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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Probably the usual things, guys outnumber women so you need to stand out.
I sent messages to start with and got ignored too, spent some time yesterday on the forums chatting and now starting to slow get somewhere (I hope) |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi x no I send message getting chatting and always say if you don't like look of me then just say but then nothing. I can take a no x just can't take being blanked xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi x no I send message getting chatting and always say if you don't like look of me then just say but then nothing. I can take a no x just can't take being blanked xx"
take a no reply as a no thank you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sorry to say but it's a woman's world on this and any dating site! And I'm not saying this in a snidey way. Just a fact of life.
The lure of the fanny may have something to do with it... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi x no I send message getting chatting and always say if you don't like look of me then just say but then nothing. I can take a no x just can't take being blanked xx"
Is this after you've sent a pic or during conversation. If it's after you've sent your pic them I think you've got your answer, they don't like the look of you and don't want to have to face possible abuse for saying so. If it's during conversation then maybe stop asking as it can be taken as needy or lacking self confidence, neither are attractive. Good luck  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Hi x no I send message getting chatting and always say if you don't like look of me then just say but then nothing. I can take a no x just can't take being blanked xx
take a no reply as a no thank you "
even if we already been chatting ? Bit rude I think x |
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By *eccymanMan
over a year ago
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"Hi x no I send message getting chatting and always say if you don't like look of me then just say but then nothing. I can take a no x just can't take being blanked xx
take a no reply as a no thank you even if we already been chatting ? Bit rude I think x"
If that's the case then your conversation hasn't been stimulating enough to keep them interested. Improve your sales pitch. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Rather hear a no than nothing at all x takes two mins to say no x sometimes it's first message but most of time it's after pic been sent x"
2 minutes x 100s = ....
And....he sees right throug us  It's always been about pics
(sitting on a naughty step as we speak  ) |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Rather hear a no than nothing at all x takes two mins to say no x sometimes it's first message but most of time it's after pic been sent x
2 minutes x 100s = ....
And....he sees right throug us It's always been about pics
(sitting on a naughty step as we speak )"
Lol don't care about the other 100 lol 2mins to say no to me lol that's all x |
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"Rather hear a no than nothing at all x takes two mins to say no x sometimes it's first message but most of time it's after pic been sent x"
Don't send pictures. Keep them keen with a game of "guess who", do you have hair, do you wear glasses etc  |
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"Rather hear a no than nothing at all x takes two mins to say no x sometimes it's first message but most of time it's after pic been sent x
2 minutes x 100s = ....
And....he sees right throug us It's always been about pics
(sitting on a naughty step as we speak ) Lol don't care about the other 100 lol 2mins to say no to me lol that's all x"
A lot of women don't say no because of the abuse they get afterwards |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Rather hear a no than nothing at all x takes two mins to say no x sometimes it's first message but most of time it's after pic been sent x
2 minutes x 100s = ....
And....he sees right throug us It's always been about pics
(sitting on a naughty step as we speak ) Lol don't care about the other 100 lol 2mins to say no to me lol that's all x
A lot of women don't say no because of the abuse they get afterwards "
not all men are the same on here x I would never be rude if I got told no thanks x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi x no I send message getting chatting and always say if you don't like look of me then just say but then nothing. I can take a no x just can't take being blanked xx"
If you're asking women to make a decision on you based on one single opening post, well I don't know much about women but I do know in those circumstances the answer will almost certainly be no.
Try chatting for a while, see how you gel. But don't say "wanna chat?" puts the onus on her for the topic. Have something to say. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Rather hear a no than nothing at all x takes two mins to say no x sometimes it's first message but most of time it's after pic been sent x
2 minutes x 100s = ....
And....he sees right throug us It's always been about pics
(sitting on a naughty step as we speak ) Lol don't care about the other 100 lol 2mins to say no to me lol that's all x
A lot of women don't say no because of the abuse they get afterwards not all men are the same on here x I would never be rude if I got told no thanks x"
but the problem is chap, they don't know that, so many ladies just won't respond. I don't really know how to help you, sorry, because I don't think there is a single piece of advice that is guaranteed.
Patience is good, if you instigate contact; then write a little about yourself and what attracted you to their profile. Use your profile to sell yourself without being arrogant. Don't post ANYTHING negative (status messages, profile text, forums etc.)
Try not to maneuver any conversations on to sex, the likelihood is that someone will want to know a bit about you first, don't go for the lowest common denominator.... Read someones profile, thoroughly, before messaging, make sure they are what you are looking for.
The amount of women I speak to who complain about guys being so far away from their preferences and the response they get "well I thought on the off-chance", there is no "off-chance" if you don't match, don't message (maybe they will come to you at some point, preferences change, don't try to change them)
Patience chap, thats the key, be patient, respectful, polite, articulate and desirable (through confidence and presentation) and who knows? |
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"Rather hear a no than nothing at all x takes two mins to say no x sometimes it's first message but most of time it's after pic been sent x
2 minutes x 100s = ....
And....he sees right throug us It's always been about pics
(sitting on a naughty step as we speak ) Lol don't care about the other 100 lol 2mins to say no to me lol that's all x
A lot of women don't say no because of the abuse they get afterwards not all men are the same on here x I would never be rude if I got told no thanks x
but the problem is chap, they don't know that, so many ladies just won't respond. I don't really know how to help you, sorry, because I don't think there is a single piece of advice that is guaranteed.
Patience is good, if you instigate contact; then write a little about yourself and what attracted you to their profile. Use your profile to sell yourself without being arrogant. Don't post ANYTHING negative (status messages, profile text, forums etc.)
Try not to maneuver any conversations on to sex, the likelihood is that someone will want to know a bit about you first, don't go for the lowest common denominator.... Read someones profile, thoroughly, before messaging, make sure they are what you are looking for.
The amount of women I speak to who complain about guys being so far away from their preferences and the response they get "well I thought on the off-chance", there is no "off-chance" if you don't match, don't message (maybe they will come to you at some point, preferences change, don't try to change them)
Patience chap, thats the key, be patient, respectful, polite, articulate and desirable (through confidence and presentation) and who knows?"
Fantastic advice...should be made into a sticky |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Hi x no I send message getting chatting and always say if you don't like look of me then just say but then nothing. I can take a no x just can't take being blanked xx
If you're asking women to make a decision on you based on one single opening post, well I don't know much about women but I do know in those circumstances the answer will almost certainly be no.
Try chatting for a while, see how you gel. But don't say "wanna chat?" puts the onus on her for the topic. Have something to say. "
no it's after chatting with them most of the time |
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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago
not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds) |
It might be my age, hasn't this been covered before...
No reply = no thanks
No thanks = no thanks
What's the difference other than your need for closure ... Tell yourself like I do after I've sent a picture and get a no thanks or a blank ...
It's cos I was out of their league... Works for me |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi x no I send message getting chatting and always say if you don't like look of me then just say but then nothing. I can take a no x just can't take being blanked xx"
99.9% chance its a guy pretending to be woman or couple...zzzzzz  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Rather hear a no than nothing at all x takes two mins to say no x sometimes it's first message but most of time it's after pic been sent x
2 minutes x 100s = ....
And....he sees right throug us It's always been about pics
(sitting on a naughty step as we speak ) Lol don't care about the other 100 lol 2mins to say no to me lol that's all x
A lot of women don't say no because of the abuse they get afterwards not all men are the same on here x I would never be rude if I got told no thanks x
but the problem is chap, they don't know that, so many ladies just won't respond. I don't really know how to help you, sorry, because I don't think there is a single piece of advice that is guaranteed.
Patience is good, if you instigate contact; then write a little about yourself and what attracted you to their profile. Use your profile to sell yourself without being arrogant. Don't post ANYTHING negative (status messages, profile text, forums etc.)
Try not to maneuver any conversations on to sex, the likelihood is that someone will want to know a bit about you first, don't go for the lowest common denominator.... Read someones profile, thoroughly, before messaging, make sure they are what you are looking for.
The amount of women I speak to who complain about guys being so far away from their preferences and the response they get "well I thought on the off-chance", there is no "off-chance" if you don't match, don't message (maybe they will come to you at some point, preferences change, don't try to change them)
Patience chap, thats the key, be patient, respectful, polite, articulate and desirable (through confidence and presentation) and who knows?"
Thank you  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What do you chat about then op. I personally get bored quickly with chit chat so I now organise socials so I can meet men and see if I click with any out of the group then I'll chat on here n arrange meets. Xxx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"What do you chat about then op. I personally get bored quickly with chit chat so I now organise socials so I can meet men and see if I click with any out of the group then I'll chat on here n arrange meets. Xxx"
just chatting
Getting to know them then just blanked x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Learn to not take this site so seriously...if females don't want to chat just think hey their loss. It only takes 10 seconds to say "thanks for the chat enjoy the site" if someone can't be arsed to type that after chatting to you FUCKUM. Mrs A x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Rather hear a no than nothing at all x takes two mins to say no x sometimes it's first message but most of time it's after pic been sent x
2 minutes x 100s = ....
And....he sees right throug us It's always been about pics
(sitting on a naughty step as we speak ) Lol don't care about the other 100 lol 2mins to say no to me lol that's all x"
The other 100 probably think the same but don't go spitting dummy out and moaning about it in forums ( 75 do )
You must have something about your profile ( not sure what) seeing as you had 1 meet in 7 weeks. A lot of guys don't get a meet in years. |
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"Rather hear a no than nothing at all x takes two mins to say no x sometimes it's first message but most of time it's after pic been sent x"
Then they don't find you attractive. It's shit but move on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I get the same response most of the time. Some have said I'm not for them and I have always sent a kind reply back.
I do not belive in giving lady's abuse so a thanks but no thanks I'd all it takes |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Just say NO (like the grange hill drugs song years ago lol) if it's a NO then just say it I've not got problem with the word NO is being blanked that gets to me. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I get the same response most of the time. Some have said I'm not for them and I have always sent a kind reply back.
I do not belive in giving lady's abuse so a thanks but no thanks I'd all it takes"
that's all I after fella simple really but so many chose not to |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Rather hear a no than nothing at all x takes two mins to say no x sometimes it's first message but most of time it's after pic been sent x
Then they don't find you attractive. It's shit but move on. "
yes well if they don't like then just say NO
THANKS that's all I asking for and not to leave me hanging x
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Rather hear a no than nothing at all x takes two mins to say no x sometimes it's first message but most of time it's after pic been sent x
Then they don't find you attractive. It's shit but move on. yes well if they don't like then just say NO
THANKS that's all I asking for and not to leave me hanging x
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You've got 2 options then, get used to it or lose your rag in a spectacular fashion and go unlos, people aren't going to start replying to people they don't like just because you used capital letters |
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