners true identity....
I guess what I'm trying to say is there is no one blanket answer too cover all situation...
PS other scenario's may also have relevancy as my list of suggestions is not exhaustive...
That's far to many words for this time of morning
Well pardon me all over the place....I'm utterly speechless
I've been up since 5 ,,,I just returned from a walk along the beach ..... I've drank lots of coffee......That was my short answer... and as people well know..... I'm a man of few words....
Sheeeeshhhhhh
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Methinks you could be a hyper little soul,up at 5,already been for a walk,coffee addict and natters the behind of a donkey! You've worn me out  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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The fact of the matter is anyone on this site who doesn't accept guys that repeatedly engage is same sex activity are not straight..... should ask their Gran or their mates down the pub for their thoughts on the matter,,,,, and once the resulting laugher subsides after asking such a daft question, they should then report back here with a  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Could it just simply be they think everyone else is stupid enough not to see the hypocrisy ,
Or it could be something altogether less controversial....
I mean it could just be they are simply dishonest.... untrustworthy , deluded , suffering from a personality disorder or it could even be that they meet other guys socially and don't engage in same sex activity with them.... or perhaps they understand their TS partners right to have a gender specific identity that defines them as a person and feel it would be improper to call themselves bisexual as a sign of validation and respect of their partners true identity....
I guess what I'm trying to say is there is no one blanket answer too cover all situation...
PS other scenario's may also have relevancy as my list of suggestions is not exhaustive...
That's far to many words for this time of morning
Well pardon me all over the place....I'm utterly speechless
I've been up since 5 ,,,I just returned from a walk along the beach ..... I've drank lots of coffee......That was my short answer... and as people well know..... I'm a man of few words....
Sheeeeshhhhhh
Methinks you could be a hyper little soul,up at 5,already been for a walk,coffee addict and natters the behind of a donkey! You've worn me out "
yeah but in my defence I went too bed early last night,,,,, In-fact I distinctly remember hearing cuckoo clock in the hall strike midnight as I was ironing my pyjamas .....  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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We have a couple of verifications from two TVs. We met them at a club, chatted, had a laugh but nothing happened at all. They were two people that were an awful lot of fun.
Chatting and enjoying time with someone doesn't define my sexuality. |
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Perhaps they are on the long road of coming out..It can take a long time and for some it is too much..weighing up the consequences in order to make the decision.For some remaining in denial is a safer option.. |
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"Could it just simply be they think everyone else is stupid enough not to see the hypocrisy ,
Or it could be something altogether less controversial....
I mean it could just be they are simply dishonest.... untrustworthy , deluded , suffering from a personality disorder or it could even be that they meet other guys socially and don't engage in same sex activity with them.... or perhaps they understand their TS partners right to have a gender specific identity that defines them as a person and feel it would be improper to call themselves bisexual as a sign of validation and respect of their partners true identity....
I guess what I'm trying to say is there is no one blanket answer too cover all situation...
PS other scenario's may also have relevancy as my list of suggestions is not exhaustive...
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Exactly! I'm a straight male because I'm not attracted to other men. I'm no less straight for having sex with someone who's transgender or non-binary.
Alternatively, perhaps they *are* bisexual but have seen the truly obnoxious amount of biphobia here from hetero mf couples who think a bi man represents some kind of ravenous butthole-invading vampire. |
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Methinks you could be a hyper little soul,up at 5,already been for a walk,coffee addict and natters the behind of a donkey! You've worn me out
yeah but in my defence I went too bed early last night,,,,, In-fact I distinctly remember hearing cuckoo clock in the hall strike midnight as I was ironing my pyjamas ..... "
You have style,I like it! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Similar note, why do 'straight' guys message me? Be honest about your sexuality or do one.
This. "
Not this. Someone's sexuality is their own business. |
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By *otdog52 OP Man
over a year ago
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Blimey ! Wasnt expecting so many responces in such a short time. Ive put myself down as bi because I have and still do play with guys as well as women. Would I say that Im attracted to guys ? Probably not, I just enjoy sex and all the different sensations it has to offer. Maybe there should be a new catergory ... "whatever Im in the mood for " |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Blimey ! Wasnt expecting so many responces in such a short time. Ive put myself down as bi because I have and still do play with guys as well as women. Would I say that Im attracted to guys ? Probably not, I just enjoy sex and all the different sensations it has to offer. Maybe there should be a new catergory ... "whatever Im in the mood for " "
Good man.....
I'm not remotely attracted to men..... but I enjoy the intensity of engaging in same-sex activity....... that makes me bisexual...
Sexual orientation is defined by the nature of sexual activity a person repeatedly engages in ,,,,, sexuality is not a gauge of who you think is good looking... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A veri just means that people have met. Unless it states in the veri that they had sexual encounters then it could be something as simple as chatting at the bar in a club. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There's no point in getting your knickers in a twist about how people describe themselves!
Lets face it if you meet a "straight" guy without veri's from men or TV / TS how do you know they're not Bi?
People lie!
It's the nature of the internet!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"thank god for straight guys,,gay guys just don't fancy me "
I must admit it's a bloo'in rarity for a gay guy to ask me for a meet...
Well actually come to think of it..... just being asked to meet anyone has become a bit of a rarity for me....
Sigh,,,,, I blame it on all the spunky youths who scrub up well dressed in a frock .....
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I feel sorry for the guys who put straight but then contact us for bi play
Often they will say it puts straight people off, we say-- we want to see bi on profile--- they are between a rock and a hard place for sure!!!!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Im not bi-curious neither would I say im completely straight. If the situation arose that felt right for me then I would probably act on it. But im not searching or curious enough about it yet. I would class myself as Bi-untested. Some of the TV/TS's on here are absolutely beautiful and most want to be treated as female so wouldn't class that as a bi/gay meet either. |
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"Im not bi-curious neither would I say im completely straight. If the situation arose that felt right for me then I would probably act on it. But im not searching or curious enough about it yet. I would class myself as Bi-untested. Some of the TV/TS's on here are absolutely beautiful and most want to be treated as female so wouldn't class that as a bi/gay meet either. "
Meant to say Bi-Intrigued  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm bi selfish. There is no button for that so say straight. When I had bi curious on my profile more was expected of me than I can give so I removed it.
I've heard a few men that have said during group play anything goes but they wouldn't meet a guy so maybe it's the same "
Bi-selfish? what does that mean? i am curious now.. but not bicurious, fully Bi here :P
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"Similar note, why do 'straight' guys message me? Be honest about your sexuality or do one.
This.
Not this. Someone's sexuality is their own business. "
Yes it is their own business but if you are wanting to meet someone then you should be honest. As an example a "straight" person I met recently wouldn't verify me because he didn't want to discourage women who won't meet bi guys. Smacks of deceit to me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Similar note, why do 'straight' guys message me? Be honest about your sexuality or do one.
This.
Not this. Someone's sexuality is their own business. "
'Sexuality' info should be deleted from the profile template. It's irrelevant. The 'looking for' info is the important one. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Similar note, why do 'straight' guys message me? Be honest about your sexuality or do one.
This.
Not this. Someone's sexuality is their own business.
'Sexuality' info should be deleted from the profile template. It's irrelevant. The 'looking for' info is the important one. "
I would go the other way and introduce a sexuality filter.... |
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'Sexuality' info should be deleted from the profile template. It's irrelevant. The 'looking for' info is the important one. "
Alternately, do away with the limitations of a drop-down menu and let people describe their sexuality and gender however they want. Then let folks browse by simply typing in keywords |
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'Sexuality' info should be deleted from the profile template. It's irrelevant. The 'looking for' info is the important one.
Alternately, do away with the limitations of a drop-down menu and let people describe their sexuality and gender however they want. Then let folks browse by simply typing in keywords "
The option already exist for every site member to supply sufficient profile information to clearly define what they offer and except......
The drop down menu already offers all the alternatives required for every members to specifically identify their gender and sexuality...
It people that need to change not the site....
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'Sexuality' info should be deleted from the profile template. It's irrelevant. The 'looking for' info is the important one.
Alternately, do away with the limitations of a drop-down menu and let people describe their sexuality and gender however they want. Then let folks browse by simply typing in keywords
The option already exist for every site member to supply sufficient profile information to clearly define what they offer and except......
The drop down menu already offers all the alternatives required for every members to specifically identify their gender and sexuality...
It people that need to change not the site....
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It doesn't, though! It lumps transvestites, transgender men and transgender women all together for a start. Then there's no option for genderqueer or non-binary people either. Fet has a system like I described, and it's far more comfortable. |
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'Sexuality' info should be deleted from the profile template. It's irrelevant. The 'looking for' info is the important one.
Alternately, do away with the limitations of a drop-down menu and let people describe their sexuality and gender however they want. Then let folks browse by simply typing in keywords
The option already exist for every site member to supply sufficient profile information to clearly define what they offer and except......
The drop down menu already offers all the alternatives required for every members to specifically identify their gender and sexuality...
It people that need to change not the site....
It doesn't, though! It lumps transvestites, transgender men and transgender women all together for a start. Then there's no option for genderqueer or non-binary people either. Fet has a system like I described, and it's far more comfortable."
I'd agree there is a case for introducing more clearly specified categorisation regards TV/TS/TG/CD etc but the fact remains we all have the option to use our profile to clearly explain how we individually define ourselves....
Relying on drop down menus to do that introduces greater ambiguity because there isn't a universally accepted consensus.
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'Sexuality' info should be deleted from the profile template. It's irrelevant. The 'looking for' info is the important one.
Alternately, do away with the limitations of a drop-down menu and let people describe their sexuality and gender however they want. Then let folks browse by simply typing in keywords
The option already exist for every site member to supply sufficient profile information to clearly define what they offer and except......
The drop down menu already offers all the alternatives required for every members to specifically identify their gender and sexuality...
It people that need to change not the site....
It doesn't, though! It lumps transvestites, transgender men and transgender women all together for a start. Then there's no option for genderqueer or non-binary people either. Fet has a system like I described, and it's far more comfortable.
I'd agree there is a case for introducing more clearly specified categorisation regards TV/TS/TG/CD etc but the fact remains we all have the option to use our profile to clearly explain how we individually define ourselves....
Relying on drop down menus to do that introduces greater ambiguity because there isn't a universally accepted consensus.
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So why have a sexuality box at all. |
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"Why do you care? It's come up before and I really don't see the deal. People can identify however the wish and if recent news teaches us anything is that we're all better off when we don't concern ourselves with other people's gender or sexual orientation."
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By (user no longer on site)
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'Sexuality' info should be deleted from the profile template. It's irrelevant. The 'looking for' info is the important one.
Alternately, do away with the limitations of a drop-down menu and let people describe their sexuality and gender however they want. Then let folks browse by simply typing in keywords
The option already exist for every site member to supply sufficient profile information to clearly define what they offer and except......
The drop down menu already offers all the alternatives required for every members to specifically identify their gender and sexuality...
It people that need to change not the site....
It doesn't, though! It lumps transvestites, transgender men and transgender women all together for a start. Then there's no option for genderqueer or non-binary people either. Fet has a system like I described, and it's far more comfortable.
I'd agree there is a case for introducing more clearly specified categorisation regards TV/TS/TG/CD etc but the fact remains we all have the option to use our profile to clearly explain how we individually define ourselves....
Relying on drop down menus to do that introduces greater ambiguity because there isn't a universally accepted consensus.
So why have a sexuality box at all. "
Well the sexuality box allows sexually compatible people to filter out those people who've selected a sexuality setting that is not compatible with there own...
Its that simple...
The introduction of a sexuality filter would enhance that option and would only be vulnerable if untrustworthy people switch their sexuality in order to bypass the preference of others.....
Its not infallible solution but it would encourage greater transparency and aid the functionality of the site for users..
The argument against it doesn't add anything of value to the end product.....
So any objection too it could only be an excuse rather than a reason...
I rest my case.... lol
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Think its a mix of things, besides peer pressure from vanilla world being the most obvious one there aren't enough categories eg
Str... Preference is opposite sex only
Str cur... Preference is opposite sex and ok with being close to another person of same sex and being touched by same sex during play but prefer not to return sexual contact (also referred to as bi selfish)
Str Bi ... Preference is opposite sex and also enjoy masturbation and oral with same sex
Bi... Preference is opposite sex and enjoys full sex with both sexes
Bi Gay... No preference and enjoys full sex with both sexes
Gay Bi... Preference is same sex but enjoy masturbation and oral with opposite sex
Gay cur... Preference is same sex and ok with being close to another person of opposite sex and being touched by opposite sex but prefer not to return sexual contact (also referred to as gay bi selfish)
Gay... Preference is same sex only
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Can be applied to male or females...
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I honestly don't care.
For whatever reason you refuse to feel this space we're in, to know its insanity, really know it; whatever your particular anesthetic is, that you hold onto so desperate (the thing, I mean, that makes you think you know who you are); whatever that thing is you allow to keeps you sane, your ace in the hole, the psyche that keeps you trying to guess what your pimp has in store for you; whatever keeps you from screaming out at this very moment in absolute and sheer horror; whatever you fuck your brain with... whatever that is... whatever that is...
It's a lie.
It's a lie.
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Well its bad enough that some straights think youre an abomination for being bi/gay without people with, at the very least "leanings!"giving that arguement some validation through denial. I personally wouldn't want to get physical with someone who judges me on my orientatio,n so that squashes the arguement that "some people wont meet people who are bi so they put straight....???why would you want to meet people with those kind of hang ups anyway? Being bi doesnt mean as a straight you're in any danger, infact i'll go as far as saying its the straight guys that are pushy. Not bi guys. It's not something you should hide i'm very happy to be proud of who i am and very comfortably bi. Love a bit of cock, just a pity some of them are attached to dicks! |
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Mabel's stable label was left on a stable table with a ladle and a cradle.
The devil is in the detail - ask about pre meet boundaries and ground rules and then you won't be caught out by unexpected developments.
It makes me laugh when straight men think I fancy them. I don't. I really don't. |
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"Why do guys who are bi and have verifications from men and TS say they are straight on their profile ?!?
Interesting..They identify as straight,yet you have decided they are bi..On the basis of a few verifications from men /tv's..suggest you check out the difference between sexual behaviour and sexual identify. Looking at the behaviour of Male prisoners could be a beginning."
if you sleep with guys as a guy or girls as a girl as well as the opposite sex you are bi. Identifying as straight is misleading and is as bad as saying im gay but act straight...i think people need to get over themselves
Identification and sexual behaviour are intrinsitly connected, what i think is happening here in most cases is denial |
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More than you'd expect im sure, and I've done a little digging, when you see profiles that won't play with bi guys, their verifications from single "straight" men have verifications from meeting other men  |
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