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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Ok im taking a break. Hence no profile.
In two weeks I've had four guys cancel. Two guys just didn't bother to msg after setting up a meet, another got called into work, another was poorly (cancelled an hour before)
I wouldn't be bothered but it takes a lot out of my schedule and trust etc, to meet and I'm down about it!
Has this happened to anyone, what did you do and how long of a break did you take?, if you did? |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
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It happened to me twice in the space of about 3 weeks recently. At the time I was fuming but I just blocked and reported them. I didn't take a break but I was much more wary after that!!!!  |
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By *eccymanMan
over a year ago
Gateshead |
"It happened to me twice in the space of about 3 weeks recently. At the time I was fuming but I just blocked and reported them. I didn't take a break but I was much more wary after that!!!! "
Who in their right mind would stand you up?  |
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"Oh i know it happens, esp to guys. I just wonder if the fact its made me a bit fragile means I'm cut out for this.."
It's bound to knock you,we're only human,maybe just takw a little break and do something else away from here |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Oh i know it happens, esp to guys. I just wonder if the fact its made me a bit fragile means I'm cut out for this..
Just think of it as a lucky escape "
How many of those can u do though? Lol
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"A break sounds like a good idea. Have a look at your selection process too. Just to make sure. "
I'm very picky. Chat to guys for ages before mtg. One of them let down id chatted to since Nov last year ( I was here previously). But he went into work on his day off?! No msg to say sorry or excuses!. I know people lives get in the way but it takes a 'lot' for me to meet. Don't know how else to be selective?.. |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
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"Oh i know it happens, esp to guys. I just wonder if the fact its made me a bit fragile means I'm cut out for this..
Just think of it as a lucky escape
How many of those can u do though? Lol
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Granted 4 is a lot and I'm not surprised you feel like you do. I kind of say to myself that they might not turn up right up until I'm actually there!! If you don't mind me asking were these social meets? Mine were club/weekend away meets so the sting was quite bad!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Perhaps change your tactics of how you are chatting and arranging to meet ?"
Give me some ideas lol. I talk to most for ages, socially meet first . I'm very picky and meet guys who have good veris and personality. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Sometimes your frame of mind at the time can make it worse at the time - chin up op, it's their loss and plenty more will happily take up your time when you are ready xx"
Thanks |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There's no harm stepping back and gathering yourself for a while, if I feel my 'thick skin' is slipping, I wander off for a few weeks. You have to be in a certain frame of mind to get the most out of this, if its not fun, don't do it.
I hope you feel better soon x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"There's no harm stepping back and gathering yourself for a while, if I feel my 'thick skin' is slipping, I wander off for a few weeks. You have to be in a certain frame of mind to get the most out of this, if its not fun, don't do it.
I hope you feel better soon x"
Yeah I.m thinking that's the right decision. Just going to come on for the forums x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A break sounds like a very sensible decision. I find when I'm getting meets or fabs, etc, Fab can do wonders for my confidence. The flip side of that is that a run of no-shows and rejections can sometimes bruise the ego a little.
Take a week or two off, get out, do something more interesting, then come back refreshed and reinvigorated. Just make sure you do come back, because I really like looking at your bum!  |
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"8 in two weeks is a lot.
Maybe if what your doing isnt working take a different approach.
I take breaks for difderent reasons and come back refreshed"
I think it's 4... And they are the reasons lol.. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"A break sounds like a very sensible decision. I find when I'm getting meets or fabs, etc, Fab can do wonders for my confidence. The flip side of that is that a run of no-shows and rejections can sometimes bruise the ego a little.
Take a week or two off, get out, do something more interesting, then come back refreshed and reinvigorated. Just make sure you do come back, because I really like looking at your bum! "
Lol wise words Mr and thanks x |
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"8 in two weeks is a lot.
Maybe if what your doing isnt working take a different approach.
I take breaks for difderent reasons and come back refreshed
I think it's 4... And they are the reasons lol.. "
oh i read it wrong then. Still would look at what i could do to change things |
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Count yourself lucky you are not a guy. Any guy who posts similar in here gets ripped apart for being an attention seeker and asked to close the door on their way out.
You must have considerably more appeal. There is hope yet!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"8 in two weeks is a lot.
Maybe if what your doing isnt working take a different approach.
I take breaks for difderent reasons and come back refreshed
I think it's 4... And they are the reasons lol.. oh i read it wrong then. Still would look at what i could do to change things"
All different guys and circumstances and ways of meeting and chatting. Some I meet straight away, some after weeks. Depends on how I feel i trust them and obviously both our free times. |
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"8 in two weeks is a lot.
Maybe if what your doing isnt working take a different approach.
I take breaks for difderent reasons and come back refreshed
I think it's 4... And they are the reasons lol.. oh i read it wrong then. Still would look at what i could do to change things
All different guys and circumstances and ways of meeting and chatting. Some I meet straight away, some after weeks. Depends on how I feel i trust them and obviously both our free times."
I'm confused... You just said some you meet straight away.... But further up you say 'it takes 'a lot' for you to meet'...  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"8 in two weeks is a lot.
Maybe if what your doing isnt working take a different approach.
I take breaks for difderent reasons and come back refreshed
I think it's 4... And they are the reasons lol.. oh i read it wrong then. Still would look at what i could do to change things
All different guys and circumstances and ways of meeting and chatting. Some I meet straight away, some after weeks. Depends on how I feel i trust them and obviously both our free times.
I'm confused... You just said some you meet straight away.... But further up you say 'it takes 'a lot' for you to meet'... "
Straight away as in maybes a few days of talking. It depends on how long u get to talk to them and feel i trust them. One guy I was mtg had met a friend of mine, so I felt I could trust him more. In comparison to a guy who has only one veri and not on here often. Each guy and meet is different. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I cancelled a meet because I was ill once. I know that sex with me is great, but I don't think me puking on her would have added to the experience....  "
I know that's life and its not about that. It's about me feeling deflated, because its happened four times in a short period.I understand things get in the way but these guys didn't even bother messaging me to say sorry and cancel. ( well one did an hr before). I don't get a lot of time to meet, and I usually have to change a while days schedule to meet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This is the frustration
Only ever cancel if it's impossible to meet
Always give as much notice as possible
The dick head guys that I'm hearing more and more about that are fucking it up for the genuine ones should have profiles deleted
IP address noted so they can't come back
Piss
Bum
Bollocks |
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